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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

"

sadly i do too

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

sadly i do too "

Me three

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I do too and I have no problem with it whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, in a lot of cases we don't have much else to judge by. Bare profiles and crap pictures of messy rooms, dirty toilets in the background etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it too, but I don't really want to change that about myself. My judgements are usually proved right.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

"

I use photos as part of making up my mind if I want to meet someone, so I do too.

You have to decide somehow. It would be fairer to meet everyone and see if there's a spark but who has time (or the energy or inclination) to do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the first thing I look at. Then the name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3/10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Visual images are powerful so it's natural to put a lot of emphasis on them. But you also need to look at what else the profile says as that person maybe wholly inappropriate for you based on their likes, dislikes, opinions

Stating the bleeding obvious I know !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course I do, I don't apply the same philosophy in real life, I can't become attracted to somebody for other reasons, but on here you don't have the time or patience to talk to the 100s of guys messaging to find out if they are nice. So instant attraction first, personality second. I've spoke to some really hot guys I've later blocked for being a knob though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a natural thing to do.. The people who say they dont judge usually judge people who do and admit it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it too. Then the text..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen some stunningly gorgeous photos only to find that the profile text of the user leaves me speechless for the wrong reasons.

I think a trade off between the two has to happen to help me decide to message or not.

(Banter amongst forumites is a different story though).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I give myself a bit of a hard time.

When I'm out n about or at work, I find myself looking at guys and thinking if I saw you on a dating website or fab I probably wouldn't even message you but, as Iv seen you in the flesh if go for a social.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I do, but I'm worried that I might be getting carried away with it. At first, I'd just bang my hand down when I did it. Then I found myself giving a little speech, such as 'for the crime of skidmarks in your pants, which you show a blatant disregard for the norms of checking before snapping, I sentence you to the maximum term allowed for this crime, which is to be iggied.'

This wasn't enough. I bought a small toffee hammer to bang down and this satisfied my craving for judging for a while, but eventually I moved on to harder things. I began to cite previous decisions that had formed a precedent, but distinguishing between these if there was a mitigating factor to take into account.

Heavens above, I've even started putting on a special red dressing gown when looking at pictures now. I begin to Dread this Judge stuff. I possibly need help.

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By *r. PavingstoneMan
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

"

Some make you think some make you assume some frighten the shit out of you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do, but I'm worried that I might be getting carried away with it. At first, I'd just bang my hand down when I did it. Then I found myself giving a little speech, such as 'for the crime of skidmarks in your pants, which you show a blatant disregard for the norms of checking before snapping, I sentence you to the maximum term allowed for this crime, which is to be iggied.'

This wasn't enough. I bought a small toffee hammer to bang down and this satisfied my craving for judging for a while, but eventually I moved on to harder things. I began to cite previous decisions that had formed a precedent, but distinguishing between these if there was a mitigating factor to take into account.

Heavens above, I've even started putting on a special red dressing gown when looking at pictures now. I begin to Dread this Judge stuff. I possibly need help. "

Hahaha

Skid marks!?!?!? are you serious Tina!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I give myself a bit of a hard time.

When I'm out n about or at work, I find myself looking at guys and thinking if I saw you on a dating website or fab I probably wouldn't even message you but, as Iv seen you in the flesh if go for a social. "

I do that all the time x

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We both do, as of course do most people, but how else can you filter out the ones you want to meet? They may be really nice people, but in this swinging 'bubble' we're in if you don't fancy the look of them then there's no

point taking things further.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

For me a good picture catches my eye & interest, then chatting to them I judge their character. Sadly, sometimes both don't go well together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone does

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Even making a decision on "do I want to meet this person or not?" is making a judgement.

It's a complicated subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nice to hear people like to chat and I do believe it from the forumites, as its evident they like the banter etc. But unfortunately the majority of my messages were just,..."wanna meet now?" Or the like! Tbh that what really put me off meeting anyone off here, and so just use it to keep in touch with friends and hopefully make new ones too.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have been assured that my pic ate crap. That I do infact look remotely human in the flesh and that I possibly should do some new ones.

I cant be arsed as I am a camera phobe. If that is an issue then I am happy to let people pass me by.

Anyway, they do it for a lot of other reasons too

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I have been assured that my pic ate crap. That I do infact look remotely human in the flesh and that I possibly should do some new ones.

I cant be arsed as I am a camera phobe. If that is an issue then I am happy to let people pass me by.

Anyway, they do it for a lot of other reasons too "

I guess that's why it makes me feel pretty shallow as I haven't got the best pics and am also a camera phobe.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I have been assured that my pic ate crap. That I do infact look remotely human in the flesh and that I possibly should do some new ones.

I cant be arsed as I am a camera phobe. If that is an issue then I am happy to let people pass me by.

Anyway, they do it for a lot of other reasons too

I guess that's why it makes me feel pretty shallow as I haven't got the best pics and am also a camera phobe. "
nothing wrong with your pics, same goes for no_more_winks

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I have been assured that my pic ate crap. That I do infact look remotely human in the flesh and that I possibly should do some new ones.

I cant be arsed as I am a camera phobe. If that is an issue then I am happy to let people pass me by.

Anyway, they do it for a lot of other reasons too

I guess that's why it makes me feel pretty shallow as I haven't got the best pics and am also a camera phobe. nothing wrong with your pics, same goes for no_more_winks"

Thank you for saying.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"I have been assured that my pic ate crap. That I do infact look remotely human in the flesh and that I possibly should do some new ones.

I cant be arsed as I am a camera phobe. If that is an issue then I am happy to let people pass me by.

Anyway, they do it for a lot of other reasons too

I guess that's why it makes me feel pretty shallow as I haven't got the best pics and am also a camera phobe. nothing wrong with your pics, same goes for no_more_winks

Thank you for saying. "
welcome & I mean it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course we do, if he hasn't got a cock pic ask yourself why. don't know why anyone would want pics of themselves with their hair looking a mess either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its nice to hear people like to chat and I do believe it from the forumites, as its evident they like the banter etc. But unfortunately the majority of my messages were just,..."wanna meet now?" Or the like! Tbh that what really put me off meeting anyone off here, and so just use it to keep in touch with friends and hopefully make new ones too."

Ditto I can't stand messages that say " want to meet now, today, tonight!

Especially when it states on my profile I won't meet like that.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"It's the first thing I look at. Then the name "

Your eyes mesmerize me, I love it when you have that avatar pic up, I get lost in them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its nice to hear people like to chat and I do believe it from the forumites, as its evident they like the banter etc. But unfortunately the majority of my messages were just,..."wanna meet now?" Or the like! Tbh that what really put me off meeting anyone off here, and so just use it to keep in touch with friends and hopefully make new ones too.

Ditto I can't stand messages that say " want to meet now, today, tonight!

Especially when it states on my profile I won't meet like that. "

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

i think we all do and see no reason that its a bad thing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somebody wrote on a thread the other day.... I'm not sending a pic for their scrutiny!! I really wanted to say tough shit you are going to get scrutinized for you looks on here its the nature of the beast! I felt I'd come across hard and shallow though so I kept my mouth shut! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do it too. Then the text.. "

Then the mind....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do it too. Then the text..

Then the mind...."

Chip chip chip...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

"

Yep....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

"

Turn site images off if you are using the mobile app then you can't see them to judge

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines


"I do it too. Then the text..

Then the mind....

Chip chip chip... "

Yes? You called?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

"

Everyone does it whether they will admit it or not. Why hate it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hope I'm not the only one who judges by a photograph!?

I hate that I do it and wish I could change.

Everyone does it whether they will admit it or not. Why hate it?"

Cause I could be missing out

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have been assured that my pic ate crap. That I do infact look remotely human in the flesh and that I possibly should do some new ones.

I cant be arsed as I am a camera phobe. If that is an issue then I am happy to let people pass me by.

Anyway, they do it for a lot of other reasons too

I guess that's why it makes me feel pretty shallow as I haven't got the best pics and am also a camera phobe. "

You may not have the best pics, but you still look really hot!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I very rarely pass judgement on a picture, I am not that shallow but happy to judge the person in it

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"I do, but I'm worried that I might be getting carried away with it. At first, I'd just bang my hand down when I did it. Then I found myself giving a little speech, such as 'for the crime of skidmarks in your pants, which you show a blatant disregard for the norms of checking before snapping, I sentence you to the maximum term allowed for this crime, which is to be iggied.'

This wasn't enough. I bought a small toffee hammer to bang down and this satisfied my craving for judging for a while, but eventually I moved on to harder things. I began to cite previous decisions that had formed a precedent, but distinguishing between these if there was a mitigating factor to take into account.

Heavens above, I've even started putting on a special red dressing gown when looking at pictures now. I begin to Dread this Judge stuff. I possibly need help.

Hahaha

Skid marks!?!?!? are you serious Tina!? "

Oh yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think we all do and see no reason that its a bad thing..

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