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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

when you say no to someone or no to something you dont want to do or go

on some messages i get i say "no thanks" or "sorry you don't meet my criteria" or "no sorry" when in reality im not sorry

(the above is an example)

so do we say sorry far far to much and its just a word now or do you use the word sorry when you mean it

thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry you won't reply to my mail ......

hang on .....I've not sent you one yet ......brb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just politeness, nothing wrong with being polite

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

It's an attempt to save feelings, bit like manners I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry you won't reply to my mail ......

hang on .....I've not sent you one yet ......brb "

I am sorry i didn't reply to yours. My blocklist released it's minions and my inbox got flooded. Just sorting my page out over the next couple of days and hoping that sorts it.

I never insincerely apologise, but find i do apologise for things i don't need to.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I usually say 'No thanks, good luck'.

I don't feel its the need to say sorry..because i don't feel i should be sorry that i don't want to meet someone. Its a personal choice. If that makes sense?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Guess, "sorry" just means I am sorry to (potentially)hurt your feelings by declining? It is a convention, which I sometimes use and other times I might just say "Thanks for mailing me, however, I am looking for different things"

Either work.. usually!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually say 'No thanks, good luck'.

I don't feel its the need to say sorry..because i don't feel i should be sorry that i don't want to meet someone. Its a personal choice. If that makes sense?"

thank you this is what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to use ''No thanks and good luck'' but no matter how polite you try to be you are always going to piss somebody off on fab

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It does no harm to be polite to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its being polite i sometimes dont reply does the trick lol x

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"It's just politeness, nothing wrong with being polite"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Guess, "sorry" just means I am sorry to (potentially)hurt your feelings by declining? "

Exactly, you don't have to be in the wrong to apologize, it can just be empathetic.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I think it's funny when you bump into someone, then they apologize

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres going to be people u dont find sexual attractive shudnt have to say sorry x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Sex is all about feelings, self image, and confidence. Guess only the hardest of individuals don't feel a twinge of disappointment or ego deflation when someone rebuffs their advances. This is why we always try to answer messages and let people down gently - and "sorry" helps us to do that. As a technique it obviously works because we never ever get abusive messages back.

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"when you say no to someone or no to something you dont want to do or go

on some messages i get i say "no thanks" or "sorry you don't meet my criteria" or "no sorry" when in reality im not sorry

(the above is an example)

so do we say sorry far far to much and its just a word now or do you use the word sorry when you mean it

thoughts?

"

It's just you being polite, manners cost nothing. Do not see a problem it's not like you are trying to upset them. Don't worry be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what I am saying no to. If they just message something like 'wanna meet?' I just reply 'no thanks' but if they look like they have spent time reading my profile and writing a message then I would write a more in depth reply saying why not and good luck. It's the obly way I can reply to all my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex is all about feelings, self image, and confidence. Guess only the hardest of individuals don't feel a twinge of disappointment or ego deflation when someone rebuffs their advances. This is why we always try to answer messages and let people down gently - and "sorry" helps us to do that. As a technique it obviously works because we never ever get abusive messages back. "

I always say sorry too and I never get abusive messages either.

I do think "no thanks" can sound really brutal and nasty in a written messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good you respond, I'd accept a no thanks but sorry would imply someone polite and get my thumbs up as a more meaningful response.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

you are dammed if you do and dammed if you dont at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always say sorry too and I never get abusive messages either.

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Never had abuse, maybe a block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no real meaning behind it.

If i say not for me sorry its just my way of saying no, im not really sorry in fact really couldnt care i just type without thinking is the honest answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you are dammed if you do and dammed if you dont at times

"
sounds about right , lol

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"I usually say 'No thanks, good luck'.

I don't feel its the need to say sorry..because i don't feel i should be sorry that i don't want to meet someone. Its a personal choice. If that makes sense?

thank you this is what i mean "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ta does it for me... I'm not sorry I don't find them attractive but always reply because I'm not rude and have manners..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always pay a compliment and then say no thanks. Makes it seem less harsh. I"m not here to hurt anyones feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always pay a compliment and then say no thanks. Makes it seem less harsh. I"m not here to hurt anyones feelings."

Mmmm...Debbs, what are you doing tonight.. Hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you are dammed if you do and dammed if you dont at times

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I try to use it less. I get the politeness that people talk about but there's also a hint of partonising about "sorry". As in, I am the one who get to say no to you and I also have the power to judge your feelings with the verdict that I have hurt them. I don't really know if I've hurt anybody by saying no, I would have to ask them first or have them to tell me if they are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually say 'No thanks, good luck'.

I don't feel its the need to say sorry..because i don't feel i should be sorry that i don't want to meet someone. Its a personal choice. If that makes sense?

thank you this is what i mean "
+2!

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