FabSwingers.com forum: politeness is it a thing of the past

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good morning Fabbers.

Yesterday I did the weekly shop in Asda (other large supermarkets are available). I looked around at all the people there. Blimey what a glum lot! I also noticed how impolite people were.

I was barged out of the way. Moved to let people pass and no acknowledgment or thank yous.

The shoppers there seemed to be locked into their own glum.existence.

I am polite beyond fault. I did say thank you, excuse me and sorry lots. But to no avail.

So do you consider yourself a polite person and do you smile when shopping.

It would be a nicer world if we all did .

Ok rant over lol

Have a gorgeous day chums from a rather soggy North Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah.......I just avoid all the miserable cnuts by going in the dead of night.

Happy times, radio blasting through the store, happy shelf stackers and no queues at the tills. Awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just in ADSA. Its everywhere.

Ignorance, rudeness and self-centered behavior are on the rise.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think people have always been miserable and impolite en masse but individually most are much nicer. I try to be chatty, friendly and polite to strangers because I think your behaviour is reflected back to you but it doesn't always happen. Sometimes people have tough stuff going on.

You have a nice day too from a sunny south coast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im very polite actually and verbally i rarely swear.. its only when i type do i curse.

love compliments on how polite my daughter is too. very proud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not just in ADSA. Its everywhere.

Ignorance, rudeness and self-centered behavior are on the rise.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm usually in a world of my own focusing on what I've gone in for whilst wearing my headphones.

I'll acknowledge courteous behavior and be courteous, but equally will throw out dirty looks to ignorant fuckers.

Really show my appreciation to those nice folk who waive me ahead of them when I've only got one or three items whilst they have a trolley full.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Its not just in ADSA. Its everywhere.

Ignorance, rudeness and self-centered behavior are on the rise.

Rarely in my local Waitrose. It's lovely shopping there with no pushing or shoving.

I smile a lot and people smile back. Everywhere, not just the supermarket.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"im very polite actually and verbally i rarely swear.. its only when i type do i curse.

love compliments on how polite my daughter is too. very proud "

Nice for others to acknowledge you're doing something right, isn't it? I used to constantly get comments from shop assistants about how well behaved my brood were.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I think people have always been miserable and impolite en masse but individually most are much nicer. I try to be chatty, friendly and polite to strangers because I think your behaviour is reflected back to you but it doesn't always happen. Sometimes people have tough stuff going on.

You have a nice day too from a sunny south coast.

We all have times when life isn't great but you still have to interact with the world. Head down and get on with it is as good as it can get.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Its not just in ADSA. Its everywhere.

Ignorance, rudeness and self-centered behavior are on the rise.

Rarely in my local Waitrose. It's lovely shopping there with no pushing or shoving.

I smile a lot and people smile back. Everywhere, not just the supermarket."

Everyone knows you get a better class of person in Waitrose

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By *lassyandadventurousMan
over a year ago

England and Wales

I honestly think were on fab because we like people. .

The people who see the bad in others instead of the good arent on fab

Does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I find a nice smile usually gets one back

Either that or they quickly move away from the crazy lady

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By *ohn_d57Man
over a year ago

Bedlington

"Its not just in ADSA. Its everywhere.

Ignorance, rudeness and self-centered behavior are on the rise.

even more so on the roads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey. I'm glad I live here. Mostly very friendly, polite and helpful people. There's always some who are flipping rude but I'd expect that really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supermarkets have that effect on me, and the rage builds. So I avoid them as much as possible and get my big shop delivered, so I can spend more of my time doing something that doesn't make me grumpy and rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make eye contact and smile at people when I am out and about and I chat away at checkouts....it's good to make people smile.

That's just the kind of chick I am

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Its not just in ADSA. Its everywhere.

Ignorance, rudeness and self-centered behavior are on the rise.

even more so on the roads "

That I have to agree with. Aggression seems to be the default mode when some get behind the wheel and people actually boast about it.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Ha ha you should try living in rural China, they do not smile, they stare at you, prompting a smile from me (wasted mostly!)

But they believe it is their right to do whatever they want, where and how..

Lost count on how many times I've had my toes stepped on cos they want to see what I'm buying, bearing in mind no one else is around... Yes lots of teeth nashing moments here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very polite and courteous and helpful. I often go out of my way to help others. There are lots of rude and ignorant people about. Just because they have no manners it doesn't stop me using mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am very polite and courteous and helpful. I often go out of my way to help others. There are lots of rude and ignorant people about. Just because they have no manners it doesn't stop me using mine."

Agree I did front of house work for 20 years and have dealt with some absolute arsewipes.... my motto use to be ''Kill them with kindness''

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I always make eye contact and smile at people when I am out and about and I chat away at checkouts....it's good to make people smile.

That's just the kind of chick I am

as Dolly Parton said "if you see someone with out a smile give them yours " works for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit though. I do sometimes say "you're welcome" when people don't say thank you. It is a bit sarcastic but hey ho.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Ha ha you should try living in rural China, they do not smile, they stare at you, prompting a smile from me (wasted mostly!)

But they believe it is their right to do whatever they want, where and how..

Lost count on how many times I've had my toes stepped on cos they want to see what I'm buying, bearing in mind no one else is around... Yes lots of teeth nashing moments here!!

Those rural Chinese probably say to each other "Do you see that foreigner walking around smiling at everyone? What have we got to be so happy about, it's alright for them coming over here taking the jobs our own should be doing. And what is their problem about us wanting to see what they're buying? It's how we are here. If they don't like how we do things in our country they should clear off back to where they come from." Or words to that effect...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always make eye contact and smile at people when I am out and about and I chat away at checkouts....it's good to make people smile.

That's just the kind of chick I am

as Dolly Parton said "if you see someone with out a smile give them yours " works for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always polite, it's up to us to make a difference

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm a smiler, I'm always smiling and striking up conversations and get it in return it could be cause they think I'm simple though

But I have also been known to kick off

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

I find it really sad that common civility does appear to be disappearing from society. I sometimes feel that (some) youngsters seem to go out of their way to avoid saying please and thank you but sometimes manage a grudging "there you go".

I shop in Waitrose and John Lewis because you can usually guarantee being served by someone who doesn't think they are doing you a favour by taking your money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I honestly think were on fab because we like people. .

The people who see the bad in others instead of the good arent on fab

Does that make sense?

One look at the firums disproves tgat theory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah.......I just avoid all the miserable cnuts by going in the dead of night.

Happy times, radio blasting through the store, happy shelf stackers and no queues at the tills. Awesome"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is today's life much more stressful generally? Less community. More people too busy rushing around, both parents working and grabbing kids out of daycare, more aggression and violence on TV and films even down to kids TV.

We have more labour-saving devices and computers but now have to do ten times the amount of paperwork to get anything done. And then the computer crashes and loses all your work.

We are expected to do more, achieve more, earn more, all in pursuit of something that got lost along the way.

And supermarkets are the epitome of sensory overload - over stimulating garish lights, too much choice, noisy, demanding, distracting environments.

No wonder people get trolley rage.

Shop online.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am polite to people, that is all I care about...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

There is something in the air conditioning at my local supermarkets there is always peopke kicking off with each other. I'm in and out within 30 mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is today's life much more stressful generally? Less community. More people too busy rushing around, both parents working and grabbing kids out of daycare, more aggression and violence on TV and films even down to kids TV.

We have more labour-saving devices and computers but now have to do ten times the amount of paperwork to get anything done. And then the computer crashes and loses all your work.

We are expected to do more, achieve more, earn more, all in pursuit of something that got lost along the way.

And supermarkets are the epitome of sensory overload - over stimulating garish lights, too much choice, noisy, demanding, distracting environments.

No wonder people get trolley rage.

Shop online.

There's definitely something in that. I actively organise my life to avoid situations that I know will make feel stressed and annoyed - big supermarkets, shopping in town on a Saturday, traveling at peak time where I'm crammed onto a train with loads of other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My local Sainsburys is very friendly. Staff and customers are very polite. Tescos on the other hand is not so friendly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I shop in Waitrose and John Lewis because you can usually guarantee being served by someone who doesn't think they are doing you a favour by taking your money. "

I find that it's mostly elderly people who fall into the rude, entitled category. Without fail the young people who serve in the shops I go to ranging from Waitrose to Aldi are polite and friendly as they are in the street.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always make a conscious effort to be polite.... fuck you..fuck everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I must add the staff at my local Asda are a brilliant cheery lot. I always have a good natter with the lads and ladies on the check out.

Maybe we should all just be happy shoppers. I know its not the best fun in the world. Though a great opportunity to have a sneaky perv at some gorgeous ladies I there lol x

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good morning Fabbers.

Yesterday I did the weekly shop in Asda (other large supermarkets are available). I looked around at all the people there. Blimey what a glum lot! I also noticed how impolite people were.

I was barged out of the way. Moved to let people pass and no acknowledgment or thank yous.

The shoppers there seemed to be locked into their own glum.existence.

I am polite beyond fault. I did say thank you, excuse me and sorry lots. But to no avail.

So do you consider yourself a polite person and do you smile when shopping.

It would be a nicer world if we all did .

Ok rant over lol

Have a gorgeous day chums from a rather soggy North Wales

you get nicer people in waitrose

Just kidding

I think people are just in too much of a rush nowadays.

They should learn to slow down a little and try and enjoy themselves more.

From a not so soggy North Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just in real life

This site must have some of the rudest I'm more important than you so I don't have to reply or chat with you.

People around

Just saying

Much love

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

There's a guy who lives here called micheal about late 50s and very well to do.

He talks to absolutely everyone from the teenage kid upwards, always pays everyone he passes compliments or opens up a conversation, an absolutely lovely guy, he's often made my day commenting on my perfume or what I'm wearing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I honestly don't think that politeness varies according to the shop but I am sick of dodging people in Waitrose who congregate in the aisles with their cronies all slurping on coffee from a cardboard cup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"always pays everyone he passes compliments or opens up a conversation, an absolutely lovely guy, he's often made my day commenting on my perfume or what I'm wearing

He's not being polite he's just a massive pervert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to try to do something to make people laugh when I go shopping in Tesco I find people are much more polite then........ naked shopping is great for that, but does get you a lifetime ban

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

I was brought up to say please thankyou excuse me and to hold doors open.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I always make a conscious effort to be polite.... fuck you..fuck everyone.

At least you're equal ops about it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"always pays everyone he passes compliments or opens up a conversation, an absolutely lovely guy, he's often made my day commenting on my perfume or what I'm wearing

He's not being polite he's just a massive pervert. "
someone's a pervert for paying a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"always pays everyone he passes compliments or opens up a conversation, an absolutely lovely guy, he's often made my day commenting on my perfume or what I'm wearing

He's not being polite he's just a massive pervert. someone's a pervert for paying a compliment

Yes! That's what!

There is always a motive for paying compliments. . Fucking perve!

Too far?......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I always make a conscious effort to be polite.... fuck you..fuck everyone.

I think that was being fair to all rather than polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was brought up to say please thankyou excuse me and to hold doors open."

I do this all the time. And invariably it is older people who fail to acknowledge it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negatively spreads but wear a smile all day and be the beacon as smiles are contagious

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I honestly don't think that politeness varies according to the shop but I am sick of dodging people in Waitrose who congregate in the aisles with their cronies all slurping on coffee from a cardboard cup."

I think that the 'Up Market' theory developing has some credence.

Smiley, Coffee Slurping Shoppers tend to have arrived in a warm car after leaving a centrally heated home, wearing boots ,anoraks and scarves and with full purses from occupations or professions where etiquette allow you in or out and feeling the the power of their pound. You know - just poor enough to want to complain. Not rich enough to not really give a fuck. Great game.

Others.... might not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely in my local Waitrose. It's lovely shopping there with no pushing or shoving.

I smile a lot and people smile back. Everywhere, not just the supermarket."

The best thing about Waitrose is it keeps the rough types out of the M&S food hall, though unfortunately not the miserable pensioners.

Some people are just rude, some are in a rush, some are having a bad day, some have a territorial obsession with not letting a car out or creeping across a junction when the lights go amber, but that doesn't stop me from holding a door or saying thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My local waitrose has some absolute wankers in it, because it's slap bang in the middle of an area full of a certain type of very well-off student who see university as a continuation of boarding school. You have to time it right, because sometimes being too early for them means you run into the yummy mummy crowd who block the aisles standing around drinking their free coffees while their ridiculously named children run amok.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I always make a conscious effort to be polite.... fuck you..fuck everyone.

Oh..that's so lovely of you. Thank you very much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other people's grumpiness cheers me up. Thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've noticed a lack of politeness round my way, maybe the few rude people stick in your memory but the polite ones don't make the same impression?

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Had some of my most funniest conversations in supermarkets! Am always smiling n chatting and sure some may think i'm crazy too!

One of the funniest was me at the cash out... Man infront of me and obvi a biker as was clutching his crash helmet. Convo progressed from the weather.. to him saying I would look great in leathers in the back of his bike!! Ffs! Me? Hahahaha Goodness NO! Anyway I defused that and carried on with the weather! Lol .. He said goodbuy and how nice it was to chat and i replied ' nice helmet' as he put it back on ( then cringed! Why did them words come outta my mouth!?)

Even the cashier was smiling and laughing too ...

I chat to old ladies/ men ... The shelve stackers... Oh and if I in a huge rush I have to avoid eye contact as I always get chatting! ( can't help it! )

When we both shopping we always have a laugh with others ...

Llfe to short to walk around with faces like smacked arses!

sure some people forgett they able to smile!

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Its not just in ADSA. Its everywhere.

Ignorance, rudeness and self-centered behavior are on the rise.

Rarely in my local Waitrose. It's lovely shopping there with no pushing or shoving.

I smile a lot and people smile back. Everywhere, not just the supermarket."

Can't agree more, a few smiles makes the day better

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By *ranthamThroatMan
over a year ago

Grantham.

"Ha ha you should try living in rural China, they do not smile, they stare at you, prompting a smile from me (wasted mostly!)

But they believe it is their right to do whatever they want, where and how..

Lost count on how many times I've had my toes stepped on cos they want to see what I'm buying, bearing in mind no one else is around... Yes lots of teeth nashing moments here!!

In always said "Nee how" if they ignored me I said " Boo Ya" if that didn't work , then Boy Ya Choonie, - that always got a serious glare as did Boo Ya Shabbie!, those ALWAYS worked

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By *ordic36Man
over a year ago

Manchester

If you're talking about going to the mall and nobodys paying any attention to you, cuz they're too busy minding their own business, then I'd say I prefer it that way.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"Ha ha you should try living in rural China, they do not smile, they stare at you, prompting a smile from me (wasted mostly!)

But they believe it is their right to do whatever they want, where and how..

Lost count on how many times I've had my toes stepped on cos they want to see what I'm buying, bearing in mind no one else is around... Yes lots of teeth nashing moments here!!

In always said "Nee how" if they ignored me I said " Boo Ya" if that didn't work , then Boy Ya Choonie, - that always got a serious glare as did Boo Ya Shabbie!, those ALWAYS worked

Ha ha love it, much better than the other saddo who commented!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lovely

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