FabSwingers.com forum: When a verification clearly isn't enough...

By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sing like a canary.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say they were nice...the end lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them to find out for themselves then warn the person in question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awkward! I'm not sure what I'd do, I've never contacted anyone to find out what someone like, try to make my own judgement

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

i tell them to, in the kindest terms "do one!!!".......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

Tell them to mind their own business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would embellish my story. Give every gory detail in technicolour

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Ask them why they want to know?? I would not go into too much detail.......I met them, I liked them, I will meet them again - anything else is none of their business

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

ignore and block them.

On similar lines we have had people contact us because we have met people they have met, they seem to think that means we will meet them too...no idea why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

I should have said what would you do? and not what do you do? in the OP as I know what I would do

Not respond at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans

Gimpus

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans

Gimpus"

oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I'd ask if they preferred the truth or what they wanted to hear. Both of which is not my business to divulge

What I find strange are the ones that go "I see you met Ahabs, am a friend of his. Lets meet". Makes me think "wtf???"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tell them what's happened is our business only and will stay that way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't respond. I'd give the person they were looking for details on a heads up though.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

What I find strange are the ones that go "I see you met Ahabs, am a friend of his. Lets meet". Makes me think "wtf???""

oh i have had that one..... using my name as a "name drop"....

or the best one "well you met _abio, why will you not meet me!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"
tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol

I'm still down there!

Obviously not one of my better ones

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I respond that they are real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol

I'm still down there!

Obviously not one of my better ones

I have you tied up in toilet paper...not trying very hard are u...!

anyway...bringing down some left over haggis for your dinner x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol

I'm still down there!

Obviously not one of my better ones

I have you tied up in toilet paper...not trying very hard are u...!

anyway...bringing down some left over haggis for your dinner x"

Is it that extra strong loo paper?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"
say very little . I hate that and why I don't show a lot here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans

Gimpus

oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said

Its only Wrong when you get caught, And how many times do i have to say the Rubber Sheet goes down FIRST

Gimp

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do? tell them you had to leave a good veri cause they wouldn't let you out of the cellar to you did lol

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

I'd tell them to find out themselves!! cheeky cnuts!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

I may just respond with the best comments on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

I don't meet anyone without reading all their veri's, contacting the people that verified them, making a spreadsheet of all the people that met them, reading their last 3 months of forum posts and finding them on Facebook and asking their family members what they are like.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

i dont kiss and tell

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans

Gimpus

oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said

Its only Wrong when you get caught, And how many times do i have to say the Rubber Sheet goes down FIRST

Gimp"

of course, sorry

. It's just he was struggling so much when I unwrapped him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

Uncle Charlie says he'll get back to you soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This does my head in! I usually respond that everyone is different and wants different things, and reiterate whatever I have said in the veri already.. Send. Block. Delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly

Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've had this but from women trying to find out about what happened on the meet...

This is what I call pissing up the lampost

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly

Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it.

I was set up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?

i dont kiss and tell "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't respond. I'd give the person they were looking for details on a heads up though. "
This!!!

Defo give a heads up to the person inquired about!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I either say nothing on the grounds of discretion, or make up a lurid event, involving us gate crashing a wedding, both shouting there is an impediment at the psychological moment, as the groom belongs to us, then saying wrong wedding and please carry on, before seeing just how much you have to do to get thrown out of a burger king and then rounded off the meet by trying to kidnap a penguin....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had this but from women trying to find out about what happened on the meet...

This is what I call pissing up the lampost

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago

Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14

Invite them round to show the PowerPoint presentation of the meet, and if that does not work throw in a pie chart conversion of etiquette practices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have contacted fems that I know on here when it has come to meeting single men alone more so for my own safety to be honest with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly

Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it.

I was set up!

It's your loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

Freak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People actually do this?...clearly no one cares what I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really! Bloodyhell,

I'd say erm sorry it's not really for me to discus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

I find this kinda creepy. Tell them to do one!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Personally I think for goodness sake trust your instincts and make your own mind up....it's not that difficult to do

so THAT'S why you wouldn't meet me, most of what my family said happened a long time ago and the medication keeps me mainly stable, you had nothing to fear.....honestly

Your Facebook/ family report checked out fine. It was the police reports and your secondary school exam results that blew it.

I was set up!

It's your loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone messaging me for an opinion on anything needs serious psychiatric help so i would refer them to Samaritans

Gimpus

oh damn! So that thing you told me to do was wrong then? I cleaned up all the blood and stuff like you said

Its only Wrong when you get caught, And how many times do i have to say the Rubber Sheet goes down FIRST

Gimp

of course, sorry

. It's just he was struggling so much when I unwrapped him

dear oh dear it seems you will need refresher Training Always carry a Cattle Prod

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anyone use a verification to determine the suitability of a potential playmate(s)?

Everyone [on fab] has a suckable cock or a sweet tasting pussy; we are not to be passed by and would defo meet again so what is the use?

Its the ingratiated ingratiating themselves to the ingratiated if you get my drift?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone [on fab] has a suckable cock or a sweet tasting pussy; we are not to be passed by and would defo meet again "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

Tell them to get stuffed. Sounds like stalker behaviour.

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

Kiss and tell isn't part of my ideology of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a kind of despicable thing to do discretion and respect wise. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who enquired about me in any way and certainly wouldn't entertain discussing a third party. Its just naughty!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its a kind of despicable thing to do discretion and respect wise. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who enquired about me in any way and certainly wouldn't entertain discussing a third party. Its just naughty!!!

I have to say I agree 99%, but if something really awful happened or there was a risk to someone I think id indicate that I wouldn't be meeting them again.

But then again I don't suppose I'd get or show any verification from that person/meet in this case.

Everyone we've met so far are lovely so would prob just ignore message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kiss and tell isn't part of my ideology of swinging. "
I would not go as far as to say that recreational sex is an ideology?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hence my veris are private, on request only. I've lost friends like this in the past. Smacks of insecurity or stalking to me, not the ideal recipie for a good meet I suspect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody has asked me about any of mine. i think the veri should be enough though and they shouldn't message. i wouldn't tell them anything if they did ask, i'd say find out for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's in it for me?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

When we first joined, we met 2 couples for coffee, one after the other. Loved the first couple, the second seemed alright.

A couple of days later the first couple contacted us to say that the second couple had seen them leave us, and got in touch with them. Basically they implied that we weren't good enough and the first couple should meet them instead!

Bloody cheek!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them to go meet them as I'm keeping quiet

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

and people wonder why I hide my veris....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Such a message would seem like an opportunity to waste my time, so I'd probably not reply.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

The question is whether its worse hiding your veris: apparently some people believe if they can't see the (type of) people you meet then you're not worth meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

A gentleman never tells

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?

A gentleman never tells

Yes, but what would YOU do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The question is whether its worse hiding your veris: apparently some people believe if they can't see the (type of) people you meet then you're not worth meeting."

i keep all but my last one hidden....if anyone I'm planning to meet desperately wants to see them I'll show them briefly....

If folk don't like them generally being hidden though....tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?

A gentleman never tells

Yes, but what would YOU do?

Ohh tell all

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

We find it spooky when people target us because of who we have seen or ask after people we have seen.

When messaged and asked what we think of a couple/person we have seen we just say 'read the Veri we left them'. Then inform the people of what is going on...

If at a meeting/party and someone asks after a couple/person we just say they were nice and you should drop them a message.. We don't get drawn on any detail.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"The question is whether its worse hiding your veris: apparently some people believe if they can't see the (type of) people you meet then you're not worth meeting."

Yeah but Ahabs my darling...... I don't and never have given a shit about what people think of me for hiding mine

It doesn't stop me from having lots of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Such a message would seem like an opportunity to waste my time, so I'd probably not reply. "

This exactly what I did, a few days ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only look at veries to see if I am the type of Man they normally go for,

Oh and to try and work out if they are real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only look at veries to see if I am the type of Man they normally go for,

Oh and to try and work out if they are real

Good job, we don't believe all we read, or I'd have you down as a right willy wonka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't answer the question directly, other than to ask the person to find out themselves. What I think/like may not resonate with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and block the person asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell em to fuck off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only look at veries to see if I am the type of Man they normally go for,

Oh and to try and work out if they are real

Good job, we don't believe all we read, or I'd have you down as a right willy wonka

Oi, I have very presentable verie thank you, Only the one thought

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Discretion at all times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

Tell them to 0121 do one. I think it's the height of rudeness when people do this. It has happened to me alot. Here's an idea, have a bit of faith in your own judgement and find out what people are like for yourself folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been asked and would never dream of asking.

Think I'd have to just say, "You'll have to make up your own mind."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"And you get people messaging you to find out more about a person you have left a veri for

What do you do?"

Discretion means I say no to such requests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only look at veries to see if I am the type of Man they normally go for,

Oh and to try and work out if they are real

Good job, we don't believe all we read, or I'd have you down as a right willy wonka

Oi, I have very presentable verie thank you, Only the one thought

oh I bet it is

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