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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you arrange a meet and then really don't fancy them after meeting, how do you excuse yourself and get out of there as fast as possible, but politely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By being honest, would prefer to be told straight that we're not their type than be left thinking there might be another.

Just tell them as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folk normally tell me they need to nip to the loo then slip out the back or they have a friend call them with an 'emergency' of some kind when they need to escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply apologise and say that it doesn't feel right. Be sincere, but don't drag it out and then go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them you only go bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them the truth or find the bathroom window lol

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Just tell them that you are sorry, but on meeting there was no chemistry for you, and that you won't be taking it any further, an wish them luck.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Be honest ,people usually appreciate that rather than excuses or lies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the honesty part.

That's why I prefer to have socials first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tell them you only go bareback"

Lol

Or "I'm married". And I voted UKIP. And I go bareback. And I expect you to be exclusive to me only. And will you take me to see 50 shades? You have to buy the tickets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with the honesty part.

That's why I prefer to have socials first "

This exactly. I do socials. I was wondering what people who play on a first meet do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell 'em you're going to get something out the car (gotta love that one)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you believe in the afterlife?"

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By *corpio67Man
over a year ago

hillingdon

always try to meet socially first, then you can agree not to meet again!!!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I find it easier to wait until they are chained to the bed, then I can saunter out at my leisure. It saves on rushing and having to crouch behind cars in a pub car park.

Thinking on, I wonder if the person I met the other week managed to hacksaw through the chain?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I agree with the honesty part.

That's why I prefer to have socials first "

me too much easier to say no in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been in this situation because I know I'd feel horribly awkward, which is why I try to meet for a coffee or drink first. Have had a few socials where we got on really well online but just didn't click in real life and I just said so afterwards...makes me pleased I didn't go straight to a play meet with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By being honest, would prefer to be told straight that we're not their type than be left thinking there might be another.

Just tell them as it is."

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Tell them you only meet along with your best friend - Jesus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say..

"I'm really pleased your meeting with me considering I have AIDS and a host of STDs"

They'll show you the door!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turkey-slap and run.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If it was me id rather them be honest and say simply "sorry on meeting you im not attracted to you" or words to that effect. So its exactly how id treat someone else and it has happened to me on a few occassions, particularly where their pics havent matched the reality

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm honest and say but I don't usually shag on first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

however you do it, I think the key is to to do it and then get out fast - don't drag it out. Once had a meet, as a couple, with another couple, they'd arranged to meet in a pub very near their house, but a good hour's drive for us. First they were at least an hour late, then they bored us for ages with inane chitchat (mostly from the man about how great he was, self-made man, made loads of dosh, sold his business and now raced cars, etc), then despite having seen lots of high-res pics of both of us they announced that they didn't actually fancy us that much so wouldn't be inviting us back to theirs, then seemed to expect us to stick around to listen to more tales of how cool they were...

The thing that rankled most was that they didn't just come out and say it straight off - we could have gone to a club, or just out for a drink, or just home for a takeaway and some telly, but as it was we wasted a whole evening.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Are we teenagers?! Christ alive... people actually sneak off by pretending to go to the lav? How rude!!!

Man up and be polite. You've not done anything wrong, you can't help how you feel and if you're not feeling it then tell the person that. 'Thanks for coming, it was nice to meet you but I don't feel the connection.'

*goes for a lie down*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was arranged to pick a lady up from her house, she looked nothing like ehr pics s I said we wont be going on the meet as planned. She ok about it and apologised for not using uptodate pics .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Be polite, respectful, honest and thank them - possibly apologise.

Don't then try to convert it to a different type of meet. It's finished, so leave them to address their disappointment alone as quickly as possible.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Just tell them that you are sorry, but on meeting there was no chemistry for you, and that you won't be taking it any further, an wish them luck."
This was exactly the phrase I used when I had to make my excuses and leave as the lady of the couple was about four times larger than she had appeared in her photos and also had a loud potty mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest and tell them you got a std .... Simple

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"

Are we teenagers?! Christ alive... people actually sneak off by pretending to go to the lav? How rude!!!

Man up and be polite. You've not done anything wrong, you can't help how you feel and if you're not feeling it then tell the person that. 'Thanks for coming, it was nice to meet you but I don't feel the connection.'

*goes for a lie down* "

Oh my, this made me laugh properly. Love it!

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By *ercy the Park KeeperMan
over a year ago

Chester


"If you arrange a meet and then really don't fancy them after meeting, how do you excuse yourself and get out of there as fast as possible, but politely?"

Being honest without being cruel is the best option silly excuses are often transparent and hurtful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy just drive off once

I think honestly is best I'm not sure what kind of person thinks just doing a runner on you is kinder than saying sorry your not really for me

I think as adult we all know some people we meet wont like us, its no big deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it easier to wait until they are chained to the bed, then I can saunter out at my leisure. It saves on rushing and having to crouch behind cars in a pub car park.

Thinking on, I wonder if the person I met the other week managed to hacksaw through the chain? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask them I seem to have some blisters on my lady parts and a green discharge that doesnt put you off does it !!!

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By *onguetastic1Man
over a year ago

Castleford

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By *onguetastic1Man
over a year ago

Castleford

I prefer to say "sorry, you're not for me"

Most people prefer the honest approach.

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By *oe2511Man
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Pretend you have bad torrettes and start shouting out loud fuk off ??

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

You just have to be honest and say it's not working for you, it's better than ending up doing something you will regret just because you'd rather not offend someone

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By *oe2511Man
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne


"You just have to be honest and say it's not working for you, it's better than ending up doing something you will regret just because you'd rather not offend someone "

True, it's best to be honest

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"You just have to be honest and say it's not working for you, it's better than ending up doing something you will regret just because you'd rather not offend someone

True, it's best to be honest "

Honestly, that is a lovely chest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it easier to wait until they are chained to the bed, then I can saunter out at my leisure. It saves on rushing and having to crouch behind cars in a pub car park.

Thinking on, I wonder if the person I met the other week managed to hacksaw through the chain? "

lol I coudnt think of anything better lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Via the lavatory window

If I wasn't being polite I'd say bog window

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By *ourglasgowguyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If you arrange a meet and then really don't fancy them after meeting, how do you excuse yourself and get out of there as fast as possible, but politely?"

I used to tell them I was a News Of The World reporter

They would leave me - even if the meet was at their house

Damn you hacking scandal - spoiled my go to excuse

Sorry - I'll make my excuses and leave

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"You just have to be honest and say it's not working for you, it's better than ending up doing something you will regret just because you'd rather not offend someone

True, it's best to be honest

Honestly, that is a lovely chest "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

through the back window

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Just say 'you are ugly fuckers' in a soft, warm and friendly tone.

It helps them deal with the news....

They will leave first, I promise

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Just say 'you are ugly fuckers' in a soft, warm and friendly tone.

It helps them deal with the news....

They will leave first, I promise"

Your a bad man Mr

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago

Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14

I normally throw up my hood. Wave my hand in front of their face's and murmur

"this is not the meet your looking for, but before you go, mines a double JD and ginger"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was very guilty of Socials leading to pity shags so now we've got it written down in our 'Rules' - NO PITY SHAGS

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Just say 'you are ugly fuckers' in a soft, warm and friendly tone.

It helps them deal with the news....

They will leave first, I promise

Your a bad man Mr "

Cheers

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I agree with the honesty part.

That's why I prefer to have socials first "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its a social easy to cut short and then a message to say no thanks if you cant say it face to face - not had to do this yet

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By *ool11Man
over a year ago

st annes

I just start scratching my privates and say "don't worry, it's not contagious"

It normally does the trick

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