FabSwingers.com forum: Should you stay or should you go ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're slowly walking to meet up with the person you've been talking to for weeks.

You turn the corner and see the person but they do not see you.

That person is skinnier or bigger than the pictures you've seen. It doesn't matter, something's not right about this person.

Do you turn around and leave him/her standing or continue on with the meet up ?

Let's see who has a heart and who doesn't :D

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By *urvybrunette91Woman
over a year ago

tidworth

Continue with the meet... But turn it in to a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've nothing to lose by going for a drink with this person.

It takes a special kind of Cnut to just leave someone hanging like that. What a horrible thing to do or to have done to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Continue. As long as their personality is the same then you can still have a laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've nothing to lose by going for a drink with this person.

It takes a special kind of Cnut to just leave someone hanging like that. What a horrible thing to do or to have done to you."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show them some respect, they have made the effort to turn up, have a chat and see how it goes, manners cost nothing.

But if I am definitely sure that they haven't seen me, I might be tempted to

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am an adult so I would have a conversation with them, I would tell them the reason why I would not be taking the meet further. I would do so in a sensitive and pleasant manner.

If they still fancied a coffee or drink, cool.

I don't shy away for being honest, I have evolved as a swinger over the years and I do things for me, not others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Continue with the meet , it might be a pleasant surprise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would still meet her and fuck her, cos its casual sex = any hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would still meet her and fuck her, cos its casual sex = any hole

Aww bless ya Shag, so thoughtful of you

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

would still meet for a drink but maybe leave it at a social

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I am an adult so I would have a conversation with them, I would tell them the reason why I would not be taking the meet further. I would do so in a sensitive and pleasant manner.

If they still fancied a coffee or drink, cool.

I don't shy away for being honest, I have evolved as a swinger over the years and I do things for me, not others."

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

If I go there will be trouble...Can't get the song out of my head. Would stay and have a drink then be honest and explain I am not taking the meet further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would still meet her and fuck her, cos its casual sex = any hole

Aww bless ya Shag, so thoughtful of you

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Thanks cos that's the kind of guy I am, give everyone a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you were lied to. The person has misrepresented themselves.

Why wouldn't you be justified to just keep walking on? What right does the other person have, having disrespected you by lying?

Obviously the other person has no heart, they are lying to you to get a meet.

(This is my devils advocate post!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had loads of hot chocolates with people I have no intention of taking things any further after seeing them in the flesh. It's why I insist on a coffee social first.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldnt just walk away ,still have a cuppa and chat just maybe thats all.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Fuck the coffee, I'd drag 'em to the pub. They might look drop dead gorgeous after half a dozen pints

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some very honourable people but one or two heartless ones.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Continue. If I like the person I've been talking to I'd like to do so in real life. Unless they've pulled a Cyrano de Bergerac on me. Then I've got issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck the coffee, I'd drag 'em to the pub. They might look drop dead gorgeous after half a dozen pints

Post of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had loads of hot chocolates with people I have no intention of taking things any further after seeing them in the flesh. It's why I insist on a coffee social first. "

Snap x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy 18 months ago at a hotel bar. He wasn't as handsome in the flesh but after a few drinks we ended up in bed anyway. Turned out to be the best sex I've had, met up every Friday fot around 4 months, shame I had to fuck up

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"If I go there will be trouble...Can't get the song out of my head. Would stay and have a drink then be honest and explain I am not taking the meet further."

I've actually done this... Some have been a good laugh, some have been strained, but glad I was honest everytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, of course stay, you've come this far, its only fair to be civil and have a nice wee conversation over a drink. No harm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would just be a social anyway so I would carry on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never walked away, sat bored shitless in a pub on occasions wanting to go home as they really weren't for me but it wouldn't cross my mind to stay in the car and drive off and I only meet socially first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" It doesn't matter, something's not right about this person.

I'd walk away.

If something doesn't feel right, I walk the fuck away.

Whenever I ignore my gut instinct it bites me in the ass. Every. Single. Time.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"You're slowly walking to meet up with the person you've been talking to for weeks.

You turn the corner and see the person but they do not see you.

That person is skinnier or bigger than the pictures you've seen. It doesn't matter, something's not right about this person.

Do you turn around and leave him/her standing or continue on with the meet up ?

Let's see who has a heart and who doesn't :D

Continue....We would stay for a drink and chat and then politely be on our way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the majority of people will post the pictures they are happiest with, or in some cases despise the least.

If they have had the good grace to turn up, the very least you can do is go and speak to them. Even if it is to say, sorry but I can't stay.

Although that would be a lie, surely better than being a timewaster yourself.

How would you feel if that happened to you?

No meet is guaranteed to end in sex.

What if they booked a hotel, time off work, paid for a babysitter/dog sitter etc?

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago

Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14

Continue on, have a drink together. Who knows they might be just thinking the same about yourself!!! ( Although not me, I'm always truithful

all ripped 6'7, hung like a mammoth and certificated in the karma sutra, me )

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

would continue to have the meet with them and see how it goes from there

as there looks or size isnt the important thing with me but there personality and attitude is, even though your both going to be nervous with meeting each other

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