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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

I'm not so sure.

Is there ever a happy ending?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything ends badly, else it wouldn't end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh. Love is stressful, annoying, rage enduring at times but I wouldn't swap if for anything.

Well maybe a Manhatten Penthouse

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"...loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

I'm not so sure.

Is there ever a happy ending? "

We can choose to live our lives like a rollercoaster, or like the fibreglass white swan ride.

If you choose the former, the ups have to come with downs, but god they're worth it, so don't worry OP, it will come.

Personally, give me the rollercoaster every time.

"Do one thing everyday that scares you"

Baz Luhrman.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everything ends badly, else it wouldn't end. "

So very true. x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No, it can end well. Sad, still painful but without the rage as you know why you have ended it.

Ups and downs are part of life.

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By *wosWoman
over a year ago

east london

The lost bit's hell.... but I wouldn't change the rollercoaster ride for anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I loved,I lost. I wouldn't have it any other way. It hasn't ended as bad as some marriages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The saying goes "A happy ending is just a story that hasn't ended yet"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone wants to fall in love. But I think more people are in love with the theory of love. If you're looking in from the outside, it looks so beautiful. On the inside, it's scary because it can take over your life. It's the strongest emotion but also the darkest. It can put you on a high for days, but it can wrap an anchor around your feet and drown you in less than a minute."

Calia Read.

That quote sums it up for me...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A slight extension then...

Can you love somebody (non-family), unconditionally and without commitment? Assumming they love you back in the same way. Is that even possible?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A slight extension then...

Can you love somebody (non-family), unconditionally and without commitment? Assumming they love you back in the same way. Is that even possible? "

In my opinion it's a rare person who can love a non family member completely unconditionally, there is always some compromise to be made. Unconditional love without commitment? Can you expand on that a bit?

Love doesn't have to be painful unless you want it to.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"A slight extension then...

Can you love somebody (non-family), unconditionally and without commitment? Assumming they love you back in the same way. Is that even possible? "

It's possible but not probable. The conditionality will be that you will always be checking with each other that no one is breaking the other conditions (the agreement/rules). That's a relationship and it has conditions.

Even when we say we love family unconditionally it doesn't mean we will accept all behaviours and not place conditions on those.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


""Everyone wants to fall in love. But I think more people are in love with the theory of love. If you're looking in from the outside, it looks so beautiful. On the inside, it's scary because it can take over your life. It's the strongest emotion but also the darkest. It can put you on a high for days, but it can wrap an anchor around your feet and drown you in less than a minute."

Calia Read.

That quote sums it up for me..."

Good quote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Everyone wants to fall in love. But I think more people are in love with the theory of love. If you're looking in from the outside, it looks so beautiful. On the inside, it's scary because it can take over your life. It's the strongest emotion but also the darkest. It can put you on a high for days, but it can wrap an anchor around your feet and drown you in less than a minute."

Calia Read.

That quote sums it up for me..."

So true but when there is that spark with some one so very special , isn't it worth the heart ache .

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"A slight extension then...

Can you love somebody (non-family), unconditionally and without commitment? Assumming they love you back in the same way. Is that even possible? "

Isn't that friendship?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"A slight extension then...

Can you love somebody (non-family), unconditionally and without commitment? Assumming they love you back in the same way. Is that even possible? "

Isn't that almost the definition of 'first love'? That intense, blind emotion, when your heart's on fire and the smoke gets...

I think after that particular rollercoaster-ride, once we have picked ourselves out of the wreckage, we learn to engage the safety bar the next time. That's where a certain degree of conditionality creeps in, I think.

Are you ok OP? You sound like you need someone to talk to.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have another little gem...

Although love is notoriously difficult to define, psychologist Dr Barbara Fredrickson describes it as “a biological wave of good feeling and mutual care that rolls through two or more brains and bodies at once”. It’s a decent attempt to explain such an elusive sensation. Love does feel good, and fluid, and caring, and all encompassing. But “feeling” love can also be very, very, frightening because when you allow yourself to love someone, you are, at the same time, exposing yourself to the very real risk of being hurt, or rejected.

Certainly thought provoking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you ok OP?"

Actually I am. For once

I know what I want, and how it'll be achieved.

Fascinating to hear peoples views, thoughts and quotes about love. Such an emotive subject, and everyone has an experience and therefore an invaluable opinion.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Are you ok OP?

Actually I am. For once

I know what I want, and how it'll be achieved.

Fascinating to hear peoples views, thoughts and quotes about love. Such an emotive subject, and everyone has an experience and therefore an invaluable opinion."

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire


"Meh. Love is stressful, annoying, rage enduring at times but I wouldn't swap if for anything.

Well maybe a Manhatten Penthouse"

Agree!!

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