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By *issmorgan OP   Woman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I know this has probably been done before (sorry) but i seem to have had an increase in people this week asking for meets without wanting to swap pics.

When i point this out i've been told well its only a drink etc and then go quiet when i tell them still need to be attracted to them.

Anyone else experiencing this?

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

This tells you all you need to know.

As you have a pussy,and mouth then that's all they're dicks care about!

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By *issmorgan OP   Woman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It does really doesnt it ?but thankfully most of us are a bit more choosy.

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

I've had this loads of times.. I used to get in debates with people about it, but now if they don't want to show me their face, they just go straight on the block list- they aren't worth my time.

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By *issmorgan OP   Woman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I've had this loads of times.. I used to get in debates with people about it, but now if they don't want to show me their face, they just go straight on the block list- they aren't worth my time. "

Good plan i've made profile notes so i remember.It just seems to have increased this week

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I insist on a face pic otherwise how do you know who you are looking for? I sometimes get the impression they will just be sitting there watching me and I find that a tad creepy, so no face pic no meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this has probably been done before (sorry) but i seem to have had an increase in people this week asking for meets without wanting to swap pics.

When i point this out i've been told well its only a drink etc and then go quiet when i tell them still need to be attracted to them.

Anyone else experiencing this?"

Yes we get this ? Would never meet without seeing face pics

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We've met a couple before without seeing face pics... we'd not really realised until we were there that we didn't know what they looked like. We'd chatted via messages for a week or so and had really clicked.... all went great though.

We do however often plan meets somewhere were we could easily head off to a club if they don't show or we don't click.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"We've met a couple before without seeing face pics... we'd not really realised until we were there that we didn't know what they looked like. We'd chatted via messages for a week or so and had really clicked.... all went great though.

We do however often plan meets somewhere were we could easily head off to a club if they don't show or we don't click. "

How did you all work out who each other was?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this has probably been done before (sorry) but i seem to have had an increase in people this week asking for meets without wanting to swap pics.

When i point this out i've been told well its only a drink etc and then go quiet when i tell them still need to be attracted to them.

Anyone else experiencing this?"

I don't ask for a face pic, not because I will fuck anything, but because I feel I have an intellectual connection with someone I have been chatting to.

Some ladies won't send a pic for personal reasons. If you click with someone, you click. Sometimes people look better in real life than their face pic would otherwise indicate, so why turn someone on that basis.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

It's odd isn't it

They SEE you enough to message you to discuss a possible meet

But they won't show you

I tend to eventually ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this has probably been done before (sorry) but i seem to have had an increase in people this week asking for meets without wanting to swap pics.

When i point this out i've been told well its only a drink etc and then go quiet when i tell them still need to be attracted to them.

Anyone else experiencing this?

I don't ask for a face pic, not because I will fuck anything, but because I feel I have an intellectual connection with someone I have been chatting to.

Some ladies won't send a pic for personal reasons. If you click with someone, you click. Sometimes people look better in real life than their face pic would otherwise indicate, so why turn someone on that basis."

Meant to say turn someone down. Also if someone asks for one, I will send one, but I won't ask first.

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By *xpatscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I know this has probably been done before (sorry) but i seem to have had an increase in people this week asking for meets without wanting to swap pics.

When i point this out i've been told well its only a drink etc and then go quiet when i tell them still need to be attracted to them.

Anyone else experiencing this?"

Mrs c need to feel that with some of the bi offers we have. That's why it's taking longer to find a meet

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

@ Mr Marmite- I have clicked with people on here, only for my heart to sink once they have sent me a picture of themselves. You can be as lovely as you want, but if there is no sexual attraction, it ain't happening. It has to be the whole package though- I have chatted to some gorgeous people on here that I have had to turn down because the social element wasn't there.

I understand that people have various reasons why they want to hide their identity - but that's not my problem, it's theirs. If I ask for a pic and they say no, there is plenty of other people on the site who will, so why would I waste any more time on them? That might sound cold, but that is the reality of the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@ Mr Marmite- I have clicked with people on here, only for my heart to sink once they have sent me a picture of themselves. You can be as lovely as you want, but if there is no sexual attraction, it ain't happening. It has to be the whole package though- I have chatted to some gorgeous people on here that I have had to turn down because the social element wasn't there.

I understand that people have various reasons why they want to hide their identity - but that's not my problem, it's theirs. If I ask for a pic and they say no, there is plenty of other people on the site who will, so why would I waste any more time on them? That might sound cold, but that is the reality of the situation."

I would concur, I also respect the decision of others to make that choice. I only refer to my own experience.

I have met people for socials who have said that based on my mug shot, I'm not what they would go for, but seemed nice enough for a coffee and chat. When they met, it seems that in the flesh I am easier on the eye and my pics don't do me justice.

On that basis, I don't personally get hung up on face pics. I do however understand that people like to see them and will base a decision to meet on that.

I have no issue with people who do. We all apply our own filters, just by not asking for a face pic doesn't make me desperate

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"We've met a couple before without seeing face pics... we'd not really realised until we were there that we didn't know what they looked like. We'd chatted via messages for a week or so and had really clicked.... all went great though.

We do however often plan meets somewhere were we could easily head off to a club if they don't show or we don't click.

How did you all work out who each other was? "

We approached a couple sat at the stood at the bar and said "Hi we're Cal and Anita are you ???" they weren't, but our "dates" spotted Anita's red hair and waved at us.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People often get pissed when pix is requested and only one of them sends but the other receives and never send theirs.

I think a video chat with the person would be appropriate and then ask for a pic so that it might help you recognize them later, should you plan to meet# jes sayin

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

Mr Marmite, I have also been told I look better in real life, so do get that... I think you can tell a lot about a person from the pictures they choose to send, even if you are/aren't interested in them... For example, their facial expression, the setting of the photo, their posture in the photo, etc etc... i gather a lot of information from that initial pic, so it's a very important part of my filtering process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will not meet anyone if I havent seen a face pic. Looks are important to me. Yeah might be just a drink but I want to feel comfy at what im looking at. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr Marmite, I have also been told I look better in real life, so do get that... I think you can tell a lot about a person from the pictures they choose to send, even if you are/aren't interested in them... For example, their facial expression, the setting of the photo, their posture in the photo, etc etc... i gather a lot of information from that initial pic, so it's a very important part of my filtering process. "

And I applaud you for that view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr Marmite, I have also been told I look better in real life, so do get that... I think you can tell a lot about a person from the pictures they choose to send, even if you are/aren't interested in them... For example, their facial expression, the setting of the photo, their posture in the photo, etc etc... i gather a lot of information from that initial pic, so it's a very important part of my filtering process. "

You might be making a very hasty conclusion based on that. However you don't get to know who really someone is until you get to see the physically# jes sayin

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!

Skity, I get around 300 messages every day. Of course I make hasty decisions, I haven't got time to make friends with every single person that messages me, to find out if I can see beyond their looks to their inner loveliness. These people choose which pictures to send as a good representation of themselves. If they have sold themselves short, that is their problem. Not mine.

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By *ice Thick CockkMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I think they are important! &i just uploaded a new one lol

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Happens often.

We respond to interested messages by sending a face pic along with a brief message saying it would be great to see if there's a mutual attraction, most of the time we get a response with 'they like what they see' without returning a face pic, they then continue to message. This goes on for another exchange of a message and then we politely ask for a face pic, if one isn't forthcoming with the next message that tends to be the end of the conversation for us, we think that's reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We chat first and decide if we like them as people. Are they fun, respectful, not weird, like what we like? Are they available when we meet and happy to join our multiman meets.

After that we like to see a face pic, usually for identification purposes. We would rather meet a nice ordinary looking guy than a Bradley Cooper look-alike who wants to rape us both and stub cigarettes out on Kats tits.

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By *issmorgan OP   Woman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Happens often.

We respond to interested messages by sending a face pic along with a brief message saying it would be great to see if there's a mutual attraction, most of the time we get a response with 'they like what they see' without returning a face pic, they then continue to message. This goes on for another exchange of a message and then we politely ask for a face pic, if one isn't forthcoming with the next message that tends to be the end of the conversation for us, we think that's reasonable. "

Very fair ,you might show up ans know them or them not be your type at all ,then its a waste.I would never meet without seeing a pic and them seeing mine .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time I will entertain a meeting without a face picture is when I am contemplating a custard cream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just seen my first ever "lady taking selfie with toilet in the background pic"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I attach them to every first message I send, first and foremost there's got to be an attraction plus the safety and discretion side of it is huge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People often get pissed when pix is requested and only one of them sends but the other receives and never send theirs.

I think a video chat with the person would be appropriate and then ask for a pic so that it might help you recognize them later, should you plan to meet# jes sayin

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Yeah but who has time to have a video chat with everyone who wants to meet? I definitely don't!

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

We prefer to see who we are chatting to and meeting. I like to put a face to a profile name, also helps when trying to find a person in a busy place. We are happy to send ours for the same reason.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"I have just seen my first ever "lady taking selfie with toilet in the background pic" "

I saw that too!

When we first started out we did meet a few people without swapping pics, but it all worked out ok.

Now we won't, even if it's a last minute meet we need to see them. Sometimes people look better in person than their pics, so even if we don't go "phwoar!" we still meet and see if we click.

It's rare that we get a pic that makes us go , but if we do it's a polite "no thanks"

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

On the other hand there are also plenty of posts on here from people saying "I just sent my face pic and the user has deleted their account. Is my pic going to be used all over the internet on loads of fake accounts?"

(Answer: yes of course it is!)

There was even someone last week who lost their job when they were 'outed'.

For us sex is more a mental and physical connection than pretty faces, and we can tell all we need to know by forum posts and messages. But then, being pig-ugly, I would say that I guess.

We would never consider anyone who can't even photo-verify (who knows whose face pic they have). We certainly wouldn't trust them with our face pics.

Sorry

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this has probably been done before (sorry) but i seem to have had an increase in people this week asking for meets without wanting to swap pics.

When i point this out i've been told well its only a drink etc and then go quiet when i tell them still need to be attracted to them.

Anyone else experiencing this?"

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"On the other hand there are also plenty of posts on here from people saying "I just sent my face pic and the user has deleted their account. Is my pic going to be used all over the internet on loads of fake accounts?"

(Answer: yes of course it is!)

There was even someone last week who lost their job when they were 'outed'.

For us sex is more a mental and physical connection than pretty faces, and we can tell all we need to know by forum posts and messages. But then, being pig-ugly, I would say that I guess.

We would never consider anyone who can't even photo-verify (who knows whose face pic they have). We certainly wouldn't trust them with our face pics.

Sorry

Mr ddc"

I've been here for 6+ years and I would never get photo verified, but I have plenty of face pics in friends only.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I put up a face pic and no replies. Aint the best policy for me anyway ha ha or boo hoo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ask for a face pic and if liked we'll send one back also as our time is limited we like a 5 mins chat on Skype just to make sure the pic is who it's meant to be and to see if there is a little spark..then after all of that then we can arrange a meet.. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't ask as generally I find that if they are interested in meeting then they will send them by their own accord. If they aren't comfy enough sending a face pic after a while then it kind of tells its own story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@ Mr Marmite- I have clicked with people on here, only for my heart to sink once they have sent me a picture of themselves. You can be as lovely as you want, but if there is no sexual attraction, it ain't happening. It has to be the whole package though- I have chatted to some gorgeous people on here that I have had to turn down because the social element wasn't there.

I understand that people have various reasons why they want to hide their identity - but that's not my problem, it's theirs. If I ask for a pic and they say no, there is plenty of other people on the site who will, so why would I waste any more time on them? That might sound cold, but that is the reality of the situation."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody asks me....my mug is slapped all over my damn profile.

If I think I might meet someone I will eventually get to asking for one, nobody has ever been fussed before and happily sent one, for the most part though I find people just send them soon enough of their own accord...

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