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do verries ever put you off somone your really keen on?????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you ever thought,,,, Ohhhh noooo after looking at verries??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to be honest, yes, in the past they have.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yep - but also the people that left the veri.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!"

Really?

To the OP, no. I have a check that they have meet veris, but rarely read them. Why would I want to read about the women he's met before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest yes.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

No i prefer to meet people and make my own mind up about them, not based on what someone else has said in a veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunatly yes

We are put off by loads of veris but only if they have played with them all as we like a challange!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

way too explicit some are.

but what does give me a laugh, are the ones that end ' hope to see you again soon xxxxxx'

then you look up the veri list + that poor sod doesnt appear again. still at least he got to buy her a coffee/drink/dinner waddeva

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really...I dont care if they meet people before me or after me.

and being honest I hate people slagging off other meets as if theyre better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah..its a swingers site..isn't having sex with many different partners the norm for hedonists..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had people say they won't meet me also because of people I have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feels like a double standard sometimes, no verifications and no interest and recently told I looked like a slapper because of the number of verifications.

Face palm moment. Oh no I actually meet and enjoy sex with some of the persons I've met. Anyone would think this was Fabs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feels like a double standard sometimes, no verifications and no interest and recently told I looked like a slapper because of the number of verifications.

Face palm moment. Oh no I actually meet and enjoy sex with some of the persons I've met. Anyone would think this was Fabs lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. But I don't just look at the guy's veris - I look at the profiles of the people they've slept with, and what both wrote about each other! And yes - sometimes the women they've been with have been so rough, or the veri's have been so crude and explicit, that i've been completely put off!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Have you ever thought,,,, Ohhhh noooo after looking at verries?? "

To be honest, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had people say they won't meet me also because of people I have met. "

I must admit I have done that with a couple of guys but I do have my reasons

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!"

so how many is too many???

over what period of time???

does it matter if they are social or play... or is it just the overall number you based that assumption on???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some veris have put me off but only when it comes to people who do bareback or who meet people who do bareback. I'm not judging. I just prefer to meet people with a more responsible outlook. I'm not put of by the quantity of veris as many are from social/club meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle with this one as I know it shouldn't because you will never know someone's entire sexual history, but seeing certain things or veris from certain people have put me off in the past. What's the saying?...ignorance is bliss??

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!

so how many is too many???

over what period of time???

does it matter if they are social or play... or is it just the overall number you based that assumption on???"

It's too late - I was overclocked years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Didn't show my veri's at one point as random women seemed to stalk me on a regular basis, which I worked out was directly linked to who Id met.. I became quite self aware and really it's done me a favour as now I never look to see who's looked at me! Lol

I always look at potential meet verifications though. Gives an indication of a person I think. Particularly if they are talking shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had people say they won't meet me also because of people I have met.

I must admit I have done that with a couple of guys but I do have my reasons "

och!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had people say they won't meet me also because of people I have met.

I must admit I have done that with a couple of guys but I do have my reasons

och! "

Och yerself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nah..its a swingers site..isn't having sex with many different partners the norm for hedonists..?"

Exactly, I have 56 veris, but not had sex with all of them, a lot from parties and clubs, just people I've met and a laugh and chat with. But I'm a swinger, I enjoy sex, some bloody hypocrites on here. Each to their own people, come on. Love peace and happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only once she had 256!!!

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land


"Yes. But I don't just look at the guy's veris - I look at the profiles of the people they've slept with, and what both wrote about each other! And yes - sometimes the women they've been with have been so rough, or the veri's have been so crude and explicit, that i've been completely put off!

"

Yes couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"only once she had 256!!! "
fucks not socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all the time and when I still met someone I regreted it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately yes. Sometimes it's difficult not to be judgemental when you have knowledge of someone who has left them a veri.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've read veri's where they have said they are the nicest person blah blah only to meet the person to find them to be not very nice people. I don't take much notice of veri's and make my own mind up.

I can't stand women sending messages about my meets hence why I no longer show my veri's

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see i hate the "too many" arguement as i think it really shows up peoples attitudes...

there are reasons i have been put off veri's... but the number of people that may have been verified by them is not one of them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am not put off by how many people they have met.. its the certain people they have met that have put me off meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts me off if the blokes decent looking and the woman is as rough as a dogs arse...im like....nooooo thanks!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Am not put off by how many people they have met.. its the certain people they have met that have put me off meeting them"

i am adult enough to believe that some people may get on with people that i may not.......

yes there are reasons (for example... playing bareback, playing away ect) that i can see are immediate red flags for people....

but if that is not the case then playing in effect "six degrees of seperation" feels to me a tad childish.....

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I rarely read veris TBH, I scroll down to see if they have them, if they are meet or cam n when the last one was. But that is about it.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Puts me off if the blokes decent looking and the woman is as rough as a dogs arse...im like....nooooo thanks!!"

but again that reeks of arrogance

for example.. if a woman thought the same of you (rough as a dogs arse) or thought that about the person you had decided to play with.. and by playing with you.. they were no longer good enough....

how would you feel......

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe


"Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!"

How manys too many lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you put off by loads of veris though?

I have a fair few, and i haven't even been verified by all of the people i've met. I meet people irl as well so they aren't even on here. I have meets every day, plenty with the same people and a fair few one offs. I also do 3sums so gonna get two veris in one session sometimes.

I like how i'm liberated when it comes to sex, makes me a good fuck and non-judgemental. I don't expect everyone to want to fuck me because of it but if someone wanted to before they saw my veris i don't get why that would put them off? I'm fussy too, get more than enough offers to be fussy.

Only veris that put me off are the ones going about themselves on someone elses page, makes me think they would be selfish in bed and i'm not gonna get mine. But even then if i fancied them enough i'd give them a try to see if i'm right.

I actually had a message off one guy last week saying i spread diseases coz i sleep around a lot, fucking misogynist and bigoted attitude to take, imo. I had blocked him ages ago coz i wasn't interested in him but my blocklist is fucked up so he managed to become another ignored pesterer. Hope he stays blocked this time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Puts me off if the blokes decent looking and the woman is as rough as a dogs arse...im like....nooooo thanks!!

but again that reeks of arrogance

for example.. if a woman thought the same of you (rough as a dogs arse) or thought that about the person you had decided to play with.. and by playing with you.. they were no longer good enough....

how would you feel......"

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"only once she had 256!!! fucks not socials "

And yet anyone you could be planning on meeting could easily be showing 10 veris and hiding another 500....

What was it someone said earlier... Ignorance is bliss

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By *laineabdneilCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Too many a definite put off....

Not into veries being honest because we've had loads asking to very us if we very them with people we've not met so personally we don't take much notice of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever thought,,,, Ohhhh noooo after looking at verries?? "

Yes but, more from who they are from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Anything can put me off right upto the moment of insertion.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup.. Unfortunately if I see a veri off a woman who pretty much plays with anyone and anything the thought of that guy touching me makes my skin crawl

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Too many a definite put off....

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not picking on you... but the people who use this as a reason never answer the questions...

so... help me out here

how many is too many?

over what period of time?

all play meets or play and social.. or social... or it is just the total number?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Puts me off if the blokes decent looking and the woman is as rough as a dogs arse...im like....nooooo thanks!!"

a woman who looks like a dogs arse to you could look like an angel of beauty to another..? just sayin like..

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"not really...I dont care if they meet people before me or after me.

and being honest I hate people slagging off other meets as if theyre better"

I backtracked through your veris Paddy and I found out that you'd met a girl who'd played with a man who'd had a social meet with a couple who'd visited a swingers club where they'd played with a bloke who'd fucked a girl who had a picture where you could see her nail varnish was chipped!!!

INSTANT BLOCK

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"not really...I dont care if they meet people before me or after me.

and being honest I hate people slagging off other meets as if theyre better

I backtracked through your veris Paddy and I found out that you'd met a girl who'd played with a man who'd had a social meet with a couple who'd visited a swingers club where they'd played with a bloke who'd fucked a girl who had a picture where you could see her nail varnish was chipped!!!

INSTANT BLOCK "

Too bloody right!

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By *laineabdneilCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

As I said we've had loads asking to very us if we very them etc so guess that happens alot so alot of fake veries ...

Our pref is we don't do many meets... Keeps it fresh and exciting .. Some peolpe become obsessed with it all abdcthe more people meet the less they appeal...

But i stress.. That's only my opinion avd each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"way too explicit some are.

but what does give me a laugh, are the ones that end ' hope to see you again soon xxxxxx'

then you look up the veri list + that poor sod doesnt appear again. still at least he got to buy her a coffee/drink/dinner waddeva"

Why on earth would they?

Surely you verify someone once? Not every meet....thats a bit creepy.

I've had dozens of meets with one person and only swapped one veri....why would I give a running commentary of all our meets....its a bit possessive no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not really...I dont care if they meet people before me or after me.

and being honest I hate people slagging off other meets as if theyre better

I backtracked through your veris Paddy and I found out that you'd met a girl who'd played with a man who'd had a social meet with a couple who'd visited a swingers club where they'd played with a bloke who'd fucked a girl who had a picture where you could see her nail varnish was chipped!!!

INSTANT BLOCK "

Yeah but it's pads caz we all know he's a trollope

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If getting the odd spelling mistake puts people off shagging someone, I guess the looks, the words used, or the cellulite on the arse of a previous fuck might....

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"not really...I dont care if they meet people before me or after me.

and being honest I hate people slagging off other meets as if theyre better

I backtracked through your veris Paddy and I found out that you'd met a girl who'd played with a man who'd had a social meet with a couple who'd visited a swingers club where they'd played with a bloke who'd fucked a girl who had a picture where you could see her nail varnish was chipped!!!

INSTANT BLOCK

Yeah but it's pads caz we all know he's a trollope "

I can forgive a lot, but chipped nail varnish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever thought,,,, Ohhhh noooo after looking at verries?? "

if im honest yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes... I avoid anyone with loadssssss of verries. Maybe that's why I've not met anyone yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more likely to be put off by a single status update than a long list of verifications. Some updates are just Ewww and I know they're not the type of people I want to meet.

I only display my most recent veris so people know I haven't popped my clogs!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"not really...I dont care if they meet people before me or after me.

and being honest I hate people slagging off other meets as if theyre better

I backtracked through your veris Paddy and I found out that you'd met a girl who'd played with a man who'd had a social meet with a couple who'd visited a swingers club where they'd played with a bloke who'd fucked a girl who had a picture where you could see her nail varnish was chipped!!!

INSTANT BLOCK

Yeah but it's pads caz we all know he's a trollope "

Well, he's met me, so he must be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many a definite put off....

not picking on you... but the people who use this as a reason never answer the questions...

so... help me out here

how many is too many?

over what period of time?

all play meets or play and social.. or social... or it is just the total number?"

You most probably haven't got your answer for one very simple reason...Opinions vary!

No one is picking on no one in this thread, just expressing opinions just like you! And why should anyone have to explain their reasons specifically to you??

You have your opinion, you have expressed it, and so does everyone else in this thread

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

You most probably haven't got your answer for one very simple reason...Opinions vary!

"

and that is why I asked... because people throw that out as a cute soundbite, but never back it up by giving a figure for them so a discussion can take place...

its not a case of changing peoples minds.... more gaining an understanding about them and where they are coming from...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not really...I dont care if they meet people before me or after me.

and being honest I hate people slagging off other meets as if theyre better

I backtracked through your veris Paddy and I found out that you'd met a girl who'd played with a man who'd had a social meet with a couple who'd visited a swingers club where they'd played with a bloke who'd fucked a girl who had a picture where you could see her nail varnish was chipped!!!

INSTANT BLOCK

Yeah but it's pads caz we all know he's a trollope

Well, he's met me, so he must be. "

me a trollope!?...keep the insults above board please..its SLUT!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, but with me it was that I saw he'd met someone who was so vastly out of my league I felt like I'd be rubbish in comparison, and got it into my head i'd be a huge disappointment. So I didn't meet the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm yes.

I like meeting people with few/no/hidden veries as less is more. I don't want to hear about how many girls a potential meet has made squirt, thanks.

Swinging site or not, I like an element of mystery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sometimes puts me off when I see hundreds of veris (excluding socials). Good luck to them, but it's not a game I want to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, but with me it was that I saw he'd met someone who was so vastly out of my league I felt like I'd be rubbish in comparison, and got it into my head i'd be a huge disappointment. So I didn't meet the guy. "

I've hated that in the past..someone thinking because I've met someone "hotter" than them that they would be a less worthy meet!...anyway fuck me anna...if she's hotter than you..geez her number/username lol

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By *roken77Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

I think lack of Veris is worse - I've met a few women over the time I've been on here - but havnt been veri'd by many - despite leaving them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One problem with veris is they're all pretty much the same. I've never seen one that said - her photos were about 10 years out of date, couldn't get much of a conversation going and the sex was a waste of both of our time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One problem with veris is they're all pretty much the same. I've never seen one that said - her photos were about 10 years out of date, couldn't get much of a conversation going and the sex was a waste of both of our time. "

I agree. If we are to believe veries then every woman squirts for England and gives the best head a man's ever had! Men all seem to have 'suckable' cocks. Not sure what makes one cock more suckable than another mind, but every verified male appears to have one.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

yes a few times

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It has either happened or could happen for me. I probably read more veris for people I don't meet than do.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

No

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yep - but also the people that left the veri.

A"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes but also if most of the ladies they have met before have been slim stunners I won't meet them

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Aah. Another judgement and defence thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet and have fun; that is why we are on here.

We are therefore sceptical about those with no veris or one "from 2011" and none since; do they ever play?

However, for us, what is more off putting are those where all, or the vast majority, of veris are social. Each to their own, but we do not get much time to play so dont want to waste it, already have plenty of good friends, drink enough wine and coffee not to need to meet strangers as an excuse to drink more, so what we want from Fab meets is great NSA sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more put off by someone sending me a message telling me how good they are with the 'look at my verifications!' Just because others thought they were good, doesn't mean everyone will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest. I'm not really into veris. I just find it a bit weird fucking someone and then writing a re_iew of eachother. I have them because they seem necessary for most fab users. But I never ask people to verify me. More often than not I ask people not to veri me. I'm probably a weirdo though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest. I'm not really into veris. I just find it a bit weird fucking someone and then writing a re_iew of eachother. I have them because they seem necessary for most fab users. But I never ask people to verify me. More often than not I ask people not to veri me. I'm probably a weirdo though "

I must be a weirdo too then

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"Yup.. Unfortunately if I see a veri off a woman who pretty much plays with anyone and anything the thought of that guy touching me makes my skin crawl"

ditto, not wanting to be judgemental but this does put me off.

Don't like explicit veris either. I've read one that was practically an erotic novel (but with bad spelling and punctuation)

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!"

Sounds like the owner of the numerous veris has been "serviced" regularly so it might not be a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but now i just dont look

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I'm more put off by someone sending me a message telling me how good they are with the 'look at my verifications!' Just because others thought they were good, doesn't mean everyone will "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of verifications do put us off. As does seeing who as met who.

We dont display ours. Its nice if you meet someone lovely and they like to leave you a personal message. But we dont feel its necessary to display them like notches on a bedpost.

Lets keep a little mystery going folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever thought,,,, Ohhhh noooo after looking at verries?? "
yes I have ... seeing loads from same person its like they own them in some way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"see i hate the "too many" arguement as i think it really shows up peoples attitudes...

there are reasons i have been put off veri's... but the number of people that may have been verified by them is not one of them..."

Its amazing how many look at the number of veris and judge but actually don't bother to look and see not all of them were play meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile is the deciding thing for me not the verifications however many or lack thereof. I have also been asked to verify someone in return for one from them - but declined of course...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, but with me it was that I saw he'd met someone who was so vastly out of my league I felt like I'd be rubbish in comparison, and got it into my head i'd be a huge disappointment. So I didn't meet the guy. "

As if someone could be out of your league

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes i think most people have a quick glanc thru veris and what they read will affect the decision to persue anything further or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!"

YES!!! Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. And for different reasons. I wouldn't be concerned about the lady having seen someone hotter/younger/bigger/fitter/funnier etc, but if they had been with fugly morons I would be put off.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Especially if too many - like a car with too many miles on the clock!

YES!!! Agreed "

Ah, but then how many is too many? It's a question as old as time itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it has done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like the really graphic ones a bit crass, this is merely my opinion though its not really for the watcher but for the wearer each to their own..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol we have loads of veri's many from people we haven't played with whilst hosting, if people are put off by the amount of veri's then they haven't read our profile properly so never mind x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The veris that deter me are the claim-staking ones, the ones where there are repeated veris by the same person making 'jokey' comments like "he's all mine".

Even more so since I discovered that one serial leaver of territorial veris was spreading rumours about me and making ultimatums to guys we'd both me!

It's supposed to be a Swingers site but there are bunny boilers here too!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

it sometimes feels like people can't win regardless.....

people they saw before were ugly..... put off!

people they saw before were too pretty.... put off!

too many verifications.... put off!

too few verifications.... put off!

it is just feel like some people were prepared to meet them "before" these other people....... but god be damned if i am going to meet these people "after" these people....

I mean, how dare they meet other people!

I'm not talking about the barebacks/marrieds ect... where it may be a conscience/sexual health issue...

but just how people really think about other people and make an instant judgement...

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"way too explicit some are.

but what does give me a laugh, are the ones that end ' hope to see you again soon xxxxxx'

then you look up the veri list + that poor sod doesnt appear again. still at least he got to buy her a coffee/drink/dinner waddeva"

I never put up another veri from the same person as one's enough... And I do meet a few of mine more than once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it sometimes feels like people can't win regardless.....

people they saw before were ugly..... put off!

people they saw before were too pretty.... put off!

too many verifications.... put off!

too few verifications.... put off!

it is just feel like some people were prepared to meet them "before" these other people....... but god be damned if i am going to meet these people "after" these people....

I mean, how dare they meet other people!

I'm not talking about the barebacks/marrieds ect... where it may be a conscience/sexual health issue...

but just how people really think about other people and make an instant judgement..."

posted in similar forum:

I find its either arrogance, or insecurity that usually leads to the being put off by a potential meets fab past meets.

note I said usually

just last week I seen one of my meets being publicly slated by some unknown woman..I've seen it happen on various profiles throughout the years...and it always appears to be the moaniest of profiles..the site is either full of timewasters,liars,dreamers and anyone who is meeting various people is a cheap slag...

sad...pathetic and utterly juvenile

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Oh yes .. very influenced by the text in veries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a veri does put you off do you tell the person or just reach for the block button ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it sometimes feels like people can't win regardless.....

people they saw before were ugly..... put off!

people they saw before were too pretty.... put off!

too many verifications.... put off!

too few verifications.... put off!

it is just feel like some people were prepared to meet them "before" these other people....... but god be damned if i am going to meet these people "after" these people....

I mean, how dare they meet other people!

I'm not talking about the barebacks/marrieds ect... where it may be a conscience/sexual health issue...

but just how people really think about other people and make an instant judgement...

posted in similar forum:

I find its either arrogance, or insecurity that usually leads to the being put off by a potential meets fab past meets.

note I said usually

just last week I seen one of my meets being publicly slated by some unknown woman..I've seen it happen on various profiles throughout the years...and it always appears to be the moaniest of profiles..the site is either full of timewasters,liars,dreamers and anyone who is meeting various people is a cheap slag...

sad...pathetic and utterly juvenile"

Here here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes I have but only if they've met someone who's met like the whole site.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"it sometimes feels like people can't win regardless.....

people they saw before were ugly..... put off!

people they saw before were too pretty.... put off!

too many verifications.... put off!

too few verifications.... put off!

it is just feel like some people were prepared to meet them "before" these other people....... but god be damned if i am going to meet these people "after" these people....

I mean, how dare they meet other people!

I'm not talking about the barebacks/marrieds ect... where it may be a conscience/sexual health issue...

but just how people really think about other people and make an instant judgement...

posted in similar forum:

I find its either arrogance, or insecurity that usually leads to the being put off by a potential meets fab past meets.

note I said usually

just last week I seen one of my meets being publicly slated by some unknown woman..I've seen it happen on various profiles throughout the years...and it always appears to be the moaniest of profiles..the site is either full of timewasters,liars,dreamers and anyone who is meeting various people is a cheap slag...

sad...pathetic and utterly juvenile

Here here."

Yes this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never judge a book by its cover my old pops used to tell me, I am old and wise enough to decide who I want and don't want to meet without having to look through verifications.

So no the amount would not and does not put us off meeting someone, neither what's written in them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. But I don't just look at the guy's veris - I look at the profiles of the people they've slept with, and what both wrote about each other! And yes - sometimes the women they've been with have been so rough, or the veri's have been so crude and explicit, that i've been completely put off!

"

You could've taken the words right out of my mouth....exactly how I feel and what I do!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Those who have said that they wouldn't meet someone because they thought previous meets because they look "rough" have you thought if the shoe was on the other foot, if someone looked at your verification that you have left and thought fuck me she looks like a back end of a bus. It's not a very nice judgement to make, just because someone who hasn't been blessed with the pretty stick should be belittled or shouldthe person who they have met. We are all someone's trash but can be someone's treasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those who have said that they wouldn't meet someone because they thought previous meets because they look "rough" have you thought if the shoe was on the other foot, if someone looked at your verification that you have left and thought fuck me she looks like a back end of a bus. It's not a very nice judgement to make, just because someone who hasn't been blessed with the pretty stick should be belittled or shouldthe person who they have met. We are all someone's trash but can be someone's treasure. "

I'd dip yer pot of gold

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Yes. Just recently actually after seeing pics and a veri on here its completely put me off and im not going to be going there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but only because of feeling a little inexperienced in comparison. Their profile may be great etc but then 20 or 30 verifications make us feel that they would eat us alive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those who have said that they wouldn't meet someone because they thought previous meets because they look "rough" have you thought if the shoe was on the other foot, if someone looked at your verification that you have left and thought fuck me she looks like a back end of a bus. It's not a very nice judgement to make, just because someone who hasn't been blessed with the pretty stick should be belittled or shouldthe person who they have met. We are all someone's trash but can be someone's treasure.

I'd dip yer pot of gold "

Ditto that sentiment fella,

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By *eckyWithTheGoodHairWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

I have a few...., most by friends iv met at clubs etc, annnnnnd iv been here for over 2 years, its crazy, too many n ur a slapper but none n ur a fake ??? Hmmmm x prey tell veri police, how many people in ur opinion shud we b meeting/fucking/playing with per week/month/year ? This site is ment to be fun but recently everyone is totally nit-picking n pulling everything n everyone to shreads. If u dont like then dont look or judge, move on n get over it. Considering this is a swinger site n we all here for similar experiences the moral police r suuuuuch debbie downers. Browse flirt fuck laugh n jeeso chill the fek out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm more likely to be put off by a single status update than a long list of verifications. Some updates are just Ewww and I know they're not the type of people I want to meet.

I only display my most recent veris so people know I haven't popped my clogs!"

I know what you mean here! I was due to meet a gorgeous guy and had him on my hotlist! For a few days prior to our meet though, his statuses were so bigoted and unpleasant against tv's/ts's, bi men and larger ladies - I decided that he was the last person on earth i'd want to meet as many of the finest people I know on here fall into those categories - so I cancelled and told him why.

At this point, you'll be amazed to hear, he told me he'd been doing me a favour agreeing to meet an old dog like me anyway, and he was glad i'd cancelled!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it don't but then the question is, is she keen back, a catch 22 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever thought,,,, Ohhhh noooo after looking at verries?? "

It's shallow and nit-picking to do this, and we do it all the time

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Those who have said that they wouldn't meet someone because they thought previous meets because they look "rough" have you thought if the shoe was on the other foot, if someone looked at your verification that you have left and thought fuck me she looks like a back end of a bus. It's not a very nice judgement to make, just because someone who hasn't been blessed with the pretty stick should be belittled or shouldthe person who they have met. We are all someone's trash but can be someone's treasure. "

You said it better than I was going to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those who have said that they wouldn't meet someone because they thought previous meets because they look "rough" have you thought if the shoe was on the other foot, if someone looked at your verification that you have left and thought fuck me she looks like a back end of a bus. It's not a very nice judgement to make, just because someone who hasn't been blessed with the pretty stick should be belittled or shouldthe person who they have met. We are all someone's trash but can be someone's treasure.

You said it better than I was going to "

I wouldnt have read it if you had typed it..as being to busy wanking over your pics

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

Most definately, yes. You can see a completely different side to someone from what they've written and who they've been with. This put me right off someone recently and she came down massively in my estimation, to the degree I really can't be bothered with her anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a way yes, veris do matter.

Obviously I check that potential new meets have been verified. But then I proceed to have a look at the kind of women they've met before.

If I find that they have "low standards" I then consider myself "out if their league" and lose interest.

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By *he Stuff Of LegendMan
over a year ago

Hadfield

It can do if they have played with known barebackers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most definately, yes. You can see a completely different side to someone from what they've written and who they've been with. This put me right off someone recently and she came down massively in my estimation, to the degree I really can't be bothered with her anymore "

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Those who have said that they wouldn't meet someone because they thought previous meets because they look "rough" have you thought if the shoe was on the other foot, if someone looked at your verification that you have left and thought fuck me she looks like a back end of a bus. It's not a very nice judgement to make, just because someone who hasn't been blessed with the pretty stick should be belittled or shouldthe person who they have met. We are all someone's trash but can be someone's treasure.

You said it better than I was going to

I wouldnt have read it if you had typed it..as being to busy wanking over your pics "

My veris didn't put you off wanking I see... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veri's are a very good way to find out if someone is lying to you. Some men aren't very clever on here at times..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If people are put off veris, it's better if they do see the detail. I've verified a few people - some of them sex partners, other's who I've known/met via other pursuits. Some aren't keen on anyone who's shagged someone like me but I'm a sociable soul at clubs and talk to everyone. It just doesn't make them tgirl shaggers.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

If I find that they have "low standards" I then consider myself "out if their league" and lose interest."

thats the attitude i find really cringe-worthy.......

I am sure it goes on alot of swinging sites and at least you admit it.... you can see it in a lot of status updates

its the "well i am better than you attitde"......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't

If that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely..being a judgemental wee shite (just being honest) if they have met certain people it's a definite no.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

There are many reasons I can be put off a profile,the veris may be part of that but they won't be the sole reason,they'll just be part of the jigsaw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Under our old profile one of our friends 'appeared' to be working their way through our veri'd people! And our friends list - didn't know whether to be flattered or annoyed! Lol

Sara x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Veri's are a very good way to find out if someone is lying to you. Some men aren't very clever on here at times.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever thought,,,, Ohhhh noooo after looking at verries?? "

Yes if a guy mails us asking to meet and says hes straight and his profile states straight yet his Veris tell a different story that hes played with Guys or TV's then makes huge difference as we then wouldnt meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have used them to check the kinds of people that they meet.

People looking for bareback in that list? We're not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have used them to check the kinds of people that they meet.

People looking for bareback in that list? We're not meeting."

lots of men who message me have met women who do bareback all the time, not just sometimes.

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