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Always the 'Dirty Little Secret' !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey all,

I don't know if any other women go through this.. Hence why I am asking.. I am a tidy looking girl, tall, sexy, work hard for my home, have a decent job, car and home... Children, yes!

Why do I always feel like the mistress?? I find men really long for me sexually, but it's always married, or men looking to meet out of their relationships... It's not my thing...Perhaps it's where I live... HELP lol x

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Don't go for those guys then

Sorry.. that wasn't much help was it...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It's not just you I'm going through a phase of men just wanting to get in my knickers lol

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I get that, chaps wanting to meet me for sex, but would run a mile before admitting it, in the main.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It's not just you I'm going through a phase of men just wanting to get in my knickers lol "

Story of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet married or attached guys, and there are a lot on here. I usually suss them out by chatting for a fair bit before meeting.

What are you after then? Fuck buddies? A relationship? Friends with benefits?

Have you tried on POF and got similar results?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's any consolation I only seem to attract married women out of Fab!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't know what your approach is but have you tried a different one to see if you get different guys

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I don't know what your approach is but have you tried a different one to see if you get different guys

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i'd go with this. do the searchng and approaching etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry to break it to you all but us blokes are w8nkers! You have probably had luvky escapes up to now OP

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

My advice would be to get along to some of the socials in sth Wales... I know it might be a bit of a travel, but you will gain a tidy circle of friends, who might be able to steer you in the direction of some tidy guys lol!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm on here for sex with men so I really hope they long for me sexually, and I'm happy never to se them again. Not much help to the OP really, but I find that our attitude towards meeting men helps a great deal to be successful with the men we want to meet.

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By *ndy8goldMan
over a year ago

blackburn

I fall into this category I guess. Always the way .

Almost the scenario of snog marry avoid lol innit.

I guess I am the go to option without all the complications of a relationship.

N obviously I am amazing between the sheets lol.

Life can be tough but it's all about the smile time

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By *picyspiregirlCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"If it's any consolation I only seem to attract married women out of Fab!"

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it boost their egos to go for a strong attractive independent woman.... Even better if they can sweet talk their way into your knickers......

Relationship wise it takes a strong confident man to match you .....the married ones sneaking around usually have no balls

married guy quote

"if I wasn't married it wouldn't be exciting"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you are looking for OP.

Are you after more than NSA by referring to yourself as the dirty little secret?

If you're looking for a relationship maybe this isn't the right site for you.

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

I've maybe mis-read the OP, but........this is a swinging site? People meet for NSA fun?

Yes, there's more to be had if that's what you're looking for, but surely that's for the individual to suss out in the initial chatting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just you I'm going through a phase of men just wanting to get in my knickers lol "

Isn't that the objective, did I miss something ?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I'm not looking for a relationship, but equally if a guy isn't willing to be seen out in public with me (i.e. First meet is always a social in a pub/cafe) then it ain't happening (I make exception for the one local married bloke I see occasionally, but if a guy's missus is 150 miles away then I'm sure he can meet me in public)

OP, stick to your guns and you'll hopefully find a single bloke or six - I live in a very remote location and still manage to have a fairly decent sex life with single and married guys - if attached isn't your thing, hold out for the single blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just you I'm going through a phase of men just wanting to get in my knickers lol

Isn't that the objective, did I miss something ? "

Indeed

Surely if we join a sex site we are presenting ourselves as objects of sex

Not many on here want more than sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you feel, if it isn't your thing then that's fine. Men are men our dick has a 37% chance of influence's in our daily live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all,

I don't know if any other women go through this.. Hence why I am asking.. I am a tidy looking girl, tall, sexy, work hard for my home, have a decent job, car and home... Children, yes!

Why do I always feel like the mistress?? I find men really long for me sexually, but it's always married, or men looking to meet out of their relationships... It's not my hthing...Perhaps it's where I live... HELP lol x

"

Speaking from a male pov it's just the energy that you are giving out and that's what a certain type of man locks on to. Sit down and work out what you really want. It might just be that with your life, that's all you really need now. All that you can afford in time and emotional effort. Or it might not be. But you will know and can adjust your expectations accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all,

I don't know if any other women go through this.. Hence why I am asking.. I am a tidy looking girl, tall, sexy, work hard for my home, have a decent job, car and home... Children, yes!

Why do I always feel like the mistress?? I find men really long for me sexually, but it's always married, or men looking to meet out of their relationships... It's not my hthing...Perhaps it's where I live... HELP lol x

"

Speaking from a male pov it's just the energy that you are giving out and that's what a certain type of man locks on to. Sit down and work out what you really want. It might just be that with your life, that's all you really need now. All that you can afford in time and emotional effort. Or it might not be. But you will know and can adjust your expectations accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all,

I don't know if any other women go through this.. Hence why I am asking.. I am a tidy looking girl, tall, sexy, work hard for my home, have a decent job, car and home... Children, yes!

Why do I always feel like the mistress?? I find men really long for me sexually, but it's always married, or men looking to meet out of their relationships... It's not my thing...Perhaps it's where I live... HELP lol x "

Been there, done that and got the tshirt. My advice is stay away from guys like that. There are nice, genuine guys out there and I'm sure you will meet one. Getting involved with married guys or those in relationships will only end in tears. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op it's a sex swingers site and most here looking for no strings fun where ever they can get it .. If your looking for more maybe one of the better dating sites ... On here it's sex ... Dating site your there for more then that.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Op it's a sex swingers site and most here looking for no strings fun where ever they can get it .. If your looking for more maybe one of the better dating sites ... On here it's sex ... Dating site your there for more then that."

God no, most on the dating sites are just looking for nsa and lying about it.

I've had far more socializing on here - just be clear you are looking for unattached FB/FWB and refuse anyone who would not be able to fit the bill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the real world it tends to only be married guys that approach me. The rest tend to just stare at my friends and I. Sometimes I think it's because we aren't very attractive, and other times I wonder if its because we intimidate them... Who knows.

its annoying though. I'm wary of anyone on fab, and never meet single guys on here because I tend to have ridiculously high expectations from them, in order to "" out. Ultimately ing out all of them hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the real world it tends to only be married guys that approach me. The rest tend to just stare at my friends and I. Sometimes I think it's because we aren't very attractive, and other times I wonder if its because we intimidate them... Who knows.

its annoying though. I'm wary of anyone on fab, and never meet single guys on here because I tend to have ridiculously high expectations from them, in order to "" out. Ultimately ing out all of them hehe

"

I honestly don't think it's because they think your unattractive. More like they think a lady like you would never be interested in them so why waste yours or Thier time. Usually one of my problems unfortuatly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the real world it tends to only be married guys that approach me. The rest tend to just stare at my friends and I. Sometimes I think it's because we aren't very attractive, and other times I wonder if its because we intimidate them... Who knows.

its annoying though. I'm wary of anyone on fab, and never meet single guys on here because I tend to have ridiculously high expectations from them, in order to "" out. Ultimately ing out all of them hehe

I honestly don't think it's because they think your unattractive. More like they think a lady like you would never be interested in them so why waste yours or Thier time. Usually one of my problems unfortuatly. "

sometimes the shitty reason is easier to believe

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"Hey all,

I don't know if any other women go through this.. Hence why I am asking.. I am a tidy looking girl, tall, sexy, work hard for my home, have a decent job, car and home... Children, yes!

Why do I always feel like the mistress?? I find men really long for me sexually, flbut it's always married, men looking to meet out of their relationships... It's not my thing...Perhaps it's where I live... HELP lol x "

It's the same for me

Except my children have left

No idea why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op it's a sex swingers site and most here looking for no strings fun where ever they can get it .. If your looking for more maybe one of the better dating sites ... On here it's sex ... Dating site your there for more then that.

God no, most on the dating sites are just looking for nsa and lying about it.

I've had far more socializing on here - just be clear you are looking for unattached FB/FWB and refuse anyone who would not be able to fit the bill.

"
we'll on dating sites more maybe single and looking for the same thing . With dating sites some are better then others free ones are not very good so I am told .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men believe successful woman are dominant.

Reality is they prefere it the other way round lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

sometimes the shitty reason is easier to believe "

god you sound like my ex lol trust me your far from unatractive.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Op it's a sex swingers site and most here looking for no strings fun where ever they can get it .. If your looking for more maybe one of the better dating sites ... On here it's sex ... Dating site your there for more then that.

God no, most on the dating sites are just looking for nsa and lying about it.

I've had far more socializing on here - just be clear you are looking for unattached FB/FWB and refuse anyone who would not be able to fit the bill.

we'll on dating sites more maybe single and looking for the same thing . With dating sites some are better then others free ones are not very good so I am told ."

Paid ones are no better, I tried several! Thats why everyone ends up on fabs, loads of the same guys!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Paid ones are no better, I tried several! Thats why everyone ends up on fabs, loads of the same guys!!"

I couldn't agree more. The cross over is unbelievable. I often think guys use the dating sites to try and lure women who are quite naive... Whereas the experienced ladies on sites likes these will not take any of there nonsense! Often the guys tell me they get more sex from the likes of POF than they do here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Paid ones are no better, I tried several! Thats why everyone ends up on fabs, loads of the same guys!!

I couldn't agree more. The cross over is unbelievable. I often think guys use the dating sites to try and lure women who are quite naive... Whereas the experienced ladies on sites likes these will not take any of there nonsense! Often the guys tell me they get more sex from the likes of POF than they do here! "
prof it's just like here but some better dating sites are different but cost .. My friend meet a man from the country dating site you get in my Horse and hound mag and very happy . She had 3 dates all good and sex was not high on the list . Like here and prof it's same a lot of the time and sex is high on there list not getting to know and date. Some may find that old fashion dating going out to dinner taking time but I think it's lovely romantic even.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just you I'm going through a phase of men just wanting to get in my knickers lol

Story of my life"

But you're on a sex site? Isn't that obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with strong independent women. Always reminds me of jack Nicholson in the film a few good men.

"There is nothing on this earth sexier, believe me, gentlemen, than a woman you have to salute in the morning. Promote 'em all, I say, because this is true - if you haven't gotten a blow-job from a superior officer, well, you're just letting the best in life pass you by. 'Course, my problem is, I'm a colonel, so I guess I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal president."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with strong independent women. Always reminds me of jack Nicholson in the film a few good men.

"There is nothing on this earth sexier, believe me, gentlemen, than a woman you have to salute in the morning. Promote 'em all, I say, because this is true - if you haven't gotten a blow-job from a superior officer, well, you're just letting the best in life pass you by. 'Course, my problem is, I'm a colonel, so I guess I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal president.""

Awesome quote!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with strong independent women. Always reminds me of jack Nicholson in the film a few good men.

"There is nothing on this earth sexier, believe me, gentlemen, than a woman you have to salute in the morning. Promote 'em all, I say, because this is true - if you haven't gotten a blow-job from a superior officer, well, you're just letting the best in life pass you by. 'Course, my problem is, I'm a colonel, so I guess I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal president."

Awesome quote!!! "

There's ab advantage to being a valley comando, all gals are like presidents to me

But your right it is a good quote. One of my favourites lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had someone say to me that can i be their dirty little secret. They've never been with a taboo young guy before.

I bloody would have said yes if her husband knew. I can't do cheats.

...may have to play that taboo card actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with strong independent women. Always reminds me of jack Nicholson in the film a few good men.

"There is nothing on this earth sexier, believe me, gentlemen, than a woman you have to salute in the morning. Promote 'em all, I say, because this is true - if you haven't gotten a blow-job from a superior officer, well, you're just letting the best in life pass you by. 'Course, my problem is, I'm a colonel, so I guess I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal president."

Awesome quote!!!

There's ab advantage to being a valley comando, all gals are like presidents to me

But your right it is a good quote. One of my favourites lol "

Hahaha so sweet you refer to yourself as a Valley Comando- saves me from doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with strong independent women. Always reminds me of jack Nicholson in the film a few good men.

"There is nothing on this earth sexier, believe me, gentlemen, than a woman you have to salute in the morning. Promote 'em all, I say, because this is true - if you haven't gotten a blow-job from a superior officer, well, you're just letting the best in life pass you by. 'Course, my problem is, I'm a colonel, so I guess I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal president."

Awesome quote!!!

There's ab advantage to being a valley comando, all gals are like presidents to me

But your right it is a good quote. One of my favourites lol

Hahaha so sweet you refer to yourself as a Valley Comando- saves me from doing it "

Sweetheart you can call me anything you like because I'm that kinda guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with strong independent women. Always reminds me of jack Nicholson in the film a few good men.

"There is nothing on this earth sexier, believe me, gentlemen, than a woman you have to salute in the morning. Promote 'em all, I say, because this is true - if you haven't gotten a blow-job from a superior officer, well, you're just letting the best in life pass you by. 'Course, my problem is, I'm a colonel, so I guess I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal president."

Awesome quote!!!

There's ab advantage to being a valley comando, all gals are like presidents to me

But your right it is a good quote. One of my favourites lol

Hahaha so sweet you refer to yourself as a Valley Comando- saves me from doing it

Sweetheart you can call me anything you like because I'm that kinda guy "

Ooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with strong independent women. Always reminds me of jack Nicholson in the film a few good men.

"There is nothing on this earth sexier, believe me, gentlemen, than a woman you have to salute in the morning. Promote 'em all, I say, because this is true - if you haven't gotten a blow-job from a superior officer, well, you're just letting the best in life pass you by. 'Course, my problem is, I'm a colonel, so I guess I'll just have to keep taking cold showers until they elect some gal president."

Awesome quote!!!

There's ab advantage to being a valley comando, all gals are like presidents to me

But your right it is a good quote. One of my favourites lol

Hahaha so sweet you refer to yourself as a Valley Comando- saves me from doing it

Sweetheart you can call me anything you like because I'm that kinda guy

Ooooo "

Nice to know I can make atleast one lady smile

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