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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Do most of your meets come from those you have met through the forums or do you choose to meet away from the forums?

I have had some meets with forum users but tend now to have sexual meets with those that don't use the forums as I like to keep things separate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met and played with a few forum people.

But I do often like to meet people outside of the forums if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have met one lady off the forums - and we chat to a few but meets generally not from here Sx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really arranged a meet from the forums but have met a few at various clubs.

Its not really a case of keeping it separate just how it happens x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Both but I'm mostly meeting those I already know at the moment and concentrating getting forum folk along to my party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets are away from forums but there's one or two on the forums I'd like to meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met one guy through the forums, chat to a few but the rest I met or know away from the forums

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I chat to people ive spoken to through forums,but my meets have mainly been away from them.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't know if another word but I can find it sometimes a bit "incestious" and don't know who's toes I'm stepping on etc. Maybe that's just me being weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to laugh at the irony of this, as I've seen people be advised to chat on the forums to get yourself known and help you to meet

I've met a few people from using the forums I wouldn't have otherwise. If I like someone I don't care how I met them or who knows

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I have met 3 from here, but 2 were before I joined the forums... Generally though mine are outside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a private reply to a forum post and now.... Well I think he's just wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe meeting someone off the forums tonight should time allow

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I/we don't use the forums to look for potiential meets.

Not to say we wouldn't or haven't, just generally prefer to keep the 2 seperate.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Have to laugh at the irony of this, as I've seen people be advised to chat on the forums to get yourself known and help you to meet

I've met a few people from using the forums I wouldn't have otherwise. If I like someone I don't care how I met them or who knows "

To some the forums are useful tool to get a first meet or to meet others in a social setting. To some they don't need to use the forums for this scenario it was just an observation but then ive never been any good at irony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. Rarely meet out of chat thou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't your weird it is a word that's has come to mind at times when checking out profiles of other posters, doesn't always mean local either.

The other is six degree's of separation. I've found the forum a useful source of information.

Someone messaging me the other I thought okay then saw some posts on a thread, thankfully and blocked.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've had a better time with people I've met through the forum, than from a message out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly all mine socially and sexually have been via forums or chat rooms x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never met anyone who isn't on the forums.

If I ever do, I will let you all know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know if another word but I can find it sometimes a bit "incestious" and don't know who's toes I'm stepping on etc. Maybe that's just me being weird

No you're right

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Not met any forum users, wouldn't rule it out though.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people on here you just click with - end up chatting and hope to meet etc- but has only been a handful

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

All my meets bar one have been away from the forums (and he's now UNLOS). It's not a conscious choice, more an issue of distance since there are people on the forums I'd like to meet. I think if I did in future I'd rather keep it private though; meets and forum banter seem separate things to me.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most are out. The forums have a wide area of coverage so it narrowd choice, as lovely as we all are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All my meets bar one have been away from the forums (and he's now UNLOS). It's not a conscious choice, more an issue of distance since there are people on the forums I'd like to meet. I think if I did in future I'd rather keep it private though; meets and forum banter seem separate things to me."

Good point well made, especially about separating meets and forum banter. I think we all have stories that confirm the forums are a smaller place than we realise (or hope for) so there's that to consider.

As for me, I have met a fair few people from and through the forums, but not by design. That's to say I didn't start using the forums to source potential meets. I came on to mess around and my mind opened up to the possibility. I guess, it just being me and having no-one else to answer (and having no common sense, lol) the distance isn't an issue, so perhaps that has informed my openness to meeting people from the forums.

That's in addition to meets off-forum.

I wouldn't rule anything out.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes I've met people from the forums for sex and its been fun.

Not sure about the stepping on toes bit surely as a swinging site its share and share a like, I know some do but I really don't understand the terroritry marking.

Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm about 50/50 at the moment but I think my stats will lean more toward those I've "met" on the forums very soon.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

We have never thought of using the forum as a meeting place, maybe we should as its quiet everywhere else

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Yes I've met people from the forums for sex and its been fun.

Not sure about the stepping on toes bit surely as a swinging site its share and share a like, I know some do but I really don't understand the terroritry marking.

Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Sharing is caring but I think to some they never needed to share sweets as a child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent meet anyone yet so all my sex meets comes outside of fab

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

No one in the forums would touch me even if I came freely with a champagne lunch

This I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very rare I meet anyone from the forum. For me it's just a time filler more than anything. Having said that there are the odd (sometimes very odd

) posters that have grabbed my attention enough for me to want to meet. ..and have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never met anyone via the forums,the site,yes,chat rooms,yes,forums,never.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've not been offered a meet through forums. Generally all mine are from other parts of the site.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think few forum users would want to meet me. I often don't come across in the most approachable way. Some find me intimidating and some simply don't like who they perceive me to be.

Most of the interest in me comes from non-forum users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not telling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think few forum users would want to meet me. I often don't come across in the most approachable way. Some find me intimidating and some simply don't like who they perceive me to be.

Most of the interest in me comes from non-forum users."
i think your great

opinionated gobby ranty and a tad vicious now and again but id bite your arse

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've met some in a social setting and two forum users I'm very much friends with and never had any form of sexual contact with and never would. So for me the forums has been great for meeting in a social setting. However in some occasions it has caused so much drama that it has left a bitter taste in my mouth to meet anyone off the forums for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one in the forums would touch me even if I came freely with a champagne lunch

This I know

I would if i was a guy, you have just the personality i love. Fun and doesn't give a shit.

Don't think i've met anyone through the forums, only pms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet people from the forums for socials. I keep the sex stuff separate.

I have met forum people in the past and they are lovely- they aren't the reason I don't meet people from the forums now though. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know if another word but I can find it sometimes a bit "incestious" and don't know who's toes I'm stepping on etc. Maybe that's just me being weird

Yes that for me too. I don't have sex with friends, it's weird to me. Too close to home or something, not sure. Just not for me. Maybe I'm worried about scaring friends off with my crap sexual technique, who knows?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am moving to spain next year so then it will be senioritas I will meet, will still use fab but just for the forums then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am moving to spain next year so then it will be senioritas I will meet, will still use fab but just for the forums then

Just as long as you don't leave the site/forums. Absolute legend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am moving to spain next year so then it will be senioritas I will meet, will still use fab but just for the forums then

Just as long as you don't leave the site/forums. Absolute legend

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Yes and thanks. I will always use the site and forum, its too fun

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

In a debate i tend to hold very strong conservative views, but politically I'm right of socialism (if that all makes sense)

But for airing my views in the forum ive been lambasted by many a people, to the point of been blocked.

So would i? Yes i would meet of the forum but haven't yet.

Would someone want to meet me off the forum, maybe not.

This is my opinion!

Many of us use the forum as a room to chat and portray ourselves as how wonderful we are (so please pick me). That's great power to you.

Others use it as a place one can express one views without thinking 'am i not going to get a shag if i say the wrong thing

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Very very rarely,people don't half get pissy about who has met who

It can be beyond immature

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"Very very rarely,people don't half get pissy about who has met who

It can be beyond immature

So very true

When i first appeared on the forum a gentleman messaged me saying 'i see that you know some of the forum chiefs, so you would say that'.

It was a shame that he thought that my life was more interesting than his

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't keep the different parts separate, it's just that many of the forum contributors don't live nearby so probably wouldn't be meeting them anyway in the normal course of arranging meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am moving to spain next year so then it will be senioritas I will meet, will still use fab but just for the forums then

Will be looking forward to Spanish status updates ~ need cock milking in Mijas!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am moving to spain next year so then it will be senioritas I will meet, will still use fab but just for the forums then

Will be looking forward to Spanish status updates ~ need cock milking in Mijas!

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Yes same here, would miss penge as well, but that's right some new fun status like that one, in mijas lol, yeah moving over with parents to Alicante near the famous beach there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone i've met from the forums have been for socials.

My sexual meets from the site have been from the chatrooms. And that's only been a few.

I meet outside of fab than from the site to be honest.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've met many forumites via the big organised socials...some of them I've met for fun at a later date, but I doubt we would have come on to each other's radar were it not for the fora as they live all over the country...I've also made friends I meet up with socially and managed to lumber myself with the Wyrd One

However, the majority of my 1-1 meets are folk who barely even know the fora exists, but I'm damn glad I started posting way back when and became a regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met people off the forums (I try not to let distance be a problem), via messages and through clubs - I guess I'm what you'd call an opportunist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very very rarely,people don't half get pissy about who has met who

It can be beyond immature

I know that's right. Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my ratio is heading towards more meets off the forums than the rest of site ~ don't think I have time for both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do most of your meets come from those you have met through the forums or do you choose to meet away from the forums?

I have had some meets with forum users but tend now to have sexual meets with those that don't use the forums as I like to keep things separate.

I've met guys from the forums and non forum users... I like to mix it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are definitely more interesting to me in terms of potential meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% from the forums,

But I have only met two Women and they where at clubs

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

no forum people...but I'm new here :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both. I hate you all anyway, so I'm not bothered if I trod on anyone's toes

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Not met anyone from the forums... at all, ever.

Well mainly because you're all bloody miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one from the forums yet. But I'd really like to. Sounds like fun! Any takers?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes I've met people from the forums for sex and its been fun.

Not sure about the stepping on toes bit surely as a swinging site its share and share a like, I know some do but I really don't understand the terroritry marking.

Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Why keep a good person to yourself? That's my Fab motto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet non forum users from ireland that way theres less drama attached to them I dont want none a that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one from the forums yet. But I'd really like to. Sounds like fun! Any takers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I've met people from the forums for sex and its been fun.

Not sure about the stepping on toes bit surely as a swinging site its share and share a like, I know some do but I really don't understand the terroritry marking.

Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Why keep a good person to yourself? That's my Fab motto."

If someone is going to get pissy and territorial then that's their problem, not mine so I'm not going to change my actions around it.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Why keep a good person to yourself? That's my Fab motto."

I have a small selection of road-tested people I would highly recommend depending on your tastes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Yes I've met people from the forums for sex and its been fun.

Not sure about the stepping on toes bit surely as a swinging site its share and share a like, I know some do but I really don't understand the terroritry marking.

Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Why keep a good person to yourself? That's my Fab motto.

If someone is going to get pissy and territorial then that's their problem, not mine so I'm not going to change my actions around it. "

In my experience sometimes it's more hassle than it's worth but that's just my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the recent unfluxes of some men who think women are easy and should be treated like a hole or a whore

Im meeting less and less to the point that clubs arent interesting me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I've met people from the forums for sex and its been fun.

Not sure about the stepping on toes bit surely as a swinging site its share and share a like, I know some do but I really don't understand the terroritry marking.

Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Why keep a good person to yourself? That's my Fab motto.

If someone is going to get pissy and territorial then that's their problem, not mine so I'm not going to change my actions around it.

In my experience sometimes it's more hassle than it's worth but that's just my experience. "

I've not experienced first hand but have definately noticed the pissing up the lamp post behaviour exhibited by some.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Why keep a good person to yourself? That's my Fab motto.

I have a small selection of road-tested people I would highly recommend depending on your tastes.

I'm SW this week

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We haven't met anyone from the forums, wouldn't rule it out, not really what i come in here for though.....it's an oasis of civility in the fab badlands

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"We haven't met anyone from the forums, wouldn't rule it out, not really what i come in here for though.....it's an oasis of civility in the fab badlands

Are you on the same fora I'm reading?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I've met people from the forums for sex and its been fun.

Not sure about the stepping on toes bit surely as a swinging site its share and share a like, I know some do but I really don't understand the terroritry marking.

Sometimes I go out my way to help my friends get other meets

Why keep a good person to yourself? That's my Fab motto.

If someone is going to get pissy and territorial then that's their problem, not mine so I'm not going to change my actions around it.

In my experience sometimes it's more hassle than it's worth but that's just my experience.

I've not experienced first hand but have definately noticed the pissing up the lamp post behaviour exhibited by some."

I don't think territorial pissing reaches this far north so I think I'll be safe

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Not really fussed to be honest, as long as a good time is had by all, it matters little to me whether they use the forums or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only meet Iv not been stood up for was with a guy I got chatting to through the forums. over a year later we are good friends,the distance between us means we wouldn't of met otherwise.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

The great thing about people posting in forums is that you can easily get a measure of them. Some will eventually show who they really are..in a good or bad way.

I have met many forumites at socials, sometimes played but often it only remained platonic. Some are very good.friends, others keep on being dicks.

Where I live..well...enough said.....I have to look.further afield outside of forums.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Like Cheeky has said, I have witnessed some real territory marking posts over the years that have made me go

And all I want to do is say, step away from the keyboard! Dignity folks at all times!

However, there are some I would like to meet if distance wasn't a problem, but I am trying to get to more socials down south

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone I know is utterly lovely. All on the forums. No problems.

I may be lucky or I just might just gravitate towards lovely people.

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