FabSwingers.com forum: FACEBOOK ETIQUETTE

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One thing that's always fascinated me is the behaviour of heterosexual females on social networking sites (such as Facebook, for example).

I've noticed how a straight woman will compliment another straight woman's photo by saying "Oh my God, you're gorgeous!/stunning!/beautiful!", yet when a guy uploads a new photo, it either gets ignored or gets comments like "Vain!" or "Poser!". However, when the roles are reversed, men are more than willing to compliment a woman in her pictures.

So my question is why do women make a point of complimenting other women, but seldom do the same for men? Do they assume men have enormous egos and therefore refuse to compliment as some kind of statement? Is it because they look down on men? Or is it simply because they find men plain unattractive to look at?

Bash away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because they look down on men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

I compliment people regardless of gender or sexuality

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quick example - I uploaded a new picture recently, it got three likes. My sister uploaded a new picture recently, it got 75 likes.

This argument could also apply to Fab, I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it"

Apart from the fact occasionally both genders mean the compliment or this insult....generally this!

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's a huge generalisation. I compliment male and female equally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually because you can compliment a woman and she takes it at that, just a nice compliment. You say something complimentary to a guy though and he, his girlfriend and the cat all think you fancy him and assume you want to jump his bones...much easier to just not bother sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it really about?

Do you want us to Like your new picture on Facebook?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It's because they look down on men."

Especially the tall ones on short men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes if a woman likes a mans pics, the man automatically thinks the woman fancies him.

not always the way of course, just a nice pic.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't comment on anyone's pictures with 'beautiful/gorgeous' etc! Male or female!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What interests me is that there may be a psychological element to it also. For example, women see most other women as self-conscious, therefore they compliment them to raise self-esteem, whereas women see most men as confident, therefore they don't bother.

I personally couldn't give a shit. If I knew someone with a massive ego, but was still attractive, I would still compliment them. If it's all about aesthetics, then ego should not be a factor.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

"Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it"

Love this answer

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

"Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it"

So close to the truth it's scarey lol

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By *exy hot wife 84Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

I think its just you! Whenever i change my fb pic i get lots of likes and compliments! Btw, I'm the male half of this profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What interests me is that there may be a psychological element to it also. For example, women see most other women as self-conscious, therefore they compliment them to raise self-esteem, whereas women see most men as confident, therefore they don't bother.

I personally couldn't give a shit. If I knew someone with a massive ego, but was still attractive, I would still compliment them. If it's all about aesthetics, then ego should not be a factor."

But so obviously is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FACEBOOK ETIQUETTE - A 21st Century oxymoron.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it"

This exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally couldn't give a shit. If I knew someone with a massive ego, but was still attractive, I would still compliment them. If it's all about aesthetics, then ego should not be a factor."

No. I know some women with massive egos, but they're my friends and if I think they look good I tell them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it really about?

Do you want us to Like your new picture on Facebook? "

lmao!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do you think they are bi sexual or maybe they think if they compliment a man it means they fancy them. I compliment men if they are wearing nice clothes. it maybe true that women lie to other women because I have noticed they tell their friends they look nice when they don't look all that good to me. my hubby said its just good manners, I say its lying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I notice women saying "I compliment both sexes", but is it equal? Or do you call women 'gorgeous' and men 'nice'? I sense restraint when it comes to complimenting men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do men compliment each other " aww you look gorgeous tonight"

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there's different social rules for women vs men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I notice women saying "I compliment both sexes", but is it equal? Or do you call women 'gorgeous' and men 'nice'? I sense restraint when it comes to complimenting men."

don't think I know any gorgeous men or women. i might think they look gorgeous but nice means the same thing to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If I think a man is gorgeous I'll tell him

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Daliso Chaponda does a good routine on this, picturing the different conversations between a lass telling a friend she is retaining water and a guy telling his mate the same. One involves sympathy, the other laughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I complimented people on social media I would do it equally. However uploading the pic in the first place shows they think it's great so I have no need to comment what they already know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I compliment people regardless of gender and whether I want to shag them. My male friends are comfortable enough to take a compliment without thinking I'm banging one out over them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems once people starting analysing (is that how you spell it ) the world people stopped enjoying themsleves.

Liven up people and just get on with life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it"

Couldn't of put it better myself. Brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's because they look down on men."

Totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing about facebook is I do not and will not use it people have lost ability to talk in person anymore if you chat on facebook to say family or neighbours why not just make effort see and talk in person a blight on society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see any of this on my Facebook feed. I only have close friends and family maybe they are nicer than yours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best thing about facebook is I do not and will not use it people have lost ability to talk in person anymore if you chat on facebook to say family or neighbours why not just make effort see and talk in person a blight on society."

All my family live nearly 300 miles away.

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I opened the door to the electrician last week. First thing I said was.. You're a really good looking boy. He stood with a goldfish look then smiled.

Compliments in the real world are far and few in this day and age so most people think there's a hidden agenda

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Anyone thats monitoring the stats behind their own facebook posts, comparing their stuff & posts with others probably needs to log off facebook for a while and get back to normality. There is life outside of facebook and the touch screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone thats monitoring the stats behind their own facebook posts, comparing their stuff & posts with others probably needs to log off facebook for a while and get back to normality. There is life outside of facebook and the touch screen

"
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Can you make your profile pic public please,I want to enlarge it. Looks like it could be a good one worth dribbling over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

However uploading the pic in the first place shows they think it's great so I have no need to comment what they already know. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get complimented,its always "your too old",.......lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because there's different social rules for women vs men.

This^^

Women are ornaments and decorations for people to look at, we've been brought up to be pretty, caring, and stay in our place.

Men are providers, givers, and slaves to employment (being used).

The lines are blurring though, one day men will be pretty too and love being patronised, and women will enjoy their place in being used. Has happpened already for plenty of people i'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

facebook also has some value as a time management tool.

in the past i have invested a great deal of time in getting to know people only to discover their natural aptitude for being a c**t, now i can save time by visiting their facebook page.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it"

This may be a valid point. Most of my mates are male. I will take the piss out of them mercilessly when the occasional warrants and vice versa but (and I have only really paid attention to it as a result of this thread) they are invariably complimentary on social media pic comments and only take the piss when we're face to face but will comment horrendously on each other all over Farcebook. None of them are ever rude about each other's girlfriends, wives and kids though. Hmm. You have me pondering now.

(I like a good ponder. Cheers!)

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I won't compliment anyone if I don't mean it, male or female.

I also only have people I actually know on FB so I don't expect that any of them would take a compliment in anything other than the way it's intended.

I'll never understand why people have a billion friends 99% of those they haven't met, are never likely to meet and probably never even converse with them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Quick example - I uploaded a new picture recently, it got three likes. My sister uploaded a new picture recently, it got 75 likes.

This argument could also apply to Fab, I think. "

I feel you need some counselling for your like addiction/obsession

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus Christ, you use Facebook? How horrifying.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Quick example - I uploaded a new picture recently, it got three likes. My sister uploaded a new picture recently, it got 75 likes.

This argument could also apply to Fab, I think. "

Was she doing the 'duck face'? Or pointing at her chin, other examples do exist.

This isnt at all personal to you or your sister OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Quick example - I uploaded a new picture recently, it got three likes. My sister uploaded a new picture recently, it got 75 likes.

This argument could also apply to Fab, I think.

Was she doing the 'duck face'? Or pointing at her chin, other examples do exist.

This isnt at all personal to you or your sister OP"

She was doing the 'I look like I've got a hot chip in my mouth' face.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Quick example - I uploaded a new picture recently, it got three likes. My sister uploaded a new picture recently, it got 75 likes.

This argument could also apply to Fab, I think.

Was she doing the 'duck face'? Or pointing at her chin, other examples do exist.

This isnt at all personal to you or your sister OP

She was doing the 'I look like I've got a hot chip in my mouth' face. "

That may well have something to do with it.

But I feel more than likely it's because we are blokes and thats about it.

There was some research results out last year I think about how 'likes' to affect people, again, the majority who said 'yes, it is important to them' were females.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I personally couldn't give a shit. If I knew someone with a massive ego, but was still attractive, I would still compliment them. If it's all about aesthetics, then ego should not be a factor."

I am like some other posters in that most of my friend are male and I take the piss all the time. I do not stroke bleating egos at all but I am more likely to compliment a male pic I think. I only comment on female friends pics if they are exceptional but have no problem saying so then. I will never 'flatter to deceive', I despise it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should look at my newsfeed amongst my friends. Guys upload pictures of themselves in the gym and all the guys compliment each other, its quite sweet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men socialise by insulting each other

But don't really mean it

Women socialise by complimenting each other

But don't really mean it"

Couldnt agree more

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