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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

If fab is the right place for you?

this isn't a look at me thread at all because quite frankly I don't care who looks, but do you ever read the forums and messages you get and just wonder if this is the right place?

I really enjoy my fab meets, and have made some cracking friends on here, but find increasingly I feel out of place on here.

Been called prudish and uptight via PM a few times now for expressing my opinions, and laughed at for not providing fully nude pictures...

Just thinking it out really, and wondering if my time on fab is naturally drawing to an end as it seems to be moving more towards quick, meaningless fucks rather than how it was 3 years ago when I joined up...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every day.

As a geuine single gentleman i feel i am tarred with the same brush as all the wannabes and cheaters.

So mostly i just chat in the chatrooms and hope, but never expect a meet will occur.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If fab is the right place for you?"

At the moment yes I'm wondering this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder as I've stated to want things with a little more Strings.

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I often wonder as I've stated to want things with a little more Strings. "

Oh its definitely not this for me... I have my strings with someone amazing who knows all about my "fab life" and is very happy I continue to explore it as long as I wish... but I just feel its changed... or maybe it is me?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I no longer look to meet from Fab, but I enjoy the forums and attending an occasional social.

I have had great times but I knew it was time to end some of my 'activities' on here as I wanted things to end on a high and it did.

you just know I think when it is time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its refreshing to see more classy profiles npicss but we all have our own reasons for being here and for every individual person there reason is good for them xx

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich


"If fab is the right place for you?

this isn't a look at me thread at all because quite frankly I don't care who looks, but do you ever read the forums and messages you get and just wonder if this is the right place?

I really enjoy my fab meets, and have made some cracking friends on here, but find increasingly I feel out of place on here.

Been called prudish and uptight via PM a few times now for expressing my opinions, and laughed at for not providing fully nude pictures...

Just thinking it out really, and wondering if my time on fab is naturally drawing to an end as it seems to be moving more towards quick, meaningless fucks rather than how it was 3 years ago when I joined up...?"

Can you not shift it back to how it was 3yrs ago rather than succumb to what it is now?

After all,its people messaging you.YOU are in control and it should be on your terms or jog on ..

Best wishes , regardless

x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Oh Yes, I know how you feel! I am still here after 6 years because just now and again the odd gem turns up!

I get sick and tired of the messages that come in, asking if I am near such and such hotel from people I have never spoke to in my life before.

I often feel as if a lot of men on here actually think I am really a unpaid prostitute. (just had another one just now) I now just take a deep breath and ignore, rather than respond with something irate.

I have been tempted to hit the close account many times, but then I remember I have made some great friends on here over the years and know not every guy is an arse.

Oh and I don't have any naked pics of me on here either, so don't worry about being called a prude, I've had many more insults than that

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Can you not shift it back to how it was 3yrs ago rather than succumb to what it is now?

After all,its people messaging you.YOU are in control and it should be on your terms or jog on ..

Best wishes , regardless

x"

Oh it is completely on my terms... but the people matching those are fewer and fewer...

I think on the whole a lot of the people on the site now have different _iews and expectations of what it is about than me - not saying anyone is right or wrong, just that its changing with the times.

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Oh Yes, I know how you feel! I am still here after 6 years because just now and again the odd gem turns up!

I get sick and tired of the messages that come in, asking if I am near such and such hotel from people I have never spoke to in my life before.

I often feel as if a lot of men on here actually think I am really a unpaid prostitute. (just had another one just now) I now just take a deep breath and ignore, rather than respond with something irate.

I have been tempted to hit the close account many times, but then I remember I have made some great friends on here over the years and know not every guy is an arse.

Oh and I don't have any naked pics of me on here either, so don't worry about being called a prude, I've had many more insults than that "

Oh I've had worse insults too... and phew! Glad its not just me. Ta much for the reassurance

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If fab is the right place for you?

this isn't a look at me thread at all because quite frankly I don't care who looks, but do you ever read the forums and messages you get and just wonder if this is the right place?

I really enjoy my fab meets, and have made some cracking friends on here, but find increasingly I feel out of place on here.

Been called prudish and uptight via PM a few times now for expressing my opinions, and laughed at for not providing fully nude pictures...

Just thinking it out really, and wondering if my time on fab is naturally drawing to an end as it seems to be moving more towards quick, meaningless fucks rather than how it was 3 years ago when I joined up...?"

I sometimes feel entirely out of step with the rest of fab as far as the forums go but I know it's my choice to contribute or shut up and I also feel out of step a lot of the time in real life too.

I'll be honest with you I prefer the out of step people such as you there's room for all of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pretty much what View has posted.. i came to a conclusion a while back that casual sex was no longer my thing. I totally respect MOST people on here and how they choose to play.

I do have _iews that i feel i can not express but i just keep them buttoned up (mainly because im polite and believe that if you have nothing nice to say don't say it)

I like chatting in PM to those who are familiar to me through similar _iew points in the forums. Its a place i can just 'kick back and mooch' after a long day at work etc..

Im liberal with some thoughts that id feel if i were to express with my actual friends id get the whole 'OMG WHAT A NUT CASE' reaction,, but on here i feel to a certain degree a bit normal

I state it clearly on my profile im no longer meeting and that im here for forums..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can you not shift it back to how it was 3yrs ago rather than succumb to what it is now?

After all,its people messaging you.YOU are in control and it should be on your terms or jog on ..

Best wishes , regardless

x

Oh it is completely on my terms... but the people matching those are fewer and fewer...

I think on the whole a lot of the people on the site now have different _iews and expectations of what it is about than me - not saying anyone is right or wrong, just that its changing with the times."

I hear you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say this place is not for me but its not for me as in meeting others for sex and stuff lol, as I meet women outside of fab, but the site is defo for me when it comes to using the forum and chat room

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Thank you everyone for your replies. I'm really relieved that its not just me.

Still unsure on my fab future, but feeling like less of a freak now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love doing this with Gimp, so proud to be with him.

Sod other people how they remark on your opinions and how you conduct yourself.

All too brave at times those behind a screen, would they say it to your face..i doubt it.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask myself the same question nearly every day, :-/

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you everyone for your replies. I'm really relieved that its not just me.

Still unsure on my fab future, but feeling like less of a freak now! "

Consider this, if you go there's one less freak.......what will the rest of us freaks do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do have doubts now and again. Although I do think if we ever decided to stop meeting. I would more than likely stay for the nattering....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've never been one to let others dictate to me how they think I should behave, what pictures I should display, or what my profile should say. I like to thumb my nose at those who believe that, to be a member of Fab, we should do things their way. However, Fab (to me) is not just about meeting guys for sex. So if you curtail that part of your membership there should be plenty else to be here for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you're letting the wankers, idiots and timewasters get you down?

Forget the messages from loonies, forget the replies not received, ....

If you have had as little as 1 genuine, good meeting through the site, then it has been worth it and is worth sticking with!

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Thank you everyone for your replies. I'm really relieved that its not just me.

Still unsure on my fab future, but feeling like less of a freak now!

Consider this, if you go there's one less freak.......what will the rest of us freaks do? "

hahaha, so I have a duty to my fellow freaks to stay and be weird and proud? lol

Love that style of thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ask myself the same question nearly every day, :-/

"

For me fab is good company, I have nice friends I chat too I don't come on here with massive expectations , but there are some fantastic people on here that I can call friends and cheer me up when I'm down,

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Perhaps you're letting the wankers, idiots and timewasters get you down?

Forget the messages from loonies, forget the replies not received, ....

If you have had as little as 1 genuine, good meeting through the site, then it has been worth it and is worth sticking with!"

I've become very proficient at ignoring idiots, and never had a time waster.

It was more wondering about the change in attitudes than about replies etc. I'm quite happy to message and understand not everyone will like me - and thats entirely to be expected - I don't like everyone who messages me.

I've had some bloody amazing meets, and still have a few lined up - but generally the people who I think are similar and that I'd wish to meet are becoming fewer and fewer on here... and outweighed by the FAFnow brigade.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you everyone for your replies. I'm really relieved that its not just me.

Still unsure on my fab future, but feeling like less of a freak now!

Consider this, if you go there's one less freak.......what will the rest of us freaks do?

hahaha, so I have a duty to my fellow freaks to stay and be weird and proud? lol

Love that style of thinking "

Damn right you do.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'm always getting accused of being a time waster by people who don't read my profile. I'm literally here for the forums so I don't really care for their opinions, but it does irritate me and I wonder if I should join some other site with forums!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Perhaps you're letting the wankers, idiots and timewasters get you down?

Forget the messages from loonies, forget the replies not received, ....

If you have had as little as 1 genuine, good meeting through the site, then it has been worth it and is worth sticking with!

I've become very proficient at ignoring idiots, and never had a time waster.

It was more wondering about the change in attitudes than about replies etc. I'm quite happy to message and understand not everyone will like me - and thats entirely to be expected - I don't like everyone who messages me.

I've had some bloody amazing meets, and still have a few lined up - but generally the people who I think are similar and that I'd wish to meet are becoming fewer and fewer on here... and outweighed by the FAFnow brigade.

"

We find that too and being twenty years your senior have the age thing to contend with too. There's room for us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do love to read your _iews on the forum every one must have there own opinion and people must respect it

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Fab is one of several social sites I use

I love it

But regularly fall out of love with lots of the people who use it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I love fab and have never once been jaded, however, I started to change slowly and that's now built up to a rapid speed. I've got so much going off in my life now my outlook is changing monthly.

I will always have outside relationship sex but for the first time ever I don't know if I can see me being here this time next year. Not because fab has changed but because I've changed as a person.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I no longer look to meet from Fab, but I enjoy the forums and attending an occasional social.

I have had great times but I knew it was time to end some of my 'activities' on here as I wanted things to end on a high and it did.

you just know I think when it is time "

Pretty much the same for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the site has changed much. All sites have idiots, that's not changed in 5 years.

If anything, I've adapted to it. I do things differently and it works for me. I never get abuse or people whining about my lack of pics and profile. Or if they do I haven't noticed because I don't care.

It's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes I do my last meet was with a married man who bullied me, arguing with me because I didn't want to do everything he wanted to do, I thought I wonder if he treats his wife like that and it made me feel sad to think he might.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I find the key is not to take it too seriously.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I joined over 6 years ago and will agree that attitudes have changed dramatically, why though? I have no idea.

The men were a lot more respectful back then, in fact I had far too much choice and sometimes it became too much that I ran away from most lol

Nowadays, I'm lucky if the odd gem turns up every 3 months or so, but hey, I use the forums, I chat to existing friends up and down the country and I now have learnt how to keep my blood pressure in check by ignoring people.

So just hang in there and hope for us both there will be a turn around x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WOW OP have u been reading my mind?????

I am and have been questioning for a few weeks now if i was ever a REAL swinger at all.

Since being on fab i have had the usual crap off both men n cpls of why no reply, stuck up bitch up ya own arse whore who made you so special n much worse because of my choices on replying to messages or meeting

I have been around swinging for 25 yrs i went my first keys in the fruit bowl party at 22 n have had lots of fun but have been told many times by other more hardened swingers i am not a swinger because i am choosy n have my own reasons for why and who i will meet

I am not a greedy girl i dont like group sex or being pawed without consent in cpls rooms or on open beds and i prefer 1 on 1 or mff but thats my choice

I have met someone on here n i am very happy with him n can see myself not playing with others now because he fulfils me but i will never say never as we met on here n have enjoyed 3 sums and you never know whats round the next corner

I love clubs n the social side of swinging n when single i love the kid in a candy store know what i am getting dont have the bullshit of dating n listening to bollox when all they want is to get in me pants anyway thing

I was told the other day to fuk off n use facebook for socialising after refusing to meet but i have friends on here and in northern chat who i come here to chat with n i love the diversity of forum chats so i guess for now i am staying weather i am a REAL swinger or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if it's changed, because I've only been here under a year. I've always felt out of step with most of the fab populace because of what I'm looking for and how I meet but I've found enough people on my wavelength for it to be worthwhile.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

In other words you guys don't follow the crowd, leave the _iewer wanting something from your pics than have it out on show for everyone to see.

There is nothing wrong with not having full nude pictures on the profile.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I no longer seek brief encounters I no longer seek just a shag...I've made some great friends and right now that's enough for me..

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

The mainstream sucks...I am glad that people 'get me' as it were but sometimes think it's me who doesn't get others.

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"The mainstream sucks...I am glad that people 'get me' as it were but sometimes think it's me who doesn't get others. "

But when you find that illusive combination of someone who gets you and that you get in return... Bingo!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No one influenced my decision, just me. I am acutely self aware and I just knew what was best for me.

That will continue until I enter my password and the words 'I understand'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wondering if fab is the right place for me too at the moment - when the majority of messages I get are from single men ( married / attached ) who as someone else mentioned think I'm "a free prostitute" I don't take any of it too seriously - but I might be missing out on some really good times when I have to wade through a ton of " Hi hows you wot u up to " messages!

I'm losing the will to care

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Thank you everyone for your replies. I'm really relieved that its not just me.

Still unsure on my fab future, but feeling like less of a freak now! "

You're not a freak at all,i think we all have times when we wonder what we are doing on fab or fall out of love with it.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Do you ever wonder if fab is the right place for you?

?"

Every month.

Both of us.

Then something happens, or someone says something, that makes it all worthwhile again.

I'd love to say "don't take the negativity and insults to heart", but I know how hypocritical that would be. We gave up on the sister site for that very reason, because I always feel as the man, it is my duty to be a filter and protect Mrs ddc from the worst of the vitriol. However, it does get wearing, and I take my hat off to all the women on fab who can stick it out.

Finally OP, there are not many people who stand out in the forums for me, so I always think if it's an avatar I remember, then it's a person who would be missed.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always amazed, if I leave filters off and messages unread for a day, how many UNLOS happen in 24 hrs. Shows the fluidity of the site and I wonder if that's increased in recent times.

I've been here 16 months in total now, although left a couple of times in that time. I don't have nude pictures, sometimes wondered if that puts me out of kilter with the site , but it's my preference not to do them.

OP - I always like your forum posts. You never come across as not normal to me. You're true to yourself and that's a great value to hold.

For me for now, Fab fulfills a purpose as I have some friends I really enjoy nattering to. I've had some great meets that have outweighed a couple of "interesting" ones. For now I'm just using the forums as they make me smile (most days)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab provides an element to my life that I require at the moment. I'm sure there will come a time when it doesn't suit me and I'll say goodbye. It's not my life, just a small part of it. It certainly doesn't do to take things personally here that's for sure. OP I don't have any naked photos either. That's not what I choose to display on my profile, it's up to the individual. However, I have to admit no one has ever criticised me for that.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes we do occasionally think why are we still here....that's when we tend to take a break.

Think its more than we have changed over time rather than Fab.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"I joined over 6 years ago and will agree that attitudes have changed dramatically, why though? I have no idea.

The men were a lot more respectful back then, in fact I had far too much choice and sometimes it became too much that I ran away from most lol

Nowadays, I'm lucky if the odd gem turns up every 3 months or so, but hey, I use the forums, I chat to existing friends up and down the country and I now have learnt how to keep my blood pressure in check by ignoring people.

So just hang in there and hope for us both there will be a turn around x"

Love you to Foxy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not at all - i love it here - we have great friends - good places to go- have a grand time - trying things we would never have tried otherwise (probably not anyway) - all the bits we dont like we dont let them get us down - its fun Sx

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By *adybee77 OP   Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Thanks everyone, and for the very busy mailbox. Seems I am not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been thinking of leaving for a few months now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I do sometimes so decided to give up on trying to get meets and just have fun chatting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been here 7 years now and at times i think its not for me as i am changing and evolving

i love the forums thou and i like spending time with friends at socials

at the moment the influx of people who doesnt understand swinging and think a message will guarantee them sex is majorly off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess we are guilty of the very thing the op and mist posters have said is their problem with the site .

We use fab for meaningless nsa sex and it works brilliantly for us and our countless meets over the past 3 years .

A rough estimate of over 400 meets Iin this time kinda tells it's own story . But it's what we want and we wwouldn't want it any other way .

So , sorry everyone , we aren't deliberately trying to spoil fab for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think it's a matter of making fab work for you (or me in my case!) For me fab is a great social life, a lot of wonderful friends and the best sex of my life with nice people. I realised early on that I can't do 'instafuck' as it made me feel cheap and nasty (n.b. - no insult to anyone else - just not for me!) I have to chat online a while and chat/drink/eat with someone a while to make sure the chemistry's there - then the sex is generally blody marvelous - my meet becomes a friend - and everyone's happy! Marvelous!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined fab a while ago and then very recently left but came back within a week lol, not for meets tho but because I missed the forums, I may not input very often but I love logging in and reading what everyone's up to etc. My new profile is beyond basic and very boring but at least now I get messages from people who are just happy to chat and have a laugh (most of the time)

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Not really. What I'm looking for has changed, but I can still find it on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree op. I've not met in 10 months but still come on everyday. In those 10 months I've not received a single message that in anyway seems intelligent or not desperate. I look at dozen of profile everyday and its rare to find somebody who can string a sentence together or has more than 5 lines of cliche drivel on their profile. So for now im just here for the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Constantly think this way, not as a couple but me (Steph) being a big guy we constantly find people aren't interested in us as a couple so I have a few times thought about maybe gem playing alone and I just sit and watch kinda like a body guard lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Constantly. But it's very addictive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here a fair few years. I don't know if this site has what I'm looking for to be honest. Everything seems far too ephemeral now. There are days when I feel I should give it a go again, get serious about meeting, but then it usually fades rapidly when I read some of the forum threads.

I'm too much of a realist, I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think it's a matter of making fab work for you (or me in my case!) For me fab is a great social life, a lot of wonderful friends and the best sex of my life with nice people. I realised early on that I can't do 'instafuck' as it made me feel cheap and nasty (n.b. - no insult to anyone else - just not for me!) I have to chat online a while and chat/drink/eat with someone a while to make sure the chemistry's there - then the sex is generally blody marvelous - my meet becomes a friend - and everyone's happy! Marvelous!! "

This makes a ton of sense for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think it's a matter of making fab work for you (or me in my case!) For me fab is a great social life, a lot of wonderful friends and the best sex of my life with nice people. I realised early on that I can't do 'instafuck' as it made me feel cheap and nasty (n.b. - no insult to anyone else - just not for me!) I have to chat online a while and chat/drink/eat with someone a while to make sure the chemistry's there - then the sex is generally blody marvelous - my meet becomes a friend - and everyone's happy! Marvelous!!

This makes a ton of sense for me. "

Thanks! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. More so recently. It's good to take a step back every so often and assess the types of people I engage with, and the expectations I have from them and myself. I've found the People who claim to be honest and open, generally aren't.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"I guess we are guilty of the very thing the op and mist posters have said is their problem with the site .

We use fab for meaningless nsa sex and it works brilliantly for us and our countless meets over the past 3 years .

A rough estimate of over 400 meets Iin this time kinda tells it's own story . But it's what we want and we wwouldn't want it any other way .

So , sorry everyone , we aren't deliberately trying to spoil fab for you "

Don't think you need to apologise for anything, the way i see it everyone uses Fab in different ways, if the way you are using the site works for you then great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the whole I'm managing to take the rough with the smooth and have learned along the way that effort in = results out. As long as I continue to do this I'll be happy with my time here as I chat and banter with people I wouldn't bump into in daily life. I've also met some lovely people along the way too and that's a welcome bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On the whole I'm managing to take the rough with the smooth and have learned along the way that effort in = results out. As long as I continue to do this I'll be happy with my time here as I chat and banter with people I wouldn't bump into in daily life. I've also met some lovely people along the way too and that's a welcome bonus "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess we are guilty of the very thing the op and mist posters have said is their problem with the site .

We use fab for meaningless nsa sex and it works brilliantly for us and our countless meets over the past 3 years .

A rough estimate of over 400 meets Iin this time kinda tells it's own story . But it's what we want and we wwouldn't want it any other way .

So , sorry everyone , we aren't deliberately trying to spoil fab for you "

You definitely aren't what is the problem with the site for me, because you have your preferences for meets and I have mine, both of us make them clear on our respective profiles and that's all good. The only way it would be a problem is if you read my profile and still incessantly messaged me or got the hump because I don't like what you like (and vice versa) but you guys have never seemed like people who need to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes. More so recently. It's good to take a step back every so often and assess the types of people I engage with, and the expectations I have from them and myself. I've found the People who claim to be honest and open, generally aren't. "

That's right I met a man once several years ago who kept saying how honest he was which I thought was a bit funny and when I met him I found out he was a compulsive lier with not a very good memory, so it pays to be careful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we do, so much so that we won't be meeting off here certainly for the foreseeable future, and will only be meeting in clubs because there doesn't seem to be people with matching criteria to us

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By *lutmeup500Woman
over a year ago

London

Yes

or more likely I'll be mid gangbang or on the way to a threesome and just think...what the hell are you doing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site,and especially the forums has no bearing on my sex life. Before I joined I was doing the same thing with men I met from Facebook social apps. I don't have naked photos on show and rarely show them. Being sexually open doesn't mean I have to be showing my body to all and sundry. This site is not the hub of my sex life,it's just a place to meet like minded men and maybe explore different avenues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing with the forums is there are extremely judgmental people using it. People who may keep most of their sex lives a secret from family and friends for fear of being judged. They screw up their faces at some people's sexual activity because they deem it to be beneath them,like they have a more moral way,which is ironic. I don't allow anyone to make me feel I'm not doing the right thing for me, I don't care what they think of what I do,who I meet and why. The _iews of people who use the forums are of no consequence to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really meet people from the site, we have always preferred clubs and parties and certainly we are,not that active in terms of swinging and I don't contribute on the forum as much as I used to. I don't find it as entertaining as in previous times. I have other hobbies I'm more interested in at the moment.

That said I have never allowed other members to dictate how I run my profile or my _iews on the forum. I don't get involved in private messaging to talk about other fab members or chat in private, I've always been more of a public discussion type of person.

I think it's a fairly natural feeling to go off something or become less interested in it, we all move on through different phases. I mainly use fab when I've a bit of spare time to read, much like leafing through a magazine whilst I'm waiting for dinner to cook or if I wake from sleep at night etc

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


". I don't allow anyone to make me feel I'm not doing the right thing for me, I don't care what they think of what I do,who I meet and why. The _iews of people who use the forums are of no consequence to me. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As long as the people you'd like to meet are here, then it could well be the right place. If the cost of meeting them is too high, having to endure endless messages from the poorly matched, the amount of time and energy you invest etc, then consider some other place.

Otherwise, I like to take responsibility for the results that I get, rather than the tools, as much as that may be possible.

There are ways of screening people out, dealing with unsuitable interest, tracking down and communicating with those people of interest: it's worth honing your skills.

This all does depend on our objectives though. Are they realistic, achievable or even right for you today?

There's a cost benefit analysis that many of us run in our heads, evaluating the net gain from investing in something and the returns we get.

I can understand you Op, if you've had those experiences - that's not great! I read recently about us reading and _iewing news not being too healthy for our minds - perhaps there are aspects of fab that don't work right for you either, and you could reduce your contact with them, if you did stay on Fab?

We do change, so even if Fab hasn't, it may be that your interests have, so it's worth considering a break, if you need space to contemplate upon what it is that you now want.

Overall, find the great and positive people that enrich your life here, rather than the opposite. Good luck!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

After being on here for a while now I'm beginning to wonder if planet Earth is the right place for me never mind fab.

There's some crrraaazzzy people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being on here for a while now I'm beginning to wonder if planet Earth is the right place for me never mind fab.

There's some crrraaazzzy people on here "

Not just here though

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Okie dokie

I think for me I have less interaction with people that I have messaged without either speaking to them in chat or meeting them at a club or soicial

I do find that when I have spoken. To people away from the site I tend to get on better.

I often take days away from the site mainly as I have other interests. I do still have a look at my friends and hotlist updates

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By *arkwolf66Woman
over a year ago

Horsham,

It ebbs and flows, I think the longer your in this lifestyle the less tolerant you become and the more you expect in terms of people and meets, I find it's good to take breaks, explore other things and not let complacency set in to the point that you start to dread the messages and wonder what the point of having an actual profile is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If fab is the right place for you?

this isn't a look at me thread at all because quite frankly I don't care who looks, but do you ever read the forums and messages you get and just wonder if this is the right place?

I really enjoy my fab meets, and have made some cracking friends on here, but find increasingly I feel out of place on here.

Been called prudish and uptight via PM a few times now for expressing my opinions, and laughed at for not providing fully nude pictures...

Just thinking it out really, and wondering if my time on fab is naturally drawing to an end as it seems to be moving more towards quick, meaningless fucks rather than how it was 3 years ago when I joined up...?"

I'm the same. I even left 3 months ago but came back as I thought I would be missing something, but nope...same old and I feel like it'll never be as good as when I first joined xx

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