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By *aeBabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

In my line of work I deal with sick people and a fair amount of them are elderly and I have the patience to handle situations. On my way home today an elderly lady was walking ahead of me and entered first into our building entrance, I ran up to hold the door for her and said "thank you", she proceeded to turn and look at me I smiled and she just kept staring at me. It got to an awkward silence and I thought she was wondering if I lived here, I was about to say " oh I live upstairs", but before I could she said "thank you?" And I looked at her confused and said thank you again. She continued to walk ahead and before she went through her door said "You have no manners!"

I was firstly shocked then got a little mad and when I got to my flat I was a little tearful.

I don't understand why that affected me so much..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my line of work I deal with sick people and a fair amount of them are elderly and I have the patience to handle situations. On my way home today an elderly lady was walking ahead of me and entered first into our building entrance, I ran up to hold the door for her and said "thank you", she proceeded to turn and look at me I smiled and she just kept staring at me. It got to an awkward silence and I thought she was wondering if I lived here, I was about to say " oh I live upstairs", but before I could she said "thank you?" And I looked at her confused and said thank you again. She continued to walk ahead and before she went through her door said "You have no manners!"

I was firstly shocked then got a little mad and when I got to my flat I was a little tearful.

I don't understand why that affected me so much.. "

Aw bless don't take it to heart . Sounds like your a kind and caring person. Just put some music on have a brew and think happy thoughts of all the people you have helped today

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

im confused ...why did she say you have no manners ?

could you possibly have misheard her ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've read that a few times and am confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe she was deaf or gets confused, because she is elderly?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I bet she didn't hear your first thank you since it was before she turned. But you know you said it so don't fret (easier said than done, I totally get why you're affected; I hate it when people get the wrong end of the stick about me or something I've said/done and it's so frustrating when you know that trying to put it right will only make things worse).

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe she was a little deaf and didn't hear you say Thankyou

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By *aeBabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

I'm thinking she may not have heard me say thank you the first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe she was taking the 'thank you' you spoke as a she should be saying it as you were the one holding open the door - like you tell a child - now what do you say --- just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm thinking she may not have heard me say thank you the first time "

I think this was the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But even if she was deaf surely she'd have realised that the OP was holding the door for her?

OP I wouldn't take it to heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't dwell on it. Elderly people don't always know what's going on or mean what they are saying. As others said she may not have heard you or could be a little confused

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By *aeBabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"I bet she didn't hear your first thank you since it was before she turned. But you know you said it so don't fret (easier said than done, I totally get why you're affected; I hate it when people get the wrong end of the stick about me or something I've said/done and it's so frustrating when you know that trying to put it right will only make things worse)."

Yeah I totally feel the same way. I thought I was being respetful already. Apparently it's not enough for some. Ah I guess we just have to be more patient with the elderly.

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By *ediceTV/TS
over a year ago

Wrexham

Maybe she misunderstood, thought you were barging past, and she was opening the door for 'you'?

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

your also forgetting short term memory or forgetfulness and another is Alzheimer's

with age

so dont take it to heart for a good dead that you did

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

She may not have heard you say thank you and just misunderstood. I wouldn't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she might not have appreciated having the door held open for her and thought you was treating her like she's not capable?

don't be sad about it, you was just being kind and aren't gonna know what's going on in her head unless she tells you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your also forgetting short term memory or forgetfulness and another is Alzheimer's

with age

so dont take it to heart for a good dead that you did "

Dead ? Is the op the grim reaper lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my line of work I deal with sick people and a fair amount of them are elderly and I have the patience to handle situations. On my way home today an elderly lady was walking ahead of me and entered first into our building entrance, I ran up to hold the door for her and said "thank you", she proceeded to turn and look at me I smiled and she just kept staring at me. It got to an awkward silence and I thought she was wondering if I lived here, I was about to say " oh I live upstairs", but before I could she said "thank you?" And I looked at her confused and said thank you again. She continued to walk ahead and before she went through her door said "You have no manners!"

I was firstly shocked then got a little mad and when I got to my flat I was a little tearful.

I don't understand why that affected me so much.. "

Maybe she is a little senile or has dementia I'm sure she didn't mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's probably dead as a post love which is why she was staring at you, she was probably looking to lip read your thank you but you had already said it when she wasn't looking. Take her a little box of chocolates and get to know her, she'll soon change her tune and you'll probably get to the bottom of what happened x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Unless she tries to ram you with a shopping trolley next time you see her in Tesco I think its probably just a misunderstanding and I wouldnt worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She's probably dead as a post love which is why she was staring at you, she was probably looking to lip read your thank you but you had already said it when she wasn't looking. Take her a little box of chocolates and get to know her, she'll soon change her tune and you'll probably get to the bottom of what happened x"

dead as a post

Hope you feel better now OP. x

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"maybe she was taking the 'thank you' you spoke as a she should be saying it as you were the one holding open the door - like you tell a child - now what do you say --- just a thought"

My thought too if I interpreted the OP correctly.

Plus, if someone is a miserable cunt, age just makes them an old miserable cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe she was taking the 'thank you' you spoke as a she should be saying it as you were the one holding open the door - like you tell a child - now what do you say --- just a thought

My thought too if I interpreted the OP correctly.

Plus, if someone is a miserable cunt, age just makes them an old miserable cunt."

i only think this because im not sure why the OP said thanks when she was the one holding the door open - think this might have confused the lady

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"your also forgetting short term memory or forgetfulness and another is Alzheimer's

with age

so dont take it to heart for a good dead that you did "

Automatically thought dementia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my line of work I deal with sick people and a fair amount of them are elderly and I have the patience to handle situations. On my way home today an elderly lady was walking ahead of me and entered first into our building entrance, I ran up to hold the door for her and said "thank you", she proceeded to turn and look at me I smiled and she just kept staring at me. It got to an awkward silence and I thought she was wondering if I lived here, I was about to say " oh I live upstairs", but before I could she said "thank you?" And I looked at her confused and said thank you again. She continued to walk ahead and before she went through her door said "You have no manners!"

I was firstly shocked then got a little mad and when I got to my flat I was a little tearful.

I don't understand why that affected me so much.. "

If you're still affected, drop a note through her door with a little explanation. You're not at fault, but it might help you to put it out of your mind. I work with the sick and elderly too - some of them are miserable gits, just like you find in every other age group

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"maybe she was taking the 'thank you' you spoke as a she should be saying it as you were the one holding open the door - like you tell a child - now what do you say --- just a thought

My thought too if I interpreted the OP correctly.

Plus, if someone is a miserable cunt, age just makes them an old miserable cunt.

i only think this because im not sure why the OP said thanks when she was the one holding the door open - think this might have confused the lady "

Yes, if I hold open a door for someone and they don't acknowledge the courtesy I'll say "Thank you" in a sarcastic tone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She's probably dead as a post love which is why she was staring at you, she was probably looking to lip read your thank you but you had already said it when she wasn't looking. Take her a little box of chocolates and get to know her, she'll soon change her tune and you'll probably get to the bottom of what happened x

dead as a post

Hope you feel better now OP. x"

Bloody auto carrot strikes again

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"She's probably dead as a post love which is why she was staring at you, she was probably looking to lip read your thank you but you had already said it when she wasn't looking. Take her a little box of chocolates and get to know her, she'll soon change her tune and you'll probably get to the bottom of what happened x

dead as a post

Hope you feel better now OP. x

Bloody auto carrot strikes again "

Funny if you deliberately put "carrot", funnier if you didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time you see her, kick her in the shins, if she's that old, she'll never catch you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm thinking she may not have heard me say thank you the first time "
Look you know you said Thank you and that's all that matters .... don't take it to heart she may have a bit of dementia or even hard of hearing .((((BIG HUGS))))) xxxx

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By *aeBabe OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

Thank you sexy people.. I feel much better now

She might not even remember me tomorrow Lol

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