FabSwingers.com forum: no thanks means no thanks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do men still send me repeated messages despite themselves not fitting my profile and the fact I've already replied no thank you? Pestering is not a turn on!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Because you don't block them once you've said no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a neat tool, the block button....... Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do men still send me repeated messages despite themselves not fitting my profile and the fact I've already replied no thank you? Pestering is not a turn on!

They like the chase/game

S x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

block them after you replied, it may be easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Because you don't block them once you've said no"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because yes means yes and no means yes. Obviously.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"There's a neat tool, the block button....... Problem solved"

And this.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"block them after you replied, it may be easier"

And this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else. "

I agree there!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else. "
you shouldn't have to do anything, either put up and shut up or do something about it

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Some men don't realise you've said no because they havn't got a clue they've messaged you previously,they just send tons of messages to loads of profiles in the hope of a bite

Some are just stupidly persistant and must get off on being ignored

Despure the above...I actually like men

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Some men don't realise you've said no because they havn't got a clue they've messaged you previously,they just send tons of messages to loads of profiles in the hope of a bite

Some are just stupidly persistant and must get off on being ignored

Despure the above...I actually like men

Despite!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else. "

yeah, that is in the Mills & Boon version of the swinging manual... now back to reality... it ain't gonnna fucking happen that way...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

Some men just think that persistence will pay off, and that you will weaken and see their undeniable charm.

Or they forgot and you are next on the list for their copy and paste message?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some men don't realise you've said no because they havn't got a clue they've messaged you previously,they just send tons of messages to loads of profiles in the hope of a bite

Some are just stupidly persistant and must get off on being ignored

Despure the above...I actually like men

Despite!"

Lol I do too and thanks for the constructive reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

Some men just think that persistence will pay off, and that you will weaken and see their undeniable charm.

Or they forgot and you are next on the list for their copy and paste message?"

Lol yes the dreaded copy and paste. I think us girls and guys can spot those.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

I never missed your point, I read it as a woman who has been on here a week, tell the men of the site the error of their ways.... it will change no behaviour as 1% read the forums and the block button is your best friend or filters.... block all and you do the hard work and search for guys...

welcome and good luck

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else. "

And in an ideal world that would be great. Until we live in an ideal world, use the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

Only site supporters know if they have messaged you before.

So that might be another reason...

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

If you try and message someone you've messaged before and not received a reply then you get a warning message on screen - so unlikely.

As for your point? In an ideal world of swinging utopia lots of things wouldn't happen.

The day that utopia arrives is currently scheduled for just before never, the day after hell freezes over and the week I win the euro millions.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

It's something I've never had...often get thanks for replying messages but never any begging. You didn't say in your OP that you shouldn't be obliged to block, therefore people offered that as an option. If it was annoying me enough to post a thread about it when it's been covered many times, I'd use the block button myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

. I need to wait for a perfect world in order to realise when a man hears no he then and only then accepts that answer! Right ok then lol. Some people just need to aquire self respect and walk away. Not partake in pestering. After all would they continously pester that woman in person? I think not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

press the block button, so much easier and it will may your enjoyment of the site better.

or don't and deal with the outcome

the choice is yours...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else. "

Agreed, I don't want to block people unless they actually are pestering me, if you say no thanks that should be the end of it, sadly a few people don't get this and do continue to message asking why they are not your type and what is your type and they are a nice person and looks shouldn't matter and blah blah blah.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

make*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you lots to the lovely guys and ladies who gave constructive advice. Appreciate it!

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

"Because yes means yes and no means yes. Obviously. "

I thought it was no means yes,and yes means anal!

Men will never stop chancing their luck though..

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I reply with a super-polite reminder that I've already declined before and that my answer hasn't changed. I then ask (still nicely) if it would make things easier if I were to block them.

Some say yes please, some get nasty and some ignore me.

I block the first ones, I block and report the second ones and the third ones get a note on their profile that I can feel free to vent any sarcasm in response to future messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I reply with a super-polite reminder that I've already declined before and that my answer hasn't changed. I then ask (still nicely) if it would make things easier if I were to block them.

Some say yes please, some get nasty and some ignore me.

I block the first ones, I block and report the second ones and the third ones get a note on their profile that I can feel free to vent any sarcasm in response to future messages.

Lol excellent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

No amount of ranting will change it.....it's just the way it is.

It's very lovely that you've popped on to tell everyone right from wrong......but you may be barking up the wrong tree in here....most folk in the forums have a pretty decent clue, it's the chaps out there your aiming this at and I dare say very few are forumites.

While on the subject, the guys and girls in here offered you sound and realistic advice about using the block button...you come across like you know better and the advice was no good unless it was in line with your own thinking.....just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

No amount of ranting will change it.....it's just the way it is.

Aww so sweet yet wrong On two points but thank you all the same sweet cheeks . Have a fabulous evening!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else. "

I agree but the only user who pays the price is yourself. I really think a lot of people forget who they've mailed, as I had the same experience until I started blocking a little more.

If the word block disturbs you, think of it as the peace of mind button, or whatever fits you best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block em bitchy i no but if they have read my status they should now they aint gunna fit my profile xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Point some of you are forgetting is I shouldn't have to block anyone. Once you're told no thanks then that's it. Walk away and go find someone else.

I agree but the only user who pays the price is yourself. I really think a lot of people forget who they've mailed, as I had the same experience until I started blocking a little more.

If the word block disturbs you, think of it as the peace of mind button, or whatever fits you best. "

Thanks hunny. By the way fabulous pic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

Why do you keep replying to them after you've said "no thanks"?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just block em bitchy i no but if they have read my status they should now they aint gunna fit my profile xxx

Thank you exactly my point!

. Great pic by the way!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

Why do you keep replying to them after you've said "no thanks"?"

Lol I don't! I delete the message they've resent. Point is they should accept no the first time around. I shouldn't have to block anyone. No means no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo block after a polite no thanks. Chances are they'll only start the Spanish inquisition as to why or worse still, become abusive. I've also found in the past if not this, they'll only message weeks or months later forgetting they messaged you before anyway. Best all round to block, its not rude and any half decent person will see that.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"Because you don't block them once you've said no"

Shouldnt need to block every single person you say no to tho, should we?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Defo block after a polite no thanks. Chances are they'll only start the Spanish inquisition as to why or worse still, become abusive. I've also found in the past if not this, they'll only message weeks or months later forgetting they messaged you before anyway. Best all round to block, its not rude and any half decent person will see that. "

Thanks hunny. Great advice. Hope you have a fabulous evening

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because you don't block them once you've said no

Shouldnt need to block every single person you say no to tho, should we?"

Definitely not no. I hate blocking but obviously I see I have too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

Why do you keep replying to them after you've said "no thanks"?

Lol I don't! I delete the message they've resent. Point is they should accept no the first time around. I shouldn't have to block anyone. No means no."

It's because they want to fuck you . They really realllllly want to fuck you. You might change your mind if they ask again.

It's not their fault.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

I assumed it was a rhetorical question...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I notice a lot of women's status are saying the same thing of how they have to block guys, some people should realise that not every woman is going to want to jump into bed with them or find them attractive.

If a woman says no it should no problem take care happy swinging and thank you for the reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there are some men who haveb't quite figured out yet that pestering someone is likely to reduce their chances, not improve them.

Fortunately there are a number of us though who are equipped with a brain in our heads bigger than the one between our legs

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Thank you lots to the lovely guys and ladies who gave constructive advice. Appreciate it!

And a bitch - slapping to those who didn't.

(Just filling in the blanks)

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Thank you lots to the lovely guys and ladies who gave constructive advice. Appreciate it!

And a bitch - slapping to those who didn't.

(Just filling in the blanks)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want then to go away use reverse psychology, works every time. Just say ye, lets meet and suggest a time and a place. One of 3 things will happen;

1; They'll shit themselves and block you

2; They'll doubly shit themselves and delete their profile

3; They'll be on line every day but you'll never hear from them again and constantly update their status moaning they can't get meets.

Or maybe I just scare the bejesus out of them and this only happens to me??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want then to go away use reverse psychology, works every time. Just say ye, lets meet and suggest a time and a place. One of 3 things will happen;

1; They'll shit themselves and block you

2; They'll doubly shit themselves and delete their profile

3; They'll be on line every day but you'll never hear from them again and constantly update their status moaning they can't get meets.

Or maybe I just scare the bejesus out of them and this only happens to me??!"

4. You'll get reported as a timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want then to go away use reverse psychology, works every time. Just say ye, lets meet and suggest a time and a place. One of 3 things will happen;

1; They'll shit themselves and block you

2; They'll doubly shit themselves and delete their profile

3; They'll be on line every day but you'll never hear from them again and constantly update their status moaning they can't get meets.

Or maybe I just scare the bejesus out of them and this only happens to me??!

4. You'll get reported as a timewaster. "

Not if they're the one that ran away!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've got one bloke who messages me every time he visits York. Same message every time. I've never replied so I know he's getting the warning screen, but he's very persistent.

I decided not to block to see just how long it takes him to get the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see this as a rhetorical question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because you don't block them once you've said no

Shouldnt need to block every single person you say no to tho, should we?

Definitely not no. I hate blocking but obviously I see I have too.

It's a numbers game.. they dont care about what you put on your profile.. they see your pics and want to msg you for a meet.

It doesn't matter to them if you have said no already.. or they dont fit what your looking for.

If you choose not to use the block feature.. fine, thats your call, but think you have you head in the clouds if you expect testosterone fuelled guys to bother reading a profile and acting on it properly.

We find that those who dont read our profile automatically "filter" themselves out for us, because they are not the type we wish to meet - and we appreciate those who do read it much more.

This works for all profile types.. not just guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just you they do it to. Even old,fat women like me get pestered constantly. It's a bind isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want then to go away use reverse psychology, works every time. Just say ye, lets meet and suggest a time and a place. One of 3 things will happen;

1; They'll shit themselves and block you

2; They'll doubly shit themselves and delete their profile

3; They'll be on line every day but you'll never hear from them again and constantly update their status moaning they can't get meets.

Or maybe I just scare the bejesus out of them and this only happens to me??!"

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

There's been a few occasions where Mr has messaged someone that has already told us they weren't interested.

It's a genuine accident and he's forgotten. I'll then go in and block the profile so it doesn't happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just you they do it to. Even old,fat women like me get pestered constantly. It's a bind isn't it

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get well soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got one bloke who messages me every time he visits York. Same message every time. I've never replied so I know he's getting the warning screen, but he's very persistent.

I decided not to block to see just how long it takes him to get the hint.

That's the best way.use the private note facility.either delete message unread or read n delete.There's no need to reply if you have already said no.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I've got one bloke who messages me every time he visits York. Same message every time. I've never replied so I know he's getting the warning screen, but he's very persistent.

I decided not to block to see just how long it takes him to get the hint.

Sorry Wyrd, that's Daz taking over again

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I've got one bloke who messages me every time he visits York. Same message every time. I've never replied so I know he's getting the warning screen, but he's very persistent.

I decided not to block to see just how long it takes him to get the hint.

Sorry Wyrd, that's Daz taking over again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do men still send me repeated messages despite themselves not fitting my profile and the fact I've already replied no thank you? Pestering is not a turn on!

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do you know how to use the block button now?

its your bestie on here girl use it asap and often.

save you being put into a bad mood and taking it out on one of the nice guys youd be suited to. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oooh my mistake no thanks clearly isn't in some people's vocabulary!

No amount of ranting will change it.....it's just the way it is.

Aww so sweet yet wrong On two points but thank you all the same sweet cheeks . Have a fabulous evening!

Please don't call me sweetcheeks.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they have forgotten they mailed you, or were just hoping to catch you in a generous mood

Thanks for the reply!

. Unlike some who gave a "solution" of which I already knew of but are missing my point of this post.

Only site supporters know if they have messaged you before.

So that might be another reason..."

Not if you delete without replying, then they get a message screen letting them know that they messaged you before and got no reply...although that still doesn't stop some of them as I think many do believe that all women get millions of messages a day and just do a bulk delete of the inbox without _iewing any messages in it! If repeat messages are going to be a huge bug bear though then blocking is the only way forward as many will keep trying no matter how many times you delete/say no as they play the numbers game. Makes it easier to spot those that are more selective/put a bit of effort in though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because you're so amazingly hot they can't take no for an answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP enjoys the attention really

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