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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have any of you horny bunch done it.... If so what....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have any of you horny bunch done it.... If so what...."

Kindness would be pointless if it didn't have an objective...

Do u believe in kindness?

Do u believe in justice?

For with it a change comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have OP............

Usually to help out those less fortunate than we are, buying someone on the streets a meal and a hot drink.

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

"Have any of you horny bunch done it.... If so what...."

Of course I have...

When I had the means I took in people who needed a roof until they were back on their feet or decided to move on.

Some friends fallen on bad times, some complete strangers that were hitching lifts on the side of roads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's something that normally goes without being seen. I give all my old clothes etc to charities and I've given meals out whilst out and about. Sat talking to homeless people etc.

It's a great way to reflect on what I have and how lucky some are compared to others.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I believe in Karma so yes I have and yes I continue to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at the bar on Saturday night and someone had just won £350 at the bookies. I had never met him before but he bought me a large jamesons. That was kind. And random.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this instead of an advent calendar. Something each day on the run up to Xmas. And then other times randomly throughout the year

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By *yan19Man
over a year ago

NLC

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By *yan19Man
over a year ago

NLC

I've had a few but the one I like most was saving a baby fox

It tried to run under a barb wire fence and got caught but managed to flip it's self all the way round tangling it's fur and skin on the barbes after a few bites and cuts from the barbes wore we got the poor wee thing out took a picture of him and realised him away from fences

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I believe you should always be kind. Doesn't have to cost you much. A smile and hello to the lonely old neighbour, a cup of tea to the homeless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I believe you should always be kind. Doesn't have to cost you much. A smile and hello to the lonely old neighbour, a cup of tea to the homeless. "

Some of the best conversations I've had are with the elderly.

They have so much to talk about stories of the wars and much more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on several occasions paid for the car behind on the M4 toll bridge

Bought a Big Issue, handed over a fiver and refused change.

Bought bags of pick and mix at Christmas and handed them out to big issue seller's and homeless people as I go about my shopping

Little things that surprise and make someone smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best on for me was a homeless guy and his absolutely gorgeous dog - he was freezing but he took so much time making sure he wrapped the dog up in a fleece, no gaps and then just snuggled him in.

Walked down the road and got them hot food, hot drinks and some stuff to stash in their bag.

He showed that dog a level of affection I haven't seen in many far more "privileged"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have on several occasions paid for the car behind on the M4 toll bridge

Bought a Big Issue, handed over a fiver and refused change.

Bought bags of pick and mix at Christmas and handed them out to big issue seller's and homeless people as I go about my shopping

Little things that surprise and make someone smile

It is all about the little things making someone smile. Mmmmm pick and mix. Jelly tots are my favourite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best on for me was a homeless guy and his absolutely gorgeous dog - he was freezing but he took so much time making sure he wrapped the dog up in a fleece, no gaps and then just snuggled him in.

Walked down the road and got them hot food, hot drinks and some stuff to stash in their bag.

He showed that dog a level of affection I haven't seen in many far more "privileged""

Agreed I've seen this too. And they say dog is a man's best friend. Companionship true to the heart there.

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

Friday walking through central London I bought a homeless guy and his dog some food; just a sandwich ,drink,and dog food with a treat for each of them but I wanted to make sure they had something though I was in a rush.

The look some city guy gave me!! Would have thought I'd grown two heads!

I very much believe in showing kindness whatever form that may take.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Friday walking through central London I bought a homeless guy and his dog some food; just a sandwich ,drink,and dog food with a treat for each of them but I wanted to make sure they had something though I was in a rush.

The look some city guy gave me!! Would have thought I'd grown two heads!

I very much believe in showing kindness whatever form that may take."

It's amazing at how many people look down thier noses as you for doing something good.

Or can't spare the odd bit of change for someone less fortunate.

Don't get me wrong there are lots of people out there making a living out of people's generosity but then there are the genuine cases!

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By *yan19Man
over a year ago

NLC

I know a lot of people will give me grief for this but I know violence is not the answer but put your self I my shoes?

I saw a man who is say was around late 50s and a group of neds/chavs walked up because he was alcoholic and started calling him stuff and I have helped this man in the past get home and I just ignored it at first but I turned round and saw him sitting on a bench minding his own buisness just trying to sober up a bit and they pushed him? Was I in the right to take my top off and run over and push the boy to the ground who pushed him and threaten him and his friends if they even looked at him again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know a lot of people will give me grief for this but I know violence is not the answer but put your self I my shoes?

Tough call as you would then be in the wrong.if it was me I'd get the guy away from the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a lot of people will give me grief for this but I know violence is not the answer but put your self I my shoes?

Nah, you weren't in the right. Why did you remove your top anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, you weren't in the right. Why did you remove your top anyway? "

Gives them nothing to grab hold of in a fight - nothing worse than ending up with it locked over your head and not being able to fight back because your arms are trapped in the sleeves....

Not that I would do that to someone of course....

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By *yan19Man
over a year ago

NLC

"I know a lot of people will give me grief for this but I know violence is not the answer but put your self I my shoes?

Nah, you weren't in the right. Why did you remove your top anyway? "

I wasn't in the right? I Was doing parkour and had a best top under it and was worried that is have been attacked for defending him so I took my top off to make it less tight so I could move faster and swing quicker if that makes any sense haha

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

The look some city guy gave me!! Would have thought I'd grown two heads!

I very much believe in showing kindness whatever form that may take.

It's amazing at how many people look down thier noses as you for doing something good.

Or can't spare the odd bit of change for someone less fortunate.

Don't get me wrong there are lots of people out there making a living out of people's generosity but then there are the genuine cases!

I think we seem to live in a society where we've become insular and closed to some of the less unfortunate. Maybe people find it easier to give money to a faceless text or telephone donation; seeing up close frightens them?

There are those that take advantage, but For me I try to judge each case as I see it. Even those that 'take advantage' often need help of some form.

Ryan19, I don't think you were wrong, there could have been other ways to intervene though; vocalisation to start. Many people would have stood by and done nothing, or pretended not to see it so well done in caring. I understand taking your top off; so you couldn't be grabbed -however that in itself is quite an aggressive, overt move that signals an intention and could be misinterpreted.

I do think you should carefully consider any choice to intervene and how you do it as there are some very unpleasant people in this world. If in doubt always 999.

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By *yan19Man
over a year ago

NLC

Tip teaser

I agree I probably should have handled it better but I don't know I had told them to leave him alone but five minutes later they pushed him I think that's the reason I probably lost it an was ready to fight but i know it took him out of danger and out myself in danger but I looked at it as I'm sober I can at least fight back as for him he could hardly walk so I could have waited 10 minutes for the police to appear by that time they would have probably done worse the next time I'll phone the police and then react that way helps on the way

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I found a phone this morning, it had no credit so I topped it up. Messaged 4 people and asked them to contact the owner.

It belongs to a Polish person and everything is written in Polish, it wasn't easy

I am waiting for them to contact me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give over £200 a month to my close friend - she is a single parent so I help her out best as I can.

I often dish out £10 notes to buskers under 18 - fair play for trying I say.

I buy homeless people bags of food when I see them.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Sharing the love on Fab is very kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also give private tuition to people's kids who I know can't afford it.

I don't feel children should be punished because their parents are hard up, so I tutor for free.

If they need help, and want to learn, I will help them!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

All the time. Just smiling at someone in the street or saying hi can make someone's day and costs you nothing. You never know how much that can change the course of someone's day.

I've also helped people at checkouts who are short for their shopping etc

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Ok ok

Seriously

I'm very involved in St Paul's Hostel for the homeless in Worcester having lived there myself

I offer a free Sewing repair service for their clothes

I also often spend £35 kitting them out in two changes of clothing and shoes

Plus if any of them have children and they've no cash for a present I'll buy them a small present and post it off for them

Even the hardest of societies drug abusers

Because the children still need to know that they're loved and not forgotten

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Acts of random kindness should be selfless ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pensioner was having problems paying for her shopping on the till next to me in a local supermarket ,slipped her checkout girl a tenner as i left

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Acts of random kindness should be selfless ...

Why should they? They are still acts of kindness even if you benefit.

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By *onnyeasygoingMan
over a year ago

Somewhere on the M62 between 24 and 14

I do when given the right situation. It gives you a warm fuzzy feeling inside.

Even just saving that parking space for the old dear rather than to the tosser who just came in the wrong way at Tesco's. Then she gives you a little wave and it makes you feel cool for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes if i can - its nice to be nice - if i could afford it id do more but limited to what doesnt cost more than a bit of my time - loved what marmite did on the lead up to xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one thing that I find easy to do is when I'm cooking a casserole or similar for the family, make a couple of individual portions and pop them round to single old gents who live in the same street.

often these guys are from the generation where men just didn't go in the kitchen, so after their partners die, a home cooked meal is a real treat for them.

and it makes me feel good too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in the late 80's I was working in London on a big refurbishment job close to one of the bridges the homeless community used to sleep under.

Well myself and another chap got talking to one of the guy's every day.

Tom the guy I worked with started bringing an extra lunch every day with any left overs from last evenings tea.

I would give him a couple of quid for hot drinks and on a Friday payday.

We went round all the guy's and got a couple of quid off them.

One morning we all had to start early as there was a big delivery coming in and needed to be unloaded to prevent traffic issues.

So we arrived about half hour earlier, in time to see the chap getting changed behind a parked van.

He had a suit and tie with a briefcase.

Folded them neatly and got dressed into rotten old clothes and shoes. Stashing suitcase under a cacardboard box. He took his place looking cold and dishevelled with the rest, awaiting the rush hour of passers by who would daily chuck a quid or two into his hands or onto cardboard.

Well when we got time to confront him about it later in the day, he freaked out and fessed up to basically being a professional begger making upwards of £150 a day depending on his location, tourist's being easy game.

Well as we were kindly builder's we advised him that if we saw him again he would end up in the river at high tide.

Not before informing the other (hopefully) genuine homeless people of his actions.

Needless to say he scarpered pretty fast.

As we had removed his briefcase he had to wear his scruffy attire.

The others informed us this is common practice and as people come and go all the time its hard to know if they are a scammed.

This has never stopped me from subsequent random act's. But am suspicious and never give money.

I guess we do it to justify our own wasteful, possession driven lifestyles these day's.

Oh look at me I gave money to a homeless today aren't I amazing.

I have never done it with this thought in my head but deep down if most people are honest we do it to make ourselves feel good rather than genuine caring for other's.

True kindness is those who don't seek any kind of attention or gratification for their actions.

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By *iggerooooCouple
over a year ago

Conwy

A young couple had booked me as the photographer for their wedding ... was really done on the tightest budget, near impossible but just being around them for 2 minutes and you can see the connection between them, hard to explain.

Anyway, they had a house fire and put an add on Facebook looking for items people didn't need as they needed to rebuild their home, they had nothing left.

my partner contacted them offering bits we no longer used ... but she didn't know it was them and they didn't know her.

The male came round to pick up the bits offered, he was so grateful that he actually insisted on cutting our garden (random) ... still my partner and the guy had no Idea it was me they booked for the wedding as I was not home when the guy came round.

Months later, they called to cancel the booking as although they were to still get married ... They had to do it for next to nothing now.

I was telling my partner about this and showed her the images from the pre shoot we had done, obviously she recognised him and told me the whole story ... I called them to explain that I would do the wedding for free and provide the images on a usb for them to print at a later date.

was a great day, both very happy and now expecting their first child.

We have become very good friends and he absolutely insists on doing our gardening every month and has done for some time now, won't take a penny for it.

funny how helping others at bad times can actually take your own life down a completely new path

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done lots ...but if I reveal it people will think I'm really soft...

..and I can't have that happen!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Back in the late 80's I was working in London on a big refurbishment job close to one of the bridges the homeless community used to sleep under.

Well myself and another chap got talking to one of the guy's every day.

Tom the guy I worked with started bringing an extra lunch every day with any left overs from last evenings tea.

I would give him a couple of quid for hot drinks and on a Friday payday.

We went round all the guy's and got a couple of quid off them.

One morning we all had to start early as there was a big delivery coming in and needed to be unloaded to prevent traffic issues.

So we arrived about half hour earlier, in time to see the chap getting changed behind a parked van.

He had a suit and tie with a briefcase.

Well as we were kindly builder's we advised him that if we saw him again he would end up in the river at high tide.

Not before informing the other (hopefully) genuine homeless people of his actions.

Needless to say he scarpered pretty fast.

As we had removed his briefcase he had to wear his scruffy attire.

The others informed us this is common practice and as people come and go all the time its hard to know if they are a scammed.

This has never stopped me from subsequent random act's. But am suspicious and never give money.

I guess we do it to justify our own wasteful, possession driven lifestyles these day's.

Oh look at me I gave money to a homeless today aren't I amazing.

I have never done it with this thought in my head but deep down if most people are honest we do it to make ourselves feel good rather than genuine caring for other's.

True kindness is those who don't seek any kind of attention or gratification for their actions. "

That's quite sad.

The advice is always never give cash. I offer to buy food and if that is refused I walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing major but just back from feeding the ducks and whilst down there i bought an extra bag of food and gave it to a gent and his children so they could feed them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A young couple had booked me as the photographer for their wedding ... was really done on the tightest budget, near impossible but just being around them for 2 minutes and you can see the connection between them, hard to explain.

Anyway, they had a house fire and put an add on Facebook looking for items people didn't need as they needed to rebuild their home, they had nothing left.

my partner contacted them offering bits we no longer used ... but she didn't know it was them and they didn't know her.

Months later, they called to cancel the booking as although they were to still get married ... They had to do it for next to nothing now.

was a great day, both very happy and now expecting their first child.

We have become very good friends and he absolutely insists on doing our gardening every month and has done for some time now, won't take a penny for it.

funny how helping others at bad times can actually take your own life down a completely new path

xxxxx

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

You made sure that a man who was down on his luck felt safe, protected and that he mattered and you let the others know their behaviour was unacceptable. I'm not violent but I can say if it was me I'd be incredibly greatful, being outnumbered and vulnerable is dangerous. Love your fox story too x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I try and do a good deed daily and try and make people smile. If I make one person smile then my job is done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I find someone sleeping rough I'll tuck a few quid under his blanket and hope they don't know I did it. Can you imagine his/her joy when they wake up to find it. I feel that is giving some dosh to the point of need.

I had to smile though the other day as it truly is the opposite of what I'd do. I can't remember who it was that said it but it when ask some celeb or other was asked by a beggar if he had some spare change. To which his reply was

"How do I know if this is spare change until I'm on my deathbed".

Obviously it's not something I'd say to a rough sleeper but if you are a bit of a skinflint it would be sort of thing you would say isn't it.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

We do random stuff, helped a guy who's motorised scooter broke down on a hill, poor babe was freezing and had been driven past for 40 mins. Never want change for a big issue, I work away over christmas and me and a vendor have a nice friendship, xmas cards for each other etc. I stop and rescue animals on the roadside, mainly hedgehogs. Being helpful is part of my job and upbringing.

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By *ibbyhunterCouple
over a year ago

keighley

last week the bus fares went up round here (yet again),a school boy got on the bus but didn't have enough for his fare ,he was about to turn round and get off so i stepped forward and gave him the 20p he was short.

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