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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never felt like a man has made love to me ever. Even during my 30 years with my husband it never felt that intimate. I've had sensual sex with men I don't love that was lovely and became intense,but the emotional side wasn't there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!"

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love"."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love"."

So what makes it on another level? What do you do that is different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love".

So what makes it on another level? What do you do that is different?"

I don't think you do anything... Its just about the emotional attachment to the person your with

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love"."

Nice to see we can agree on some things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationships are organic things. They evolve and grow. They go through times of extreme emotional intensity and times where you feel like housemates.

Naturally the sex reflects what's going on in the relationship at the time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love".

So what makes it on another level? What do you do that is different?"

Nothing it isn't physical its emotional. So I suppose the difference is that possibly its one of the times when you are particularly intimate emotionally as well as sexually, I think that analysing it is nigh on impossible

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love".

Nice to see we can agree on some things "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Relationships are organic things. They evolve and grow. They go through times of extreme emotional intensity and times where you feel like housemates.

Naturally the sex reflects what's going on in the relationship at the time. "

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love"."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in past relationships yes i have been made love to

candles burning and rose petals on the bed a long bubble bath together and massage then teasing exploring the sensual touch and the kissing the slowness no rush of being made to feel you are the center of the persons life

its only when im in love i am submissive and this is what i miss being single

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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So what makes it on another level? What do you do that is different?"

It's the depth of the emotional connection, the openness, the intimacy - the totally trusting vulnerability to each other. I make love with my partners every time I fall in love, and because I am so unguarded emotionally I can make love 'in the now' sometimes with someone likeminded. I think it takes that openness for someone to do that in a casual scenario.

A skillful, sensual lover can make a vague approximation of making love, but only the emotional connection makes it so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage "

I'm sorry to hear that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with the connection the intimacy and all the insecurities are gone as you want them as much as they want you

emotional and the eye contact and the way the kiss you, touch you

makes it from sex to making love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Depends on my mood sometimes I want to be mad love too, or others I want to be fucked x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one hell of a difference between making love and sex. Sex is wonderful but making love brings all the emotions into play and enhances the sensations and relaxed joy of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage "
wow im really shocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is possible to make love. There is a completely different feeling to making love and just having great sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We make love all the time. Something very beautiful about being so tuned into one another and communicating your most intimate feelings through touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!"

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love"."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. "
but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x"

You can only make love when you're in love though,so probably not. Lust doesn't count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage "

so so true..the eyes tells so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x

You can only make love when you're in love though,so probably not. Lust doesn't count "
not true! Ive made love to many women and although at the time i love their body and the sensual seduction the tenderness and the passion, i wasnt in love with any of them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x

You can only make love when you're in love though,so probably not. Lust doesn't count not true! Ive made love to many women and although at the time i love their body and the sensual seduction the tenderness and the passion, i wasnt in love with any of them. "

So you don't have to be in love to make love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Relationships are organic things. They evolve and grow. They go through times of extreme emotional intensity and times where you feel like housemates.

Naturally the sex reflects what's going on in the relationship at the time. "

Wise woman

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x

You can only make love when you're in love though,so probably not. Lust doesn't count not true! Ive made love to many women and although at the time i love their body and the sensual seduction the tenderness and the passion, i wasnt in love with any of them.

So you don't have to be in love to make love? "

I think you do ...at the time. It does all depend on how you define "make love" though.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x

You can only make love when you're in love though,so probably not. Lust doesn't count not true! Ive made love to many women and although at the time i love their body and the sensual seduction the tenderness and the passion, i wasnt in love with any of them.

So you don't have to be in love to make love?

I think you do ...at the time. It does all depend on how you define "make love" though. "

I think you do too - even if it could be a little bit of unreality, you need to have that freely exchanged giving and receiving of emotion at the time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x

You can only make love when you're in love though,so probably not. Lust doesn't count not true! Ive made love to many women and although at the time i love their body and the sensual seduction the tenderness and the passion, i wasnt in love with any of them.

So you don't have to be in love to make love?

I think you do ...at the time. It does all depend on how you define "make love" though.

I think you do too - even if it could be a little bit of unreality, you need to have that freely exchanged giving and receiving of emotion at the time."

Its an interesting subject and I suspect that peoples answers will be coloured by their life experiences and expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love someone to look into my eyes as he's making love to me and see how much he loves me. I wasn't allowed eye contact with my husband,says it all about my marriage wow im really shocked!

Really? There must be a lot of men like him in the world. but never to have had that intimacy? I feel for you i really do and theres a lot of men who would love to make love to you im certain x

You can only make love when you're in love though,so probably not. Lust doesn't count not true! Ive made love to many women and although at the time i love their body and the sensual seduction the tenderness and the passion, i wasnt in love with any of them.

So you don't have to be in love to make love?

I think you do ...at the time. It does all depend on how you define "make love" though.

I think you do too - even if it could be a little bit of unreality, you need to have that freely exchanged giving and receiving of emotion at the time.

Its an interesting subject and I suspect that peoples answers will be coloured by their life experiences and expectations."

When I make love I want to feel the love he feels for me. I've had sensual sex but knowing they don't love me makes it sex,not making love.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I don't make love....even typing the words makes me cringe a little. I have sex both with my husband whom I love and others who I don't love. The sex with my OH is amazing but it still isn't making love

I know it's each to their own but if some one said it to me I would have to laugh

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I've never been in love, and never made love.

The closest I have ever been to it is with my current lover, who is very dominant. But last time when we met up, we had a very intense, passionate, close but gentle reconnect sexually before anything else. Absolutely amazing.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I've never been in love, and never made love.

The closest I have ever been to it is with my current lover, who is very dominant. But last time when we met up, we had a very intense, passionate, close but gentle reconnect sexually before anything else. Absolutely amazing."

Hmm, I'd enjoy that enormously too, lol!! But tell me, why do you call him a lover if you are not in love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never make love we FUCK, Some times it can get emotional especially when her nails dig in n make my eyes water but at the end of the day its about sticking me dick in a hole n bouncing about for a couple of minutes

Gimp

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I've never been in love, and never made love.

The closest I have ever been to it is with my current lover, who is very dominant. But last time when we met up, we had a very intense, passionate, close but gentle reconnect sexually before anything else. Absolutely amazing.

Hmm, I'd enjoy that enormously too, lol!! But tell me, why do you call him a lover if you are not in love?"

Because its the closest definition that works for us both... we are more than Fbs and friends with benefits. And he is more than just my dominant. We hold each other in very high regard, and care for one another deeply. But for one reason or another, neither of us want to be in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the term "making love" isnt the right description but i know from experience, you don't have to be in love to experience fantastic lovemaking! Its a pleasure i enjoy without commitment and so do the ladies i "make love" too so each to thier own. Ill stick to what i know works for me i don't need a wife.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I've only had one man make love to me, and it was definitely on a different level to just having sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine the aftermath would feel different too. Although I've cuddled with a few men after sex I don't get a warm fuzzy feeling like I imagine people in love do.

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By *arah_89Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's not something I've had the chance to experience much (if at all) in my life. Times when it's been a little passionate but rarely when feelings of love have come into it... I do believe there is a distinction though, and that sex with someone you love will always ultimately be more rewarding and satisfying..

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I've never been in love, and never made love.

The closest I have ever been to it is with my current lover, who is very dominant. But last time when we met up, we had a very intense, passionate, close but gentle reconnect sexually before anything else. Absolutely amazing.

Hmm, I'd enjoy that enormously too, lol!! But tell me, why do you call him a lover if you are not in love?

Because its the closest definition that works for us both... we are more than Fbs and friends with benefits. And he is more than just my dominant. We hold each other in very high regard, and care for one another deeply. But for one reason or another, neither of us want to be in love."

I can relate to that. The 'high regard' is important too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe in love, but I seem to have always had quite nice emotional sex.

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I'll take raw animalistic sex and leave the emotion thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love".

Nice to see we can agree on some things

"

Exactly! You don't set out to "make love". You start at sex and it evolves because your mind is open to any possibility that the next few hours might bring, physically AND emotionally. If the sex you have is linear and prescriptive, it's unlikely you'd get to a place where it felt like making love rather than sex.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love".

Nice to see we can agree on some things

Exactly! You don't set out to "make love". You start at sex and it evolves because your mind is open to any possibility that the next few hours might bring, physically AND emotionally. If the sex you have is linear and prescriptive, it's unlikely you'd get to a place where it felt like making love rather than sex. "

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!"

If you ever find your soulmate you will then know what making love is.

One may be married and enjoy sex with ones husband or wife but that does not compare with the complete immersion one feels with ones soulmate.

This is from someone who never believed in love.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I've never been in love, and never made love.

The closest I have ever been to it is with my current lover, who is very dominant. But last time when we met up, we had a very intense, passionate, close but gentle reconnect sexually before anything else. Absolutely amazing.

Hmm, I'd enjoy that enormously too, lol!! But tell me, why do you call him a lover if you are not in love?

Because its the closest definition that works for us both... we are more than Fbs and friends with benefits. And he is more than just my dominant. We hold each other in very high regard, and care for one another deeply. But for one reason or another, neither of us want to be in love.

I can relate to that. The 'high regard' is important too."

The high regard is the backbone of our whole relationship. We work in similar fields of work - him in a larger organisation and at a much higher grade than me, but we talk lots about work, life, football, books and music (although we have vastly different tastes) He is also 11 years my senior. If it all continues to develop the way it does, in time, he could be the one I would allow myself to feel more for... but thats a very long way off yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fuck with the guys here and make love with my Hubba Hubba Can't wait to see my Northen Hunk this weekend ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!"

You're too far away or else I'd show you

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


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No it isn't a fantastical way of saying having sex, you don't make love every time you have sex with a much loved partner but when you do its on another level entirely, there's an extra dimension to it. You couldn't sustain that level of interaction every time you have sex but it is entirely possible to "make love"."

This for me. We often have great sex and regularly make love. It's that extra special something that you just can't describe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!

If you ever find your soulmate you will then know what making love is.

One may be married and enjoy sex with ones husband or wife but that does not compare with the complete immersion one feels with ones soulmate.

This is from someone who never believed in love.

"
This a 1000 times over and I count my blessings each and every day to be married to mine. Mrs xx

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"I've never felt like a man has made love to me ever. Even during my 30 years with my husband it never felt that intimate. I've had sensual sex with men I don't love that was lovely and became intense,but the emotional side wasn't there."

It's very sad to here that in 30 years of marriage.you never felt your husband made love to you. I hope some day you experience that beautiful feeling .. everybody should at some stage of there life..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never felt like a man has made love to me ever. Even during my 30 years with my husband it never felt that intimate. I've had sensual sex with men I don't love that was lovely and became intense,but the emotional side wasn't there.

It's very sad to here that in 30 years of marriage.you never felt your husband made love to you. I hope some day you experience that beautiful feeling .. everybody should at some stage of there life.."

For 27 of those years he didn't kiss me. I wanted that more than anything else

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Is there such a thing?

Isn't it just a fantastical way of saying having sex?

If you're in love do you always make love?

Personally I think its all poppycock!"
Totally in agreement...utter piffle.

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city


"I've never felt like a man has made love to me ever. Even during my 30 years with my husband it never felt that intimate. I've had sensual sex with men I don't love that was lovely and became intense,but the emotional side wasn't there.

It's very sad to here that in 30 years of marriage.you never felt your husband made love to you. I hope some day you experience that beautiful feeling .. everybody should at some stage of there life..

For 27 of those years he didn't kiss me. I wanted that more than anything else "

You should have kicked him out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never felt like a man has made love to me ever. Even during my 30 years with my husband it never felt that intimate. I've had sensual sex with men I don't love that was lovely and became intense,but the emotional side wasn't there.

It's very sad to here that in 30 years of marriage.you never felt your husband made love to you. I hope some day you experience that beautiful feeling .. everybody should at some stage of there life..

For 27 of those years he didn't kiss me. I wanted that more than anything else

You should have kicked him out

"

I did

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

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"I've never felt like a man has made love to me ever. Even during my 30 years with my husband it never felt that intimate. I've had sensual sex with men I don't love that was lovely and became intense,but the emotional side wasn't there.

It's very sad to here that in 30 years of marriage.you never felt your husband made love to you. I hope some day you experience that beautiful feeling .. everybody should at some stage of there life..

For 27 of those years he didn't kiss me. I wanted that more than anything else

You should have kicked him out

I did "

Good for u. But pity u didn't do it 27 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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So what makes it on another level? What do you do that is different?

It's the depth of the emotional connection, the openness, the intimacy - the totally trusting vulnerability to each other. I make love with my partners every time I fall in love, and because I am so unguarded emotionally I can make love 'in the now' sometimes with someone likeminded. I think it takes that openness for someone to do that in a casual scenario.

A skillful, sensual lover can make a vague approximation of making love, but only the emotional connection makes it so.

"

This is very close to my view too. I have described my love to a partner as a gift of a horcrux, some smaller, some larger, pieces of me that are shared with lovers. Sure, occasionally sex with a partner happens without that, but I much prefer when a connection is made, intimacy is desired by both partners, and the physical encounter has an amazing intensity.

(Horcruxes for those without kids or an interest in Harry Potter are parts of Voldemort's soul)

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"

So what makes it on another level? What do you do that is different?

It's the depth of the emotional connection, the openness, the intimacy - the totally trusting vulnerability to each other. I make love with my partners every time I fall in love, and because I am so unguarded emotionally I can make love 'in the now' sometimes with someone likeminded. I think it takes that openness for someone to do that in a casual scenario.

A skillful, sensual lover can make a vague approximation of making love, but only the emotional connection makes it so.

This is very close to my view too. I have described my love to a partner as a gift of a horcrux, some smaller, some larger, pieces of me that are shared with lovers. Sure, occasionally sex with a partner happens without that, but I much prefer when a connection is made, intimacy is desired by both partners, and the physical encounter has an amazing intensity.

(Horcruxes for those without kids or an interest in Harry Potter are parts of Voldemort's soul)"

I know exactly what you mean, I said the same once about a past love - I gave him a gift, it was part of me, and that stayed given even though I moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a difference -

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I need to feel that higher level of intensity....I think I've been close but maybe I'm not quite letting go...

Hmm such a thought provoking read this thread has been.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I need to feel that higher level of intensity....I think I've been close but maybe I'm not quite letting go...

Hmm such a thought provoking read this thread has been. "

Yes, it's about the loss of control, choosing to let go the end. I've been thinking about it too, may put up a thread later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Poppycock.....I take it back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you ever been I love but had to let it go? Do you love friends? Then why can't you make love? You don't have to be in love to make love, for the time my friends and I are together, be it an hour, several, a night, days, we are wrapped up in each other and lovers. We make love, we have torrid energetic sex, but but there is also intimacy, affection and respect. If that doesn't meet mosts definition of love, I don't really care. I know how it feels, I can hold her close, kiss her with adoration, just adore being in her company, for me, making love is sex with affection, it's what I do, I can walk away when I have to, but I know if it warrants being called lovemaking. One of the things I find so hard to understand about this lifestyle is the hang up about, emotion, I'd far rather make love and feel something that have a clinical emotionless fuck that is tantamount to a mutual wank, lighten up you lot. I've loved many people and made love to countless women, works well, they all come back for more. Don't get hung up on a word guys.

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