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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

i liked it better when it was more covert.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It doesn't help our lifestyle with that appealing season in channel 4 a few years ago about swinging and that odd program recently about sex clubs

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

People still seem to "snigger" about it in groups but when talking 121 some acknowledge it as an ok lifestyle choice. We like our privacy so keep it quiet. But the sensationalist tv shows don't help at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes those sensationalist TV programs don't help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment."

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time I do an application form or CV I will include it under hobbies and interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Robbie Williams album made it more acceptable

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)"

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It never pops up in conversation when we are out with the muggles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe"

I think there are still lots of people with old fashioned _iews who frown up on it, but i dont discuss my personal life with people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate."

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not with that many I don't think, you only have to see the comments a lot of people make when there are storys about it in the newspapers or anywhere, when you meet people even the ones on here.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Some of my friends know what we do, and all have reacted with curiosity. A couple would even like to try it but their partners wouldn't be up for it.

Not one has condemned my interests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe"

Think you have to ask yourself, 'would I tell my mum?'

If you can answer yes then it's acceptable.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe

Think you have to ask yourself, 'would I tell my mum?'

If you can answer yes then it's acceptable.

B"

I'd tell your mum but I wouldn't tell mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually my mum wouldn't be surprised in the slightest lol......

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business. "

If I'd just started working there I'd be looking for a new job.

Inappropriate, unprofessional and more than a little creepy.

Discretion seems to be a word your employers need to look up in the dictionary.

A

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe

Think you have to ask yourself, 'would I tell my mum?'

If you can answer yes then it's acceptable.

B"

I wouldn't tell my mum but I don't think I'd be bothered if she found out. Embarrassed at first yes but I'm an adult so can do what I want

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

We have been swingers/in the industry so long now i don't think we could be vanilla anymore, we have appeared in all the National papers & neighbors, friends family & most in our town know our lifestyle.

They don't all agree but we have never had any horrible comments, we didn't choose to be plastered over the media instead someone in the swinging scene sold us out to The News of the World for £2500

Moral of this is never tell fellow swingers your employment because what happened to us could happen to anyone...be warned

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"i liked it better when it was more covert."

So did I,people were far more discreet

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"i liked it better when it was more covert.

So did I,people were far more discreet

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I wrote a longer answer but didn't post it.... it was about discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"i liked it better when it was more covert.

So did I,people were far more discreet

I wrote a longer answer but didn't post it.... it was about discretion "

So did I....then I thought no I'll leave it at that

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"i liked it better when it was more covert.

So did I,people were far more discreet

I wrote a longer answer but didn't post it.... it was about discretion

So did I....then I thought no I'll leave it at that "

snap I just thought "I couldn't be arsed with the reaction'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people on here can't accept what others do. Society wouldn't be any different

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

It is trusting swing play mates with being discreet, the less they know the better it is.

When it came out about our antics I was sacked from my social services job with problem teenagers because the council was worried about the scandal.

Being a swinger is sordid & derogatory in the publics eyes still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business.

If I'd just started working there I'd be looking for a new job.

Inappropriate, unprofessional and more than a little creepy.

Discretion seems to be a word your employers need to look up in the dictionary.

A"

I thought that too A wholly inappropriate conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe"

I suspect as a singleman you will experience a noticeably different response to females and couples.

And how acceptrd it is will also depend massively on the type of friends you have

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe

Think you have to ask yourself, 'would I tell my mum?'

If you can answer yes then it's acceptable.

B"

actually funny enough my mum (god bless) was the one who i could confied in... so she knew.... my sister and my dad don't

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Discretion is preffered here and expected.

Not that i,m cheating nor ashamed.

Just prefer to keep seperate from main friends.Many of whom I still think are a bit judgemental, also best mates pep talks ( normally a couple) " why don,t you just find yourself a girlfriend ??" Followed by I know lots if single friends who i,m sure would love to meet you"

Oh plllleeasse???

Also if secretive gives the whole experience more edgeof nautiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't give a toss if it's socially acceptable or not, My personal life is just that..private.

Being old school we don't speak to our kids about our Sex life and would find it slightly weird to be asked about it by any family member or work coleague

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is trusting swing play mates with being discreet, the less they know the better it is.

When it came out about our antics I was sacked from my social services job with problem teenagers because the council was worried about the scandal.

Being a swinger is sordid & derogatory in the publics eyes still."

Such a shame you lost your job, seems like there's a way to go for the vanilla masses to be accepting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But as some mentioned i preferred it a few years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people on here can't accept what others do. Society wouldn't be any different "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think it may appear as though it is the more time we spend here- more friends we mix with are a part of it and it all seems so much more familiar -

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"It is trusting swing play mates with being discreet, the less they know the better it is.

When it came out about our antics I was sacked from my social services job with problem teenagers because the council was worried about the scandal.

Such a shame you lost your job, seems like there's a way to go for the vanilla masses to be accepting "

The plus point is i now spend half my life filming & taking pics of naughty women which is far more exciting & better job satisfaction.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It is trusting swing play mates with being discreet, the less they know the better it is.

When it came out about our antics I was sacked from my social services job with problem teenagers because the council was worried about the scandal.

Such a shame you lost your job, seems like there's a way to go for the vanilla masses to be accepting

The plus point is i now spend half my life filming & taking pics of naughty women which is far more exciting & better job satisfaction.

"

completely off topic but did you ever get to the bottom of that incident with your son (or was it son in law)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is trusting swing play mates with being discreet, the less they know the better it is.

When it came out about our antics I was sacked from my social services job with problem teenagers because the council was worried about the scandal.

Such a shame you lost your job, seems like there's a way to go for the vanilla masses to be accepting

The plus point is i now spend half my life filming & taking pics of naughty women which is far more exciting & better job satisfaction.

completely off topic but did you ever get to the bottom of that incident with your son (or was it son in law)? "

You weren't lying when you said it was going to be off topic

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It is trusting swing play mates with being discreet, the less they know the better it is.

When it came out about our antics I was sacked from my social services job with problem teenagers because the council was worried about the scandal.

Such a shame you lost your job, seems like there's a way to go for the vanilla masses to be accepting

The plus point is i now spend half my life filming & taking pics of naughty women which is far more exciting & better job satisfaction.

completely off topic but did you ever get to the bottom of that incident with your son (or was it son in law)?

You weren't lying when you said it was going to be off topic "

nope! I never lie its why I get into so much bloomin trouble

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Although a good girl, I often think they suspect me of far worse or more extreme than swinging.

My uni friends do a lot of group fun so things are relaxing.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"i liked it better when it was more covert."

Me too also.

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Open and honest here. Nothing more ever happens than curious questions and the odd "im so jealous".

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Nobodies business tbh

And those that frown upon the lifestyle haven't got the balls to actually go through with it lol as I bet they've considered it or not in a relationship that they can discuss or experiment with lol x

Discretion a must xxxx

Happy Monday x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate."

Same here.

I wouldn't feel the need to divulge the details of my sex life to my employer if I had a vanilla private life and I don't feel the need to do so because I don't have a vanilla private life.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business.

If I'd just started working there I'd be looking for a new job.

Inappropriate, unprofessional and more than a little creepy.

Discretion seems to be a word your employers need to look up in the dictionary.

A"

Absolutely.

Employers knowing is one thing but sharing it liberally with other parties is shockingly indiscreet.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here.

I wouldn't feel the need to divulge the details of my sex life to my employer if I had a vanilla private life and I don't feel the need to do so because I don't have a vanilla private life."

Indeed!

I would have thought the way the managers spoke to the new staff amounted to sexual harassment!

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here.

I wouldn't feel the need to divulge the details of my sex life to my employer if I had a vanilla private life and I don't feel the need to do so because I don't have a vanilla private life.

Indeed!

I would have thought the way the managers spoke to the new staff amounted to sexual harassment! "
Absolutely for a line manager to talk in such a manner, and for an employer to fail to protect staff from such behaviour is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally Id rather keep it private as it's no body else's business but the missus has different ideas, she has told a gay fella we know far too much and then went and told the sister in law all about what we do after watching 50 shades on Friday night...... she cant see there would be any consequences to everyone knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst the myth persists that monamous love is a reliable measure of love; the vanilla world will continue to think of swingers as odd. I think most muggles perceive swingers to be couples with single men and women as opportunist sex hunters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst the myth persists that monamous love is a reliable measure of love; the vanilla world will continue to think of swingers as odd. I think most muggles perceive swingers to be couples with single men and women as opportunist sex hunters. "

It isn't a myth for many happy monogamous couples

S x

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

A few of our friends know, they were a little taken aback but pretty respectful. They asked some sensible questions then laughed about how crazy it seems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 2 friends know what we do . Both are very respectful and possibly a little jealous !

With the media coverage in recent times it has become a bit more socially acceptable I guess .

But fortunately not so much that everyone does it - that would surely make it less fun . The fact that it is still taboo is part of the thrill .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I agree. The taboo aspect adds to the thrill

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would be interested in how you all got into the scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Swinging over 5 years now

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe"

Article in today's paper about chayp being unanimously voted as new deputy mayor in the Hampshire town of Fareham, despite it being discovered two years ago that he hosted swinger's parties.

So seems attitudes are changing slowly.

(Ukip have spoken out against it though, apparently no respectable Ukip voter would ever.....)

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if its good enough for the deputy mayor, it's good enough for me..

I'm open about my lifestyle and the guys at work are interested in it but never seem to have the balls to even think of attending a club for the sake of getting caught, but then I'm a single guy.

I get asked all sorts of questions and give them as straighter answer as possible but never give names.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember years ago there was a girl who worked in the bakery next to where I worked, who had a video of her and 2 guys shagging make the rounds online. She had to come out and say she swings, isnt a porn star or prostitute, and that the video sharing was a serious breach of her trust etc. I remember chatting to her about it, and she said the worst bit was actually the women, who would automatically assume she wanted to jump their boyfriends/husbands, and she found it very difficult to maintain female friendships after. That was about 8 years ago now, and although I think public perception has chilled out a bit since then, I know there'd still be a hell of a lot of judgemental people out there!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Poor woman. Especially 8 years ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Surely public perception is shifting, could do without those ridiculous channel 4 programs on swingers and sex clubs (however I liked the look of that one held in Ibiza)

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I was sacked from my job last year for 'bringing the organisation into disrepute' after a gruelling 5 month investigation. Even though my employer admitted that I had done nothing illegal and had kept my private life completely separate from my work they still sacked me!

It actually turned out for the best but was pretty traumatic at the time.

Mrs Dirty

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

People have Always fucked their neighbours and friends throughout history

Now the internet makes it readily available

It's become a middle class hobby I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People have Always fucked their neighbours and friends throughout history

Now the internet makes it readily available

It's become a middle class hobby I think

"

Surely there was a case for an employment tribunal there?

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By *aisyDoandDaisyDontWoman
over a year ago

little old town of Reading!


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business.

If I'd just started working there I'd be looking for a new job.

Inappropriate, unprofessional and more than a little creepy.

Discretion seems to be a word your employers need to look up in the dictionary.

A

Absolutely.

Employers knowing is one thing but sharing it liberally with other parties is shockingly indiscreet."

This is the second thread I've seen him tell this story on recently. I agree with the others a, I think it's creepy and inappropriate. If I was those new members of staff I would have felt highly uncomfortable, despite the fact that I live the lifestyle myself. Absolutely cannot stand this billy big bollocks bragging about your sex life. Who are you trying to prove something to? Them or yourself?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business.

If I'd just started working there I'd be looking for a new job.

Inappropriate, unprofessional and more than a little creepy.

Discretion seems to be a word your employers need to look up in the dictionary.

A

Absolutely.

Employers knowing is one thing but sharing it liberally with other parties is shockingly indiscreet.

This is the second thread I've seen him tell this story on recently. I agree with the others a, I think it's creepy and inappropriate. If I was those new members of staff I would have felt highly uncomfortable, despite the fact that I live the lifestyle myself. Absolutely cannot stand this billy big bollocks bragging about your sex life. Who are you trying to prove something to? Them or yourself? "

Yes. A tad creepy I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business.

If I'd just started working there I'd be looking for a new job.

Inappropriate, unprofessional and more than a little creepy.

Discretion seems to be a word your employers need to look up in the dictionary.

A

Absolutely.

Employers knowing is one thing but sharing it liberally with other parties is shockingly indiscreet.

This is the second thread I've seen him tell this story on recently. I agree with the others a, I think it's creepy and inappropriate. If I was those new members of staff I would have felt highly uncomfortable, despite the fact that I live the lifestyle myself. Absolutely cannot stand this billy big bollocks bragging about your sex life. Who are you trying to prove something to? Them or yourself? "

No one likes a show off

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)"

Good Lord!

How unprofessional! If I stayed I'd make a mental note to never mention anything personal for fear of it being bandied about at staff meetings.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't really think about it, although I can assure you that if I included swinging when listing my hobbies my workmates would probably comment.

My workplace are fully informed...right up to board level. As was my previous.

We had a meeting last week with two new staff.....one made a comment about being at a (vanilla) party the week before. Managing director said to her ....you should try one of Chris's parties.... She said oh...why?

My manager then informed her that I taught Christian Grey all he knew.....I did explain that I wasn't really into anything more than light bdsm play but it gave us all a good laugh.

It is nothing illegal and should not affect any job applications (though I will admit it wasn't actually on my CV)

I prefer my social life and my work life to be separate.

Same here. And I also like to keep my sex life private from my friends. It's no ones business.

If I'd just started working there I'd be looking for a new job.

Inappropriate, unprofessional and more than a little creepy.

Discretion seems to be a word your employers need to look up in the dictionary.

A"

Not just me then?!!

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We have been swinging many years we got married young childhood sweethearts we had only been with each other. We keep this side of our life to our selves none of our friend,s have a clue about it.Was in the pub trade many year,s you would see couples with other couple,s in the pub,s we have run and there was sign,s there could be swinging or was it in our mind,s

I think swinging is beginning to get socially accepted with the younger end but they dont want all and Sundry to know. Young one,s have had more sexual partner,s than we had.Iam now a 60 year old i could hardly say when i am with my friends all women Paul got me fucked by a young 29 year old like he did last Tuesday

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe"

Swinging is NOT socially acceptable! To think it is or is becoming so is to deny the facts. All you need to do is read the papers or listen to the news, regular as clockwork their are 'shock' stories about how swinging ruined someone's life or made them criminals. Then there are the sensational outings whenever anyone in the public eye is found to be a swinger!

However I would say that there seems to be slightly more tolerance provided it is kept behind closed doors.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on the scene a while now having chosen to stay single, I get the impression swinging is becoming socially accepted, although of course discretion is preferred, or do people find it still quite taboo. Seems accepted in europe

Swinging is NOT socially acceptable! To think it is or is becoming so is to deny the facts. All you need to do is read the papers or listen to the news, regular as clockwork their are 'shock' stories about how swinging ruined someone's life or made them criminals. Then there are the sensational outings whenever anyone in the public eye is found to be a swinger!

However I would say that there seems to be slightly more tolerance provided it is kept behind closed doors. "

Well the media still like to sensationalise it

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


" I'd tell your mum but I wouldn't tell mine. "

Lol

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

There's still way too many narrow minded people out there I'm afraid for swinging to ever be socially acceptable. People have a hard time generally accepting anything that's outside the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was sacked from my job last year for 'bringing the organisation into disrepute' after a gruelling 5 month investigation. Even though my employer admitted that I had done nothing illegal and had kept my private life completely separate from my work they still sacked me!

It actually turned out for the best but was pretty traumatic at the time.i

Mrs Dirty "

That sounds awful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Poor you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Because swingers are disgusting. They think about sex all the time and will fuck anyone. People just aren't safe when swingers are around. Sex should be between two people, no more than that. It will never be socially acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. Because swingers are disgusting. They think about sex all the time and will fuck anyone. People just aren't safe when swingers are around. Sex should be between two people, no more than that. It will never be socially acceptable. "

Boldly said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Because swingers are disgusting. They think about sex all the time and will fuck anyone. People just aren't safe when swingers are around. Sex should be between two people, no more than that. It will never be socially acceptable. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Because swingers are disgusting. They think about sex all the time and will fuck anyone. People just aren't safe when swingers are around. Sex should be between two people, no more than that. It will never be socially acceptable.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No.

That's why you don't tell anyone except other swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kat tells her close friends she swings. They were at first shocked but now cannot wait to hear about her meets especially when many men are involved.

There is a mixture of admiration and a little jealousy but they all agree she is happier, more confident and far sexier now she enjoys varied sex on a regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Kat tells her close friends she swings. They were at first shocked but now cannot wait to hear about her meets especially when many men are involved.

There is a mixture of admiration and a little jealousy but they all agree she is happier, more confident and far sexier now she enjoys varied sex on a regular basis. "

I keep it quite

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Mr tells his work mates with relish about our escapades, but I would never. He has a new job and some of his workmates come from our local area, so I have asked him to be more discrete because of the nature of my job. There is no way I would ever tell anyone. I think we can imagine, in this little bubble, that it is acceptable or others would understand .... not true at all.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Mr tells his work mates with relish about our escapades, but I would never. He has a new job and some of his workmates come from our local area, so I have asked him to be more discrete because of the nature of my job. There is no way I would ever tell anyone. I think we can imagine, in this little bubble, that it is acceptable or others would understand .... not true at all."

I honestly don't get what's to be gained by sharing every intimate detail of your life with all and sundry. I could never trust someone so indescrete...if they can't keep their own business private they'll happily divulge mine.

Each to their own I guess.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"No.

That's why you don't tell anyone except other swingers. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm open about who I am but this is different to sharing the details of my behaviour. I've little interest in others' life details and can see no value in revealing details to people other than close friends. Almost on a need to know basis.

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