FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Harder for men

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Iv been trying for months and months

To get a meet no one seems to be interested.

A single girl on here I know only been on a few weeks and boom meets all the time.

I just think its so hard for a bloke to get a meet unless he is with another women.

Rubbish really as I'm wanting it 24/7 and can't get it haha.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried sending lots of penis pictures? I've heard that's a sure fire.....

I'm joking, so please don't do that unless asked for. Lol

May I ask what you've done to change your circumstances?

Have you engaged on the forums?

Gone to socials/clubs?

Do you have a possitive attitude?

(Perhaps I should have read your profile first but) Is your profile well written or at least one that tells people about you?

If the answer to a fair few of the above is No, and nothing has been done to remedy it by you then your circumstances won't change, save for a huge stroke of luck.

If not, have those phallic pics on standby ... Again, I'm not being serious. Lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You had a meet from a couple so whatever you did then, do something similar. You're starting to sound a bit desperate (this thread and status) and that's not a sexually attractive trait so try something different. Join in on the chat rooms, in the forums, go to a social, go to a club, make friends who are swingers and they will introduce you and soon you will have a nice little lifestyle going.

Perhaps add more to your profile?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I just think its so hard for a bloke to get a meet unless he is with another women. "

From the couples I've spoken to, it's not actually as easy as you think.

Whoever they are mailing has to like Both of them.

I got my first meet within 2 weeks of joining.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe the Nottingham Socials are held in / around the Arnold area.

Maybe get yourself to one of those? They seem to be a popular suggestion to improve people chances.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Iv been trying for months and months

To get a meet no one seems to be interested.

A single girl on here I know only been on a few weeks and boom meets all the time.

I just think its so hard for a bloke to get a meet unless he is with another women.

Rubbish really as I'm wanting it 24/7 and can't get it haha. "

As I constantly tell our 5 yr old - "I want doesn't get!"

Plenty of guys do manage to meet - otherwise who are the single women and couples seeking MMF threesomes meeting?

Are they perhaps doing something different?

A

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy with my best years behind me, I honestly don't think you should take anything on here as a barometer for real life.

Women rule when it comes to this site or any other type of dating site, accept that and don't get a complex.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't write your profile as if it centres around sex. Write it as if it's a brief autobiography. My profile has served me well, it garners a reasonable amount of attention and encourages females to send the first message.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile could be worded differently with more thought put into it. For example, you're saying how you like women of all body types by saying "not fussed about size" and this gives me the impression that you'd go for anything as long as you're getting some. This may be one of your problems as on Fab, even the smallest things are deal breakers. A better way of wording it would be something such as "I find women of all shapes and sizes beautiful" lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its hard to be a woman

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Iv been trying for months and months

To get a meet no one seems to be interested.

A single girl on here I know only been on a few weeks and boom meets all the time.

I just think its so hard for a bloke to get a meet unless he is with another women.

Rubbish really as I'm wanting it 24/7 and can't get it haha. "

The answer is there before you fella...

If single ladies have it easy.... Have a sex change

I've never equated quantity of messages received with having it easy, if you're in a sweet shop that doesn't stock the sweets you're looking for.. You'll be just as frustrated..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

You say you're happy to travel but your profile, to me, suggests you expect the woman to accommodate. A lot of single women won't accommodate because they're parents, or they are concerned about their safety or for a number of reasons. Also, unfortunately, a lot will see you can't accommodate and, rightly or wrongly, assume you're cheating.

Maybe making it clear you're willing to share the cost of a hotel might help.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Make sure your first message is doing its best for you too.

If you send "hi, how are you?", for example, or anything overtly sexual, as a first message, you're not helping your chances.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it depends how fussy you are... It's easy to get webcam verifications. Plus some people have mutual friends etc and get verified by them. I know a guy who has these types, but none from an actual meet via fab.

Women don't have it easy, trying to out the liars and bullshitters is hardwork! I could have met a million guys by now, and camed with all of them. But "one" must maintain standards pmsl

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet single men if they meet my criterias and if i fancy them and some connection there

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say it depends how fussy you are... It's easy to get webcam verifications. Plus some people have mutual friends etc and get verified by them. I know a guy who has these types, but none from an actual meet via fab.

)"

this would send warnings to me

web cam veris but no actual meets

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say it depends how fussy you are... It's easy to get webcam verifications. Plus some people have mutual friends etc and get verified by them. I know a guy who has these types, but none from an actual meet via fab.

)

this would send warnings to me

web cam veris but no actual meets "

me too - but u guess beggars can't be choosers!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say it depends how fussy you are... It's easy to get webcam verifications. Plus some people have mutual friends etc and get verified by them. I know a guy who has these types, but none from an actual meet via fab.

)

this would send warnings to me

web cam veris but no actual meets

me too - but u guess beggars can't be choosers! "

depends how long they have been on the site to be honest.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club guy's. It's so difficult to get a meet ohere

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be realistic lads. Just like in the real world Ladies have what we want so they are in control. They can get penis whebever they want. And on here there must be about 100 blokes to every single lady!

Ive no meets yet but im assured patience is the key!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Join the club guy's. It's so difficult to get a meet ohere "

actually it isnt

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Join the club guy's. It's so difficult to get a meet ohere

actually it isnt "

Hey up, Jacs, I hope you aren't turning into one of those women who compare their site experiences to that of the single male. I may stop liking you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say it depends how fussy you are... It's easy to get webcam verifications. Plus some people have mutual friends etc and get verified by them. I know a guy who has these types, but none from an actual meet via fab.

Women don't have it easy, trying to out the liars and bullshitters is hardwork! I could have met a million guys by now, and camed with all of them. But "one" must maintain standards pmsl "

Wow... Never thought about it like that but never a truer word said. I've had meets up in the past and have received 500+ messages within a couple of hours... Trying to sift through them all just left me frustrated and annoyed (people not respecting my wishes / requirements) and ended up not meeting at all!! At least if you only have a few responses you can decide if they are for you or not and spend some time exchanging messages.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Join the club guy's. It's so difficult to get a meet ohere

actually it isnt

Hey up, Jacs, I hope you aren't turning into one of those women who compare their site experiences to that of the single male. I may stop liking you "

god no

far far from it

im just explaining that its not hard for a single man to meet a lady

with no needs for clubs

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think your profile could be worded differently with more thought put into it. For example, you're saying how you like women of all body types by saying "not fussed about size" and this gives me the impression that you'd go for anything as long as you're getting some. This may be one of your problems as on Fab, even the smallest things are deal breakers. A better way of wording it would be something such as "I find women of all shapes and sizes beautiful" lol "

Good advice this!!

Also OP - are you actually into crossdressing and watersports? If not, I'd try removing those.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Join the club guy's. It's so difficult to get a meet ohere

actually it isnt

Hey up, Jacs, I hope you aren't turning into one of those women who compare their site experiences to that of the single male. I may stop liking you "

I'm a single guy just the other side of fifty and I meet regularly. It helps that I look like brad Pitt and I'm hung like a horse and I have a laugh and a joke... Well 2 outs 3 ain't true...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and OP you are cute (as is your cat) - maybe redo that photo without the furrowed brow and with a smile? The photo isn't "bad" - but an additional smiley one would be great to see.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Got to be realistic lads. Just like in the real world Ladies have what we want so they are in control. They can get penis whebever they want. And on here there must be about 100 blokes to every single lady!

Ive no meets yet but im assured patience is the key! "

Yours is a good profile.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe take up a new sport go to the gym keep your mind of sex as it can take over your life Maybe go to clubs meeting people face to face get to know people. Some come here think it's going to be easy it's not easy just look at all the posts here most days about this.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"trying to out the liars and bullshitters is hardwork! "

I'm probably one of those.

Case in point:

Isn't a Bullshitter and a Liar the same thing?...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Join the club guy's. It's so difficult to get a meet ohere

actually it isnt

Hey up, Jacs, I hope you aren't turning into one of those women who compare their site experiences to that of the single male. I may stop liking you

god no

far far from it

im just explaining that its not hard for a single man to meet a lady

with no needs for clubs "

We'll have to agree to disagree then.

There are quite a few single men who have no problem obtaining meets, I include myself in that category, when I can be arsed, but I'm aware that for the vast majority it is a difficult task.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

this would send warnings to me

web cam veris but no actual meets "

Hold up...

What about guys who COMPLETELY hide their Veri's?...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think it's relatively easy to make connections on here with like minded people. After all, we all have something in common - being on a swingers site.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After all, we all have something in common - being on a swingers site. "

...and that is usually the ONLY thing.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mean to sound disrespectful to women. But it is definitely more difficult for a guy to meet a woman for sex. I know the lads that I work with on a night out will always get sex. They will say if they can't get a nice woman then they will go with what they call a minger. And there is always a woman desperate enough to meet their needs. Am sure if an attravtive woman could not get a decent guy then they would not go with a fat ugly man just to suppress their Sexuality needs. NOT MY WORDS ladies.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So by that logic men should get sex easier as they'll go with anyone regardless if they are their type, whereas a woman has standards and will select an appropriate partner with thought and consideration, therefore less options!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose that's true yes. I have respect for women and would not do what my work colleagues do.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think also some men think a hour even half a hour is a good meet and would do ... We'll a lot of people are put off if don't have the time . Some take a hour or more to warm up so will say no as no sex is better then crap sex.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

this would send warnings to me

web cam veris but no actual meets

Hold up...

What about guys who COMPLETELY hide their Veri's?... "

cant say as i hide mine lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my earlier post doesn't resonate with some of you guys, pay attention to johnsoda and _rightonsteve.

If that combination isn't enough to address your concerns or inspire, I'm sorry to say, I don't know what will

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience and polite, targeted persistence pays off in the end.

Keep your pecker up (until you find someone that will do that for you!)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patience and polite, targeted persistence pays off in the end.

Keep your pecker up (until you find someone that will do that for you!)"

This has made me laugh "targeted persistence". Lol true though

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are good you can meet people get veris then will help you on here as people can see your genuine

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I don't mean to sound disrespectful to women. But it is definitely more difficult for a guy to meet a woman for sex. I know the lads that I work with on a night out will always get sex. They will say if they can't get a nice woman then they will go with what they call a minger. And there is always a woman desperate enough to meet their needs. Am sure if an attravtive woman could not get a decent guy then they would not go with a fat ugly man just to suppress their Sexuality needs. NOT MY WORDS ladies."

Sometimes they do. he he

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immy2xMan
over a year ago

aberdeen/inverness/ highlands

Far too much choice for woman. Too little for men.

Thats what it comes down to on here. Good job there are many llaces where this is not the case.

The first 2 weeks in here i met 9 diffrent woman and all gave a nice veri and ive met a couple if them again. So nothing wrong there in sealing the deal.

However ive now basucallg met all the potential ones in my area. Only about 30 max 40 active woman and ya cant win em all. So now this site is pretty much a waste of time for me and i go elsewhere.

I wish all these smart alecs in these threads would stop blaming the guy, his profile, his pics, his msgs. And tell it how it is. On here woman are scarce and even romeo himself will run out of meets pretty fast. Canny stand these cocky little shits in these threads that down play the guys ability to meet and blame it on them. There are tons of good looking, funny, articulate men on here that cant get dates because there aint enough females on here.thats the reality. Woman on here get dates with guys they could only dream of elsewhere because of this, i see them all the time looking and picking from the studs while they themselves look like the back of a bus. I dont blame them its just how it is and guys would do the same if the tables were turned.

Tbe answer is to look elsewhere, i do that and have no problem meeting woman and i have to say it but of a better standard than i could get here.

Let the bitching at me begin even though you all know its true.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Currently the OP had no text. Don't know what he had before but having nothing isn't going to help. Even bad text is better than nothing.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Far too much choice for woman. Too little for men.

Thats what it comes down to on here. Good job there are many llaces where this is not the case.

The first 2 weeks in here i met 9 diffrent woman and all gave a nice veri and ive met a couple if them again. So nothing wrong there in sealing the deal.

However ive now basucallg met all the potential ones in my area. Only about 30 max 40 active woman and ya cant win em all. So now this site is pretty much a waste of time for me and i go elsewhere.

I wish all these smart alecs in these threads would stop blaming the guy, his profile, his pics, his msgs. And tell it how it is. On here woman are scarce and even romeo himself will run out of meets pretty fast. Canny stand these cocky little shits in these threads that down play the guys ability to meet and blame it on them. There are tons of good looking, funny, articulate men on here that cant get dates because there aint enough females on here.thats the reality. Woman on here get dates with guys they could only dream of elsewhere because of this, i see them all the time looking and picking from the studs while they themselves look like the back of a bus. I dont blame them its just how it is and guys would do the same if the tables were turned.

Tbe answer is to look elsewhere, i do that and have no problem meeting woman and i have to say it but of a better standard than i could get here.

Let the bitching at me begin even though you all know its true.

"

Totally disagree. I wouldn't say I'm the back of a bus but finding someone who I find attractive and who has manners and intelligent is like finding rocking horse poo. So you can find better elsewhere? Lol what are you doing on here then.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh... That's me told then

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Far too much choice for woman. Too little for men.

Thats what it comes down to on here. Good job there are many llaces where this is not the case.

The first 2 weeks in here i met 9 diffrent woman and all gave a nice veri and ive met a couple if them again. So nothing wrong there in sealing the deal.

However ive now basucallg met all the potential ones in my area. Only about 30 max 40 active woman and ya cant win em all. So now this site is pretty much a waste of time for me and i go elsewhere.

I wish all these smart alecs in these threads would stop blaming the guy, his profile, his pics, his msgs. And tell it how it is. On here woman are scarce and even romeo himself will run out of meets pretty fast. Canny stand these cocky little shits in these threads that down play the guys ability to meet and blame it on them. There are tons of good looking, funny, articulate men on here that cant get dates because there aint enough females on here.thats the reality. Woman on here get dates with guys they could only dream of elsewhere because of this, i see them all the time looking and picking from the studs while they themselves look like the back of a bus. I dont blame them its just how it is and guys would do the same if the tables were turned.

Tbe answer is to look elsewhere, i do that and have no problem meeting woman and i have to say it but of a better standard than i could get here.

Let the bitching at me begin even though you all know its true.

"

Studs meeting the back of buses is again the males fault, as you state if the woman can why not? If men didn't act so desperate and chose women that they are actually attracted to, either physically or mentally, then the cycle would be broken and women wouldn't have the upper hand. So think on men its you that are exasperating the problem

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh... That's me told then "

??? Wasn't directed at you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't write your profile as if it centres around sex. Write it as if it's a brief autobiography. My profile has served me well, it garners a reasonable amount of attention and encourages females to send the first message."

I love this profile, one of my favourites so far!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh... That's me told then

??? Wasn't directed at you "

Oops Lol

Never mind me, then.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immy2xMan
over a year ago

aberdeen/inverness/ highlands

Scb

I agree men are often at fault they should be more picky. But they often aint. Just how it is.

Scarletta

Youf in aberdeen but out my way but ive met with a couple of woman in that area. There us from stonehaven to kieth about 10 actuve females looking for single males in your area. (Anyone can check this this go ahead) in return go check how many men. And my point in made and stands.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Far too much choice for woman. Too little for men.

Thats what it comes down to on here. Good job there are many llaces where this is not the case.

The first 2 weeks in here i met 9 diffrent woman and all gave a nice veri and ive met a couple if them again. So nothing wrong there in sealing the deal.

However ive now basucallg met all the potential ones in my area. Only about 30 max 40 active woman and ya cant win em all. So now this site is pretty much a waste of time for me and i go elsewhere.

I wish all these smart alecs in these threads would stop blaming the guy, his profile, his pics, his msgs. And tell it how it is. On here woman are scarce and even romeo himself will run out of meets pretty fast. Canny stand these cocky little shits in these threads that down play the guys ability to meet and blame it on them. There are tons of good looking, funny, articulate men on here that cant get dates because there aint enough females on here.thats the reality. Woman on here get dates with guys they could only dream of elsewhere because of this, i see them all the time looking and picking from the studs while they themselves look like the back of a bus. I dont blame them its just how it is and guys would do the same if the tables were turned.

Tbe answer is to look elsewhere, i do that and have no problem meeting woman and i have to say it but of a better standard than i could get here.

Let the bitching at me begin even though you all know its true.

"

I won't bitch about you - you're entitled to your opinion.

I will totally disagree though!

So do you not consider the option to travel further worthwhile to meet people?

As for stating that you meet a 'better standard' of women off site than on - could you elaborate on this? Are you saying women on Fab (including of course those you've met!) are in some way 'beneath' those in the real world?

A

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Far too much choice for woman. Too little for men.

Thats what it comes down to on here. Good job there are many llaces where this is not the case.

The first 2 weeks in here i met 9 diffrent woman and all gave a nice veri and ive met a couple if them again. So nothing wrong there in sealing the deal.

However ive now basucallg met all the potential ones in my area. Only about 30 max 40 active woman and ya cant win em all. So now this site is pretty much a waste of time for me and i go elsewhere.

I wish all these smart alecs in these threads would stop blaming the guy, his profile, his pics, his msgs. And tell it how it is. On here woman are scarce and even romeo himself will run out of meets pretty fast. Canny stand these cocky little shits in these threads that down play the guys ability to meet and blame it on them. There are tons of good looking, funny, articulate men on here that cant get dates because there aint enough females on here.thats the reality. Woman on here get dates with guys they could only dream of elsewhere because of this, i see them all the time looking and picking from the studs while they themselves look like the back of a bus. I dont blame them its just how it is and guys would do the same if the tables were turned.

Tbe answer is to look elsewhere, i do that and have no problem meeting woman and i have to say it but of a better standard than i could get here.

Let the bitching at me begin even though you all know its true.

Totally disagree. I wouldn't say I'm the back of a bus but finding someone who I find attractive and who has manners and intelligent is like finding rocking horse poo. So you can find better elsewhere? Lol what are you doing on here then. "

I wouldn't go as far as rocking horse poo, but generally yep! I think I have as many options that I'd actually want to take up on the offer (this being the key point) as most decent guys on here do.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Far too much choice for woman. Too little for men.

Thats what it comes down to on here. Good job there are many llaces where this is not the case.

The first 2 weeks in here i met 9 diffrent woman and all gave a nice veri and ive met a couple if them again. So nothing wrong there in sealing the deal.

However ive now basucallg met all the potential ones in my area. Only about 30 max 40 active woman and ya cant win em all. So now this site is pretty much a waste of time for me and i go elsewhere.

I wish all these smart alecs in these threads would stop blaming the guy, his profile, his pics, his msgs. And tell it how it is. On here woman are scarce and even romeo himself will run out of meets pretty fast. Canny stand these cocky little shits in these threads that down play the guys ability to meet and blame it on them. There are tons of good looking, funny, articulate men on here that cant get dates because there aint enough females on here.thats the reality. Woman on here get dates with guys they could only dream of elsewhere because of this, i see them all the time looking and picking from the studs while they themselves look like the back of a bus. I dont blame them its just how it is and guys would do the same if the tables were turned.

Tbe answer is to look elsewhere, i do that and have no problem meeting woman and i have to say it but of a better standard than i could get here.

Let the bitching at me begin even though you all know its true.

"

Damn that was a busy 9 weeks. 30 women in 9 weeks. So about 3 per week.

That's more than most in any walk of life.

1 per week would be a pretty busy effort withvthe rest of life on top of that.

Maybe when you leave some of the other single guys will get a look in.

;-)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Scb

I agree men are often at fault they should be more picky. But they often aint. Just how it is.

Scarletta

Youf in aberdeen but out my way but ive met with a couple of woman in that area. There us from stonehaven to kieth about 10 actuve females looking for single males in your area. (Anyone can check this this go ahead) in return go check how many men. And my point in made and stands. "

Utter crap! Only 10? Are you sure?

I struggle on here because I look for who I am attracted do, who actually has the social skills I am looking for, and I can tell you the men in my area are seriously lacking in them all!

But I will stick to my criteria and only meet those who respect women, can hold a conversation and if that means I only meet every 3 months then so be it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immy2xMan
over a year ago

aberdeen/inverness/ highlands

Oni-fox

Im in the highlands half my meets have been often 100 miles away. Its s big place up here.

I stick by my statement in full. I have found that women that would hardly get a msg on any dating sites are here cherry picking men at will due to the lack of women on here. I never said all women here were ugly at all of course there not.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oni-fox

Im in the highlands half my meets have been often 100 miles away. Its s big place up here.

I stick by my statement in full. I have found that women that would hardly get a msg on any dating sites are here cherry picking men at will due to the lack of women on here. I never said all women here were ugly at all of course there not. "

Well maybe those men shouldn't allow themselves to be cherry picked at will by all these munters.

I'd rather stay at home and have a wank than meet someone I wouldn't give a second look to elsewhere, what's the point. If women have unreasonable standards (and I'm not convinced they do) then they're only able to because men go along with it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immy2xMan
over a year ago

aberdeen/inverness/ highlands

Scarletra

Its not utter crap i can practically name all the single woman on here right off.

Go do a search and find out. Im not lying go do it ffs.

Stick in aberdeen and radius and see what you get for the last couple of days.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Far too much choice for woman. Too little for men.

Thats what it comes down to on here. Good job there are many llaces where this is not the case.

The first 2 weeks in here i met 9 diffrent woman and all gave a nice veri and ive met a couple if them again. So nothing wrong there in sealing the deal.

However ive now basucallg met all the potential ones in my area. Only about 30 max 40 active woman and ya cant win em all. So now this site is pretty much a waste of time for me and i go elsewhere.

I wish all these smart alecs in these threads would stop blaming the guy, his profile, his pics, his msgs. And tell it how it is. On here woman are scarce and even romeo himself will run out of meets pretty fast. Canny stand these cocky little shits in these threads that down play the guys ability to meet and blame it on them. There are tons of good looking, funny, articulate men on here that cant get dates because there aint enough females on here.thats the reality. Woman on here get dates with guys they could only dream of elsewhere because of this, i see them all the time looking and picking from the studs while they themselves look like the back of a bus. I dont blame them its just how it is and guys would do the same if the tables were turned.

Tbe answer is to look elsewhere, i do that and have no problem meeting woman and i have to say it but of a better standard than i could get here.

Let the bitching at me begin even though you all know its true.

"

Usually if guys can't get meets it is their fault. That's the truth, not the nonsense you've written.

Just like you, however, most prefer to blame everything and everyone rather than looking at themselves first.

Most of the men who post moany why can't I get a meet threads have rubbish profiles and a few crap, blurry photos of their cock. Enticing? Er, no.

Ah yes, it's the fault of the women for not liking one line profiles and blurry cock pics. Blah blah too much choice blah if everyone had a crap profile and blurry cock pics then we couldn't be so choosy blah blah.

Basically it comes down to if you can't be bothered to show yourself off to your best advantage on here, don't expect anyone to bother with you.

As for the men who think it's sooo much easier for women, it's not. It's just different.

I've hidden my profile and am not meeting at the moment because the site is too much hassle and arranging meets takes up too much time right now.

I get plenty of messages (when my profile is visible) but finding good, compatible meets is far from easy, however it looks from your side of the fence.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Oni-fox

Im in the highlands half my meets have been often 100 miles away. Its s big place up here.

I stick by my statement in full. I have found that women that would hardly get a msg on any dating sites are here cherry picking men at will due to the lack of women on here. I never said all women here were ugly at all of course there not. "

Why shouldn't women 'cherry pick' as you put it?

Do you not have preferences and tastes? Men are as entitled to 'cherry pick' too you know - nobody (male or female) is obligated to meet anyone.

This it seems is the common problem - expectancy.

Women will generally only meet those they feel compatible with and attracted to/interested in. Many men it seems (and I had a solo profile here for a while too, so know how the site works!) will meet anyone who shows interest and says yes - regardless of whether they are the type of person they'd look to meet in 'vanilla land' or not - just to get laid or even to get a verification.

As for you being in the highlands? It's your choice whether to look further afield or not.

I've met people from your neck of the woods, from the middle of nowhere in Wales, Cornwall, East Anglia and oop North. If you're willing to plan ahead, travel a little and not just base your life on Fab on what's on your doorstep then you increase your chances of meeting more people.

Your choice entirely.

A

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immy2xMan
over a year ago

aberdeen/inverness/ highlands

Duckandbunny

You read it wrong thats not what u said. I met 9 winan here in my first 2 weeks. None since

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Scarletra

Its not utter crap i can practically name all the single woman on here right off.

Go do a search and find out. Im not lying go do it ffs.

Stick in aberdeen and radius and see what you get for the last couple of days. "

Single women looking for single men 18-99, within 40 miles of Aberdeen, logged on in the last 2 days.

104

Add in the couples looking for men.....the number will be a fair bit higher!

A

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single guy with my best years behind me, I honestly don't think you should take anything on here as a barometer for real life.

Women rule when it comes to this site or any other type of dating site, accept that and don't get a complex."

For shy men, you can use this site to ask questions that you wouldn't dare ask the lass on the street. But then again, if you're shy you wouldn't be on a website that's about sex. Is that oxymoronic?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immy2xMan
over a year ago

aberdeen/inverness/ highlands

Obi.

I think ive said im willing to travel.i have no problem doing that. I enjoy visiting everywhere. Last week was in belfast and had a look on here. I was also in blackpool 2 weeks ago. I travel about more than anyone i know today im away to aberdeen. Thats like you heading to carlise.

Yes men do tend to go " any holes a goal" just how it is.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Scarletra

Its not utter crap i can practically name all the single woman on here right off.

Go do a search and find out. Im not lying go do it ffs.

Stick in aberdeen and radius and see what you get for the last couple of days. "

Sorry but there's more than that.... Maybe the rest have you blocked ? ??

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yes men do tend to go " any holes a goal" just how it is.

"

And some men wonder how they cant get meets

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Yes men do tend to go " any holes a goal" just how it is.

"

Women know it too and it probably cuts down on the meets men get.

I won't meet any man unless I'm sure he wants to meet me, rather than just anyone (and I know a lot of other women are the same) and I err on the side of caution. I've probably turned down, or not replied to, genuine men because of it.

If I felt more respected as a person on here, rather than some sort of object, or perhaps even one of those bus backends, I'd probably meet more often.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

Yes men do tend to go " any holes a goal" just how it is.

And some men wonder how they cant get meets "

Exactly!

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me because they're attracted to me, so I'm having a break from meeting.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Scb

I agree men are often at fault they should be more picky. But they often aint. Just how it is.

Scarletta

Youf in aberdeen but out my way but ive met with a couple of woman in that area. There us from stonehaven to kieth about 10 actuve females looking for single males in your area. (Anyone can check this this go ahead) in return go check how many men. And my point in made and stands. "

Just because there are a few more men than women doesn't mean they are who I want to meet!! Quantity doesn't equal quality

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yes men do tend to go " any holes a goal" just how it is.

And some men wonder how they cant get meets

Exactly!

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me because they're attracted to me, so I'm having a break from meeting."

Im the same.

Ive found past month or so less and less respect from some single men. Im not a notch and im not here to veri them either

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv been trying for months and months

To get a meet no one seems to be interested.

A single girl on here I know only been on a few weeks and boom meets all the time.

I just think its so hard for a bloke to get a meet unless he is with another women.

Rubbish really as I'm wanting it 24/7 and can't get it haha. "

I just clicked on your profile, looked at the pics and thought hmmmm he's cute, good height and local. Scrolled down to read your profile and it says bugger all???? Lol...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me "

I know it's baffling isn't it!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Scb

I agree men are often at fault they should be more picky. But they often aint. Just how it is.

Scarletta

Youf in aberdeen but out my way but ive met with a couple of woman in that area. There us from stonehaven to kieth about 10 actuve females looking for single males in your area. (Anyone can check this this go ahead) in return go check how many men. And my point in made and stands. "

Think my fellow female forumites have blown your argument out of the water. Women, in the main, prefer someone with manners and who can hold a conversation. Perhaps take note

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Women, age 20 to 50

Who want to meet a man

Within 40 miles of stonehaven:

Over 300

with around 150 active within the last fortnight.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me

I know it's baffling isn't it! "

You know very well what I mean.

Plenty of messages but mostly from guys I doubt want to meet *me* rather than just someone with the right holes.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me

I know it's baffling isn't it!

You know very well what I mean.

"

No..no..I was being VERY sarcastic.

You're probably the most confrontational person on here and THAT'S your problem.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're wanting it 24/7, you're on the wrong site. This isn't a sex site

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me

I know it's baffling isn't it!

You know very well what I mean.

Plenty of messages but mostly from guys I doubt want to meet *me* rather than just someone with the right holes."

If a man takes the time to read your profile matched criterias

Before he sent a message. That would go a long way imho

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're wanting it 24/7, you're on the wrong site. This isn't a sex site "
lots think it is . I am sure.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me

I know it's baffling isn't it!

You know very well what I mean.

No..no..I was being VERY sarcastic.

You're probably the most confrontational person on here and THAT'S your problem. "

I know what you meant. It's you that hasn't grasped what's been said.

I don't have a problem getting offers of meets. I simply doubt that most of the men on here have any respect for women.

How I am on the forum wouldn't affect most meet offers since only a minute fraction of the site use it.

And if you think you have room to criticise anyone else, or to consider yourself any more of a catch, dream on. Ask yourself who brought the confrontation here?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Scb

I agree men are often at fault they should be more picky. But they often aint. Just how it is.

Scarletta

Youf in aberdeen but out my way but ive met with a couple of woman in that area. There us from stonehaven to kieth about 10 actuve females looking for single males in your area. (Anyone can check this this go ahead) in return go check how many men. And my point in made and stands.

Think my fellow female forumites have blown your argument out of the water. Women, in the main, prefer someone with manners and who can hold a conversation. Perhaps take note "

After not having sex for a long time, whilst gagging for it, I am able to say no and keep my hands to myself. Whilst conversation tends to want for dirty, like foreplay, there has to be a rhythm to it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me

I know it's baffling isn't it!

You know very well what I mean.

Plenty of messages but mostly from guys I doubt want to meet *me* rather than just someone with the right holes.

If a man takes the time to read your profile matched criterias

Before he sent a message. That would go a long way imho

"

Yep

Apparently though, we're bith wrong and my "problem" is that Ben doesn't like me. Because Ben is the centre of the universe.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

both*

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me

I know it's baffling isn't it!

You know very well what I mean.

Plenty of messages but mostly from guys I doubt want to meet *me* rather than just someone with the right holes.

If a man takes the time to read your profile matched criterias

Before he sent a message. That would go a long way imho

Yep

Apparently though, we're bith wrong and my "problem" is that Ben doesn't like me. Because Ben is the centre of the universe. "

Ive met you a few times and you are a lively person who I have time for...

X

Were both wrong maybe we should just start accepting sex of people we dont fancy have cold sex

After all a holes a goal

Hides

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you tried sending lots of penis pictures? I've heard that's a sure fire.....

I'm joking, so please don't do that unless asked for. Lol

May I ask what you've done to change your circumstances?

Have you engaged on the forums?

Gone to socials/clubs?

Do you have a possitive attitude?

(Perhaps I should have read your profile first but) Is your profile well written or at least one that tells people about you?

If the answer to a fair few of the above is No, and nothing has been done to remedy it by you then your circumstances won't change, save for a huge stroke of luck.

If not, have those phallic pics on standby ... Again, I'm not being serious. Lol"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have given up trying to get meets on here now. I'm just enjoying the chat and forums. Someone will come along at some point. Try other sites too as I have had most of my meets on them.

There is obviously something women on here don't like about me but have come to terms with that. Such is life

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have given up trying to get meets on here now. I'm just enjoying the chat and forums. Someone will come along at some point. Try other sites too as I have had most of my meets on them.

There is obviously something women on here don't like about me but have come to terms with that. Such is life "

Being honest your profile I liked the photos I couldn't see one clear shot

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yes men do tend to go " any holes a goal" just how it is.

And some men wonder how they cant get meets

Exactly!

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me because they're attracted to me, so I'm having a break from meeting.

Im the same.

Ive found past month or so less and less respect from some single men. Im not a notch and im not here to veri them either"

Exactly why I stopped meeting x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have given up trying to get meets on here now. I'm just enjoying the chat and forums. Someone will come along at some point. Try other sites too as I have had most of my meets on them.

There is obviously something women on here don't like about me but have come to terms with that. Such is life

Being honest your profile I liked the photos I couldn't see

one clear shot"

Yeah must admit my pics are pretty rubbish. Keep saying I'm gonna find a nice lady to get some decent ones done as I'm terrible at selfies lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have given up trying to get meets on here now. I'm just enjoying the chat and forums. Someone will come along at some point. Try other sites too as I have had most of my meets on them.

There is obviously something women on here don't like about me but have come to terms with that. Such is life

Being honest your profile I liked the photos I couldn't see

one clear shot

Yeah must admit my pics are pretty rubbish. Keep saying I'm gonna find a nice lady to get some decent ones done as I'm terrible at selfies lol"

Selfie stick

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have given up trying to get meets on here now. I'm just enjoying the chat and forums. Someone will come along at some point. Try other sites too as I have had most of my meets on them.

There is obviously something women on here don't like about me but have come to terms with that. Such is life

Being honest your profile I liked the photos I couldn't see

one clear shot

Yeah must admit my pics are pretty rubbish. Keep saying I'm gonna find a nice lady to get some decent ones done as I'm terrible at selfies lol

Selfie stick "

Lol might be a option

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually think most men do respect women. I talk to more guys who are respectful and who I'd like to meet than I actually have time to meet. And there are those who are probably lovely but I'm not interested in. Obviously there are also the total cunts and the seriously misguided. I won't let one group spoil my enjoyment of the others.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have given up trying to get meets on here now. I'm just enjoying the chat and forums. Someone will come along at some point. Try other sites too as I have had most of my meets on them.

There is obviously something women on here don't like about me but have come to terms with that. Such is life

Being honest your profile I liked the photos I couldn't see

one clear shot

Yeah must admit my pics are pretty rubbish. Keep saying I'm gonna find a nice lady to get some decent ones done as I'm terrible at selfies lol

Selfie stick

Lol might be a option "

I have no photo mojo

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evoncouple1724Couple
over a year ago

Barnstaple

And what a great profile you have! Made me giggle! Ax

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You only get out what you put in! Manners cost nothing and I've met some lovely couples and ladies for fun and friendship!

Quality and quantity works both ways for everyone - no compromises required! Be honest in what you're looking for and be realistic too!

Sending bland messages, with inappropriate pictures and blank profiles will nobody anywhere - fast!

Getting involved with socials, parties, the chatroom's and the forum all make good sense!

A good analogy I was told 'it's a bit like dating with levels of bullshit removed' as in, people are here to have fun - it takes allsorts and all different levels!

Take it easy and enjoy!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And what a great profile you have! Made me giggle! Ax"

Whos lol

I wanna perv

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think most men do respect women. I talk to more guys who are respectful and who I'd like to meet than I actually have time to meet. And there are those who are probably lovely but I'm not interested in. Obviously there are also the total cunts and the seriously misguided. I won't let one group spoil my enjoyment of the others. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evoncouple1724Couple
over a year ago

Barnstaple


"And what a great profile you have! Made me giggle! Ax

Whos lol

I wanna perv"

Hehe egomaniac

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I actually think most men do respect women. I talk to more guys who are respectful and who I'd like to meet than I actually have time to meet. And there are those who are probably lovely but I'm not interested in. Obviously there are also the total cunts and the seriously misguided. I won't let one group spoil my enjoyment of the others. "

I agree, usually, and when I start to feel suspicious of most men, and find myself too willing to think badly of them all, it's time for me to stop looking for meets for a bit and get my head sorted out.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think most men do respect women. I talk to more guys who are respectful and who I'd like to meet than I actually have time to meet. And there are those who are probably lovely but I'm not interested in. Obviously there are also the total cunts and the seriously misguided. I won't let one group spoil my enjoyment of the others.

I agree, usually, and when I start to feel suspicious of most men, and find myself too willing to think badly of them all, it's time for me to stop looking for meets for a bit and get my head sorted out."

It's a good tactic, having a little break from the moronic messages always makes me remember they're not all twats (just some of them)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's a good tactic, having a little break from the moronic messages always makes me remember they're not all twats (just some of them) "

I agree

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I actually think most men do respect women. I talk to more guys who are respectful and who I'd like to meet than I actually have time to meet. And there are those who are probably lovely but I'm not interested in. Obviously there are also the total cunts and the seriously misguided. I won't let one group spoil my enjoyment of the others.

I agree, usually, and when I start to feel suspicious of most men, and find myself too willing to think badly of them all, it's time for me to stop looking for meets for a bit and get my head sorted out.

It's a good tactic, having a little break from the moronic messages always makes me remember they're not all twats (just some of them) "

I've got a lot of pressure life-wise and study-wise at the moment too so I've not much time or energy for meets, and my patience is inclined to be thinner than normal.

Taking messages and meets off the table for a little while is sensible.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think most men do respect women. I talk to more guys who are respectful and who I'd like to meet than I actually have time to meet. And there are those who are probably lovely but I'm not interested in. Obviously there are also the total cunts and the seriously misguided. I won't let one group spoil my enjoyment of the others.

I agree, usually, and when I start to feel suspicious of most men, and find myself too willing to think badly of them all, it's time for me to stop looking for meets for a bit and get my head sorted out.

It's a good tactic, having a little break from the moronic messages always makes me remember they're not all twats (just some of them)

I've got a lot of pressure life-wise and study-wise at the moment too so I've not much time or energy for meets, and my patience is inclined to be thinner than normal.

Taking messages and meets off the table for a little while is sensible."

But

Meet me let me feed you coffee and cake

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I actually think most men do respect women. I talk to more guys who are respectful and who I'd like to meet than I actually have time to meet. And there are those who are probably lovely but I'm not interested in. Obviously there are also the total cunts and the seriously misguided. I won't let one group spoil my enjoyment of the others.

I agree, usually, and when I start to feel suspicious of most men, and find myself too willing to think badly of them all, it's time for me to stop looking for meets for a bit and get my head sorted out.

It's a good tactic, having a little break from the moronic messages always makes me remember they're not all twats (just some of them)

I've got a lot of pressure life-wise and study-wise at the moment too so I've not much time or energy for meets, and my patience is inclined to be thinner than normal.

Taking messages and meets off the table for a little while is sensible.

But

Meet me let me feed you coffee and cake"

Now you're talking

Men are so easily lead by their stomachs too you know!!

Ha x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"

Yes men do tend to go " any holes a goal" just how it is.

And some men wonder how they cant get meets

Exactly!

I've got to the point I'm doubting any man on here actually wants to meet me because they're attracted to me, so I'm having a break from meeting."

I think the difference comes mainly in the willingness to chat and meet.

Personally I'm quite willing to chat or message many people unless I find something about them really unappealing. My criteria for going on a meet, other than at a pre arranged club, is a little more selective. To actually have sex with someone I have to actually like them (again excluding club fun). It's never 'any holes a goal' for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!"

Your username, pictures and profile text are of the type which make a lot of ladies immediately look elsewhere.

Try a less "I'm massively and hit the ceiling when I cum" username, a profile which tells the ladies something about yourself and pictures which show something other than a generic and impersonal looking cock.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!

Your username, pictures and profile text are of the type which make a lot of ladies immediately look elsewhere.

Try a less "I'm massively and hit the ceiling when I cum" username, a profile which tells the ladies something about yourself and pictures which show something other than a generic and impersonal looking cock.

"

You forgot 'straight' with a veri from a TV. That won't help.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!

Your username, pictures and profile text are of the type which make a lot of ladies immediately look elsewhere.

Try a less "I'm massively and hit the ceiling when I cum" username, a profile which tells the ladies something about yourself and pictures which show something other than a generic and impersonal looking cock.

You forgot 'straight' with a veri from a TV. That won't help."

Damn... And I was doing so well at this "helpful" lark

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!

Your username, pictures and profile text are of the type which make a lot of ladies immediately look elsewhere.

Try a less "I'm massively and hit the ceiling when I cum" username, a profile which tells the ladies something about yourself and pictures which show something other than a generic and impersonal looking cock.

You forgot 'straight' with a veri from a TV. That won't help.

Damn... And I was doing so well at this "helpful" lark"

You did better than me. I wrote a reply and clicked the back button. Never mind ban me, the mods would have incinerated me!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!"

I have no idea but an inkling might possibly be the confusion with you labelling yourself as straight when your veri from a tv says she enjoyed sucking your cock. No potential sexual partner needs doubt or confusion so will simply look elsewhere.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile consists of 'x' and some very unflattering pics. Looks like you are getting the results you deserve.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!"

You've been here 3 weeks, not 2 months

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!

Your username, pictures and profile text are of the type which make a lot of ladies immediately look elsewhere.

Try a less "I'm massively and hit the ceiling when I cum" username, a profile which tells the ladies something about yourself and pictures which show something other than a generic and impersonal looking cock.

"

Yeah I much prefer a unique yet approachable looking cock

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Been on here for 2 months...

no luck

No meets

What am I doing wrong?!"

Do you really have to ask? Are you really that naïve?

I'm not going to say any more!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Your profile consists of 'x' and some very unflattering pics. Looks like you are getting the results you deserve. "

It had a few more words. Not many but a few.

It said he's a "heavy cummerbund".

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

[Removed by poster at 11/03/15 18:09:14]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile consists of 'x' and some very unflattering pics. Looks like you are getting the results you deserve.

It had a few more words. Not many but a few.

It said he's a "heavy cummerbund".

"

How very dapper. Bet that goes lovely with a smoking jacket lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Your profile consists of 'x' and some very unflattering pics. Looks like you are getting the results you deserve.

It had a few more words. Not many but a few.

It said he's a "heavy cummerbund".

"

It's still there for me to see

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile consists of 'x' and some very unflattering pics. Looks like you are getting the results you deserve.

It had a few more words. Not many but a few.

It said he's a "heavy cummerbund".

"

I was gonna ask, does he even know what one is?!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that where I am going wrong with my username?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Your profile consists of 'x' and some very unflattering pics. Looks like you are getting the results you deserve.

It had a few more words. Not many but a few.

It said he's a "heavy cummerbund".

It's still there for me to see "

So it is. I was looking at the OPs profile! Doh!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Your profile consists of 'x' and some very unflattering pics. Looks like you are getting the results you deserve.

It had a few more words. Not many but a few.

It said he's a "heavy cummerbund".

I was gonna ask, does he even know what one is?! "

Your talking about 2 different profiles!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like a Marvel character..... Able to morph into items of clothing....made of lead

Or summat

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Join the club guy's. It's so difficult to get a meet ohere

actually it isnt "

Nope. I do just fine.

If what you're doing now isn't working. Switch it up.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had fantastic meets by putting in the leg work

I also know exactly is wrong with my profile, and the elements of it which do not appeal to others.

I won't change a word of it because it is a filter, not only for others to determine if I am for them, but also if they like the look of me, we are probably on the same wavelength.

All the advice given is good advice. Your profile is your shop window. Be more Harrods than Poundland and the people you want to meet will give you a second look.

The statistics mean nothing. The sucessful guys are succesful because they make themselves appeal in some way.

Good luck op, but please consider some of the advice given here...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have had fantastic meets by putting in the leg work

I also know exactly is wrong with my profile, and the elements of it which do not appeal to others.

I won't change a word of it because it is a filter, not only for others to determine

if I am for them, but also if they like the

look of me, we are probably on the

same wavelength.

All the advice given is good advice.

Your profile is your shop window. Be

more Harrods than Poundland and the

people you want to meet will give you a

second look.

The statistics mean nothing. The

sucessful guys are succesful because

they make themselves appeal in some

way.

Good luck op, but please consider

some of the advice given here..."

You had your legs waxed?!?!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had fantastic meets by putting in the leg work

I also know exactly is wrong with my profile, and the elements of it which do not appeal to others.

I won't change a word of it because it is a filter, not only for others to determine if I am for them, but also if they like the look of me, we are probably on the same wavelength.

All the advice given is good advice. Your profile is your shop window. Be more Harrods than Poundland and the people you want to meet will give you a second look.

The statistics mean nothing. The sucessful guys are succesful because they make themselves appeal in some way.

Good luck op, but please consider some of the advice given here..."

Great advice but you may be on a hiding to nothing. Past advice on this very thread (in various forms) from other men who get meets have been passed over

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think its easy for people to make excuses......

..... and it easy to blame everyone else... those mean nasty pastys!!!

.... cause obviously, its everyone excluding people!!!

.... all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better? am i using all the tools of the site to their best usage to improve my chances......"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I much prefer a unique yet approachable looking cock "

Mines very friendly and keeps popping up to say hello

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?"

Get a partner

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner "

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its about demographics. I am getting loads of offers in north England, Newcastle, Manchester and beyond to Scotland. I need to relocate

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue "

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all."

If I could choose it would say 'not looking for couples'. Not our fault how the site decides to display the filters.

And there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all.

If I could choose it would say 'not looking for couples'. Not our fault how the site decides to display the filters.

And there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple! "

This

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all."

Yes, because the site members all voted and decided that.

We all hate single men, every single one of us.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all."

We can't choose to have that displayed on our profiles or not. The site does it automatically,the same as not displaying single men on our who looked at me while still displaying everyone else we have blocked

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple! "

Genius!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all.

If I could choose it would say 'not looking for couples'. Not our fault how the site decides to display the filters."

And I wonder what influenced the sites decision to visually display the single male blocker but none of the others - the fact there's always been a single male excess perhaps?

Nah, couldn't be that...


"And there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple! "

Provided she actually gets to read it of course, given the sheer number of them in her inbox she may choose to delete.

To be frank though I can't really be bothered to get drawn into another lengthy argument (for that's what they are, not debates) given that, as always, it will typically be me making my same points that no one has managed to adequately address before, and chances are it'll be no different this time either.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all.

If I could choose it would say 'not looking for couples'. Not our fault how the site decides to display the filters.

And I wonder what influenced the sites decision to visually display the single male blocker but none of the others - the fact there's always been a single male excess perhaps?

Nah, couldn't be that...

And there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple!

Provided she actually gets to read it of course, given the sheer number of them in her inbox she may choose to delete.

To be frank though I can't really be bothered to get drawn into another lengthy argument (for that's what they are, not debates) given that, as always, it will typically be me making my same points that no one has managed to adequately address before, and chances are it'll be no different this time either."

I don't know. I don't particularly give a shit. All I know is I am looking for men, not couples or women. And I can't be arsed with that "debate" either. But re-read my post and you'll see that you read what you wanted to read so you could respond with your usual point, not what I actually said.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all.

If I could choose it would say 'not looking for couples'. Not our fault how the site decides to display the filters.

And I wonder what influenced the sites decision to visually display the single male blocker but none of the others - the fact there's always been a single male excess perhaps?

Nah, couldn't be that...

And there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple!

Provided she actually gets to read it of course, given the sheer number of them in her inbox she may choose to delete.

To be frank though I can't really be bothered to get drawn into another lengthy argument (for that's what they are, not debates) given that, as always, it will typically be me making my same points that no one has managed to adequately address before, and chances are it'll be no different this time either.

I don't know. I don't particularly give a shit. All I know is I am looking for men, not couples or women. And I can't be arsed with that "debate" either. But re-read my post and you'll see that you read what you wanted to read so you could respond with your usual point, not what I actually said. "

Same shit, different day.

Plus ça change...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I like men to be hard.

I haven't read the thread but will just say effort in results out.

I saw more words on the OP than anything when clicking through.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"all too much blaming others and not as much introspective looking at the mirror and saying "what can i do to make myself better?

Get a partner

Why would that make a difference.many couples have the same issue

I've never seen a 'not looking for couples' blocker on a single females profile before

In fact, I don't believe any of the filters actually have a representation on a persons profile besides the single male one - says it all.

If I could choose it would say 'not looking for couples'. Not our fault how the site decides to display the filters.

And there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple! "

Nearly spat my coffee out reading this last paragraph!

Sadly I want drinking any.

*Off to put the kettle on and read it again!

A

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

If I could choose it would say 'not looking for couples'. Not our fault how the site decides to display the filters.

And there's an easy way round a female who wants to meet single men but has them blocked - have a good profile and don't be a whinging nobsack. Then they'll message if they're interested. Simple! "

i think i am offically in lust!!!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top