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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is it that you would say in that first ever message other than the usual high how you doing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What ever you put you will never win

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Dunno, I don't send preemptive messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that you would say in that first ever message other than the usual high how you doing? "

or you could just say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What ever you put you will never win "

Expect the worse and that is what you'll reap.....p.m.a

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"What ever you put you will never win "

With a defeatist attitude, you won't. Be positive it does work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What ever you put you will never win

With a defeatist attitude, you won't. Be positive it does work. "

Certainly not a defeatist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fancy a fuck "

Works everytime

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Rather than your first message you should perhaps concentrate on your profile. I noticed that you insist on seeing a face photo first. That is a big ask!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Point taken. That's just too see if people were actually interested instead of waisting time like the vast majority on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point taken. That's just too see if people were actually interested instead of waisting time like the vast majority on here. "

Oooh vast majority, big statement, and probably NOT fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

make it personal so they know you have read their profile, looked at a certain pic or noted a status

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Point taken. That's just too see if people were actually interested instead of waisting time like the vast majority on here.

Oooh vast majority, big statement, and probably NOT fact"

I see what your saying, however I am not making a fact, just an opinion and experienced thus far.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Point taken. That's just too see if people were actually interested instead of waisting time like the vast majority on here. "

Time wasters on the site include men pretending to be women,who can quickly be detected with a few basic precautions, and people who do not turn up for meets.

Other than that, I dare say most people are spending time, rather than wasting it, getting to know other people better to see if they line up with what they are after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Point taken. That's just too see if people were actually interested instead of waisting time like the vast majority on here.

Oooh vast majority, big statement, and probably NOT fact

I see what your saying, however I am not making a fact, just an opinion and experienced thus far. "

Asking for a face picture in your profile to me it shows that you value looks and not just willing to shag anybody. As long as you're sending a face picture of yourself with your first message I don't see anything wrong with requesting a face picture.

Take out the part where you say you're not one of those arrogant people that delete messages without a response. Just simply say you'll respond to all messages, it says the same thing without sounding moany or negative.

When I didn't have message filters on I would delete messages from unsuitable people purely because I'd get over 100 messages a day and it was quicker to just delete, I'm not arrogant just saw no point saying thanks but no thanks because it often meant I'd get further messages asking why or being abusive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Asking for a face picture in your profile to me it shows that you value looks and not just willing to shag anybody. As long as you're sending a face picture of yourself with your first message I don't see anything wrong with requesting a face picture.

Take out the part where you say you're not one of those arrogant people that delete messages without a response. Just simply say you'll respond to all messages, it says the same thing without sounding moany or negative.

When I didn't have message filters on I would delete messages from unsuitable people purely because I'd get over 100 messages a day and it was quicker to just delete, I'm not arrogant just saw no point saying thanks but no thanks because it often meant I'd get further messages asking why or being abusive.

Thanks Athena, much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi you

Her

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

There is no magic formula. I send first messages because they're a person I want to message so each one is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that you would say in that first ever message other than the usual high how you doing?

or you could just say hi "

I think a lot of guys send that but then many women complain and say "make the effort."

Can't win.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I can tell you the secret.. .now If youll send me your bank card details first.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"What is it that you would say in that first ever message other than the usual high how you doing? "
Your first messages are just fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it that you would say in that first ever message other than the usual high how you doing? "

Do you like googly eyes on a man's penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for a start, I wouldn't say "High".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I contact only those few people which catch my eye, so there is always something to say.

If I was messaging ladies at random then of course that opening line is difficult. But that's the tactic that leads to blokes complaining that their messages get deleted.

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