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By *tu23 OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that what responses you are getting? that you are too young?

if so, then you must be messaging folk that have set an age criteria that is above yours...or they are hypocrites and are using it as an excuse...in which case, it's still not your age that is preventing you from getting a meet.

might be of assistance to use the search facility to find folk that are looking for men within your age range?

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By *tu23 OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

but most folk just set their age preferance as 18 to 99 or 18+ but thanks for your feed back was starting to think there was something up with me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but most folk just set their age preferance as 18 to 99 or 18+ but thanks for your feed back was starting to think there was something up with me lol "

I'm not quite so sure about that...I've noticed a few of the single guys do, but not so many lady's

i'm sure the search engine will produce more favourable results.

good luck with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you message people who set thier age criteria as 18=whatever and they tell you that you are too young then they are hypocrits and I would politely tell them so.

Most people will not meet young guys in the same way they wont meet old guys like me, that is thier personal choice and you have to respect it, they have thier reasons, often they see a young guy the same age as thier son and connect the too, personally I find that a bit dodgy, when I am having sex the last thing on my mind is my children but we are all different.

Just keep trying and have patience. Truth is at your age you have the chance to swing or to go out on the pull, at my age going on the pull is too hard wearing on the old zimmer frame and most clubs make me leave it at the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd advise against messagimg people telling them they're hypocrites as they are within their right to decline your offer to meet! I don't agree to meet every sub male to contacts me and I don't feel obliged to give them a blow by blow reason for my decision!

I don't have sons but I don't want to play with people that I could have given birth to. My decision is no more odd than old people who don't mind playing with people young enough to be their children/grand children.

Personal preference: you have to respect that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd advise against messagimg people telling them they're hypocrites as they are within their right to decline your offer to meet! I don't agree to meet every sub male to contacts me and I don't feel obliged to give them a blow by blow reason for my decision!

I don't have sons but I don't want to play with people that I could have given birth to. My decision is no more odd than old people who don't mind playing with people young enough to be their children/grand children.

Personal preference: you have to respect that!"

certainly wasn't a suggestion to email them that, what would be the point, a no is a no. was pointing out the obvious...that it would be hypocritical to have 18 on your page and then say 21 is too young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd advise against messagimg people telling them they're hypocrites as they are within their right to decline your offer to meet! I don't agree to meet every sub male to contacts me and I don't feel obliged to give them a blow by blow reason for my decision!

I don't have sons but I don't want to play with people that I could have given birth to. My decision is no more odd than old people who don't mind playing with people young enough to be their children/grand children.

Personal preference: you have to respect that!

certainly wasn't a suggestion to email them that, what would be the point, a no is a no. was pointing out the obvious...that it would be hypocritical to have 18 on your page and then say 21 is too young."

It wasn't aimed at you hun: Jed suggested telling them they were hypocrites!

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By *tu23 OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I couldnt go as far as to call anyone a hypocrit im to polite that lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

King, select people carefully , have a look at the age ranges of their verifications to see who they actually do meet with.

At least you have youth on yourside and will grow into it.

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By *tu23 OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Dont think that my user name is helping either lmao

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Age is just a number! "

an important number,all the same.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Perish the thought you didn't have an age. You'd have expired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored."

Lye about your age and put 5 years on. Lots of older ones have no problems in knocking 5 or more years off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored.

Lye about your age and put 5 years on. Lots of older ones have no problems in knocking 5 or more years off. "

advise strongly against lying for a meet as trust is always paramount under these circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wasn't aimed at you hun: Jed suggested telling them they were hypocrites! "

Apologies, missed that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I'd advise against messagimg people telling them they're hypocrites as they are within their right to decline your offer to meet! I don't agree to meet every sub male to contacts me and I don't feel obliged to give them a blow by blow reason for my decision!

I don't have sons but I don't want to play with people that I could have given birth to. My decision is no more odd than old people who don't mind playing with people young enough to be their children/grand children.

Personal preference: you have to respect that!

certainly wasn't a suggestion to email them that, what would be the point, a no is a no. was pointing out the obvious...that it would be hypocritical to have 18 on your page and then say 21 is too young.

It wasn't aimed at you hun: Jed suggested telling them they were hypocrites! "

I did because they are, you can't have it both ways, people are always talking about being honest on here.

The OP said that he contacts people whose age criteria he meets, ie those whose profiles say looking for 18+, he then gets turned down because of his age.

How would couples feel if they contacted a couple seeking couples and were told "sorry don't want to meet you because your a couple"

The rules No means No and respecting peoples criteria are very important to me, so here we have a guy respecting those rules but confused as to why people are being hypocrits, they are not saying "sorry your not our type" or "too tall, too short, too large, too thin, your white, your black or you wear glasses" he is being told no because he is too young by people whose age criteria is 18+ and I think he has a valid reason to ask the question.

I said tell them they are hypocrits because that's what they are but I did say TELL THEM POLITELY

Personally I would say something to the effect of

"Thankyou for your reply and I am sorry if I have wasted your time, I am sure you like me do not enjoy having your time wasted and to that end I only contact people whose criteria I fall within, seeing on your profile that you are looking for single guys from 18-(insert number) I felt it was worth contacting you.

Have fun and be lucky"

Point made without abuse and hopefully would make some rethink what they put in thier profile and how they respond to people and perhaps not waste thier time in the future.

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By *lways readyCouple
over a year ago

london/kent

hey dont let it get you down

just look for meets where the people want youngsters there is plenty about

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think some people take this site too seriously and have too much time on their hands!

Believe it or not we're not going to appeal to everyone: FACT! Some people may come up with "excuses" not to meet you so not to offend: I do. I say "thanks but no thanks" to men that have obviously read my profile, meet my criteria...but I don't fancy playing with. For example I have "local" as a criteria and I've turned men down for not being local who live in London!

It is arrogant to assume people must play with you because you like them: they don't! If you knocked back don't analyse why, keep on looking: you'll find what you're looking for.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you think that 1-2 yrs in the wrong direction is ruining your chances and getting you ignored?? Its called preference and choice, some dont mind your age some of us do, its as simple as that

Good luck

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

what is the point in lying about your age, it becomes pretty obvious if you are much younger/older than you state when you actually get to meet. I make alot about my age in a jokey fashion, and guess what, it seems to work! (well most of the time anyway lol) Just wish in some ways we got in to the lifestyle years ago but wouldn't change the last 5 years for (almost) anything. At 21 you have a lifetime in front of you be patient and it will no doubt happen. As has been said by many in this thread age is only a number, but then we all have freedom of choice too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many factors that decide if a person wants to meet you or not. It isn't a case that "Well, I'm in your age range, and you like shagging, so let's get it on."

They key to swinging is perseverance and politeness, whithout either of those you'll get nowhere fast.

Highlight your qualities. For example, if you feel people older than you may be worried about someone as young as you being immature, tell them that you are young but wise, youthful but courteous, energetic but unhurriedly so.

Your profile is your shop window and the pm's you send are you advertising it. If you can't draw people to your 'shop' - change the advertising, regularly.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored."

but age must be a problem for you as you have 18 to 40 on yours

or does the age preference thing only flow one way........

as I always say some people don't really fancy playing with people young enough to be there son or daughter......

and as you prove, some people really don't fancy playing with people old enough to be there mum or dad.......

to be more honest with you... It could the fact that your profile doesn't stand out from the hundreds of others out there that is hindering you as much as you perceive age to be the problem

patience, time, patience, common sense, patience, time....

you have been here 6 weeks.. took me months to get meets..... if you are looking for insta-shag... that doesn't tend to happen here....

the most telling thing for me is what you put in your current status update

"looking for a partner in crime single guys dont get far on this site x".

that is really cringeworthy and does you no favours at all.......

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By *andoras DreamCouple
over a year ago

Swindon Area


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored.

Lye about your age and put 5 years on. Lots of older ones have no problems in knocking 5 or more years off. "

We have put a different age on our profile and this is because if someone that we knew saw us on here they might think twice its us as we are not the age we are - take note, only 1 or 2 years older added on though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored.

Lye about your age and put 5 years on. Lots of older ones have no problems in knocking 5 or more years off.

We have put a different age on our profile and this is because if someone that we knew saw us on here they might think twice its us as we are not the age we are - take note, only 1 or 2 years older added on though!!"

would suggest as someone did recognise you, that failed!

i'm not convinced that it would make a difference anyway for that reason; i very rarely know the exact age of a friend or colleague and if i saw a pic on here of someone i thought i knew...i wouldnt think, "oh it cant be them, she's a year younget than that..." i'd think, "well, it's them, but she's not that old!".

if it came down to a meet having a specific age criteria that they are rigid about though and had agreed to meet you and you in actual fact fell outside that criteria, i would consider that deceitful if you didn't let them know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but most folk just set their age preferance as 18 to 99 or 18+ but thanks for your feed back was starting to think there was something up with me lol "

Let me fix that.

Most folks who can't be arsed to do their profile properly and with thought leave the age range at the default - 18-99.

Of course 1 or 2 are serious. But most are the above.

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By *andoras DreamCouple
over a year ago

Swindon Area


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored.

Lye about your age and put 5 years on. Lots of older ones have no problems in knocking 5 or more years off.

We have put a different age on our profile and this is because if someone that we knew saw us on here they might think twice its us as we are not the age we are - take note, only 1 or 2 years older added on though!!

would suggest as someone did recognise you, that failed!

i'm not convinced that it would make a difference anyway for that reason; i very rarely know the exact age of a friend or colleague and if i saw a pic on here of someone i thought i knew...i wouldnt think, "oh it cant be them, she's a year younget than that..." i'd think, "well, it's them, but she's not that old!".

if it came down to a meet having a specific age criteria that they are rigid about though and had agreed to meet you and you in actual fact fell outside that criteria, i would consider that deceitful if you didn't let them know."

you are completley right!! lol. and he did recognise us still!!

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Age is definately a problem as i am unable to attract young girls lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest OP…. There could infact be another reason your not getting suitable opportunities to meet totally unconnected to you age issue ,,,,, Your profile clearly states you are Straight and yet your verifications are from 2 Tv’s ands a Bisexual man,,,,, additionally your friend list contains more of the same… so It not implausible that some people may view you profile as a contradiction in terms, and therefore reducing your serious credibility… which could result in them not wishing to risk meeting someone who presents a naive attitude toward other site members ability to find contradiction in what you claim to be rather that what you appear to actually be ….

Anyway …. That’s just my musings .. and no offence intended

Best of luck and happy swinging

Sox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My advice to the OP is... patients.

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I did laugh

Is the OP a doctor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

"

I'm not sure about that, even though everyone knows if it's just a guarantee of sex you're after it's easier just to go plain old vanilla clubbing, as on the pop you tend to get at least a couple of dozen offers a night as inhibitions are down. I made the most of that when I was younger and still could if I chose. However, you don't have the knowledge that someone will get turned on by a certain role play or fetish that you might like,(eg;- both of you get a thrill from being watched)as this makes the quality outstrip the quantity...I wish swinging websites were around 10 to 15 years ago as I'd have had the best of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest OP…. There could infact be another reason your not getting suitable opportunities to meet totally unconnected to you age issue ,,,,, Your profile clearly states you are Straight and yet your verifications are from 2 Tv’s ands a Bisexual man,,,,, additionally your friend list contains more of the same… so It not implausible that some people may view you profile as a contradiction in terms, and therefore reducing your serious credibility… which could result in them not wishing to risk meeting someone who presents a naive attitude toward other site members ability to find contradiction in what you claim to be rather that what you appear to actually be ….

Anyway …. That’s just my musings .. and no offence intended

Best of luck and happy swinging

Sox

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I posted the same thing before seeing your post! Agree with you!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


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Most people will not meet young guys in the same way they wont meet old guys like me, that is thier personal choice and you have to respect it, they have thier reasons, often they see a young guy the same age as thier son and connect the too, personally I find that a bit dodgy, when I am having sex the last thing on my mind is my children but we are all different.

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Am I reading that right? You actually think because people don't want to have sex with people their kids ages that it is dodgy and they think about their children when having sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is just a number!

an important number,all the same. "

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I agree a very important number if part of your preferences are to meet people with a certain degree of life experience, similar lifestyle and a similar degree of love handles!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Age is just a number! "

It is......I just like a bigger number

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Others have put it so well.

Your straight but have verfications from tvs (is that the expressions,apologies if I got it wrong)and also from a man.

How can that be if your straight?? Straight men dont meet men and play with their cocks. That means our bi curious or bi.

Be honest ok. Your either bi curious or not curious and meet men or your straight and wouldnt consider meeting a man and playing with his dick.

Put your real age as adding or removing it is just lying and when you meet people it is clear. If your 20 say you are if you 40 say you are. Dont knock off or add on. Be yourself and be truthful with it.

I would suggest you do vanilla clubbing at your age. I did that at your age and into my mid/late 20s. That was part of my life.

If you do decide to be honest and come to the conclusion(as a few of us may already have) that your bi then either be on here and search for bi men or couples with a bi male.

Or stick with vanilla clubs as others have said but maybe a gay club, if you are loooking to meet men and have sex. r you can go on the gay fab which I am sure I have seen advertised.

Be honest hunny and do as _abio says, look at your profile,what does it tell you. It tells me your bi

Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP: You also have 'cannot accommodate', 'cannot travel' on your profile, that might also be limiting your chances!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Most people will not meet young guys in the same way they wont meet old guys like me, that is thier personal choice and you have to respect it, they have thier reasons, often they see a young guy the same age as thier son and connect the too, personally I find that a bit dodgy, when I am having sex the last thing on my mind is my children but we are all different.

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Am I reading that right? You actually think because people don't want to have sex with people their kids ages that it is dodgy and they think about their children when having sex?

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That's how I read it!

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By *tu23 OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored.

but age must be a problem for you as you have 18 to 40 on yours

or does the age preference thing only flow one way........

as I always say some people don't really fancy playing with people young enough to be there son or daughter......

and as you prove, some people really don't fancy playing with people old enough to be there mum or dad.......

to be more honest with you... It could the fact that your profile doesn't stand out from the hundreds of others out there that is hindering you as much as you perceive age to be the problem

patience, time, patience, common sense, patience, time....

you have been here 6 weeks.. took me months to get meets..... if you are looking for insta-shag... that doesn't tend to happen here....

the most telling thing for me is what you put in your current status update

"looking for a partner in crime single guys dont get far on this site x".

that is really cringeworthy and does you no favours at all.......

"
Thanks I realised that you were rite and i was being quite hypocritical in my self. Of the meets I've acctualy been on most of the people have beenn over my age range so have ammended my profile and changed most of it. Would you mind giveing it a once over and letting me know if you think its an improvement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored.

but age must be a problem for you as you have 18 to 40 on yours

or does the age preference thing only flow one way........

as I always say some people don't really fancy playing with people young enough to be there son or daughter......

and as you prove, some people really don't fancy playing with people old enough to be there mum or dad.......

to be more honest with you... It could the fact that your profile doesn't stand out from the hundreds of others out there that is hindering you as much as you perceive age to be the problem

patience, time, patience, common sense, patience, time....

you have been here 6 weeks.. took me months to get meets..... if you are looking for insta-shag... that doesn't tend to happen here....

the most telling thing for me is what you put in your current status update

"looking for a partner in crime single guys dont get far on this site x".

that is really cringeworthy and does you no favours at all.......

Thanks I realised that you were rite and i was being quite hypocritical in my self. Of the meets I've acctualy been on most of the people have beenn over my age range so have ammended my profile and changed most of it. Would you mind giveing it a once over and letting me know if you think its an improvement? "

Did I get off the train in la-la land today...I must be off the plot.....Again I mean no offence OP, but our still claiming to be straight and yet your profile indicates you have sex with Bi men and Tv's( Tv's are men... well the ones I’ver met are,,,) No offence fella,,,, but some people could rightly be insulted at the inference that we aren’t able see through that little inconsistency…. I think revision 2 is needed...

But hey that’s just my little opinion

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By *tu23 OP   Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Thanks for that sorted it out now and wasnt really into guys before haveing met a few through this site. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

"

begs the question as to what might just be judged "a convincing answer"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

begs the question as to what might just be judged "a convincing answer"?"

To me this reads as if younger, good looking people should be out doing something other than swinging. I don't get this AT ALL.

I *do* understand and agree with age discrimination in swinging but not with this pervasive attitude that often rears it's dumb head in threads here that younger people are somehow "better" than swinging.

Just because a "younger" person is perhaps more likely to, I dunno, go to a club and get a one night stand than your average 40 year old, doesn't mean that they should be judged as "having better things to do than swing".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

begs the question as to what might just be judged "a convincing answer"?

To me this reads as if younger, good looking people should be out doing something other than swinging. I don't get this AT ALL.

I *do* understand and agree with age discrimination in swinging but not with this pervasive attitude that often rears it's dumb head in threads here that younger people are somehow "better" than swinging.

Just because a "younger" person is perhaps more likely to, I dunno, go to a club and get a one night stand than your average 40 year old, doesn't mean that they should be judged as "having better things to do than swing".

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ah but is it that. maybe it is the 40 ish plusses way of fending off young and virile competitors. "Go play in your own garden" ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

begs the question as to what might just be judged "a convincing answer"?

To me this reads as if younger, good looking people should be out doing something other than swinging. I don't get this AT ALL.

I *do* understand and agree with age discrimination in swinging but not with this pervasive attitude that often rears it's dumb head in threads here that younger people are somehow "better" than swinging.

Just because a "younger" person is perhaps more likely to, I dunno, go to a club and get a one night stand than your average 40 year old, doesn't mean that they should be judged as "having better things to do than swing".

ah but is it that. maybe it is the 40 ish plusses way of fending off young and virile competitors. "Go play in your own garden" ? "

Never considered that, but yes, good point. Perhaps some people are worried by the arrival of younger, prettier types.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

"

I would say that reads as only old ugly people are normally swinging or, swingers are the people who can't get anyone in the real world.

I would say if it is a single person playing these games then they are after what the site is about, looking for sex with other like minded people. They are more likely to get NSA sex from a site like this than in the vanilla world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I would say that reads as only old ugly people are normally swinging or, swingers are the people who can't get anyone in the real world."

The funny thing is that this is exactly how the media likes to portray swingers.

It's a shame some swingers do it as well.

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By *andoras DreamCouple
over a year ago

Swindon Area


"Just looked at the OP’s profile, joined 6 weeks ago!

Taking clubs and parties out of the equation our average ‘new action’ meet rate is about 3 a year. 5 years = 15 new action meetings that could have been a new one every week for the first 15 weeks, or the last 15 weeks, meaning almost 5 years of no luck.

My advice to the OP is... patients.

Diversifying slightly... what do other folks think about youngsters swinging? We often get PM’s from guys 25 and younger and almost always ask the same question, ‘What’s young good looking guy like you doing in a hobby like this’ can’t say that we’ve ever had a convincing answer.

begs the question as to what might just be judged "a convincing answer"?

To me this reads as if younger, good looking people should be out doing something other than swinging. I don't get this AT ALL.

I *do* understand and agree with age discrimination in swinging but not with this pervasive attitude that often rears it's dumb head in threads here that younger people are somehow "better" than swinging.

Just because a "younger" person is perhaps more likely to, I dunno, go to a club and get a one night stand than your average 40 year old, doesn't mean that they should be judged as "having better things to do than swing".

ah but is it that. maybe it is the 40 ish plusses way of fending off young and virile competitors. "Go play in your own garden" ?

Never considered that, but yes, good point. Perhaps some people are worried by the arrival of younger, prettier types."

I'm 34 and worried about young and prettier types already!! I look at these lovely young ones and think I wish!!! We have been turned down a few times for being 'too old'!!

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over a year ago

Ohhh I feel an appropreate song coming on !!!! I'n the kinda way, only a old-tranny like me can !!

I am beautiful no matter what they say

Words can't bring me down

I am beautiful in every single way

Yes, words can't bring me down

So don't you bring me down today

To all your friends, you're delirious

So consumed in all your doom

Trying hard to fill the emptiness

The piece is gone left the puzzle undone

That's the way it is

You are beautiful no matter what they say

Words can't bring you down

You are beautiful in every single way

Yes, words can't bring you down

Don't you bring me down today...

No matter what we do

(no matter what we do)

No matter what they say

(no matter what they say)

When the sun is shining through

Then the clouds won't stay

And everywhere we go

(everywhere we go)

The sun won't always shine

(sun won't always shine)

But tomorrow will find a way

All the other times

'cause we are beautiful no matter what they say

Yes, words won't bring us down, oh no

We are beautiful in every single way

Yes, words can't bring us down

Don't you bring me down today

Don't you bring me down today

Don't you bring me down today

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By *andoras DreamCouple
over a year ago

Swindon Area

lol. love it!!!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I've been with a 19 year old when I was 35 it just didn't work. Physically it was great, her ass cheeks were firmer than my cranium! but I had no idea what she was talking about half the time.

I genuinely thought I could just have sex and that's all that was needed. You definitely need some sort of mental connection and that only usually occurs with someone within 10 years of you in my opinion.

Christ she hadn't even heard of Duran Duran!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" her ass cheeks were firmer than my cranium! "

Thanks for that: my cappuccino went up my nose!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


" her ass cheeks were firmer than my cranium!

Thanks for that: my cappuccino went up my nose! "

PMSL what a delightful mental image

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"

Most people will not meet young guys in the same way they wont meet old guys like me, that is thier personal choice and you have to respect it, they have thier reasons, often they see a young guy the same age as thier son and connect the too, personally I find that a bit dodgy, when I am having sex the last thing on my mind is my children but we are all different.

.

Am I reading that right? You actually think because people don't want to have sex with people their kids ages that it is dodgy and they think about their children when having sex?

"

Bumped my own post as I am curious to know the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Most people will not meet young guys in the same way they wont meet old guys like me, that is thier personal choice and you have to respect it, they have thier reasons, often they see a young guy the same age as thier son and connect the too, personally I find that a bit dodgy, when I am having sex the last thing on my mind is my children but we are all different.

.

Am I reading that right? You actually think because people don't want to have sex with people their kids ages that it is dodgy and they think about their children when having sex?

"

Ive had to read it twice to get it, no he isnt saying he thinks about his kids when he is having sex, he is saying that if he was having sex with someone the same age as his kids, he might do as he would look at them and up would pop his kids in his head, does that make sense?

I feel the same, hence ive no interest in young people

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Hhmmm knowing the person and his wifes ages, no, it doesn't make any sense in what you think you have read xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hhmmm knowing the person and his wifes ages, no, it doesn't make any sense in what you think you have read xx

"

Now ive realised who wrote it no, kind of hypocrytical given his partners age

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Hhmmm knowing the person and his wifes ages, no, it doesn't make any sense in what you think you have read xx

Now ive realised who wrote it no, kind of hypocrytical given his partners age"

my thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is just a number! "

I totally agree, it is just a number!

Would love to hear the thoughts of some who set an age criteria, does something happen when someone turns say 25? It always seems a little false to me as there are young looking 40 year olds who look younger than a weather guy in his late 20's!

Or could it be for the maturity? As some would argue there are very immature people in their forties and mature folk in their 20's?

Some people even state "young acting couple" or "young looking male" etc

Personally I look at people on an individual basis and if there is something that floats my boat. But each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Most people will not meet young guys in the same way they wont meet old guys like me, that is thier personal choice and you have to respect it, they have thier reasons, often they see a young guy the same age as thier son and connect the too, personally I find that a bit dodgy, when I am having sex the last thing on my mind is my children but we are all different.

.

Am I reading that right? You actually think because people don't want to have sex with people their kids ages that it is dodgy and they think about their children when having sex?

Ive had to read it twice to get it, no he isnt saying he thinks about his kids when he is having sex, he is saying that if he was having sex with someone the same age as his kids, he might do as he would look at them and up would pop his kids in his head, does that make sense?

I feel the same, hence ive no interest in young people"

No, I don't think he's saying that. He's saying those of us that think about our children when approached by younger people are odd as he doesn't think about his children when with his young partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is just a number!

I totally agree, it is just a number!

Would love to hear the thoughts of some who set an age criteria, does something happen when someone turns say 25? It always seems a little false to me as there are young looking 40 year olds who look younger than a weather guy in his late 20's!

Or could it be for the maturity? As some would argue there are very immature people in their forties and mature folk in their 20's?

Some people even state "young acting couple" or "young looking male" etc

Personally I look at people on an individual basis and if there is something that floats my boat. But each to their own.

"

I dont agree that age is just a number at all, im 50 this year, no way would i be interested in someone i could be the parent of so anyone similar to my kids age group doesnt have a chance, in fact ive never been interested in anyone outside of my own age range. Much prefer the maturity of my own age group, someone with staying power, someone ive something in common with and sex isnt enough either.

As to your comment about what happens when someone turns 25, why choose that age? Surely its what happens when someone turns an age that is more fanciable to someone of my age? But yes i met a hot 38 yr old at the beach party and he looked way younger than that, so i guess there are those that look naturally younger than their age and those that look after themselves that then look younger than their age.

Absolutely ive chatted to mature 25 yr olds but unfortunately most are far too immature, but either way i wouldnt go there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Most people will not meet young guys in the same way they wont meet old guys like me, that is thier personal choice and you have to respect it, they have thier reasons, often they see a young guy the same age as thier son and connect the too, personally I find that a bit dodgy, when I am having sex the last thing on my mind is my children but we are all different.

.

Am I reading that right? You actually think because people don't want to have sex with people their kids ages that it is dodgy and they think about their children when having sex?

Ive had to read it twice to get it, no he isnt saying he thinks about his kids when he is having sex, he is saying that if he was having sex with someone the same age as his kids, he might do as he would look at them and up would pop his kids in his head, does that make sense?

I feel the same, hence ive no interest in young people

No, I don't think he's saying that. He's saying those of us that think about our children when approached by younger people are odd as he doesn't think about his children when with his young partner."

Sassy got it, when I have sex the last thing on my mind is my kids, admittingly my daughters are in thier 30s unlike you who have kids in thier 18s but whilst some cannot understand people who have sex with others that are the same age as thier kids, I am the opposite, I find it strange to even think about your kids and thier age when your having sex, for me the two things are worlds apart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is just a number!

I totally agree, it is just a number!

Would love to hear the thoughts of some who set an age criteria, does something happen when someone turns say 25? It always seems a little false to me as there are young looking 40 year olds who look younger than a weather guy in his late 20's!

Or could it be for the maturity? As some would argue there are very immature people in their forties and mature folk in their 20's?

Some people even state "young acting couple" or "young looking male" etc

Personally I look at people on an individual basis and if there is something that floats my boat. But each to their own.

"

.

I think the fact of the matter is that couples and single fems are overwhelmed here, so if they're anything like us you start tightening your preference criteria based on your experiences.

We've found that the people we're most attracted to tend to be similar to our own age, and there are plenty of them around, so there's no need to compromise. If that wasn't the case then obviously if we still wanted to have fun in this lifestyle we'd have to be less selective about the people we play with.

That isn't to say people outside our age preference aren't lovely, they probably are but most people here want to have adventures with others who tick all the boxes!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"

No, I don't think he's saying that. He's saying those of us that think about our children when approached by younger people are odd as he doesn't think about his children when with his young partner.

Sassy got it, when I have sex the last thing on my mind is my kids, admittingly my daughters are in thier 30s unlike you who have kids in thier 18s but whilst some cannot understand people who have sex with others that are the same age as thier kids, I am the opposite, I find it strange to even think about your kids and thier age when your having sex, for me the two things are worlds apart"

So exactly how I read it, you think as people don't want sex with people their kids age that it must be because they would be thinking about their children while having sex with them.

I have figured out what it is now.

I think you are trying to make out that anyone who doesn't want sex with people their childrens ages are weird as they have unhealthy thoughts.........and you are saying this because you have sex with a wife younger than your own child and from the way you talk about your age all the time, it is your achilles heal.

It is a shame you can't just accept people have preferences and they are not having a go at your age difference when they say it, and then you wouldn't feel the need to try and discredit other people to justify why you do things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying to make out that anyone who doesn't want sex with people their childrens ages are weird as they have unhealthy thoughts.........and you are saying this because you have sex with a wife younger than your own child and from the way you talk about your age all the time, it is your achilles heal.

It is a shame you can't just accept people have preferences and they are not having a go at your age difference when they say it, and then you wouldn't feel the need to try and discredit other people to justify why you do things.

"

Couldn't have put it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else find that being 1 or 2 years in the wrong direction can ruin your chances? Im 21 and thanks to this fact i seems im getting ignored."

You are only the age your profile says you are. Change it as you see fit, many others do and Admin do not fix it in stone as many sites do 2 weeks after registering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are trying to make out that anyone who doesn't want sex with people their childrens ages are weird as they have unhealthy thoughts.........and you are saying this because you have sex with a wife younger than your own child and from the way you talk about your age all the time, it is your achilles heal.

It is a shame you can't just accept people have preferences and they are not having a go at your age difference when they say it, and then you wouldn't feel the need to try and discredit other people to justify why you do things.

Couldn't have put it better myself!

What a terrible thing to say that those of us that dont want sex with young people, think sick thoughts about their own kids!!! On a social network site i am on, we dont accept friendshipt from those that we are old enough to be the parent of, thats what i work from and i cannot draw a line under it. So here here is all i can say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think swingers can be fitted with any stereotype. I've met all ages,all appearances, into all types of things, from all backgrounds. I think I've seen more swingers who do professional jobs than not, true, but plenty who don't. I've seen more who are overweight, but plenty who aren't.

Like I said earlier I wish swinging websites had existed when I was younger (though when I was 25 I looked about 17 so probably wouldn't have got far lol, thank God my metabolism has slowed to that of a 25 year old now!) even though I did plenty of hands on research into sexual matters....

The simple fact is if I am attracted to someone I love having raunchy sex with them. Age doesn't become an issue. I have met 18,30 and 50 year olds I wouldn't want any action with, as well as 18,30 and 50 year olds I would love to carry to the bedroom (or anywhere else that takes our fancy!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I don't think swingers can be fitted with any stereotype. I've met all ages,all appearances, into all types of things, from all backgrounds. I think I've seen more swingers who do professional jobs than not, true, but plenty who don't. I've seen more who are overweight, but plenty who aren't.

Like I said earlier I wish swinging websites had existed when I was younger (though when I was 25 I looked about 17 so probably wouldn't have got far lol, thank God my metabolism has slowed to that of a 25 year old now!) even though I did plenty of hands on research into sexual matters....

The simple fact is if I am attracted to someone I love having raunchy sex with them. Age doesn't become an issue. I have met 18,30 and 50 year olds I wouldn't want any action with, as well as 18,30 and 50 year olds I would love to carry to the bedroom (or anywhere else that takes our fancy!) "

That's all well and good, and bully for you: that's your preference. Your not saying though that those of us that don't want to play with people the same age as our kids are sick! That's what we took exception to!

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