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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

Sex is what you make it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Maybe you're meeting the wrong people?

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

Too deep for me on a Monday!

I had some real pleasure the other week. But I also enjoy a simple fuck every so often.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Sorry OP, if its just a fuck... you are doing it wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep....it's just you, OP

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley


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I blame the council for turning the lights off at night to save money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's your mindset then that's all it will ever be. It's up to you to put the effort in. Just because you meet someone from here for sex doesn't mean you can't seduce them and have sensual and passionate sex

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

I agree

That's why I celebrate my sexuality

My friends a councillor for victims of sexual abuse and other friend works offering tantric massage

Sex should be truelly savoured

But sometimes a quick fuck is nice too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is what you make it, how you want it to be.

I insist on NO quickies (unless with a fb)

Most of my sexual meets have been more than just a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I blame the council for turning the lights off at night to save money."

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're definitely meeting the wrong people....

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"If that's your mindset then that's all it will ever be. It's up to you to put the effort in. Just because you meet someone from here for sex doesn't mean you can't seduce them and have sensual and passionate sex "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't "

No you aren't, I feel a bit patronized now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is different sorts of sex .. When you don't know people you don't get that loving sex . Sex comes in cheap trills and that keep you going back at times .. And with no strings its shag and go and you feel very little its boring like going to the loo at times.But when you lust a person the sex is good ... but its rear its a nice feeling you get from the sex too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're definitely meeting the wrong people...."

Maybe it is the op at fault rather than everybody he is meeting, just a thought..........

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago

Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't "

No, you're not the only person to have realised this, and it sounds a bit arrogant to assume you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like they gonna eat ya alive on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you're looking for in the 'pleasure' sense...I would much rather have a lengthy session with sensuality, passion and intimacy as opposed to a quick fuck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't

No you aren't, I feel a bit patronized now."

I'm not and wasn't patronising you... I was simply making an observation about the lack of sexual understanding (in my opinion)by some users and people I meet in every day life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on what you're looking for in the 'pleasure' sense...I would much rather have a lengthy session with sensuality, passion and intimacy as opposed to a quick fuck "
most here are looking for quick fuck .. Sound see my post box . Rear you get a person having hours and days to spend on sex .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't "

We may talk about fucking, but it's a qualitative thing - unless you're in on the action, you'll not savour the delights as we deliciously enjoy each and every moment when we're together, the tiniest caress, the delicate licking and nibbling, the pauses to enjoy ourselves at ecstatic heights, before the fuck intensifies to full on thrust and animal lust par excellence.

When someone 'fancies a fuck', then even they probably want more than inserting a peg into a hole with repetition.

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago

Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14

OP, I think your reading too much into what are most of the times on here'light hearted' posts. I'm sure if you were to read some if the fantasy posts on here, there is a lot more truth to there fiction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where has the true pleasure gone??

It hasn't, if it's with the right people

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley


"Depends on what you're looking for in the 'pleasure' sense...I would much rather have a lengthy session with sensuality, passion and intimacy as opposed to a quick fuck "

I think you're confusing duration with added value here - at the risk of being drawn in to the debate.

A "fuck" can have sensuality. It can have excitement. It can have passion. True intimacy though, I've always reckoned, comes with love. And when people you invite to play with you bring the L word into the room, things can get at best complicated - at worst downright messy.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

if that is your mindset now i'd suggest you are meeting the wrong people.....

maybe its a change in your mindset and your approach and your selection process that you should question.... not other peoples......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a hard fuck and go meet, that's pleasure for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where has the true pleasure gone??

It hasn't, if it's with the right people"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex is what you make it, how you want it to be.

I insist on NO quickies (unless with a fb)

Most of my sexual meets have been more than just a fuck. "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't

No you aren't, I feel a bit patronized now.

I'm not and wasn't patronising you... I was simply making an observation about the lack of sexual understanding (in my opinion)by some users and people I meet in every day life"
op don't let them wind you up here .............. I know what your saying ... Sex is like a dance and it takes time to know all the moves ..... with swinging until you know that person your not going to get that . It maybe is a good work out , But some are fine with that .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"I like a hard fuck and go meet, that's pleasure for me lol "

Those work too Shag, and we're camped out in Penge every night waiting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't

No you aren't, I feel a bit patronized now.

I'm not and wasn't patronising you... I was simply making an observation about the lack of sexual understanding (in my opinion)by some users and people I meet in every day lifeop don't let them wind you up here .............. I know what your saying ... Sex is like a dance and it takes time to know all the moves ..... with swinging until you know that person your not going to get that . It maybe is a good work out , But some are fine with that ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a hard fuck and go meet, that's pleasure for me lol

Those work too Shag, and we're camped out in Penge every night waiting "
Yes they do and yes don't forget to use the tents outside the camper van.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

I know what you are saying - and I agree, though of it's nature a site like this is always going to be biased towards 'heat' rather than intimacy and sensuality, in my opinion. I enjoy heat as much as the next person, but it is easy to find too much of that on here, and long for the leisurely meandering journey where there is time to truly savour. The journey becomes all, not the destination.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I know what you are saying - and I agree, though of it's nature a site like this is always going to be biased towards 'heat' rather than intimacy and sensuality, in my opinion. I enjoy heat as much as the next person, but it is easy to find too much of that on here, and long for the leisurely meandering journey where there is time to truly savour. The journey becomes all, not the destination."

Surely there must be a "middle ground " so to speak even with the heat? I mean if I am interested in "knowing" you what pleasure can you get if my introductory email to you is a sleazy one liner and a dick photo?

Yes "heat" is needed and many people like it but isn't there a middle ground so to speak or is sex limited now to just the "heat?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

Sex is what you make it. "
well said

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"If that's your mindset then that's all it will ever be. It's up to you to put the effort in. Just because you meet someone from here for sex doesn't mean you can't seduce them and have sensual and passionate sex "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meeting the wrong people, that's all.

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

It's all here in the NW )) xxx

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By *oconut2Woman
over a year ago

Nether regions of the back of beyond

I've just had some real pleasure, a Krispy Kreme Caramel Crunch Doughnut lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure Ancient civilizations and Libertines had quick fucks too,they just didn't write about it and the decadent,luxurious sex was for the rich and powerful only. Everyone has the ability to indulge in erotic pleasure,not everyone chooses to. I choose to but sometimes it can feel just like a fuck for whatever reason. Porn and extreme fetishes are widely advertised and available now;people are pushing physical limits,becoming more extreme in their tastes. There are still people who like tantric,erotic sex with sensual touch. Me being one of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure Ancient civilizations and Libertines had quick fucks too,they just didn't write about it and the decadent,luxurious sex was for the rich and powerful only. Everyone has the ability to indulge in erotic pleasure,not everyone chooses to. I choose to but sometimes it can feel just like a fuck for whatever reason. Porn and extreme fetishes are widely advertised and available now;people are pushing physical limits,becoming more extreme in their tastes. There are still people who like tantric,erotic sex with sensual touch. Me being one of them "

Well said ... Both in equal measure. You can have the erotic and push boundaries, but a one-liner "hey let's fuck" and a cock photo isn't either of the two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

Eroticism is mostly in the mind. If you're with the right person(s) there's passion, excitement and satisfaction to be found even in the quickest of quickies, as well as in the longer, more lavish scene you describe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't

No you aren't, I feel a bit patronized now.

I'm not and wasn't patronising you... I was simply making an observation about the lack of sexual understanding (in my opinion)by some users and people I meet in every day life"

Oh....you mean there definition is wrong? Oooooh get her!!!! I wasnt aware of the unwritten rules. Why dont you wtite them all down on a very small piece of paper, roll it up really tight and cram it?

Where's my handbag? Come along darling...were leaving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not into fast sex it do little for me .. as I like a lot of four-play . I am left feeling nothing ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

if this is how you are feeling perhaps you need to take time out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

if this is how you are feeling perhaps you need to take time out"
He may find it here as some are looking for more then a leg over ...... fuck and go .. most like I know.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

I honestly doubt that there was or is any culture in which every time people had sex they went through the above. Is it that you have a problem finding people here that want the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure Ancient civilizations and Libertines had quick fucks too,they just didn't write about it and the decadent,luxurious sex was for the rich and powerful only. Everyone has the ability to indulge in erotic pleasure,not everyone chooses to. I choose to but sometimes it can feel just like a fuck for whatever reason. Porn and extreme fetishes are widely advertised and available now;people are pushing physical limits,becoming more extreme in their tastes. There are still people who like tantric,erotic sex with sensual touch. Me being one of them

Well said ... Both in equal measure. You can have the erotic and push boundaries, but a one-liner "hey let's fuck" and a cock photo isn't either of the two "

You are only talking about interactions on here and from the hundreds of messages I have received on here I may have got a let's fuck with a cock pic 3 or 4 times. Maybe I'm lucky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

if this is how you are feeling perhaps you need to take time outHe may find it here as some are looking for more then a leg over ...... fuck and go .. most like I know."

Very few responders have actually read and understood what I attempted to discuss. Those I think understood I've sent a "thank you " mail. Let me give a classic example to better explain - I went to a club meet alone (my first time) as my partner was away (she knew I was going). The dress code said elegant, clean. I prepared myself and chose everything from shower gel to cologne with care. Again I wanted to enjoy the process, the seduction of it all. I arrived only to be met by "Bob the builder" type ladies and guys which made the evening not as enjoyable. Clearly many of the guests didn't shower etc so I left. My point is this - sex should be a journey - not just a "leg over" fuck and go (to quote my friend)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

if this is how you are feeling perhaps you need to take time outHe may find it here as some are looking for more then a leg over ...... fuck and go .. most like I know.

Very few responders have actually read and understood what I attempted to discuss. Those I think understood I've sent a "thank you " mail. Let me give a classic example to better explain - I went to a club meet alone (my first time) as my partner was away (she knew I was going). The dress code said elegant, clean. I prepared myself and chose everything from shower gel to cologne with care. Again I wanted to enjoy the process, the seduction of it all. I arrived only to be met by "Bob the builder" type ladies and guys which made the evening not as enjoyable. Clearly many of the guests didn't shower etc so I left. My point is this - sex should be a journey - not just a "leg over" fuck and go (to quote my friend)"

i like to think if im meeting someone for the 1st time or 4th time i would still take my time to get ready find nice underwear nice perfume and take time to look good and smell good, but yes i know what you mean OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I honestly doubt that there was or is any culture in which every time people had sex they went through the above. Is it that you have a problem finding people here that want the same?"

Actually the Egyptians would bathe in milk and spices before having sex to soften their skin. The Mediterranean cultures would spice their bath water with plant extracts (perfumes) and massage their privates to make the process more enjoyable

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I know what you are saying - and I agree, though of it's nature a site like this is always going to be biased towards 'heat' rather than intimacy and sensuality, in my opinion. I enjoy heat as much as the next person, but it is easy to find too much of that on here, and long for the leisurely meandering journey where there is time to truly savour. The journey becomes all, not the destination.

Surely there must be a "middle ground " so to speak even with the heat? I mean if I am interested in "knowing" you what pleasure can you get if my introductory email to you is a sleazy one liner and a dick photo?

Yes "heat" is needed and many people like it but isn't there a middle ground so to speak or is sex limited now to just the "heat?""

See my current status, haha, I agree about the dick pic one liners.

My own perspective is that with eg the kind of club/party sex that is popular here it is always going to be about the 'heat', and a lot of people have made a conscious decision not to 'know' at all. That may be even moreso of couples for obvious reasons.

That is their choice, but I am looking far more for sensuality and a 'knowing' experience, I like to connect at a deeper level if I can, though that makes it harder to find the right people to play with. To know and to be known is where the real journey begins for me I think, but that does take a certain kind of courage.

I think a lot of people here are enjoying something in between the two, but you have to search to find it sometimes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I honestly doubt that there was or is any culture in which every time people had sex they went through the above. Is it that you have a problem finding people here that want the same?

Actually the Egyptians would bathe in milk and spices before having sex to soften their skin. The Mediterranean cultures would spice their bath water with plant extracts (perfumes) and massage their privates to make the process more enjoyable "

Every single time? No quickies behind the pyramid bike sheds? I wasn't doubting that certain cultures had and have rituals attached to sex just that they were enacted every time. In most people's lives it is only possible to have sex under those conditions occasionally, that might also have been the case on ancient times in my opinion.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Ok let me clarify ... I'm not saying that sex is a fuck... I'm saying that it seems many people (on here and in everyday life) seem to think it is. I was just asking if im the only person who realise it isn't "

why would you come to that massive sweeping generalisation..?

the answer is in your own hands..

influence that which you can, the rest is just that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I honestly doubt that there was or is any culture in which every time people had sex they went through the above. Is it that you have a problem finding people here that want the same?

Actually the Egyptians would bathe in milk and spices before having sex to soften their skin. The Mediterranean cultures would spice their bath water with plant extracts (perfumes) and massage their privates to make the process more enjoyable

Every single time? No quickies behind the pyramid bike sheds? I wasn't doubting that certain cultures had and have rituals attached to sex just that they were enacted every time. In most people's lives it is only possible to have sex under those conditions occasionally, that might also have been the case on ancient times in my opinion."

they must have had quickies here they wasnt ready for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with the OP. I've met too many who go straight for the physical side and it just becomes a fuck. Tedious at best. Even those who say 'the brain is the biggest sexual organ' seem to have little idea of what to do with it. Refine your search OP. Look for others who feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I honestly doubt that there was or is any culture in which every time people had sex they went through the above. Is it that you have a problem finding people here that want the same?

Actually the Egyptians would bathe in milk and spices before having sex to soften their skin. The Mediterranean cultures would spice their bath water with plant extracts (perfumes) and massage their privates to make the process more enjoyable

Every single time? No quickies behind the pyramid bike sheds? I wasn't doubting that certain cultures had and have rituals attached to sex just that they were enacted every time. In most people's lives it is only possible to have sex under those conditions occasionally, that might also have been the case on ancient times in my opinion.

they must have had quickies here they wasnt ready for it "

Yes they had quickies lol but how many "meets" from sites such as these are quickie meets? Even if it's a spur of the moment lunch time meet there still is a process isn't there? You still prepare your body etc don't you?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Very few responders have actually read and understood what I attempted to discuss. "

perhaps because it was a bit poorly written in what you were actually trying to say..?

then it came across as another 'i dont act like all the other so meet me threads where one guy is doing down others' maybe..

now its the other contributors who are at fault because they didn't understand what you wanted to say but didn't..?

which for the record is a good topic and deserving of discussion and yes i see where you are coming from..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree with the OP. I've met too many who go straight for the physical side and it just becomes a fuck. Tedious at best. Even those who say 'the brain is the biggest sexual organ' seem to have little idea of what to do with it. Refine your search OP. Look for others who feel the same."
Good sex is hard to find ......... crap sex is easy and not worth getting ready for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some interesting opinions on this, in my opinion you can have amazing sex on first time encounters but the best is usually with people you've done it with more than once. Its like friendship you might hit it off at first but it magnifies the longer you know each other.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I honestly doubt that there was or is any culture in which every time people had sex they went through the above. Is it that you have a problem finding people here that want the same?

Actually the Egyptians would bathe in milk and spices before having sex to soften their skin. The Mediterranean cultures would spice their bath water with plant extracts (perfumes) and massage their privates to make the process more enjoyable

Every single time? No quickies behind the pyramid bike sheds? I wasn't doubting that certain cultures had and have rituals attached to sex just that they were enacted every time. In most people's lives it is only possible to have sex under those conditions occasionally, that might also have been the case on ancient times in my opinion.

they must have had quickies here they wasnt ready for it

Yes they had quickies lol but how many "meets" from sites such as these are quickie meets? Even if it's a spur of the moment lunch time meet there still is a process isn't there? You still prepare your body etc don't you? "

Yes we would if we met that way but we would limit it to a shower and save the perfumed, spiced oils and silks for other occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I know what you are saying - and I agree, though of it's nature a site like this is always going to be biased towards 'heat' rather than intimacy and sensuality, in my opinion. I enjoy heat as much as the next person, but it is easy to find too much of that on here, and long for the leisurely meandering journey where there is time to truly savour. The journey becomes all, not the destination."
If you add to thee above the getting to Know someone from a compatible side and what hobbies and Interests you have in common along which I believe You only get true Intimacy with being In love as nature planed it,s a good part of what a proper relationship is its like a big jigsaw really thou sometimes or regularly parts go missing.. but yes as long as you except what this site was for then anything else might be a bonus, this is the only site you can only really talk on in depth where people will Discuss such things in depth its good To share..or perhaps give advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest.

I know what you are saying - and I agree, though of it's nature a site like this is always going to be biased towards 'heat' rather than intimacy and sensuality, in my opinion. I enjoy heat as much as the next person, but it is easy to find too much of that on here, and long for the leisurely meandering journey where there is time to truly savour. The journey becomes all, not the destination.If you add to thee above the getting to Know someone from a compatible side and what hobbies and Interests you have in common along which I believe You only get true Intimacy with being In love as nature planed it,s a good part of what a proper relationship is its like a big jigsaw really thou sometimes or regularly parts go missing.. but yes as long as you except what this site was for then anything else might be a bonus, this is the only site you can only really talk on in depth where people will Discuss such things in depth its good To share..or perhaps give advice. "
I much prefer the forum than anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex still is a gorgeous pleasure , when you connect with some one , share a friendship. This doesn't mean there has to be a relationship.

Passion shared with a like minded friend is still so deliciously naughty and delightful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one who realises that sex is becoming just a fuck?

Ancient cultures understood that sex was pleasure and it was a journey to that one ultimate intimate moment. From the preparation of the body with spices to the seduction of the partner - sex was a journey, the seeking of that ultimate pleasure but each stage of the journey was enjoyed to its fullest. "

welcome to the world of swinging maybe take some time out it does get samey after a while regardless of who your having sex with

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