FabSwingers.com forum: are couples for real

By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I did a bit of a experiment yesterday where I sent 15 messages to different couples profile who are looking for a single male in my age range to play with. All 15 read the message but only 1 replied with not meeting at moment. Are couples really out there or is it my profile.

I think its the first one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of genuine couples, they get a lot of messages so I'd think unless you really caught their attention they wouldn't reply x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Maybe the others are waiting for the other person to read the message before discussing it together and making a joint decision on whether or not to reply.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Genuine Smenuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid to say that many profiles on here are fake due to some very sad people, female profiles are just men etc.. It not generic to couples.... Always good to chat in a chat room etc...

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe?"
REALLY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They maybe looking but probably not looking all the time. You may have caught them at the wrong moment.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Maybe the others are waiting for the other person to read the message before discussing it together and making a joint decision on whether or not to reply. "
some deleted the message

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

in the interest of science and to gain a more accurate picture I think you need to message a 1000 couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of genuine couples on here but understandably with the amount of choice they have and the sheer volume of messages they receive it's very difficult to reply to everyone. It's generally accepted that no reply equals no interest so it's best not to worry about it and just keep plugging away.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"in the interest of science and to gain a more accurate picture I think you need to message a 1000 couples"

Haha maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the others are waiting for the other person to read the message before discussing it together and making a joint decision on whether or not to reply. "

More than likely. We do

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

In all fairness, it is possible that your profile didn't stand out enough to grab their attention. It's not an especially bad profile, but it is one that could be strengthened.

Were these couples all verified as having met single guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

speaking as part of a couple(m) justin,there are sooooooooo many single guys on here...you can pick and choose,theres no rush at all,because there will always be single guys trying their hardest to get a meet,well...thats what we've seen anyway.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Maybe the others are waiting for the other person to read the message before discussing it together and making a joint decision on whether or not to reply. some deleted the message"

all that means is that where you thought you were right for them.... they thought differently..

doesn't means they aren't genuine because they don't pick you.....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

At least you know that if you respond or acknowledge a post from a bi guy, you might be thought to be a raving ghey, so thumbs up for realizing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did a bit of a experiment yesterday where I sent 15 messages to different couples profile who are looking for a single male in my age range to play with. All 15 read the message but only 1 replied with not meeting at moment. Are couples really out there or is it my profile.

I think its the first one.

It's not just a single guy thing. We messaged 50 couples (from our couple profile) and only got a few replies. Some people said "no thanks" which is fine, we're adults. Some.... well.............

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"In all fairness, it is possible that your profile didn't stand out enough to grab their attention. It's not an especially bad profile, but it is one that could be strengthened.

Were these couples all verified as having met single guys?

I totally realise my profile dosnt stand out but I'd still acknowledge the message. Some were verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe? REALLY

Or perhaps they thought you were arrogant?

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe? REALLY

Or perhaps they thought you were arrogant?"

Which part of my profile suggests that im arrogant.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Certainly there's nothing special about your profile. Your use of punctuation and capital letters is not very good and the content doesn't really say much either. On top of that, your pictures don't really sell you and they are as much of someone else as there is you.

When there are a million single guys (exaggeration) for every lady or couple, your sales pitch really needs to be special to make you stand out.

On the other hand, you look fine to me and with a bit of a re-write and some better pictures you could do fine.

I would bet you'd have a better success rate at clubs where you can put your personality across face to face.

Cal

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Certainly there's nothing special about your profile. Your use of punctuation and capital letters is not very good and the content doesn't really say much either. On top of that, your pictures don't really sell you and they are as much of someone else as there is you.

When there are a million single guys (exaggeration) for every lady or couple, your sales pitch really needs to be special to make you stand out.

On the other hand, you look fine to me and with a bit of a re-write and some better pictures you could do fine.

I would bet you'd have a better success rate at clubs where you can put your personality across face to face.

Cal"

You will have to give me some English lessons lol. Please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe? REALLY

Yes, really. As a couple we get massages from guys who may well be within our age rang (and couples, and women) but if we are not interested or busy or just don't fancy them, we say no. Our choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe? REALLY

Or perhaps they thought you were arrogant?

Which part of my profile suggests that im arrogant.

It was nothing about your profile. I haven't looked at it. It was your response to that post. It may have been unintentional, but it was suggested that they might not have liked what they had seen and your reply indicated surprise and disbelief. Apologies if I have misinterpreted your response. That was just the way it came across to me.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

If you'd like.

You could start with the obvious... Capital letter at the start of a sentence, a full stop (.) at the end followed by a space before the next word. Just like that.

Also, when ever you say "I" it should be a capital I not a lower case "i". Finally, if you're saying wanting to say I am, then rather than "im" it should be "I'm" (the apostrophe kind of symbolises the missing letters).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

Probably your message is one of a vast amount of messages couples get as we do, just because we either don't reply or turn you down does not mean we are not genuine it just means we have a large amount of single guys to choose from, so we can pick and choose who we want, as unfair as it may seem it's reality im afraid

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Dress as a sheep. I've got loads of veris.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Dress as a sheep. I've got loads of veris.

All from Welsh folk I assume

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe? REALLY

Or perhaps they thought you were arrogant?

Which part of my profile suggests that im arrogant.

It was just surprising what you said Especially if u havnt looked. Im far from arrogant, a little confident but then again surely all single males on here are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

I totally realise that.but 14 out of 15.

If I hadn't any verifications I might think that. Would that be an issue for couples?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Dress as a sheep. I've got loads of veris.

All from Welsh folk I assume

Alas, no

Actually, OP, if I can get meets I'm sure you can!

The Avatar is, of course, for the challenge. My real avatar is the one showing my huge cock

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile."

Could you please explain a little why not

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have

even opened a message after looking

at your profile."

Would you open a message from a man dressed as a sheep?

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have

even opened a message after looking

at your profile.

Would you open a message from a man dressed as a sheep?

Have I missed something here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not"

Because 5 minutes after looking at your profile it said so little of interest I have already forgotten what it said. Plus the first picture is primarily someone else and the other 2 don't really give a clue of what you look like.

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be all or none of the factors stated so far in this thread.

Without looking at your profile in huge detail, I can't suggest if it is you/your profile entirely or not. All I can say is perhaps they may want more of your personality to show and not just a matter-of-fact text.

But to answer the title of your thread, yes, couples are for real

Wishing all the best

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would.

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over a year ago

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing"

I agree with what ur saying about pics but most profiles don't show ur face.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing"

let me expand on this a little...

quick question OP.... look at the profiles of most of the people who have taken time out to reply...

then look at yours....

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pats self and Dave down, yep we're real.

Birth place Nottingham. X

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would."
I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple checking in!

Thing is most meet on terms of their own and don't dance to the tune of others.

Ruthless but they can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

I agree with what ur saying about pics but most profiles don't show ur face."

Most don't? Are you sure.

To be honest I'd be suspicious of any single man hiding his face and also a tattoo in their pictures. What do you have to hide?

Similarly the inconsistency that you say you can accomodate but the text saying you can't. That would ring an alarm bell too.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Not replying to you doesnt make them fake or not there or anything else, it simply means they arent interested in YOU, whats so hard to understand about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment"

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment"

It doesn't show much though, other than for some reason, some of 15 couples aren't interested and some may not have replied yet.

Not much of an experiment since it hasn't told you anything useful.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

let me expand on this a little...

quick question OP.... look at the profiles of most of the people who have taken time out to reply...

then look at yours....

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????"

Seriously I answer all messages to get to know people better after reading their verifications and chatting. Get a clearer picture of them

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real"

I can only go on the numbers I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

let me expand on this a little...

quick question OP.... look at the profiles of most of the people who have taken time out to reply...

then look at yours....

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????

Seriously I answer all messages to get to know people better after reading their verifications and chatting. Get a clearer picture of them"

And how many unsolicited messages do you recieve?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real"

This is usual. I said it on another thread recently. If women are rejected, they usually think it's down to them, (often deciding it's their weight/body/looks). If men are rejected they tend to blame the site, the women/couples, other men, sunspots and anything they can think of other than themselves.

It's why so few of the guys posting "what am I doing wrong/why can't I get meets?" actually listen to advice and change anything. They don't think they're doing anything wrong; it's all down to someone or something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On your profile sorry to say it doesn't stand out, there isn't really that much detail.

i DILF used to be a single male on here, i found if you put more detail on your profile that helps as yours is a little sparse, also you only have single female verification's, try going to a club, make some friends, get verification's from couples there, as i found once i had those i did very well on here (sorry not blowing own trumpet).

Also i found that it's in the art of how you message couples, if you put some detail from their profile in there, with more than a few sentences and make an effort to chat, not just get in their bed they will respond a lot better.

Trouble is that most couples think, as a single male your copying and pasting, which i know happens and i know this to be true as i did it when i first started on here, till i realized how to get interest from them.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

I can only go on the numbers I did. "

No reply meant they aren't real? A more obvious conclusion would be they didn't fancy you!

No, that definitely couldn't be the case. You're right, they must be fakes

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????

Seriously I answer all messages to get to know people better after reading their verifications and chatting. Get a clearer picture of them"

not the questioned asked..

at the beginning if lets say a couple get a shed load of messages.... all they have to go on at the beginning is that message.... and your profile...

so does your profile stand out (for good) in any way, shape, or form.....

it there as a blank sheet for you to make yourself stand out, your "shop window to the swinging world" so to speak.... to say to people "this is why you should meet me!!" give people a reason to say "wow, I should get to know this guy!!!"

so again... look at the profiles of the people that have taken time to answer this.... and look at yours

would you answer your own profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

We get maybe 30 messages a day from single guys out of that 30 probably only 5 have bothered to read our profile, should we come to the same conclusion about single guys as you do couples, we don't, there's genuine people on here, couples, single guys, and single girls, as there are fakes, dreamers and time wasters, that's how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were a genuine couple sadly u just dont float our boat

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

let me expand on this a little...

quick question OP.... look at the profiles of most of the people who have taken time out to reply...

then look at yours....

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????

Seriously I answer all messages to get to know people better after reading their verifications and chatting. Get a clearer picture of them

And how many unsolicited messages do you recieve?"
obviously not as many as couples do. Please don't take this as being arrogant or argumentative cus im definitely not.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

I think its the first one.

The dynamics of two people are very different to one. We meet single guys subject to a whole heap of circumstances and everything gas to be right.

Before even reading the email, are we in that frame of mind, are we both feeling like planning something today, tomorrow, this week, next week. Have we both read the message, have we both read the profile... etc etc

So many things have to be right for us to respond and I am sure that would be the same for most couples.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

I think you quoted the wrong post

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

let me expand on this a little...

quick question OP.... look at the profiles of most of the people who have taken time out to reply...

then look at yours....

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????

Seriously I answer all messages to get to know people better after reading their verifications and chatting. Get a clearer picture of them

And how many unsolicited messages do you recieve? obviously not as many as couples do. Please don't take this as being arrogant or argumentative cus im definitely not."

You assumed they were fake over the possibility that all of them just didn't fancy you.

Don't you think that sounds a little arrogant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

I think you quoted the wrong post

Oh bum

sorry

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

I think you quoted the wrong post

Oh bum

sorry"

no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

It is the first one.....couples are really out there. Lots of them.

And perhaps the second one too?

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

let me expand on this a little...

quick question OP.... look at the profiles of most of the people who have taken time out to reply...

then look at yours....

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????

Seriously I answer all messages to get to know people better after reading their verifications and chatting. Get a clearer picture of them

And how many unsolicited messages do you recieve? obviously not as many as couples do. Please don't take this as being arrogant or argumentative cus im definitely not.

You assumed they were fake over the possibility that all of them just didn't fancy you.

Don't you think that sounds a little arrogant?"
but they don't know me. All I did it for was to see the response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

let me expand on this a little...

quick question OP.... look at the profiles of most of the people who have taken time out to reply...

then look at yours....

hand on heart.... would you answer your own profile????

Seriously I answer all messages to get to know people better after reading their verifications and chatting. Get a clearer picture of them

And how many unsolicited messages do you recieve? obviously not as many as couples do. Please don't take this as being arrogant or argumentative cus im definitely not."

You do seem to be some what arrogant in your assumptions and dismiissal of any opinion (basically almost every reply) that doesn't support your post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other 14 just didn't like what they saw maybe? REALLY

Or perhaps they thought you were arrogant?

Which part of my profile suggests that im arrogant.

It was just surprising what you said Especially if u havnt looked. Im far from arrogant, a little confident but then again surely all single males on here are."

No, I don't think that most single males on here are arrogant at all. It is not a trait that I find attractive.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I hate to be the one to break it to you. The one's who answered were probably the fakes and the genuine ones just not interested.

You can't please all the people all the time.

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over a year ago

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

I think you quoted the wrong post

Oh bum

sorry

no problem

can't be arsed to rewrite it now doh

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I think its the first one.

Ahhh, bless.

When we joined we spent a whole weekend going through every profile of the people nearest to us, and sent just 5 carefully worded, personalised emails to those people we felt best-suited what we, and they, were looking for.

We didn't get a single reply.

But we stuck with it, persevered and eventually people came looking for us.

Interestingly, I think all 5 of those couples are now our friends.

Being a single male is tough, but it seems the decent ones always succeed, so you just need to stay positive.

Good luck

Mr ddc.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I think its the first one.

Perhaps being single, male and in their age range wasn't enough? I expect they were all looking for more than just that.

Maybe they didn't like your message. Maybe they didn't like your photos. Maybe your profile didn't stand out to them.

I think expecting them to acknowledge a message because that's what you would do is the way to ending up feeling disappointed.

Not everyone uses the site like you do and not everyone will react like you think they should/like you would. I agree with what ur saying but like I said at the beginning. It was an experiment

An experiment which in your opinion you concluded couples don't exist or are not for real

I think you quoted the wrong post

Oh bum

sorry

no problem

can't be arsed to rewrite it now doh

I think people will still get it

I did.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think its the first one.

Ahhh, bless.

We didn't get a single reply.

But we stuck with it, persevered and eventually people came looking for us.

Interestingly, I think all 5 of those couples are now our friends.

Being a single male is tough, but it seems the decent ones always succeed, so you just need to stay positive.

Good luck

Mr ddc."
thanks I'll always remain positive.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i think it is more likely that you didnt interest them rather than you hit on 14 fake profiles !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think it is more likely that you didnt interest them rather than you hit on 14 fake profiles !"

You'd bore us, as a couple nothing would interest us, guess we are fake

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The thing is, OP, all these couples who have replied to your thread have been verified as so you can safely assume they are genuine simply through basic statistical analysis and chance. As mentioned above - which is more likely? That you've messaged 14 fake couple profiles, all of which appeared to match your requirements? Or more likely (and less paranoid) that only YOU thought you matched their requirements and that for them, you didn't.

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"The thing is, OP, all these couples who have replied to your thread have been verified as so you can safely assume they are genuine simply through basic statistical analysis and chance. As mentioned above - which is more likely? That you've messaged 14 fake couple profiles, all of which appeared to match your requirements? Or more likely (and less paranoid) that only YOU thought you matched their requirements and that for them, you didn't.

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you."
im not stressed it was just an experiment. Those are the figures. I erge single guys to try it.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you. im not stressed it was just an experiment. Those are the figures. I erge single guys to try it."

you were stressed enough to do what you call an experiment and post a thread about it, and arrogant follow up posts when people give you explanations as to why no one replied to you.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you. im not stressed it was just an experiment. Those are the figures. I erge single guys to try it.

you were stressed enough to do what you call an experiment and post a thread about it, and arrogant follow up posts when people give you explanations as to why no one replied to you."

I posted a thread that was all. Arrogant ME. I don't think so.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

If you did 15 messages did you take the time and effort to tailor each message to each couple?

I wouldn't be interested in starting a conversation with someone who was spurting out messages to everyone hoping for whatever they could get.

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If you did 15 messages did you take the time and effort to tailor each message to each couple?

I wouldn't be interested in starting a conversation with someone who was spurting out messages to everyone hoping for whatever they could get."

All messages were tailored to that couple in particular. All said a bit about what there looking for and hopefully how I fit in.

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By *essysteveCouple
over a year ago

ALICANTE AREA SPAIN

We are a genuine couple and have met couples and singles off this site but how many messages have we received from single guys who quite clearly have not read our profile.

Two weeks ago we were at another couples house and they opened their profile and pointed out a message that they had received previously from a single guy ......... guess what ....... we have received the very same message, on the same day ......... cut and paste is a good thing but ......... please guys how about a little personalisation

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you. im not stressed it was just an experiment. Those are the figures. I erge single guys to try it.

you were stressed enough to do what you call an experiment and post a thread about it, and arrogant follow up posts when people give you explanations as to why no one replied to you.

I posted a thread that was all. Arrogant ME. I don't think so.

yes, when explained that maybe they just werent interested, you replied with a very arrogant "REALLY!!!".

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By *ustin666666 OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you. im not stressed it was just an experiment. Those are the figures. I erge single guys to try it.

you were stressed enough to do what you call an experiment and post a thread about it, and arrogant follow up posts when people give you explanations as to why no one replied to you.

I posted a thread that was all. Arrogant ME. I don't think so.

yes, when explained that maybe they just werent interested, you replied with a very arrogant "REALLY!!!"."
Because to be honest. Ive taken some stick from this thread and they don't even know me lol

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over a year ago

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you. im not stressed it was just an experiment. Those are the figures. I erge single guys to try it.

you were stressed enough to do what you call an experiment and post a thread about it, and arrogant follow up posts when people give you explanations as to why no one replied to you.

I posted a thread that was all. Arrogant ME. I don't think so.

Sorry but I think you need to have a good look at yourself (and not in the mirror!)

It can be a gift to see yourself as others see you. Arrogance is sign of weakness. It is not attractive. I think your "survey" backs this up.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Don't stress about things you can't change. Focus your energy on those couple who DO want to meet you. im not stressed it was just an experiment. Those are the figures. I erge single guys to try it.

you were stressed enough to do what you call an experiment and post a thread about it, and arrogant follow up posts when people give you explanations as to why no one replied to you.

I posted a thread that was all. Arrogant ME. I don't think so.

yes, when explained that maybe they just werent interested, you replied with a very arrogant "REALLY!!!".Because to be honest. Ive taken some stick from this thread and they don't even know me lol

this was very early on in the thread, so im sorry but if you have taken stick id say you have in the main brought it on yourself, arrogance is not something that you decide you are or arent, its how you are to others, and like I originally said, you come across as very arrogant, which could and more than likely is a big reason as to shy no one in your little survey replied to you, theres some very good advice on this thread, instead of been defensive you would do well to take it.

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over a year ago

"If you did 15 messages did you take the time and effort to tailor each message to each couple?

I wouldn't be interested in starting a conversation with someone who was spurting out messages to everyone hoping for whatever they could get.

All messages were tailored to that couple in particular. All said a bit about what there looking for and hopefully how I fit in."

If you had sent one to us on a night we were looking for fun we would have said yes , providing you were local to us .... so yes we do exist

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

I think its the first one.

I think it's the latter. We wouldn;t have even opened a message after looking at your profile.

Could you please explain a little why not

Your profile is your shop window. Yours says nothing

I agree with what ur saying about pics but most profiles don't show ur face.

Most don't? Are you sure.

To be honest I'd be suspicious of any single man hiding his face and also a tattoo in their pictures. What do you have to hide?

Similarly the inconsistency that you say you can accomodate but the text saying you can't. That would ring an alarm bell too.

A lot of profiles choose not to show face pics in their public profile. I have never shown any face pics in public profiles on any site i've been on, and it's never stopped me from getting interest from couples. Nearly every couple i've met on these sites has had their face pics hidden to some degree, so why is it ok for them, but if a single guy does it, they must be hiding something?.

I've know one single women who had workmates find her on a site, print off her profile including face pics. Some people don't care if that happened, but i'm sure most on here would appreciate something like that to happen to them.

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