FabSwingers.com forum: Why do men not come

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fed up with horny meets where they say they love lots of foreplay - I read that as "I cant cum" when I've cum 3 or 4 times I want to feel him come !!! Then they can't , or they cum

In the first 10 mins !!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've never experienced that

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Maybe it's just nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be mortified if I came within 10 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind quick cummers, get a lot of them and they always apologise but i honestly don't care. Plus is cum turns me on and they're up for more so it's all good.

But yeah taking ages to cum can be boring, only met one guy like this, and fair enough i was staying over at his all night but felt like it was a chore eventually. Suppose i should have changed tact and just enjoyed everything we was doing really, rather than focus on getting him to cum, maybe concentrating on getting guys to cum actually makes them take longer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men aren't machines.. they are human.

perhaps they have things going on in their lives they need to address that's mentally or physically holding them back.

could be that you just aren't doing it for them.. but of course naturally its never a womans fault with these 'issues'.. always the man not being able to perform

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometime if a guy has controlled it for a long time it can be hard to cum. He also needs to be relaxed and some are too uptight to cum easily.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Fed up with horny meets where they say they love lots of foreplay - I read that as "I cant cum" when I've cum 3 or 4 times I want to feel him come !!! Then they can't , or they cum

In the first 10 mins !!"

Coming within the first 10 minutes of continuous penetrative sex is well within the norm.

I'm one of those who sometimes takes ages and on the odd occasion have faked an ejaculation to stop women like you moaning. Just gotta make sure they don't see the condom is empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men aren't machines.. they are human.

perhaps they have things going on in their lives they need to address that's mentally or physically holding them back.

could be that you just aren't doing it for them.. but of course naturally its never a womans fault with these 'issues'.. always the man not being able to perform "

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

It's not usually a problem lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't cum so easy....to the point I no longer care if I do or not any more...unless the lady likes it a lot, then it's normally hand poured as it were

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

"Sometime if a guy has controlled it for a long time it can be hard to cum. He also needs to be relaxed and some are too uptight to cum easily. "

Yes, this. If I deliberately delay for a long time so that we can enjoy extended play, then I find it can be difficult to come. Most women I've had sex with enjoy being fucked for more than a few minutes, though occasionally some of them have seemed disappointed if I haven't come.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Taking viagra or Kamagra can have an effect, takes me ages to cum if i've took one.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"Taking viagra or Kamagra can have an effect, takes me ages to cum if i've took one.

That applies to alcohol aswel.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

If you build it, they will cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be mortified if I came within 10 minutes.

I would be surprised if I didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I set my alarm on my watch and it's took me years to get to cum in two and a half minutes but now I'm good at it !!!! Saves getting hot and sweaty yuk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can also be the curse of the condom , some guys cant come wearing one some cant stay hard with one on !!!

I am not advocating un safe sex just pointing out how they can effect men.

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks

If your a guy you've got to last but make a woman cum asap and lots. Equal rights and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't cum so easily with people I'm new to. It's a nerves and familiarity thing. But I should also say it's not the be all and end all, I don't have to cum to be satisfied at all.

In fact I've only ever cum from a bj once in my life, I've never felt totally relaxed having my dick sucked so I never cum from that.

For me it's a lot to do with the intimacy I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Taking viagra or Kamagra can have an effect, takes me ages to cum if i've took one.

After talking to guys in gran canaria this week it seems a lot of guys over there buy Viagra and then they can cum quickly on their own privately and then go for hours in the clubs without cumming. It's probably the same over here . Yet they hide it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pressure of the situation can cause this definately.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"The pressure of the situation can cause this definately. "

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I've never experienced that

Nor me

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"It can also be the curse of the condom , some guys cant come wearing one some cant stay hard with one on !!!

I am not advocating un safe sex just pointing out how they can effect men."

Guys can train themselves to be able to stay hard in condoms though.

In my experience, few who have a problem with them bother, they just use it as an excuse to push for bareback.

It's frustrating as hell when I've specified safe sex only, and he goes along with that until we meet, at which point he admits he can't stay hard with a condom on. The meet is over at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In recent months we have enjoyed dogging and this has been a revelation for us .

95% of guys cum in less than 5 minutes which is fine in that scenario . That's to say bj and go . And guys who enjoy a more intimate style , kissing and foreplaywill often cum even quicker when the bj starts , but may come bback a bit later and cum again .

The 5% that don't cum quickly always do , but possibly hold back to enjoy the experience a little longer .

Perhaps it's because dogging is what it is and they want to cum as much as we want them to ?

When we went to clubs it was common for guys not to cum early on or to hold back till later . This didn't do it for us so dogging suits us much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be mortified if I came within 10 minutes.

I would be surprised if I didn't. "

My pleasure comes from pleasing the woman. If I cum then cool. As a guy I like to last and make sure she pleased first

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

5 strokes max, then a spurt and finish off with a cup of tea.

Quality

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If I'm having a meet with someone it is for mutual fun, as long as we've both enjoyed it it wouldn't bother me, its not a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not performing monkeys, you need to help us out too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

poor fellas - sound like you want them to cum when you want them to - supposed to be a 2 way thing this sex lark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men aren't machines.. they are human.

perhaps they have things going on in their lives they need to address that's mentally or physically holding them back.

could be that you just aren't doing it for them.. but of course naturally its never a womans fault with these 'issues'.. always the man not being able to perform

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't care if a guy comes quickly because I love it ...so long as they keep playing and can repeat and not think the jobs done !!!!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I personally love it when a lady tries to give me as much pleasure as possible, rather than tries to make me cum. Even better if she can bring me to the edge and keep me there until I can take no more.

Cal x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I've never experienced that

Nor I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men aren't machines.. they are human.

perhaps they have things going on in their lives they need to address that's mentally or physically holding them back.

could be that you just aren't doing it for them.. but of course naturally its never a womans fault with these 'issues'.. always the man not being able to perform "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the op frustration but it's not always the guys fault. If he cums quick, don't make him feel bad... Turn it to your advantage if it's not a fuck And go thing.

I would And have felt frustrated at a guy not Cumming but also accept it maybe many factors including maybe I dont do it for him but mostly its nerves.

To be honest its rare a guy can make me cum. I normally get off on the situation not the guys talents which is why I prefer group play and situations where I can watch Mr deviant playing as that does it for me.

Mr never fails to make me but others won't no matter how much they try and its not always there fault.. nor does it mean I haven't enjoyed it .

So if said just enjoy and not stress and maybe it will just happen anyway

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"men aren't machines.. they are human.

perhaps they have things going on in their lives they need to address that's mentally or physically holding them back.

could be that you just aren't doing it for them.. but of course naturally its never a womans fault with these 'issues'.. always the man not being able to perform "

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be mortified if I came within 10 minutes.

I wouldn't

Look at the fun we can have getting going again and how long you would last second time

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

And that is why I always carry a small sachet of lube,

If I am struggling to shoot, I just say I am going to fire and close your eyes it's nippy.....

Squeeze the sachet hard, a few oooohs and aaaaahs

Job done

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've had a few meets where the guy hasn't cum...it's not a problem for me generally, though I do like to return the favour when they've given me a great time. I've also had meets where as soon as the condom comes out, Mr Floppy does too - if someone has already said they struggle to stay hard with a condom, I don't mind so much and am happy to keep play to non penetrative fun, but if they push for a fuck without then I'd walk. So far, no one has pushed their luck

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"5 strokes max, then a spurt and finish off with a cup of tea.

Quality

you're a class act!

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

"I would be mortified if I came within 10 minutes."

Me too - if I hadn't managed to also make a cuppa, get the washing on the line and had 90 seconds of foreplay.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've also had guys cum really quickly and be mortified by it...again, not a problem, it happens for various reasons (my awesomeness generally

)...usually a bit of rest, cuppa tea to build up strength to go again and all is well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fed up with horny meets where they say they love lots of foreplay - I read that as "I cant cum" when I've cum 3 or 4 times I want to feel him come !!! Then they can't , or they cum

In the first 10 mins !!"

I've been called hard work because it takes me ages to cum. Well worth it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy come to mine turns out I was his second ever meet, he was very nervous we chatted and had a laugh and got down to business then bam it was over, from kissing and foreplay to sex to him coming on my stomach was less than 3 minutes

poor guy was mortified i told him it was fine and not to worry about it, but he was up an out the door never to be seen again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be mortified if I came within 10 minutes.

Absolutely, especially if we've got a couple of hours to have fun. Although I do recover quickly and sometimes I stay hard, especially if she really turns me on.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off""

How about thinking " Thank God BlondeCaz doesn't mind if I don't cum"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

How about thinking " Thank God BlondeCaz doesn't mind if I don't cum"

I'll add it to the list of things I say when I'm not ejaculating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

How about thinking " Thank God BlondeCaz doesn't mind if I don't cum"

I'm gonna have a wank and not cum right now....safe in the knowledge you don't mind

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Fed up with horny meets where they say they love lots of foreplay - I read that as "I cant cum" when I've cum 3 or 4 times I want to feel him come !!! Then they can't , or they cum

In the first 10 mins !!"

Perhaps the problem here is that it's all about what you want.

He's a person too, not some kind of machine.

Sex works best when it's a mutual thing rather than when one party regards the other as a sex toy and expects particular responses on demand.

Some people love lots of foreplay. There's nothing wrong with that. I'd prefer that to being used as a wanking accessory!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

How about thinking " Thank God BlondeCaz doesn't mind if I don't cum"

I'll add it to the list of things I say when I'm not ejaculating "

And now I know this, I'm tempted to visit Cambridge and wander round looking for a guy mumbling this to himself

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

How about thinking " Thank God BlondeCaz doesn't mind if I don't cum"

I'm gonna have a wank and not cum right now....safe in the knowledge you don't mind

Aw, I'll sleep well tonight knowing this

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Fed up with horny meets where they say they love lots of foreplay - I read that as "I cant cum" when I've cum 3 or 4 times I want to feel him come !!! Then they can't , or they cum

In the first 10 mins !!"

Maybe they read crap like this and realise some women arn't exactly considerate, which then makes the situation worse.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"men aren't machines.. they are human.

perhaps they have things going on in their lives they need to address that's mentally or physically holding them back.

could be that you just aren't doing it for them.. but of course naturally its never a womans fault with these 'issues'.. always the man not being able to perform "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of us have had thousands of orgasms, + theyre all pretty much the same. In 30 odd years bonking, I can't say one orgasm was ever better than any other.

plus, the problem is, once you've delivered her daily pinta - you dunno when you'll get it up again.

whats better -travelling in style, or the arrival?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off""

Well you are selfish!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought sex was about mutual fun/pleasure not pressure!! Or am I missing something? Some guys cum quick some don't, some make me cum some cant, I still enjoy all of it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

How about thinking " Thank God BlondeCaz doesn't mind if I don't cum"

I'm gonna have a wank and not cum right now....safe in the knowledge you don't mind

I'm glad to hear it...I was worried those flagellation welts and hair shirt were going to keep you up all night!

Aw, I'll sleep well tonight knowing this

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

How about thinking " Thank God BlondeCaz doesn't mind if I don't cum"

I'm gonna have a wank and not cum right now....safe in the knowledge you don't mind

I'm glad to hear it...I was worried those flagellation welts and hair shirt were going to keep you up all night!

Aw, I'll sleep well tonight knowing this

What can I say? A wee bit of pain helps me kip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are with the op on this one , and this is why we play the way we do .

We have no interest in playing with guys who take ages to cum , or can't cum .

We certainly don't put pressure on anyone but as we said before on this thread , the guys we meet play the way we like it .

It's like any preference really , we like guys who cum and they like Sabrina as she is good at helping them cum .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men don't cum just to spite you OP, every day I don't cum I think to myself. " I hope san30 is pissed off"

Well you are selfish!!

Only with san, I'm generous with others!

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I've had this happen once or twice lately but as long as he's spent a good long time making sure I'm seen to, it doesn't really bother me at all. They're all very apologetic but that's not my only reason for being with them. There's nothing worse than a guy banging away for hours ... almost as bad as the 2 second wonders.

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By *ina75Woman
over a year ago

Stone

Sorry but there's drug based answer as well, several of the most well known anti-depressants have this as a common side effect.

However, I would never expect your meet to tell you about something so personal so try and just accept the fun you did have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps, just perhaps, some of the guys are worried about cumming too quuckly, so "clear the pipes" beforehand.

If you look at a lot of veri's, they say things like a good stayer, fucked all night, made me cum and cum, was hard for hours etc. If you are competing for meets, which we all are, you might feel the need to take steps to prevent a hair trigger.

Personally, I wouldn't wank before a meet. If I cum quickly, it us down to the talent of the lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps, just perhaps, some of the guys are worried about cumming too quuckly, so "clear the pipes" beforehand.

Personally, I wouldn't wank before a meet. If I cum quickly, it us down to the talent of the lady

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By *wo2oneCouple
over a year ago

salford

Haha ! So would I lol x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I used to say the first cum didn't count.

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By *wo2oneCouple
over a year ago

salford

Excellent and witty response xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving foreplay is nothing to do with cumming early or late. I just love to kiss touch and tease. Have never had a problem of using a condom and staying hard either. perhaps you have just been unlucky in your meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometime if a guy has controlled it for a long time it can be hard to cum. He also needs to be relaxed and some are too uptight to cum easily. "

^^^ This - and also if the foreplay has gone on for a long time and he's been at a high point of stimulation for a long time, then stimulation needs to be taken to a whole new level for some guys in order to come, and sometimes (if you have exhausted all manner of naughty things) that's a challenge to achieve.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Loving foreplay is nothing to do with cumming early or late. I just love to kiss touch and tease. Have never had a problem of using a condom and staying hard either. perhaps you have just been unlucky in your meets?"

Or maybe the other parties have been unlucky in their meets, not realising they'd be expected to perform on cue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed try spanking them harder next time haha

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

"Sorry but there's drug based answer as well, several of the most well known anti-depressants have this as a common side effect.

However, I would never expect your meet to tell you about something so personal so try and just accept the fun you did have. "

I have this problem. Makes guys think they're doing something wrong

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I tend to feel it's my fault if a man doesn't come during a meet but I know there are reasons that might be the case that are nothing to do with me.

I find it difficult to reach orgasm sometimes through no fault of the man involved, and I know I can enjoy sex just fine without reaching orgasm. However, when it comes to the man not coming, I'll always doubt myself first.

I'd never want a man to feel pressured to come or to fake it to make me feel better though.

Some reassurance he had a good time and it wasn't my fault can help though, however sad and needy that sounds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I,ve had all these Issues in later Years the best one and most painful is When a enjoyable time is being had haveing doggie style and a good dose of Cramp shooting down my right calf kicks In and everything goes ar*e upwards..

from then on Includeing my orgasm..haha..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I,ve had all these Issues in later Years the best one and most painful is When a enjoyable time is being had haveing doggie style and a good dose of Cramp shooting down my right calf kicks In and everything goes ar*e upwards..

from then on Includeing my orgasm..haha.."

Bannas my friend eat more bannas and drink more water. will help with cramps

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Fed up with horny meets where they say they love lots of foreplay - I read that as "I cant cum" when I've cum 3 or 4 times I want to feel him come !!! Then they can't , or they cum

In the first 10 mins !!"
. Sometimes it helps if you make yoor intentions clear before you start . Otherwise the guy can be left guessing as to when the lady would like him to come . I need to really fuck hard , fast and deep to come but prefer if the lady advises how long she wants you to stay hard ..You. also need to know does the lady just want you to fuck her and leave or does she you to recover and come again. I also give the lady option of wanking cock after fucking as that gives them an element of control..These type of issues are sometimes best discussed before you are too far into the session. Sometimes the second meet can be better because both parties have established what they want .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from then on Includeing my orgasm..haha..

Bannas my friend eat more bannas and drink more water. will help with cramps

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yes banana,s I,ve Heard that mentioned before good for lactic acid build up along with drinking more water..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep Bannas are great or tonic water.

Thought eat enough bannas and your cum will taste of them too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Taking viagra or Kamagra can have an effect, takes me ages to cum if i've took one.

Just reminded me of a post on here when the op said the grandfather took viagra not long before he died and it rather took them some days before they were able to shut the coffin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry to much as the meet would be prob just a one off, at least they would of gotten a good hard fuck quick lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe the other parties have been unlucky in their meets, not realising they'd be expected to perform on cue."

can't stand the 'performance brigade' it's why I don't go to clubs etc. true sensuality, eroticism and tactile intimate sex is spontaneous, the orgasm, for both parties, happens when it happens, many times over if there is a genuine 'fire' between us. If she gets me really turned on, I can cum, keep it up and keep fucking until I cum again. If I'm required to perform....well, they can fuck off....we won't be meeting. I'm not making a porn movie, I'm looking for mutual fulfilment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I can't come I. Foreplay unless I have control

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

Ive had the condom thing kinda once when I got a delay type by mistake and literally couldn't feel anything with my cock :/

Porn and wanking can condition a person to certain things and give issues too

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over a year ago

I have terrible nerves in this area. We've met the same couple 3 times now.

1st time. Could even get hard but gave her plenty of other stimulation.

2nd time. Semi hard but not enough for sex.

3rd time. Can now get hard and have sex but did not cum.

She's a stunning lady and it was 100% the nerves/pressure of being with another woman other than my wife for the first time in 20+ years.

Fortunately on every occasion I made sure she came and was satisfied in every other way and she was very understanding of my issues.

Not sure I like the attitudes of some in this thread. There is no set timescale for how quickly a man or woman orgasm; it depends on the situation.

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By *osconangelCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I have terrible nerves in this area. We've met the same couple 3 times now.

1st time. Could even get hard but gave her plenty of other stimulation.

2nd time. Semi hard but not enough for sex.

3rd time. Can now get hard and have sex but did not cum.

She's a stunning lady and it was 100% the nerves/pressure of being with another woman other than my wife for the first time in 20+ years.

Fortunately on every occasion I made sure she came and was satisfied in every other way and she was very understanding of my issues.

Not sure I like the attitudes of some in this thread. There is no set timescale for how quickly a man or woman orgasm; it depends on the situation."

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By *hyandtwistedCouple
over a year ago

loughborough

We all strive to please others in sex best indicator is someone cumming as a male there's a ton of pressure to go all night make her cum multiple times or you have failed in your mission.

I think this and nerves puts a mental block in the way, I've only cum once on a meet and that was another couple and hours of play first. Yet me and the wife I can get one in while the kettle boils for a coffee .

Go with the flow and enjoy the pleasure if it has a messy ending great of not so what.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had men say theyve had a wank before meeting me so they will last longer second time round...I feel disapointed then cause I wanna get covered in loads of jizz and theyve already shot one load down the toilet haaaaa x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are not performing monkeys, you need to help us out too."

This comment, apparently rather unfairly, presupposes they think of you as trained simians as well as suggesting they offer no stimulation to assist in you reaching an orgasm. What evidence have you for this point of _iew?

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

i think lots have a wank b4 so they dont cum too quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on mood

How long since last had sex

I though women liked to cum few times first sometimes there just too wet and slippery to get enougth friction to stimulate right spot

I have had women ask me to stop because they couldn't take any more lol

But blowjob or hand job fixes things

But if in mood can cum few times stay hard

Just mood thing why don't some women cum you could ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fed up with horny meets where they say they love lots of foreplay - I read that as "I cant cum" when I've cum 3 or 4 times I want to feel him come !!! Then they can't , or they cum

In the first 10 mins !!"

There could be lots of reasons: psychological, physiological....and very unlikely to do with you. I've experienced this and although in my vulnerable moments I worry that maybe I'm 'just not doing it for him' I know in my head it's not that.

But OP, getting frustrated with the guy doesn't help....understanding goes a long way. Good luck!

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over a year ago

"Ive had the condom thing kinda once when I got a delay type by mistake and literally couldn't feel anything with my cock :/

Porn and wanking can condition a person to certain things and give issues too"

I wonder about this too....a desensitisation thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's about chemistry and understanding, there is pressure on a guy to perform.

Women expect that a man will be capable in bed, will achieve a strong erection, which will last. They expect he will pleasure them until they are satisfied and top it all off with a wonderful climax of his own.

If he cums too soon he is no good, if he doesn't cum soon enough he's no good.

He's got to do it exactly right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it's about chemistry and understanding, there is pressure on a guy to perform.

If he cums too soon he is no good, if he doesn't cum soon enough he's no good.

He's got to do it exactly right"
You just described the exact type of women WE NEVER WISH TO MEET!

The beauty of my experience is that the couple we meet are similar to us and very high understanding a day supportive.

A ex is about mutuality and support, not pressure and demands.

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over a year ago

"I don't mind quick cummers, get a lot of them and they always apologise but i honestly don't care. Plus is cum turns me on and they're up for more so it's all good.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Two posts on this....

Job adver: fucker needed

Must cum within the prescribed time period.

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over a year ago

"Two posts on this....

Job adver: fucker needed

Must cum within the prescribed time period."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had the condom thing kinda once when I got a delay type by mistake and literally couldn't feel anything with my cock :/

Porn and wanking can condition a person to certain things and give issues too

I wonder about this too....a desensitisation thing "
I believe There is a lot of truth in this.

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