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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All us guys have heard you women go on and on about how good this 50 shades of grey book is !

But is it really as believable as your all making out ?

There's quite a lot of facts out there to prove it isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the worse books I have read. I carried on reading to find out what happened to him as a child. Struggled through the second book badly and read a few pages of book 3 before binning it.

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines


"No its shit"

Next question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolute drivel and I've spent the last couple of years trying to erase it from my memory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's complete rubbish and in no way portrays the true bdsm lifestyle in anyway at all if you want to know the real thing get involved with the real scene and learn the correct way of playing and living the true way of life that evolves around bdsm

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So not popular here then? We own one of the 3 but haven't read more than a few pages. Think it is a triumph of marketing over content, wouldn't complain if my book got the same publicity.

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I wouldn't say it's good, certainly not a reflection of my experience of BDSM.

However if if gets people talking about sex and people possibly trying new things then I don't think it's a bad thing.

If people enjoy it, let them!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I could only read about 1/3 of the first book before I gave up. I found it repetitive, boring and badly written without even going into the unrealistic nature of the relationship so I will be avoiding the film

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

Twilight fan book re written into mummy porn and Over hyped by Oprah Winfrey ! Nuff said realy

Should keep the sex in the city and Anne summers brigade going for a bit longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was nagged into reading them found them crap and no way would I waste my time watching the film

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

I've read worse. But if you're looking for a stimulating read that's more than chewing gum for the brain this isn't for you. The bit I couldn't understand was why, when Christian's mother visited his apartment, did she never ask what was behind THAT door ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say it's good, certainly not a reflection of my experience of BDSM.

However if if gets people talking about sex and people possibly trying new things then I don't think it's a bad thing.

If people enjoy it, let them!"

It's very good, clearly thousands of people loved it and bought it. It made her very rich.

Depends on your viewpoint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my thing and I also imagine cinemas filled with highly charged women this weekend ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubbish. Drivel. Tripe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I loved it (agree it was poorly written) but I seen it more as a love story with a twist and I adore that kind of thing

can't wait till Saturday to watch the film

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pile of crap. I struggled to finish it. I couldn't, I gave up after the tampon incident.

She self published as an EBook after writing fan fiction apparently.

I don't think researching is her strong point. Or even English.

I was told time and time again by friends to read it its brilliant it's shocking, was it hell.

Prepare for another baby boom from the repressed housewives club once the film comes out

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I read the first book. Its very badly written and is NOT an accurate reflection of BDSM or D/s relationships. Indeed it can be said to describe abuse and glorify non consent.

However I know a lot of readers were titillated by it and tried new things in the bedroom because of it. That is no bad thing.

50 shades is not a manual on how to do BDSM. But then Postmsn Pat is not a manual on mail delivery.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

I read the books a few years ago before I got into swinging. I admit they're badly written but I found them quite titillating at the time and they helped to rekindle our sex life. I didn't think much about the BDSM but it's not my thing anyway. I think the second book was the best. I like the overall romance of the story but I'm a sucker for Pretty Woman

I won't be rushing out to see the film.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoyed it.

And I've been into kink for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I'm bored of though is people telling me it's not the 'proper' or 'real' way to do kink.

I'm not sure there is a 'proper' way to do kink. Nobody told me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Sylvia Day trilogy is much better, good story line and faster pace. And on offer in ASDA!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I read the trilogy after all my vanilla friends were raving about it and found them utterly boring. My opinion.is if those books excited you, you arent getting it good enough at home and only think you know what kinky is.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"So not popular here then? We own one of the 3 but haven't read more than a few pages. Think it is a triumph of marketing over content, wouldn't complain if my book got the same publicity. "

Precisely, it's trash but there's far worse out there and the author is probably absolutely loaded now so good for her

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"What I'm bored of though is people telling me it's not the 'proper' or 'real' way to do kink.

I'm not sure there is a 'proper' way to do kink. Nobody told me..."

there are aspects of 50 Shades that are specifically wrong. The type of rope used, the use of cable ties. ....actually pretty dangerous and liable to cut off circulation.

The relationship described in the book is abusive and not respectful if Ana's right to consent. The vast majority of experienced kinky people were ppretty horrified by a lot of the goings on.

but it is a fantasy, a work of fiction. I see no specific problem as long as people don't try to emulate certain aspects of it. A lot of vanilla people were inspired to try new things by those books.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

By the looks of it, if your not that adventerous then its shit.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I think it's dangerous.

Fine to read for a laugh but how many dim-doms are going to think that it justifies abuse and dangerous practices and how many women are going to let them get away with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually really liked it, if you can get past the fact that it's pretty badly written the story is quite appealing - to me anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bad press about it justifying abuse is really quite silly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

there are aspects of 50 Shades that are specifically wrong. The type of rope used, the use of cable ties. ....actually pretty dangerous and liable to cut off circulation.

The relationship described in the book is abusive and not respectful if Ana's right to consent. The vast majority of experienced kinky people were ppretty horrified by a lot of the goings on.

"

Many thanks for the advice, however I'm a political activist for feminist and sex positive sex and consent. I understand that there wasn't consent present in the book and that's problematic. However I don't feel the need for all my wank fantasies to be completely 'right on'. I trust people to be able to tell the difference between fantasy and reality - just like video games and so forth.

Also cable ties are in the advanced BDSM lesson, you've just not got there yet. More seriously - anything can be dangerous when used without care. And cable ties can be safe when used with caution. Sensible humans are capable of using them with caution.

Did you know that nylon stockings are one of the most dangerous things to tie someone up with? You see they stretch when you put them on, and then shrink back smaller. And yet they're one of the most common things people suggest using to tie someone up when they're new to kink. Cable ties are - in that respect - much safer.

But of course don't discount edge play either. Some of us like to actively play with risk because we're experienced enough to be able to make judgements about individual limits and safety - and we know our partners well enough to do so.

Writing off one implement completely seems to lack foresight for the fact that many people are responsible human beings who actually like to play that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So not popular here then? We own one of the 3 but haven't read more than a few pages. Think it is a triumph of marketing over content, wouldn't complain if my book got the same publicity.

Precisely, it's trash but there's far worse out there and the author is probably absolutely loaded now so good for her "

It's obviously marketing over substance otherwise the ghost writers for Razzle's letters page would all be driving Maseratis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bought the set of 3 books when it came out. Wanted to see what all the fuss was about.

Read first chapter (and that was hard going!) then just couldnt be arsed to read any more.

Written for people with no imagination.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very badly written - I prefer Will's ideas!

Sara

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Thought it was a bit of fun, if I had wanted an instruction manual I would have looked elsewhere.

As for it badly written, av ceen woarse riting on the site slagging it (and what does that say).

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the book..... god no!

the film.... apparently its worse than the book!!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"the book..... god no!

the film.... apparently its worse than the book!!! "

There is a saying, put five editors into a room and they will come out with seven different opinions. And that's editors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I'm bored of though is people telling me it's not the 'proper' or 'real' way to do kink.

I'm not sure there is a 'proper' way to do kink. Nobody told me..."

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"All us guys have heard you women go on and on about how good this 50 shades of grey book is !

But is it really as believable as your all making out ?

There's quite a lot of facts out there to prove it isn't "

It is awful even as a love story, who the hell calls their bits their " sex" when writing what was meant to be an erotic novel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the people slagging the film off.... do you know what the word 'fiction' means?

Do you bitch and moan about horror movies not being true to life?

Saw.... people watched that film and managed not to go out copying the film.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo


"What I'm bored of though is people telling me it's not the 'proper' or 'real' way to do kink.

I'm not sure there is a 'proper' way to do kink. Nobody told me..."

This for me too....people enjoy what they enjoy.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo

PS please don't put links in that are not on the approved list, even if you think it is relevant to the thread as I have to take them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a good sexy book to read???

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"

It is awful even as a love story, who the hell calls their bits their " sex" when writing what was meant to be an erotic novel."

Its an American term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read the book but will go and see the film - hope I won't be disappointed

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By *reacher and TartCouple
over a year ago

High Peak


"All us guys have heard you women go on and on about how good this 50 shades of grey book is !

But is it really as believable as your all making out ?

There's quite a lot of facts out there to prove it isn't "

Its sold a lot so it must be for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read all 3 books and thoroughly enjoyed them! It did bring something different to the bedroom too as reading 50sog lead us somehow into the swinging lifestyle as it made us both a lot more experimental and uptight!

No it may not be realistic in regards to kinky-fuckery and may not be the greatest Literature But people clearly enjoy it!

And all the people who are slagging off those who read and enjoyed it as being 'neglected housewives and not getting enough'

Maybe, just maybe.. Their individuals who can like whatever the hell they want without being looked down upon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the worse books I have read. I carried on reading to find out what happened to him as a child. Struggled through the second book badly and read a few pages of book 3 before binning it. "

I skimmed the first one as so dire, didn't want to read the others, got given the set as a booby Christmas present by some friends, went straight into my car boot stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't read the book but will go and see the film - hope I won't be disappointed"

Been described as banal and tiresome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rubbish. Drivel. Tripe."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thought it was a bit of fun, if I had wanted an instruction manual I would have looked elsewhere.

As for it badly written, av ceen woarse riting on the site slagging it (and what does that say). "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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there are aspects of 50 Shades that are specifically wrong. The type of rope used, the use of cable ties. ....actually pretty dangerous and liable to cut off circulation.

The relationship described in the book is abusive and not respectful if Ana's right to consent. The vast majority of experienced kinky people were ppretty horrified by a lot of the goings on.

Many thanks for the advice, however I'm a political activist for feminist and sex positive sex and consent. I understand that there wasn't consent present in the book and that's problematic. However I don't feel the need for all my wank fantasies to be completely 'right on'. I trust people to be able to tell the difference between fantasy and reality - just like video games and so forth.

Also cable ties are in the advanced BDSM lesson, you've just not got there yet. More seriously - anything can be dangerous when used without care. And cable ties can be safe when used with caution. Sensible humans are capable of using them with caution.

Did you know that nylon stockings are one of the most dangerous things to tie someone up with? You see they stretch when you put them on, and then shrink back smaller. And yet they're one of the most common things people suggest using to tie someone up when they're new to kink. Cable ties are - in that respect - much safer.

But of course don't discount edge play either. Some of us like to actively play with risk because we're experienced enough to be able to make judgements about individual limits and safety - and we know our partners well enough to do so.

Writing off one implement completely seems to lack foresight for the fact that many people are responsible human beings who actually like to play that way."

As an experienced Dominant, who has worked as a Session Dom professionally, I found this laughable.

A. Cable ties are extremely dangerous to use as a binding, and while your mention of stockings is indeed accurate, cable ties are not "advanced BDSM" at all. Anybody foolish enough to use cable ties, or allow them to be used on them is asking for major tissue damage, circulation issues and possibly loss of life or limb. Cable ties don't stretch, they can only close, not opened and will continue to close tighter with movement (as they are designed to do).

B. BDSM is based on 2 "protocols" SSC and RACK (Safe/Sane/Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink). Any play that is not consensual is rape, plain and simple, in both the eyes of the BDSM community as a whole and the eyes of the law.

C. While this is a work of fiction (including the grammar, spelling and punctuation which are all very fictional), some allowance can be made for creative writing, but this series of "books" is portrayed, both by the author (being generous with the title there) and by the "masses" as a dip into the world of BDSM and Fet. As such it is glorifying rape and stalking.

D. 'actively play with risk because we're experienced enough' - The whole point is that Ana isn't experienced enough, doesn't know her "Dom" well at all, and he clearly is deranged and has no true understanding of BDSM/Fet.

If you really are part of the BDSM/Fet world you will know that aside from being horrified by the scenes depicted in these "books", many are very concerned about the number of people reading this fiction and jumping into repeating the scenes depicted with no knowledge or forethought for safety or moral issues. This has gotten so bad that B&Q are actually advising staff on how to "tactfully" handle the rush in sales of Duct tape and Cable Times in their stores in preparation for the masses of otherwise intelligent people who are swept up in the 50 Shades fiasco.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one point to the whole hyper of 50 shades of nothing - Cable Ties (!) best way to get cuts on wrists and ankles not bearing in mind to the bruising caused.

If some one wants to read about "mild" BDSM take Story of "O" and Part II of "O" there is a hint of darkness and more...

But 50 shades of nothing is plain boring and misleading

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

It sounds shit.

I bet there are no fannys in it anyway.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

The books where shite as I was expecting something brilliant but will still watch the film out of curiosity to be honest

Xxx

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"The books where shite as I was expecting something brilliant but will still watch the film out of curiosity to be honest

Xxx"

He he, if 50 shades was shite and made millions, I wonder how much of what is written in the forums is worth?

(Joke by the way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say it's good, certainly not a reflection of my experience of BDSM.

However if if gets people talking about sex and people possibly trying new things then I don't think it's a bad thing.

If people enjoy it, let them!

It's very good, clearly thousands of people loved it and bought it. It made her very rich.

Depends on your viewpoint. "

More a love story than kinky but I liked them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I'm bored of though is people telling me it's not the 'proper' or 'real' way to do kink.

I'm not sure there is a 'proper' way to do kink. Nobody told me..."

This all day long. Sex snobbery is a lot more boring than this book can ever be.

Never read it though. Not my type of read at all.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Sadly will have to watch it to understand how some women will be thinking in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an experienced Dominant, who has worked as a Session Dom professionally, I found this laughable.

A. Cable ties are extremely dangerous to use as a binding, and while your mention of stockings is indeed accurate, cable ties are not "advanced BDSM" at all. Anybody foolish enough to use cable ties, or allow them to be used on them is asking for major tissue damage, circulation issues and possibly loss of life or limb. Cable ties don't stretch, they can only close, not opened and will continue to close tighter with movement (as they are designed to do).

B. BDSM is based on 2 "protocols" SSC and RACK (Safe/Sane/Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink). Any play that is not consensual is rape, plain and simple, in both the eyes of the BDSM community as a whole and the eyes of the law.

C. While this is a work of fiction (including the grammar, spelling and punctuation which are all very fictional), some allowance can be made for creative writing, but this series of "books" is portrayed, both by the author (being generous with the title there) and by the "masses" as a dip into the world of BDSM and Fet. As such it is glorifying rape and stalking.

D. 'actively play with risk because we're experienced enough' - The whole point is that Ana isn't experienced enough, doesn't know her "Dom" well at all, and he clearly is deranged and has no true understanding of BDSM/Fet.

If you really are part of the BDSM/Fet world you will know that aside from being horrified by the scenes depicted in these "books", many are very concerned about the number of people reading this fiction and jumping into repeating the scenes depicted with no knowledge or forethought for safety or moral issues. This has gotten so bad that B&Q are actually advising staff on how to "tactfully" handle the rush in sales of Duct tape and Cable Times in their stores in preparation for the masses of otherwise intelligent people who are swept up in the 50 Shades fiasco.

Just a couple of points here, Cable ties can be loosened quite easily with a pair of Scissors sometimes quicker than rope or Handcuffs, They are not designed to tighten with movement otherwise they would likely cut through the Cables they hold and when used as restraints they will pull against the ratchet stopping them from tightening.

If i remember correctly a Contract was entered into which constitutes consent would'nt that blow any Rape charge out of Court.

At what point are people classed as experienced in Fetish/BDSM? Do you have to be a member of a Club, Gain an NVQ in knot tying or just accepted by the "Professionals" as worthy of being one of the select.

Flogger Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All this film will do once again is bring out the google plastic Doms.

And as i see on another site some woman pretending they like it.

I have had the hand of a few Dominants now and you need an arse of steel a very enjoyable fetish to be into.

Come Monday know doubt the avatar names of " Christian this and Christian that" im afraid i will block as the boredom and fake behaviour insults my intelligence.

Her

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By *rMrsAdriaCouple
over a year ago

Gosport


"Well I loved it (agree it was poorly written) but I seen it more as a love story with a twist and I adore that kind of thing

can't wait till Saturday to watch the film "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

cable ties are not "advanced BDSM" at all.

"

I believe that the good poster did not understand sarcasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If i remember correctly a Contract was entered into which constitutes consent would'nt that blow any Rape charge out of Court.

"

No.

There was a case in the late 70s, early 80s in the USA where a judge declared that anyone who consented to being the submissive partner in an S&M scene was non compos mentis. Therefore sex with them cannot be consensual as they cannot give consent. (There has been a similar case in the UK.)

While many judges would not use that precedent today it does mean that you are effectively risking everything every time you indulge in S&M.

This is why I hope, personally, that the books and film bring some wider acceptance, so that we can enjoy S&M without any fear of being persecuted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say it's good, certainly not a reflection of my experience of BDSM.

However if if gets people talking about sex and people possibly trying new things then I don't think it's a bad thing.

If people enjoy it, let them!

It's very good, clearly thousands of people loved it and bought it. It made her very rich.

Depends on your viewpoint. "

I think, more likely, thousands bought it and either hated it or were fairly ambivalent towards it. People bought it in droves on the promise of something erotic. It wasn't. Luckily it was dirt cheap in paperback form. It read like a Barbara Cartland crossed with Jilly Cooper. Hardy erotic. Barely saucy, and spectacularly uninformed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

there are aspects of 50 Shades that are specifically wrong. The type of rope used, the use of cable ties. ....actually pretty dangerous and liable to cut off circulation.

The relationship described in the book is abusive and not respectful if Ana's right to consent. The vast majority of experienced kinky people were ppretty horrified by a lot of the goings on.

Many thanks for the advice, however I'm a political activist for feminist and sex positive sex and consent. I understand that there wasn't consent present in the book and that's problematic. However I don't feel the need for all my wank fantasies to be completely 'right on'. I trust people to be able to tell the difference between fantasy and reality - just like video games and so forth.

Also cable ties are in the advanced BDSM lesson, you've just not got there yet. More seriously - anything can be dangerous when used without care. And cable ties can be safe when used with caution. Sensible humans are capable of using them with caution.

Did you know that nylon stockings are one of the most dangerous things to tie someone up with? You see they stretch when you put them on, and then shrink back smaller. And yet they're one of the most common things people suggest using to tie someone up when they're new to kink. Cable ties are - in that respect - much safer.

But of course don't discount edge play either. Some of us like to actively play with risk because we're experienced enough to be able to make judgements about individual limits and safety - and we know our partners well enough to do so.

Writing off one implement completely seems to lack foresight for the fact that many people are responsible human beings who actually like to play that way."

Cable ties are not that bad. They can't be. Even the police use them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I'm bored of though is people telling me it's not the 'proper' or 'real' way to do kink.

I'm not sure there is a 'proper' way to do kink. Nobody told me...

"

Oh there is! Come and see me after class!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually police use Zip Cuffs, which are a different design to cable ties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the people slagging the film off.... do you know what the word 'fiction' means?

Do you bitch and moan about horror movies not being true to life?

Saw.... people watched that film and managed not to go out copying the film. "

Oh dear. I think I might have committed.... A bit of a faux pas.

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By *or Fox SakeCouple
over a year ago

Thornaby

It's utter bilge as a book. The S&M community loathed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People bought it in droves on the promise of something erotic. It wasn't."

I found it pretty erotic.

But then I enjoy inflicting and receiving emotional masochism.

Also the sex scenes were pretty hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People bought it in droves on the promise of something erotic. It wasn't.

I found it pretty erotic.

But then I enjoy inflicting and receiving emotional masochism.

Also the sex scenes were pretty hot."

Personally, I found it not erotic from a bdsm perspective nor a vanilla one. The awful writing put me off! Now I've read plenty of pulp fiction porn, and it just didn't measure up to some of the dimebook novellas I've read. If it got you off, fair play to you! I barely managed "half a teacake" myself. I like my porn literature, a little....stronger! A jaded pallette? Perhaps! I think some of the most erotic things I have read have been in Nancy Fridays books. I think just knowing that those fantasies were real men and womens gave those books a real wow factor, especially considering the era they came out in. Thank god for ebooks, now more stern looks from the librarian!

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

Four guys have been going on the same fishing trip for many years. a few days before the groups annual departure date, jones wife puts her foot down and tells him he isn't going. jones fishing buddies are very upset that he can't go,but what can they do?

2 days later the three get to the camping site to find john sitting there with his tent setup, firewood gathered, and dinner cooking on the fire, drinking cold beer.

"Hey John, how long you been here, and how did you take your missus into letting you go?"

"well i've been here since last night. Yesterday evening, i was sitting in my recliner when my wife came up behind me, put her hands over my eyes, and asked, "Guess who?''' I pulled her hands off, and there she was, wearing a nightie.

She took my hand and pulled me into the bedroom, where she'd lit candles and put rose patels all over the place. well, she's been reading '50 Shades of Grey'.....

On the bed she had handcuffs, and ropes! She told me to tie her up and cuff her to the bed, so i did.

And then she said, 'Do whatever you want.'

So, boys, here I am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Four guys have been going on the same fishing trip for many years. a few days before the groups annual departure date, jones wife puts her foot down and tells him he isn't going. jones fishing buddies are very upset that he can't go,but what can they do?

2 days later the three get to the camping site to find john sitting there with his tent setup, firewood gathered, and dinner cooking on the fire, drinking cold beer.

"Hey John, how long you been here, and how did you take your missus into letting you go?"

"well i've been here since last night. Yesterday evening, i was sitting in my recliner when my wife came up behind me, put her hands over my eyes, and asked, "Guess who?''' I pulled her hands off, and there she was, wearing a nightie.

She took my hand and pulled me into the bedroom, where she'd lit candles and put rose patels all over the place. well, she's been reading '50 Shades of Grey'.....

On the bed she had handcuffs, and ropes! She told me to tie her up and cuff her to the bed, so i did.

And then she said, 'Do whatever you want.'

So, boys, here I am! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read all 3 books and thoroughly enjoyed them! It did bring something different to the bedroom too as reading 50sog lead us somehow into the swinging lifestyle as it made us both a lot more experimental and uptight!

No it may not be realistic in regards to kinky-fuckery and may not be the greatest Literature But people clearly enjoy it!

And all the people who are slagging off those who read and enjoyed it as being 'neglected housewives and not getting enough'

Maybe, just maybe.. Their individuals who can like whatever the hell they want without being looked down upon! "

Sooooo many professional swingers and professional BDSM experts on here looking down on other people. Seriously pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont read novels..and I'm unlikely to see the film.

might watch it with a fem pal..if it has her wet..thats fine..she can read/watch..as I lick/fuck

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I dont read novels..and I'm unlikely to see the film.

might watch it with a fem pal..if it has her wet..thats fine..she can read/watch..as I lick/fuck"

Maybe wait for it to come out on dvd then

I read the books, didn't find them erotic, found the writing childlike and annoying - lack of punctuation and the like.

I'm going to see the film with 2 of my best female friends as a charity event - cannot be fussed about the film, but will support the charity and have a girlie evening. They both think its erotic, and as a submissive female - I think it laughable from my point of view, but hey if it works for you, who is to knock your preference?

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over a year ago


"I dont read novels..and I'm unlikely to see the film.

might watch it with a fem pal..if it has her wet..thats fine..she can read/watch..as I lick/fuck

Maybe wait for it to come out on dvd then

I read the books, didn't find them erotic, found the writing childlike and annoying - lack of punctuation and the like.

I'm going to see the film with 2 of my best female friends as a charity event - cannot be fussed about the film, but will support the charity and have a girlie evening. They both think its erotic, and as a submissive female - I think it laughable from my point of view, but hey if it works for you, who is to knock your preference?"

I'll come lick/fuck even if you're watching footie

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land


"I read all 3 books and thoroughly enjoyed them! It did bring something different to the bedroom too as reading 50sog lead us somehow into the swinging lifestyle as it made us both a lot more experimental and uptight!

No it may not be realistic in regards to kinky-fuckery and may not be the greatest Literature But people clearly enjoy it!

And all the people who are slagging off those who read and enjoyed it as being 'neglected housewives and not getting enough'

Maybe, just maybe.. Their individuals who can like whatever the hell they want without being looked down upon!

Sooooo many professional swingers and professional BDSM experts on here looking down on other people. Seriously pathetic. "

Totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People bought it in droves on the promise of something erotic. It wasn't.

I found it pretty erotic.

But then I enjoy inflicting and receiving emotional masochism.

Also the sex scenes were pretty hot.

Personally, I found it not erotic from a bdsm perspective nor a vanilla one. The awful writing put me off! Now I've read plenty of pulp fiction porn, and it just didn't measure up to some of the dimebook novellas I've read. If it got you off, fair play to you! I barely managed "half a teacake" myself. I like my porn literature, a little....stronger! A jaded pallette? Perhaps! I think some of the most erotic things I have read have been in Nancy Fridays books. I think just knowing that those fantasies were real men and womens gave those books a real wow factor, especially considering the era they came out in. Thank god for ebooks, now more stern looks from the librarian!"

I read everything from hardcore porn about people having their tits nailed to a bench and people being kept as ponies and cows, to 50 Shades of Grey.

I'd feel sad if I could no longer get off to the lighter stuff. In fact I'd be worried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People bought it in droves on the promise of something erotic. It wasn't.

I found it pretty erotic.

But then I enjoy inflicting and receiving emotional masochism.

Also the sex scenes were pretty hot.

Personally, I found it not erotic from a bdsm perspective nor a vanilla one. The awful writing put me off! Now I've read plenty of pulp fiction porn, and it just didn't measure up to some of the dimebook novellas I've read. If it got you off, fair play to you! I barely managed "half a teacake" myself. I like my porn literature, a little....stronger! A jaded pallette? Perhaps! I think some of the most erotic things I have read have been in Nancy Fridays books. I think just knowing that those fantasies were real men and womens gave those books a real wow factor, especially considering the era they came out in. Thank god for ebooks, now more stern looks from the librarian!

I read everything from hardcore porn about people having their tits nailed to a bench and people being kept as ponies and cows, to 50 Shades of Grey.

I'd feel sad if I could no longer get off to the lighter stuff. In fact I'd be worried."

I still get off on the lighter stuff, but it has to be written well for me to enjoy it. Bad writing just spoils it for me. 50 shades is just not written in a style that helps to get me off. I have sat on the bus reading erotic sections in Will Self's books and found myself trying to hide an erection. It used to be the vibrations of the bus that did it. I think that's why I always used to carry a newspaper!

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By *utterfly76Woman
over a year ago

East Preston

yes its good! i loved it! guys should read it too, some need to learn a few things...

many people say its rubbish but for some reason sells millions, and got nothing to do with frustrated housewife's.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Saw the film on Saturday night and it was.....interesting.

They have cut out some of the more obvious breaches of Anastasia's consent and some of the more stalker tendencies of Christian. Some of the criticisms of the books are that he is basically a stalker who completely disregards consent - which is true going by the first book.

However the sex and S&M scenes are very tame. The acting isn't great. What comes across is that it's far more of a romance story than S&M. Which probably works better given the original nature of the story.

Overall I found it a bit mediocre but I was pleased to see some of the criticism of the book addressed.

I think the film is even less likely to be harmful than the books. And the books are fine if you take them for what they are - a fantasy and a work of fiction and not a blueprint for D/s or BDSM.

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over a year ago


"Four guys have been going on the same fishing trip for many years. a few days before the groups annual departure date, jones wife puts her foot down and tells him he isn't going. jones fishing buddies are very upset that he can't go,but what can they do?

2 days later the three get to the camping site to find john sitting there with his tent setup, firewood gathered, and dinner cooking on the fire, drinking cold beer.

"Hey John, how long you been here, and how did you take your missus into letting you go?"

"well i've been here since last night. Yesterday evening, i was sitting in my recliner when my wife came up behind me, put her hands over my eyes, and asked, "Guess who?''' I pulled her hands off, and there she was, wearing a nightie.

She took my hand and pulled me into the bedroom, where she'd lit candles and put rose patels all over the place. well, she's been reading '50 Shades of Grey'.....

On the bed she had handcuffs, and ropes! She told me to tie her up and cuff her to the bed, so i did.

And then she said, 'Do whatever you want.'

So, boys, here I am! "

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