FabSwingers.com forum: Does 100's of verifications turn you off?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What turns you off someone's profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very graphic pics where you can see what they had for breakfast. Dirty looking houses. Veri's from people you find less than desirable.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Why should it?

You don't know the circumstances...

Unless your the type to judge other regardless of the facts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people they're verified by tend to turn me off more than anything. Also spelling mistakes as I think it displays lack of care. Also cock pics whilst sat on the toilet.... Da fuck!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the amount, more who has verified them. Yes I judge, but hey ho, we only meet who we want and we have to set the criteria somehow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should it?

You don't know the circumstances...

Unless your the type to judge other regardless of the facts..."
Because we want to meet people who have standards similar to our own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thing that does turn me off is pics of many different bare back cock pics fucking a woman, don't some people care?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I was put off a lady by the coarse veris she exchanged with a guy. It sounds snobby, but whilst directness is almost unavoidable, I like to be creative with my prose.

Not proud of it...just saying.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Not the amount, more who has verified them. Yes I judge, but hey ho, we only meet who we want and we have to set the criteria somehow

Guilty of this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What turns you off someone's profile? "
You could have 100s just from saying hello to people at clubs ...The only ones that put me off are when they go into the things they have done with others and getting loads from same person .. as its like dating .

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

And is your standard the bench mark?

Are you the 911 of human beings...

The less you judge, the more diamonds you find...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a veri should be more along the lines of eBay feedback. If someone bought a phone off someone you wouldn't want to read about what they did with the phone, all you'd want to know is if it was delivered quickly, if the product was satisfactory and matched the description in the advert.

Everybody knows how to suck, lick, finger and fuck, all I'd want to know is if the person they met was the person in the pictures, if they turned up on time and were friendly and polite.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" Because we want to meet people who have standards similar to our own. "

and there we have the "standards" word again.......

i almost think thats sidecode for "well i would have played with them.... but how dare they play with others who couldn't possibly be as good as us!!"

its almost like a big childish game of "6 degrees of seperation" where people are thumbing their noses up in the air

how would people feel if they were on the wrong end of "standards"... its a pretty hurtful thing to say!

there are cases where yes i get that veri's are useful (playing away/bareback for example)

but there seems to be a lot of "i'm better than you" going around on here and in status's lately..... and that is more of a turn off than any verification will ever be

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Fair point....

It's a poor system, but it's the only one we have...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And is your standard the bench mark?

Are you the 911 of human beings...

The less you judge, the more diamonds you find..."

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

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No it don't as you never know what someones done off the site. They could show one veri and shagged 100s off the site. I like to make my own mind up about someone and a veris not gonna sway me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 of verifications's puts me off if they are clearly from many, many meets with the graphic verifications to go with.

Cliquey profiles; demanding profiles and ones that scare little old me by saying Sydney University gonna get me...

Oh and fosters can/sky remote/toilet pics....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And is your standard the bench mark?

Are you the 911 of human beings...

The less you judge, the more diamonds you find..."
My standard is the benchmark I set for myself yes. Nothing wrong with being selective about who you engage in sexual activity with. I'm not a judgemental person when it comes to chatting with people but I only want to get physical with those I find mentally and physically stimulating.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"What turns you off someone's profile? "

Lots of things - all individual to the profile in question.

The number of veris never will though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toilet pics/dicks in toilet pics/dirty bedrooms with dirty pants laying on the floor/graphic bumhole pics (WTF is that all about?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they have 100's of play veris then yes it does, social veris are different that just shows they are who they say they are and turn up,

This was a thread a while ago and we got called elitist because we won't play with people who are just looking to fuck anything, if our opinions and what we are looking for make us elitist then we can live with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Because we want to meet people who have standards similar to our own.

and there we have the "standards" word again.......

i almost think thats sidecode for "well i would have played with them.... but how dare they play with others who couldn't possibly be as good as us!!"

its almost like a big childish game of "6 degrees of seperation" where people are thumbing their noses up in the air

how would people feel if they were on the wrong end of "standards"... its a pretty hurtful thing to say!

there are cases where yes i get that veri's are useful (playing away/bareback for example)

but there seems to be a lot of "i'm better than you" going around on here and in status's lately..... and that is more of a turn off than any verification will ever be"

So don't you have standards? Will you fuck anyone who offers?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I think a veri should be more along the lines of eBay feedback. If someone bought a phone off someone you wouldn't want to read about what they did with the phone, all you'd want to know is if it was delivered quickly, if the product was satisfactory and matched the description in the advert.

Everybody knows how to suck, lick, finger and fuck, all I'd want to know is if the person they met was the person in the pictures, if they turned up on time and were friendly and polite. "

Yes, totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gallery full of cock shots, lazy , misspelt profiles, people who across arrogant or moan all the time.

The number of veris means nothing to me as I actually take the time to skim read them rather than judge someone solely on the number they've received

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

No there's not... It's your body....

I'm very selective, even about who spend time with....

And I suppose stimulation is important... I rely on my own imagination for this and trust that it can bring others to life...

But I more meant simply judging based on amount of frogs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A gallery full of cock shots, lazy , misspelt profiles, people who across arrogant or moan all the time.

The number of veris means nothing to me as I actually take the time to skim read them rather than judge someone solely on the number they've received"

Come across*

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Because we want to meet people who have standards similar to our own.

and there we have the "standards" word again.......

i almost think thats sidecode for "well i would have played with them.... but how dare they play with others who couldn't possibly be as good as us!!"

its almost like a big childish game of "6 degrees of seperation" where people are thumbing their noses up in the air

how would people feel if they were on the wrong end of "standards"... its a pretty hurtful thing to say!

there are cases where yes i get that veri's are useful (playing away/bareback for example)

but there seems to be a lot of "i'm better than you" going around on here and in status's lately..... and that is more of a turn off than any verification will ever be"

I'm aiming to hit 100 by the summer

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

I'm totally unashamedly elitist...

But beware if that's true... You tread a lonely, solitary path...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not judging by the way, just seeing what people think as many people I speak to are put off by certain things, but pure bareback sex pics with different men does put me off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not right fussed......I rarely ever read them....I'm not too fussed what they and their past meets have to say about each other...and I'm not sure why a particular number of them would put me off.....

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

So don't you have standards? Will you fuck anyone who offers?"

never said that! what i said is that i don't make that judgement off just a number......

as others are seeming to....

okay... lets use me as an example here...

i have over a hundred veris.....

I've been here best part of 6 years ish....

I've been to countless socials and events up and down the country....

I reckon probably lets say 80%ish of mine are verifications socially....

and yet... you judge my standard on purely a number....

you are in essence basically judging my standing mainly on people i've hung out with and chatted....

do you see the madness of judging someone purely on a number....

basically... you looked at the top thing i said.... and didn't look at anyone else....

so ask i keep saying....

whats the acceptable amount of veri's?

over what time???

because statistically you could say that if someone had lets say 3 verifications in 3 weeks of being here... there "standards" must be lower then my 100 over 6 years......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Because we want to meet people who have standards similar to our own.

and there we have the "standards" word again.......

i almost think thats sidecode for "well i would have played with them.... but how dare they play with others who couldn't possibly be as good as us!!"

its almost like a big childish game of "6 degrees of seperation" where people are thumbing their noses up in the air

how would people feel if they were on the wrong end of "standards"... its a pretty hurtful thing to say!

there are cases where yes i get that veri's are useful (playing away/bareback for example)

but there seems to be a lot of "i'm better than you" going around on here and in status's lately..... and that is more of a turn off than any verification will ever be"
I didn't mean about the number of veri's. I meant about the photos , type of veris etc. I wouldn't be interested in someone who couldn't be bothered to move the pile of dirty laundry out of the way or crop mess out of a pic just as much as I wouldn't meet someome who had loads of bareback pics with different men , looked dirty and unkempt or had very descriptive veri's that described things that were not appealing to me. This would mean that said peoples ideas of presenting themselves as potential playmates were different to mine. It would mean our standards were different. Not saying one way or the other is correct. People judge us and make assumptions or gather an impression about us from our profile which may or may not be accurate. Again this is fine and each to their own.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I avoid when they have a million verifications by the same person with a few hands off s/he is mine...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What turns you off someone's profile? "
This was the question I answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So don't you have standards? Will you fuck anyone who offers?

never said that! what i said is that i don't make that judgement off just a number......

as others are seeming to....

okay... lets use me as an example here...

i have over a hundred veris.....

I've been here best part of 6 years ish....

I've been to countless socials and events up and down the country....

I reckon probably lets say 80%ish of mine are verifications socially....

and yet... you judge my standard on purely a number....

you are in essence basically judging my standing mainly on people i've hung out with and chatted....

do you see the madness of judging someone purely on a number....

basically... you looked at the top thing i said.... and didn't look at anyone else....

so ask i keep saying....

whats the acceptable amount of veri's?

over what time???

because statistically you could say that if someone had lets say 3 verifications in 3 weeks of being here... there "standards" must be lower then my 100 over 6 years......

If you read my initial reply i said i don't judge by number but who they are from can sway my opinion.

For example if someone has met a load of bbw i would assume they wouldn't want to meet me, no slur on the women, just different to me.

If i can see from veris that there are a group of friends who meet each other frequently i wouldn't contact them. We are looking for one offs, many want regulars, again, just different.

It's just a way of filtering who's likely to want the same as us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but there seems to be a lot of "i'm better than you" going around on here and in status's lately..... and that is more of a turn off than any verification will ever be"

As for this, well of course we're better than anyone else here, all the single guys tell us... So it must be true....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes but only in the context of frequency of sex meets, if I then make a judgement that life is consumed by swinging it would be a No.

I am able to rest the timeline and the difference between 'met at a social' and 'he rammed his big cock up my wet hole'....

I also know they can be hidden.

I am not asking others to do as I do, as I am only interested in my way of doing things. I have evolved my approach to this world from the good and not so good experiences that I have had. It serves ME well

I am happy to be judged as a judgemental twat, cause I am.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Read* not rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Because we want to meet people who have standards similar to our own.

and there we have the "standards" word again.......

i almost think thats sidecode for "well i would have played with them.... but how dare they play with others who couldn't possibly be as good as us!!"

its almost like a big childish game of "6 degrees of seperation" where people are thumbing their noses up in the air

how would people feel if they were on the wrong end of "standards"... its a pretty hurtful thing to say!

there are cases where yes i get that veri's are useful (playing away/bareback for example)

but there seems to be a lot of "i'm better than you" going around on here and in status's lately..... and that is more of a turn off than any verification will ever be"

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't read verifications. A bit like I don't listen to film re_iews. I'll decide for myself whether I want to see a movie. Making a decision to see a movie based on someone else's opinion of it makes no sense to me.

I have a brain, I have instincts and I'd rather rely on my own than someone else's.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Cause there's "I'm better off than you" going off...

It's what we do....

It's the human equivalent of displaying who is the Silverback...

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"Why should it?

You don't know the circumstances...

Unless your the type to judge other regardless of the facts..."

When inviting people to share in intimacy and sexual fun, people are allowed to be as judgemental as they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't read verifications. A bit like I don't listen to film re_iews. I'll decide for myself whether I want to see a movie. Making a decision to see a movie based on someone else's opinion of it makes no sense to me.

I have a brain, I have instincts and I'd rather rely on my own than someone else's.

Ditto

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Weird... I just thought this too.

I trust my own judgement, disapline and restraint, this allows me to put myself in situations others never would. I have the ability to decide for myself if the decisions right for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why should it?

You don't know the circumstances...

Unless your the type to judge other regardless of the facts...

When inviting people to share in intimacy and sexual fun, people are allowed to be as judgemental as they want."

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

When inviting people to share in intimacy and sexual fun, people are allowed to be as judgemental as they want."

but then the question stated in the opening title of the thread..... is that judgement made solely off the number of verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much how many verifications as many people have a lot of veries through socials like myself. But I am sometimes out off by who they have met, yes very shallow and snobby I know. But also I like to read the verification they have left previous meets. If they are too graphic and read too much detail that puts me off to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of veri 's doesn't turn us off. The content of some however, may do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When inviting people to share in intimacy and sexual fun, people are allowed to be as judgemental as they want.

but then the question stated in the opening title of the thread..... is that judgement made solely off the number of verifications?"

For some yes, for some no, surely you have to do what makes you feel comfortable, we all want different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Weird... I just thought this too.

I trust my own judgement, disapline and restraint, this allows me to put myself in situations others never would. I have the ability to decide for myself if the decisions right for me."

Exactly

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By *riskygazMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I guess looking at some of the people they have had sex with might be a bit of a turn off.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"The amount of veri 's doesn't turn us off. The content of some however, may do."

see that i fully understand and i agree.... same for me...

but somehow for a lot of people number of verifications became linked with standards

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

People are always "allowed" to be as judgemental as they want....

I'm just saying they shouldn't.

Human history is littered with the actions of those who judged what they did not understand...

Mostly to the detriment of mankind.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

We had one where a morbidly obese guy is in a tracksuit,with his cock pulled out,all small and un erect with a can of 'bow,and a fag in hand..the most sexiest pic on here!lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So don't you have standards? Will you fuck anyone who offers?

never said that! what i said is that i don't make that judgement off just a number......

as others are seeming to....

okay... lets use me as an example here...

i have over a hundred veris.....

I've been here best part of 6 years ish....

I've been to countless socials and events up and down the country....

I reckon probably lets say 80%ish of mine are verifications socially....

and yet... you judge my standard on purely a number....

you are in essence basically judging my standing mainly on people i've hung out with and chatted....

do you see the madness of judging someone purely on a number....

basically... you looked at the top thing i said.... and didn't look at anyone else....

so ask i keep saying....

whats the acceptable amount of veri's?

over what time???

because statistically you could say that if someone had lets say 3 verifications in 3 weeks of being here... there "standards" must be lower then my 100 over 6 years......

If you read my initial reply i said i don't judge by number but who they are from can sway my opinion.

For example if someone has met a load of bbw i would assume they wouldn't want to meet me, no slur on the women, just different to me.

If i can see from veris that there are a group of friends who meet each other frequently i wouldn't contact them. We are looking for one offs, many want regulars, again, just different.

It's just a way of filtering who's likely to want the same as us."

So you judge people based on the shape and size of the people they meet? I meet people based upon their character and how they come across not by their bmi. Having said that if someone judges me like that then they're certainly not the kind of person I want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So don't you have standards? Will you fuck anyone who offers?

never said that! what i said is that i don't make that judgement off just a number......

as others are seeming to....

okay... lets use me as an example here...

i have over a hundred veris.....

I've been here best part of 6 years ish....

I've been to countless socials and events up and down the country....

I reckon probably lets say 80%ish of mine are verifications socially....

and yet... you judge my standard on purely a number....

you are in essence basically judging my standing mainly on people i've hung out with and chatted....

do you see the madness of judging someone purely on a number....

basically... you looked at the top thing i said.... and didn't look at anyone else....

so ask i keep saying....

whats the acceptable amount of veri's?

over what time???

because statistically you could say that if someone had lets say 3 verifications in 3 weeks of being here... there "standards" must be lower then my 100 over 6 years......

If you read my initial reply i said i don't judge by number but who they are from can sway my opinion.

For example if someone has met a load of bbw i would assume they wouldn't want to meet me, no slur on the women, just different to me.

If i can see from veris that there are a group of friends who meet each other frequently i wouldn't contact them. We are looking for one offs, many want regulars, again, just different.

It's just a way of filtering who's likely to want the same as us.

Not at all, you've completely missed my point. I meant if they like meeting a lot of larger ladies they are unlikely to want to meet me as i'm probably not their preference.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've got one saying I'm a shit shag. I wish I had platinum membership, then I could delete it.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

So don't you have standards? Will you fuck anyone who offers?

never said that! what i said is that i don't make that judgement off just a number......

as others are seeming to....

okay... lets use me as an example here...

i have over a hundred veris.....

I've been here best part of 6 years ish....

I've been to countless socials and events up and down the country....

I reckon probably lets say 80%ish of mine are verifications socially....

and yet... you judge my standard on purely a number....

you are in essence basically judging my standing mainly on people i've hung out with and chatted....

do you see the madness of judging someone purely on a number....

basically... you looked at the top thing i said.... and didn't look at anyone else....

so ask i keep saying....

whats the acceptable amount of veri's?

over what time???

because statistically you could say that if someone had lets say 3 verifications in 3 weeks of being here... there "standards" must be lower then my 100 over 6 years......

If you read my initial reply i said i don't judge by number but who they are from can sway my opinion.

For example if someone has met a load of bbw i would assume they wouldn't want to meet me, no slur on the women, just different to me.

If i can see from veris that there are a group of friends who meet each other frequently i wouldn't contact them. We are looking for one offs, many want regulars, again, just different.

It's just a way of filtering who's likely to want the same as us.

Lol..how PC

We definitely judge..just like we are judged.we will not look at someone,and think even though they are obese,and hanging,and there's no physical attraction what so ever lets meet up with em to see if their character is fuckable!. I don't think so..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And is your standard the bench mark?

Are you the 911 of human beings...

The less you judge, the more diamonds you find... My standard is the benchmark I set for myself yes. Nothing wrong with being selective about who you engage in sexual activity with. I'm not a judgemental person when it comes to chatting with people but I only want to get physical with those I find mentally and physically stimulating."

There is nothing wrong at all with having a set of standards that you apply. It's not snobbish, it's not seeking to degrade anyone else, it's just saying that you're not attracted to that person based on a set of characteristics. We all judge or assess people all the time and to pretend we don't is the most ridiculous hypocrisy. We might be judging them against totally different benchmarks, criteria, whatever, but it's human nature to make value judgements about people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are always "allowed" to be as judgemental as they want....

I'm just saying they shouldn't.

Human history is littered with the actions of those who judged what they did not understand...

Mostly to the detriment of mankind."

That's a bit of a leap. Me not wanting to have sex with people who've left other women horribly graphic and gratuitous verifications or who can't flush the toilet before they take a photo of their cock next to it probably isn't going to lead to genocide.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

So don't you have standards? Will you fuck anyone who offers?

never said that! what i said is that i don't make that judgement off just a number......

as others are seeming to....

okay... lets use me as an example here...

i have over a hundred veris.....

I've been here best part of 6 years ish....

I've been to countless socials and events up and down the country....

I reckon probably lets say 80%ish of mine are verifications socially....

and yet... you judge my standard on purely a number....

you are in essence basically judging my standing mainly on people i've hung out with and chatted....

do you see the madness of judging someone purely on a number....

basically... you looked at the top thing i said.... and didn't look at anyone else....

so ask i keep saying....

whats the acceptable amount of veri's?

over what time???

because statistically you could say that if someone had lets say 3 verifications in 3 weeks of being here... there "standards" must be lower then my 100 over 6 years......

I would agree with you Fabio.

I've had quite a few women on this site turn me down for the sole reason given was...."You've got too many verifications", so it is clear that a lot of women do make a judgement based solely on the number of veris a guy has. But then you see plenty of womens profiles which state "Won't meet you if you don't have any veris", arghhhhh, where is the right balance then?

It does say in the written part of my profile that many of my veris are from socials, group meets on the forums, but also had plenty of women on here assume all my veris were play veris, (which goes to prove its not only men who don't read profiles, some women and couples don't bother to read them either).

As for verifications on other peoples profiles, i could'nt care less how many they have, who they are from or what the content of them says, i prefer to meet people myself and make my own mind up, not based on what someone else has said about them.

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over a year ago

Anyone who claims not to be judgemental is telling a few porky pies in my opinion!

When you put a profile on the internet that consists of a few words ( in some cases whole epic novels

) and a few pictures we are putting ourselves out there to be judged!

I don't care judge away

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over a year ago

The number of verifications doesn't put me off a profile.

If the profile doesn't show me that there is someone behind that profile that I would like to find out more about, that is what puts me off. It may be that I don't like something that they have written,or maybe their pictures don't excite me. I guess on here we all make that initial judgement on the way people choose to present themselves when we make the decision whether to contact someone or reply to a message not. We may not always be correct in that initial judgement, but we make it none the less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a brain, I have instincts and I'd rather rely on my own than someone else's.

Same here, like to make my own decision on someone, I read verifications but I judge someone on how I find them, not on what someone else has written!

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

When I joined I was put off by the number of verifications men had. What I didn't take into account was some were social and also some have been here years. Number of verifications do not concern me now. I do look to see who they have veris off, only because I am a nosey cow. Do they put me off, sometimes mainly after reading them I think we may not have much in common or the veris they leave for others are way too graphic for my liking.

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over a year ago

100s of meeting verifications (not social) implies that we are not looking for the same things, and I wouldnt be interested in meeting, that is my only judgement. Each to their own.

With regards to pictures, lets be honest, they rarely do someone justice, especially selfies lol. I'm always being told I'm better in real life, as I guess most of us are.

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