FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

To wink or not

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even check mine

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

I don't mind receiving them but they seem to have a bad reputation so I rarely send them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

When I wink someone it just means I really like what I see. Why people receiving them may take offence to this is beyond me. I love receiving them myself. If anyone wants to wink me then go ahead

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They do seem to have a bad rep but I'm not sure why? Someone was moaning (and not in a good way ) about receiving too many messages but then stated not to wink? So really not sure how to approach people like this lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know a song about that, don't we billy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I wink someone it just means I really like what I see. Why people receiving them may take offence to this is beyond me. I love receiving them myself. If anyone wants to wink me then go ahead "

I dont take offence I do wonder if men just block wink and work on the law of average that if they wink enough people someone will mail back

So I wonder if I reply saying thanks for the wink will they even remember winking me

And if they did reply to my reply is it because they like me or because I was the only women who responded

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They probably winked you based on the profile pic of your gorgeous feet lol, seriously though, you have a good point. Personally I don't block wink and just give attention to people I actually am interested in, but as you say that may not be the case for all folk

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just asked the same on wales forum

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't even check mine "

nor me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy receiving winks and messages.

Some people take life far far far too seriously!!! Lol!

Need a beer!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We send and always look at ours, we like the function.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I don't even check mine

nor me"

We don't either....if someone winks we would have to check their profile to see if we were interested enough to get in touch. This means the onus is on us to do all the work which would become a full time job. We simply bulk delete...much quicker.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"We enjoy receiving winks and messages.

Some people take life far far far too seriously!!! Lol!

Need a beer!"

Yes some women on here do need to take a chill pill. It's only a wink for God's sake

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i want to make someone know im interested i will message them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We enjoy receiving winks and messages.

Some people take life far far far too seriously!!! Lol!

Need a beer!"

Beer it is

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i take it as a compliment but i get very few and even less when it comes to mail.

Anyone got a violin!?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally I may look at some of mine if I'm really bored. I like winking at guys I've chatted to and am friends with to let them know I'm thinking of them, if we haven't chatted for a bit.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We enjoy receiving winks and messages.

Some people take life far far far too seriously!!! Lol!

Need a beer!

Beer it is "

I wish you could send people a beer on here. Or chocolate. It's be way more meaningful than winks!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?"

Thumbs up from me!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why the wink function is good for the single guys....I'd be pissed off if the majority of my messages were deleted, so a wink is purely to see if there is interest. Absolutely nothing wrong with them and so easily ignored by the recipient if they aren't interested in the winker. I've had some fantastic meets that have started with a wink. Long live the wink....and the winker

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by what others have said, it seems winking is great for ing out the negative Nancy's on here. If they get offended by it then I'd certainly not want to meet someone so touchy. There seems to be a lot of folk up their own arses on here, but horses for courses and all that.

Anyway. All this does is encourage me to now test the waters with someone I like the look of by winking at them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if i want to make someone know im interested i will message them "

That's fair enough, but what about those who complain of too many messages and also dislike winks lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We enjoy receiving winks and messages.

Some people take life far far far too seriously!!! Lol!

Need a beer!

Beer it is

I wish you could send people a beer on here. Or chocolate. It's be way more meaningful than winks!"

cant i have a glass of wine please

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I don't even check mine

nor me

We don't either....if someone winks we would have to check their profile to see if we were interested enough to get in touch. This means the onus is on us to do all the work which would become a full time job. We simply bulk delete...much quicker."

But surely, they have already done the first part of the "work" to pick your profile? All they are asking is that you look at theirs! No need to reply if you don't like. If you do, maybe a reply to them would start up a sexy friendship. Well, that's how we use them...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if i want to make someone know im interested i will message them

That's fair enough, but what about those who complain of too many messages and also dislike winks lol"

i dont check friend requests either

i dont complain about too many messages at all, im here to meet like minded people who fancys a frollic and fun

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if i want to make someone know im interested i will message them

That's fair enough, but what about those who complain of too many messages and also dislike winks lol"

they won't be meeting anytime soon

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see a wink as a harmless way of saying 'hey, look at me'. That said, the majority of the winks we've received were from profiles where there was very little to look at, and therefore rather pointless. If you're going to be a winker you'll probably stand a better chance of getting a response if you have a profile loaded with good pics and informative text.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I never look at mine, I have even put don't bother sending winks as I never check them on the profile, but they still keep appearing.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if i want to make someone know im interested i will message them

That's fair enough, but what about those who complain of too many messages and also dislike winks lol

i dont check friend requests either

i dont complain about too many messages at all, im here to meet like minded people who fancys a frollic and fun

"

Sorry not saying you complain but people do lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if i want to make someone know im interested i will message them

That's fair enough, but what about those who complain of too many messages and also dislike winks lol

they won't be meeting anytime soon "

That is very true lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't even check mine "

nah neither do I,does anyone?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ignore winks from couples profiles with no photos of the guy showing generally

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't even check mine

nah neither do I,does anyone?"

yes!......because I need all the attention I can get

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wink and get lots of response

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I don't even check mine

nor me

We don't either....if someone winks we would have to check their profile to see if we were interested enough to get in touch. This means the onus is on us to do all the work which would become a full time job. We simply bulk delete...much quicker.

But surely, they have already done the first part of the "work" to pick your profile? All they are asking is that you look at theirs! No need to reply if you don't like. If you do, maybe a reply to them would start up a sexy friendship. Well, that's how we use them..."

I would agree with that except....we get in the region of 150 winks a day so it simply isn't possible...we do however respond to everyone who sends a message and we will look at their profile too....there are simply less messages...that's all

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know i get winks and friends requests i just don't add them. they can stay on my account as then they cant re wink or try to add me again for 30 days

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i know i get winks and friends requests i just don't add them. they can stay on my account as then they cant re wink or try to add me again for 30 days "

Lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know a song about that, don't we billy "

Don't start me off...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of a slow one this time.

"Wink Twice"

Don't think that I feel that your profiles wrong

You've been the sweetest part of this site for so long

I look in your pics, and they all look right

And I know that your posts have made me hard tonight

This is getting serious

And I'm thinking do I wink or not

*

Don't say what you're about to say

Please look at all the fabs I sent

Be sure before you block me now

Just send a wink back to me

Before I wink twice

*

Baby I winked twice for the chance of a fuck, or a coffee

For the chance of a meet between you and me

Baby I know it ain't easy when your inbox is heaving from that other crowd

'Coz when you're on my hotlist, I want you to go down

But baby this is serious

And I'm thinking do I wink or not?

*

Don't say what you're about to say

Please look at all the fabs I sent

Be sure before you block me now

Just send a wink back to me

Before I wink twice

*

[breakdown]

*

Baby this is serious

And I want you to suck on my cock

*

Don't say what you're about to say

Please look at all the fabs I sent

Be sure before you block me now

Just send a wink back to me

Before I wink twice

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?"

Some people get annoyed at wind blowing,or people being alive and talking...

love winking,and being winked at.the one thing going for winks is it saves the hassle of typing out a message that gets deleted,or not read...

Most of our exchanges have started with a wink

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete them once a week but normally don't check them as it is meaningless most of the time so I just mass delete.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check my winks

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?

Thumbs up from me! "

Fabbing a pic is even more subtle, lol.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?

Thumbs up from me!

Fabbing a pic is even more subtle, lol."

I always fab pics if I like them, usually followed by a wink and then be ignored lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

We like to wink, and we like to be winked.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?

Thumbs up from me!

Fabbing a pic is even more subtle, lol."

Agree

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?

Thumbs up from me!

Fabbing a pic is even more subtle, lol."

I fab pics of guys I like

Some will message me to say thanks some don't

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"winking seems to be a little controversial, some like it and some don't! I personally like it, as it shows interest in someone without the need for long winded intros via mail only to be ignored anyway. If they wink back then the chatting can start.

What does everyone else think?

Thumbs up from me!

Fabbing a pic is even more subtle, lol.

I fab pics of guys I like

Some will message me to say thanks some don't

"

Agreed x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I use winking as a form of semaphore.

Don't forget with Platinum Supporter Membership you get unlimited winks at the same person a day.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very happy to receive winks or messages, or Fab'd photo for that matter.

Surely, there is less of a compulsion to reply to a wink or a 'fab' so that should be more acceptable?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if im in a rush i wink, but prefer to send opening mail with a face pic attached.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top