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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Following on from christos's thread how has fab changed you since you joined?

It has made us more aware of each others needs and wants not just sexual but in everyday life, it has made our relationship stronger than ever and made us realise we need to make time for each other,

Its made us get healthy we've lost 12 stone between up since we joined up and it has made me Mr l a lot more tolerant of other people's lifestyles and choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from christos's thread how has fab changed you since you joined?

It has made us more aware of each others needs and wants not just sexual but in everyday life, it has made our relationship stronger than ever and made us realise we need to make time for each other,

Its made us get healthy we've lost 12 stone between up since we joined up and it has made me Mr l a lot more tolerant of other people's lifestyles and choices"

Not really changed me much... but 12 stone that is amazing!!

Well done you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice one guys...amazing what a rag tag collection of folk on a website can inspire eh? =)

anyone else with any positive fab stories?

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By *earandbunnykinsCouple
over a year ago

Stanwick

Five years ago, I was a shy, retiring wallflower.

Swinging has given me the confidence to develop my creative side; I've taken up writing erotic flash fiction again after a two year break, developed my photography skills and done some modelling work too.

I've gone from being a negative to a positive thinker and a lot of that is down to Bear's encouragement. We are totally open with each other and talk endlessly about our dreams and aspirations as well as the more mundane issues of life.

We had a strong marriage before all this, but swinging has definitely improved our lives x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

My relationship with swinging has evolved over the years, I thrust myself into it in the early days and probably did too much, too early and with too many people. I met great people and had fun times.

But over the years I have mellowed and I now prefer reading about other people enjoying the scene and having good times.

enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's given us a healthy look into sex with others without the deception of cheating. Mrs N has had a huge boost in confidence as she always thought she looked awful with her being very short and petite. Together, we're much more open in our talking and what each of us want and what we now explore together.

All big here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from being 2 stones heavier than when I started I'm doing the same as I did when I first started. I am tightening my criteria a bit,no kissing-no meet. Apart from that nothing much has changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive changed loads.. so much that i know this lifestyle isnt for me.

love the open mindedness of everyone.. the freedom to chat openly about adult things and not be looked down on. i just know im after something a bit more solid but i couldnt handle the swinging eliment. i get jealous.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have come to reliase that fab this no longer for me and going to take a different path but I enjoy the forums and the banter

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

It's given me much, much more confidence in my body and my looks. It's very flattering that so many people (men, women and couples) take the trouble to message us with very positive comments about our photographs..

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I joined fabs as I start cross-dressing (within the privacy of my home) and that is circa Dec 2012.

I only cross dress for meets/chat (in fabs chatroom) with fellow swingers..and felt that ive truly found my real self.

Although I still dont have the confidence to go out in public (except selective CD clubs), I really do feel liberated...and i realised now, how difficult it is to put eyeliners on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since joining I've come to realise I'm a lot more vanilla than I thought. We enjoy swapsies and all that, which some might think strange, but we are very mild compared to some. But I love listening to what you all get up to. I just don't want to join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't changed significantly since joining fab, as it was the continuation of something I was already doing. I'm better at taking photos though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no ive not changed

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Fab hasn't changed me I've evolved as a person, I'm completely unrecognisable to the unpredictable live wire that slept with anyone and only wanted gangbangs.

I'm now completely confident and comfortable being the person I am and know exactly what I'm looking for.

Life is good

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I've changed but I'm not sure exactly how, or how much is related to this place and how much would have happened anyway.

I'm on a twisty turny path. Sometimes I make positive progress and sometimes I have setbacks.

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I had a very negative _iew of men due to a traumatic experience in my teens which made me very anti men and frankly afraid of the dark, of men coming up behind me and all sorts of other hang ups.

My response to the feelings that I was in some way to blame, was to double my weight. Now I felt that I was too fat ever to have sex again.

I joined fab not to meet anyone but to search for a friend's husband. Well, I never found him but I've found a side of myself I didn't know existed! I'm a real slut! Who would have guessed?

The time I've spent with lots of men has made me realise that they're not all bad and not one has raped me. Thankfully!

I've had so much fun discovering my sexy side, the bit I missed when I should have been experimenting in my late teens / early 20s. I've learnt a lot of new skills, am confident, despite my less than lovely body, feel empowered by the knowledge that men find me attractive. I didn't know that before - my husband had managed to convince me that I was really gross. I believed him.

I've found love unexpectedly, found my soulmate, who just knows what I want, knows how far to push me but with respect at all times. I've done things I'd never have done before:knocking on hotel room doors to meet total strangers who are now friends, having sex outdoors and wherever!

Fab had made all, well, almost all, my fantasies come true with the total support of my fab partner. He not only understand my need to have sex with strangers, he relishes hearing about them and is in no way jealous.

Fab has changed my life forever. It's given me the strength to free myself from the oppression I'd been under in my marriage, work and life. Changes are on the way. I'm feeling much more positive and loving life.

Thanks fab,thanks to all the guys I've met, and a huge thanks to my wonderful M. Xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently, it's made me realise I wanna fall in love. Haven't felt like that in years so it's nice, I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great happy stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined to enjoy naughty times. 4 years ago this week, I had a meet with a single fem for downright dirty sex. Since then, we fell in love, moved in together and finally bought a house together.

So, yes, FAB has changed my life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and I went from bi-curious to bi!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its made me think about what I like, there is a lot of things that I would of previously dismissed as not for me, that I now have more of an understanding of thanks to talking to ppl, and is a fair few things that Im curious about now and would try with the right person,x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think fab does make you a bit more body conceous, well it did me anyway, can't speak for everyone of course I used to be very self conceous and found it hard to meet, I also lost weight, I stopped meeting for a while while I lost it, and went from a size 24 to a 14, I'm still on my journey but I feel confidant enough to meet now while I loose the rest, had it not been for fab and swinging I'd have carried on hiding a body I hated behind baggy clothes, swinging and meeting people who will (hopefully if all goes well ) see me naked has given me the kick up the arse I needed to sort myself out

As a result its given me more confidence and generally made me happier

I also feel as a result my home life is better as I hated going out with the kids where as I feel I can do that now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't changed significantly since joining fab, as it was the continuation of something I was already doing. I'm better at taking photos though "

It's just another avenue so I can continue to explore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me fab's far more than a sex life!

Had 2 mediocre relationships in 20 yrs with guys who largely made me feel ugly and useless. When my relationship ended I sat at home alone most weekends for over a year and a half as my friends are all happily married - other than dates on dating sites which were poor because I had no idea what I wanted!

Since I found fab almost by accident, i'm having a brilliant social life, have made loads of great friends - most of which are platonic - and i've had by far the best sex of my life!

I'm aware that I need to tone it down slightly now and concentrate a little more on other aspects of life - but that simply means i'm entering 'phase 2' as others do - so still all good!

One day I may even meet mr Right on here - stranger things have happened i'm sure - but in the meantime i'm a very happy lady! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lot more sex with my husband now. So getting me on here worked !

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"ive changed loads.. so much that i know this lifestyle isnt for me.

love the open mindedness of everyone.. the freedom to chat openly about adult things and not be looked down on. i just know im after something a bit more solid but i couldnt handle the swinging eliment. i get jealous. "
me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God its changed me loads..

I used to have such old fashion values. Sex only in a relationship etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to rarely go out before we joined fab, so it has definitely improved our social life & we've made some really really good friends that we see on an almost daily basis. We're both so much more open and honest with each other which has also brought us closer and helped us understand each others wants and needs and it's improved our sex life, even when we're not swinging we can't get enough of each other! Most of all we're out, doing it together & having fun together.

Plus, I sort of like having our little 'secret' life away from work and responsibilities that family etc doesn't know about.

Juicy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We used to rarely go out before we joined fab, so it has definitely improved our social life & we've made some really really good friends that we see on an almost daily basis. We're both so much more open and honest with each other which has also brought us closer and helped us understand each others wants and needs and it's improved our sex life, even when we're not swinging we can't get enough of each other! Most of all we're out, doing it together & having fun together.

Plus, I sort of like having our little 'secret' life away from work and responsibilities that family etc doesn't know about.

Juicy x"

The last bit is very true, it's a little secret that only we know, it makes us closer and gives us a giggle when people talk about things not doing we have done them

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its one of those thing for me when you come up with one intention (sex) and leave with very much another (the social side)

have i changed whilst on fab by being on fab.... a little....it made me realise that people will like me for me and had made me for the most part feel less body conscious.. in that those who fancy me will fancy me...

its more of a dormant me has resurfaced in that i am much stronger in myself, and don't need the validation of others, I don't need to slurp... i don't wish to be slurped at!!!

a stronger me, a more confident me, i can take all the pluses and expand on them and grow then... and i am take the negatives and tell people where they can shove them!!!!

it much more of a community than i could ever have imagined and people have given me a shoulder to lean on, just like i have done for others....

seen weddings, marriages, divorces, births, and deaths.... smiled and cried...

I don't play as much as i use to (more semi retired these days... or is it a case of pacing myself better!! anyway... i had a ball at the beginning.. still having a blast... and long may it continue...

think i rambled on a bit there....

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