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By *ustsomedude83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

I'm not that shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it when they have verifications from parties where the girl is paid to be there. That's about all though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

So that's why people aren't showing the verifications we leave

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Why would it? I'm not shagging those people. I'm sure people could think the same of me. Not everyone finds the same things attractive!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Odds bodkins, I'm meeting the profile holder, not their previous meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So that's why people aren't showing the verifications we leave "

No one shows my verifications. Worrying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt it because if that was the case hardly anyone would have any verifications and a lot of us do get desperate at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you mean could we be put off by someone they've met. Yes, we could. We're shallow, yet deep at the same time. Mysterious like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. "

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

Your the one deciding the person leaving the veri is a minger by your standards, this says more about you, than the person recieving the veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mingers?

I'd imagine the person who met them didn't think they were a minger as you so eloquently put it. Some people's ugly is anothers attractive. I never really look at veris, I like to make my own mind up about a person. Who they've met before is of no concern to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against! "

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

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By *ustsomedude83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?

If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive? "

I'd be happy just to get veris! Merely putting the question out there

Must say I've not so much been put off, but I have looked at a person's page that I've messaged and not received a reply from, checked the veris and thought "I can't be worse looking than him, surely!?"

Fab can dent the ego somewhat at times!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?

If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive?

I'd be happy just to get veris! Merely putting the question out there

Must say I've not so much been put off, but I have looked at a person's page that I've messaged and not received a reply from, checked the veris and thought "I can't be worse looking than him, surely!?"

Fab can dent the ego somewhat at times!"

There you go, you hit the nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over "

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

absolutely not, beauties is in the eye and all that, all because I don't find someone attractive that does not mean the person who has their verification does not and who am.i to judge others on who they like

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?

If you're worried....how about only meeting people you actually find attractive?

I'd be happy just to get veris! Merely putting the question out there

Must say I've not so much been put off, but I have looked at a person's page that I've messaged and not received a reply from, checked the veris and thought "I can't be worse looking than him, surely!?"

Fab can dent the ego somewhat at times!"

Some peoples egos need denting.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate. "

Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties!

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By *he Stuff Of LegendMan
over a year ago

Hadfield


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

It does for most people we all have standards we like people who have similar standards to our own. If you don't meet mingers you are unlikely to meet someone who does. Some will say different though as people try to be politicaly correct about things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A minger to you may be Lady Godiva to someone else. I would display a verification from you OP and sod the consequences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks wise, if i had doubts about meeting someone and wasn't sure about meeting them then yeah that would be an excuse not to.

Otherwise if i was already happy to meet them then it wouldn't put me off just coz they met a minger, i understand that looks aren't everything for everyone.

IQ wise, i dunno. Not like i'm looking for conversation with everyone coz i can get that if i just get off my laptop here lol, often i just want a good fuck and just looking for that.

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By *ustsomedude83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"A minger to you may be Lady Godiva to someone else. I would display a verification from you OP and sod the consequences "

Mother Teresa lives on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The veri system lost all credibility when i sat on my sofa with a lass i was showing how to set up her profile on here (in between play) and was shocked to see within 20 mins a guy offered her a veri on the promise she would meet him next day for sex! He said it will add cred to her profile!!! She deleted . Hence i no longer collect veris theyve no value in my eyes. Oh and this isnt my first time on here 5th actually and calling members mingers is out of order!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.

Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "

Our minds our weirdly wired. I hate how I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The veris i don't like are these cheesy ones. How they go on about how special someone is to them or they try to drill the fact that she's pretty.

It doesn't matter to me who the veris are from. I'm not fucking the individuals who has given the veris.

Majority of my veris are from all sorts of socials and non sexual meets. People may get the wrong end of the stick when they see me with so many veris. But, i'm not fussed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In many pics people are using filters and taking them from a convenient angle anyway, so what looks like a good body may not be in reality.

Now what we're you saying about me being delicate, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Verifications from certain people do put others off in some circumstances,ive seen it first hand

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.

Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "

A total hottie does not necessarily a good shag make.

Just saying...

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

The verifications I have say we should have gone to specsavers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I best not leave any veris. Wouldn't want to ruin anyone's chances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all my veris are from grotesquely revolting looking people,quite vile creatures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thing people see things different here .. as be no nice ones left ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against! "

I need to see fatter, older, more ugly people on someones veri list befoe I'll consider a coffee even. Only my take on past veris though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't like it when they have verifications from parties where the girl is paid to be there. That's about all though. "

They are the type of men I try to avoid. I don't like the mindset behind it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all my veris are from grotesquely revolting looking people,quite vile creatures "

Scooooooose me! I am not a bloody creature thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So that's why people aren't showing the verifications we leave "

Awwww bless..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A minger to you may be Lady Godiva to someone else. I would display a verification from you OP and sod the consequences

Mother Teresa lives on! "

You still would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.

Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties!

A total hottie does not necessarily a good shag make.

Just saying..."

What about confidence, mental attraction, that certain swagger and an utterly filthy nature? I put much more stock in that than a few photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IQ? Really?

Wtf!

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Odds bodkins, I'm meeting the profile holder, not their previous meets "

...and that's why I don't pay veris too much attention.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.

Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "

I was thinking the same thing!

People's reasoning constantly amazes me. I guess that's what makes Fabs a fun and frustrating place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol "
stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here ..

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

What's too many ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the veris, I don't read their profiles ?

Some people eh

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By *hoe_nixCouple
over a year ago

leeds

I passed on a 54year old bloke, who realy was lovely to chat to, because his previous veri was from a 22 year old and that just didn't sit right with me

Better to pass because of a veri than meet up and let him see my wrinkles and flabby bits

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol "

Always a voice of reason shag, living up to your name

Shouldn't you be on the other thread that said male(s) will shag anything including a male grouse shagging pile of manure..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. "
Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about

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By *ustsomedude83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"IQ? Really?

Wtf!"

Deh is alredi ppl tht wnt meet u if u tlk wiv txt spk, innit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol

Always a voice of reason shag, living up to your name

Shouldn't you be on the other thread that said male(s) will shag anything including a male grouse shagging pile of manure.. "
Thanks yes I do there lol, yes I will check the other thread as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To display or not to display ?

Being honest , there is a criteria when choosing what to show - sometimes the age , looks , reputation and so on .

And sometimes what we are looking for as what we show could make that easier .

And the age old how many to show ......

Oh decisions , decisions ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about "
so your not looking for the love of your life here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the only time a veri has put us off a profile, was because we knew the couple who'd left the veri and it would have felt a bit incestuous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe this is horrible but I can get put off by some verifications... I think we all can, some just don't admit it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about so your not looking for the love of your life here . "
lol no, prefer one offs cos bodybuilding and weight training is priority plus got no time for it as well, how about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about so your not looking for the love of your life here . lol no, prefer one offs cos bodybuilding and weight training is priority plus got no time for it as well, how about you? "
well I like to mix it up at times .. x But working out I like to do in the bed room .

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By *ustsomedude83 OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Maybe this is horrible but I can get put off by some verifications... I think we all can, some just don't admit it! "

I read that as 'Can get off to some verifications'

Not seen any that good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't as its just a fuck lol stag you do have a very black and white way of looking at life reading you post here .. Thanks yes cos that's what casual sex is about so your not looking for the love of your life here . lol no, prefer one offs cos bodybuilding and weight training is priority plus got no time for it as well, how about you? well I like to mix it up at times .. x But working out I like to do in the bed room . "
YEs that's good to workout in the bedroom as well, can burn loads there lol and fun activity too

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate. "

Me too. Hence why I tend not to read them, never ask for them and only write them if asked to. And I try not to write anything specific about what they look like or what we got up to, since my experience has no bearing on anyone else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who receives a veri should be flattered and appreciative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we meet the profile holders not their verifiers -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same.

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Yep, always quality not quantity for me

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By *pex69Man
over a year ago

Somewhere

very very important to me. I go for quality and only the hottest

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I can't say I get worried about previous verifications thry could of met cindy Crawford it doesn't mean I feel any less worthy of a meet..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never read veris anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. "

I think people are just the same as they ever were but the Internet has changed how swinging works. Sites like Fab provide more choice than ever, but with more choice comes more noise and, inevitably, more selection.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. "
well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same. "

Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

Yes yes yes immediate put off

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"I can't say I get worried about previous verifications they could of met cindy Crawford it doesn't mean I feel any less worthy of a meet.."

This. Being attractive doesn't automatically make you good in bed and I'm not that insecure that I won't meet men who've met women thinner or generically "better looking" than myself.

As for judging potential meets on their veris... Looks play no part what-so-ever. I MAY be put off by veris from people who are serial barebackers though...

- Amy. x

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"I don't like it when they have verifications from parties where the girl is paid to be there. That's about all though.

They are the type of men I try to avoid. I don't like the mindset behind it "

I've met a few guys who have asked me not to verify them because I work at a sex club and they are scared it will put others off meeting them if they know they have met me

Because obviously cause I work in a club I'm a dirty dripping whore who will contaminate the whole swinging scene

When actually I'm just a normal person and actually rather nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same.

Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. "

If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odds bodkins, I'm meeting the profile holder, not their previous meets "

Precisely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"IQ? Really?

Wtf!

Deh is alredi ppl tht wnt meet u if u tlk wiv txt spk, innit?"

Lol exactly this! I couldn't possibly find a person attractive if they spoke like that. How on earth is that kind of talk a turn on!? . And yes I do like talking to the person I choose to meet. So chav talk isn't sexually appealing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better. "

If a guy has veris from someone younger, slimmer and very pretty, they won't want a fat moose like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same.

Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach. "

Agree with you. I'm not here for the swinging. I'm here for the FAB part...Friends And Benefits. Which is why I'm more choosy who I pick to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet with someone off here its because I like them. I don't care what u think of them its about me my preference and if I like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't know because I never read verifications but my own!!!!

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over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

If a guy has veris from someone younger, slimmer and very pretty, they won't want a fat moose like me "

Yes they will,if you talk to them you will find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is where meeting at clubs comes into play - we have read the profiles of some people we have met at clubs - all lovely and playworthy but if we had read the profile we would have passed them by

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

No as we aren't looking to meet their verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there's definitely a few people I've been put off meeting because of who else they've met. I'm not going into specifics but its nothing to do with their supposed IQ levels.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.

Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties!

Our minds our weirdly wired. I hate how I feel "

When you friend requested me, I was smiling like the Cheshire cat! Couldn't believe it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I deselect people for a variety of reasons, how they conduct themselves and who they associate with may very well play a part in that.

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over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against!

I feel the same.

"Let me check out her veri's. Oh that guy looks good and he has a great body. He looks strong and she has said great things about his bedroom antics...looks like I'll move on"

Me all over

That's why I don't like the verification system....I know they're all bullshit really but somehow I still allow myself to feel inadequate.

Isn't human nature astonishing - this from two total hotties! "

Was just thinking the same thing!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I deselect people for a variety of reasons, how they conduct themselves and who they associate with may very well play a part in that.

"

and I never give the fact that others may deselect me a second thought.

it's cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same.

Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach.

If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking. "

My comment was not about screwing everyone you meet just because they are there. Thats a ridiculous notion, unless that what you like doing.

There are always preferences and the right to choose. But in recent years there are elitist attitudes running through the scene. People who believe they are better than others; or where others are not 'worthy' because of a perception of low IQ, or low income or any other social status.

The politics of sexual attraction are always complex, but elitism is just plain ugly IMHO.

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By *pex69Man
over a year ago

Somewhere


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

If a guy has veris from someone younger, slimmer and very pretty, they won't want a fat moose like me "

not true necessarily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same.

Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach.

If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking.

My comment was not about screwing everyone you meet just because they are there. Thats a ridiculous notion, unless that what you like doing.

There are always preferences and the right to choose. But in recent years there are elitist attitudes running through the scene. People who believe they are better than others; or where others are not 'worthy' because of a perception of low IQ, or low income or any other social status.

The politics of sexual attraction are always complex, but elitism is just plain ugly IMHO. "

Fair enough. I make no apologies for taking what could he described as an elitist approach. Do I think I'm better than someone whose status is 'need my dik suk now'? Yeah, pretty much.

Elite means different things to different people; I wouldn't pass the physical criteria for the likes of the self-proclaimed 'elite' stuff like Killing Kittens, nor would I particularly want to. But I do have a level of snobbery about intelligence, however you choose to measure that.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Why does not finding a particular characteristic attractive automatically have to equate to thinking oneself better than those with that characteristic, or snobbishness and elitism?

I'm attracted to who and what I'm attracted to. That's no judgement on whether I'm "better" than anyone else. I just do/don't find something attractive.

I don't fancy fat men. As a fat woman I can hardly consider myself "better" than them. However, nor do I think I have to meet fat men because fat people should be forced to meet other fat people. I don't fancy them, that's all there is to it. I probably wouldn't meet myself either. Perhaps I consider myself better than myself...

On the original subject of the OP, I'm with Tina. I'm potentially meeting the person with the profile, not the people that have verified them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be devastated if someone stopped getting meets just because I verified them

even more so if the person then hid my veri...

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat! "

Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odds bodkins, I'm meeting the profile holder, not their previous meets "

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"We've had the discussion about whether having a lot of verifications can put a person off, but what if someone has not too many, not too few....but...some of the people who left them arn't really up to your standards...either phsyically or IQ wise....would it put you off?"

Why it's people they have slept with. They don't have to be to *your* taste.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat!

Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not!"

Yeah, particularly when I go for chemistry and personality over perceived physical attractiveness ever time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat!

Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not!

Yeah, particularly when I go for chemistry and personality over perceived physical attractiveness ever time! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've hidden all my veri's after someone requested a meet and upon being turned down declared himself more attractive than someone who had verified me, so naturally I should meet him. Cocky twat!

Oh that attitude will get him a meet for sure, not!

Yeah, particularly when I go for chemistry and personality over perceived physical attractiveness ever time! "

Me too. A guy could be the best looking bloke I'd ever seen but if he said that to me he'd suddenly become very unattractive and be blocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time was, swinging was fun. It was a somewhat social hobby. You'd meet folk, chat , talk, get on, get 'it' on.

Nowadays, its becoming almost a shadowy, tactical game. People re_iewing verifications, verifications of verificiations. Territorial behaviors. Overall, a feeling of elitism has crept into things when I read posts like this.

It used to be about great sex with like minded people. Somehow, this idea that the way you write, the people you have met, or the lengths you're willing to go to, have become more important than he fact that you're a decent rational human being who shags like a minx.

Its sad. The scene has lost so much of the carefree spirit and the knowledge that when you're as naked as everyone else, we're all the bloody same.

Well a lot of people on here (and I'm most certainly referring to myself) aren't swingers by your definition. I AM selective and elitist and choosy. I'm not an arsehole with it, and I don't expect anyone to jump through hoops, use tactics or get territorial, but I don't particularly have a carefree attitude to who I have sex with. Back in the day, when sites like this didn't exist, neither would people like me. I still think there's a place for everyone's approach.

If the pool is small,so will be the selection. I couldn't imagine turning up to a house party and always finding someone I wanted to have sex with,out of a handful of people. I imagine that back then people weren't as selective because of lack of choice. I wouldn't have been one of those partaking.

My comment was not about screwing everyone you meet just because they are there. Thats a ridiculous notion, unless that what you like doing.

There are always preferences and the right to choose. But in recent years there are elitist attitudes running through the scene. People who believe they are better than others; or where others are not 'worthy' because of a perception of low IQ, or low income or any other social status.

The politics of sexual attraction are always complex, but elitism is just plain ugly IMHO.

Fair enough. I make no apologies for taking what could he described as an elitist approach. Do I think I'm better than someone whose status is 'need my dik suk now'? Yeah, pretty much.

Elite means different things to different people; I wouldn't pass the physical criteria for the likes of the self-proclaimed 'elite' stuff like Killing Kittens, nor would I particularly want to. But I do have a level of snobbery about intelligence, however you choose to measure that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it when a guy has veris from people that are uglier than me or fatter Etc. It makes me feel sooo much better.

This is true I get more put off by veris from people I'm going to compare badly against! "

Least I know its not just me who feels that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a veri???

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