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According to you, which one is greater ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is the loss of trust greater than the loss of belief in fidelity ?

Which ones would hurt most?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Loss of trust

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Loss of trust

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Loss of trust. I can still believe fidelity is possible one day or with someone else.

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By *onny bigMan
over a year ago

london harrow

It hurts me to lose anything lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loss of trust, definitely. Fidelity is nothing, just coz someone fucked someone else means nothing, the opportunity arose and they took it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Glad to see people who think alike, I was getting worried I was crazy to think that trust is greater than fidelity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust without a doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what happens when you trust someone to be faithful?

Both would be interlinked so really the question is moot.

and I believe most people enter a relationship on the basis of monogamy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitley trust

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Glad to see people who think alike, I was getting worried I was crazy to think that trust is greater than fidelity "

You take fidelity on trust. Fidelity isn't just actions but the thoughts too, in my view. If someone is wishing to be elsewhere, holding out from doing anything about it but hating being there are they faithful to me and what we have had?

I believe it is entirely possible to be faithful and have sex with others but it is based on the trust that your head and heart remains faithful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what happens when you trust someone to be faithful?

Both would be interlinked so really the question is moot.

and I believe most people enter a relationship on the basis of monogamy. "

That's the point, when they cheat they also abuse your trust. But which is worse?

I could easily get over someone cheating on me (and have done) it's the lack of trust afterwards that messes everything up.

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By *onny bigMan
over a year ago

london harrow

Fidelity/trust isn't it the same thing?Someone breaks your trust by being unfaithful?

What's the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what happens when you trust someone to be faithful?

Both would be interlinked so really the question is moot.

and I believe most people enter a relationship on the basis of monogamy.

That's the point, when they cheat they also abuse your trust. But which is worse?

I could easily get over someone cheating on me (and have done) it's the lack of trust afterwards that messes everything up."

Being unfaithful is abusing trust. Its one and the same.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Fidelity/trust isn't it the same thing?Someone breaks your trust by being unfaithful?

What's the difference? "

You can break trust on other things not just faithfulness. In the broadest sense of the word it is synonymous but someone stealing your idea and pitching it to the boss may lose your trust but you had relationship of faith with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm being thick. I can't fathom what the loss of belief in fidelity means

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Loss of trust

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Trust totally for me too. When you have a certainty that is locked to your core well being, then it hits you hard if it disappears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what happens when you trust someone to be faithful?

Both would be interlinked so really the question is moot.

and I believe most people enter a relationship on the basis of monogamy.

That's the point, when they cheat they also abuse your trust. But which is worse?

I could easily get over someone cheating on me (and have done) it's the lack of trust afterwards that messes everything up.

Being unfaithful is abusing trust. Its one and the same. "

True, but the question is asking which is worse because you have been both cheated on and had your trust broken and they are separated in this topic, even though they are the same thing they are also separate. Hope that makes sense? Does to me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

male half here . had many relationships some faithfull to one others we were both free to see who we wanted. both worked as long as we knew which relationship it was fidelity can be a take it or leave it thing but trust is 100% needed which ever relationship you have,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust covers a whole range of things. From the most simplest of asking someone to do something, and putting your trust in them that they will do it. Ie, posting a letter/picking you up/helping you with something. If the person consistently forgets, or whatever, then the trust in the person is lost. This is a very basic example of course...

I've recently been looking to broaden my sexual horizons into the control aspect, and again it's all down to trust. And I think that trust will be gained by all of those little things. Having confidence that the person is capable to do what they say they will do. Trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loss of trust

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

For me the loss of trust.. betrayal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fidelity/trust isn't it the same thing?Someone breaks your trust by being unfaithful?

What's the difference? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trust covers a whole range of things. From the most simplest of asking someone to do something, and putting your trust in them that they will do it. Ie, posting a letter/picking you up/helping you with something. If the person consistently forgets, or whatever, then the trust in the person is lost. This is a very basic example of course...

I've recently been looking to broaden my sexual horizons into the control aspect, and again it's all down to trust. And I think that trust will be gained by all of those little things. Having confidence that the person is capable to do what they say they will do. Trust. "

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"infidelity" (not sure I like the word but hey ho) means loss of trust if one partner is not aware of the other partner's act of infidelity.

Loss of trust is a fundamental thing and very destructive in any relationship or friendship. It is quite possibly THE most important aspect of friendship, side by side with respect perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what happens when you trust someone to be faithful?

Both would be interlinked so really the question is moot.

and I believe most people enter a relationship on the basis of monogamy.

That's the point, when they cheat they also abuse your trust. But which is worse?

I could easily get over someone cheating on me (and have done) it's the lack of trust afterwards that messes everything up.

Being unfaithful is abusing trust. Its one and the same.

True, but the question is asking which is worse because you have been both cheated on and had your trust broken and they are separated in this topic, even though they are the same thing they are also separate. Hope that makes sense? Does to me anyway."

The point i was making is that trust and fidelity are the same thing. it is only that one trust is broken by cheating and the other is broken by an unknown factor which could be much worse then cheating. So again the question is pointless unless you know what the unknown factor is.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

To me they both go hand-in-hand.

Infidelity will lead to complete loss of trust...

- Amy. x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"To me they both go hand-in-hand.

Infidelity will lead to complete loss of trust...

- Amy. x"

This. In the context of a monogamous relationship they are usually one and the same.

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By *ainbowBrite57Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Depends on the nature of the relationship.

Fidelity, or loss of, depends on what's agreed.

Trust broken is far more serious in my eyes

R x

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