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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any advice on how to deal with bullying of a 13 year old on social media. My advice has been to ignore it but it doesn't seem to be going away.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Delete their account or report to authorities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report it to school, media providers and have a word with police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort it out find out who's children are doing it and land straight on their door any hassle call the police hope this helps despise bullys wish someone would try it with me leave the kids alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Report it to school, media providers and have a word with police "

Spoke to a few parents, but it doesn't appear to have had the desire effect. I don't want to involve the police, but am getting to that point where I feel I might have to.

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

Report to the social media platform each post. Take and keep screen shots of everything before its removed though. Speak to the school about the children in question and make them aware what's going on with the 13yr old, they should be able to offer further adivce. Depending upon the nature, it's also worth speaking to your local police for advice.Google staying safe online for teenagers and you should get a good website whose name escapes me.

Explain to your 13yr old that social media makes it easier for people to be nasty and the best way to beat the bullies is to ignore. It's very important you keep all lines of communication with the 13yr old open so they feel confident approaching you or other adult if is escalates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you print off a copy of the text?

If you can, do it, take it to the head teacher. They have to act on it. It's trolling. Happened to me a few months ago. Two students making threats towards me. Both kicked out of school.

God I hate bullies!!!

Hope it gets sorted. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Report to the social media platform each post. Take and keep screen shots of everything before its removed though. Speak to the school about the children in question and make them aware what's going on with the 13yr old, they should be able to offer further adivce. Depending upon the nature, it's also worth speaking to your local police for advice.Google staying safe online for teenagers and you should get a good website whose name escapes me.

Explain to your 13yr old that social media makes it easier for people to be nasty and the best way to beat the bullies is to ignore. It's very important you keep all lines of communication with the 13yr old open so they feel confident approaching you or other adult if is escalates. "

Thank you, that is very helpful. Fortunately I have a really good relationship with the 13 year old, he tells me everything and knows if it goes too far it will get sorted. Just horrible to see him upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a growing concern for teens. Report it to the police. It can seem easier to ignore, but then you don't know how many other victims they are targeting. Better to deal with it head on than to have more stats.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Can you print off a copy of the text?

If you can, do it, take it to the head teacher. They have to act on it. It's trolling. Happened to me a few months ago. Two students making threats towards me. Both kicked out of school.

God I hate bullies!!!

Hope it gets sorted. Xx"

That is really encouraging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is a growing concern for teens. Report it to the police. It can seem easier to ignore, but then you don't know how many other victims they are targeting. Better to deal with it head on than to have more stats."

You read about teens being so upset that they take their own lives and that is what scares the life out of me.

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By *ercy the Park KeeperMan
over a year ago

Chester

It depends on the vitriol spent but contacting the police is the best direction on the non 999 number they have all the relevant numbers for people to help if they can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delete their account or report to authorities

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Why should they delete?!

Hardly making the right statement is it?! To run and hide. There will always be people to put you down but you don't run away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Report to the social media platform each post. Take and keep screen shots of everything before its removed though. Speak to the school about the children in question and make them aware what's going on with the 13yr old, they should be able to offer further adivce. Depending upon the nature, it's also worth speaking to your local police for advice.Google staying safe online for teenagers and you should get a good website whose name escapes me.

Explain to your 13yr old that social media makes it easier for people to be nasty and the best way to beat the bullies is to ignore. It's very important you keep all lines of communication with the 13yr old open so they feel confident approaching you or other adult if is escalates. "

Great advice although police can only do anything if the messages are racist or threatening harm. Otherwise they don't have the power to do anything. School are very much aware of cyber bullying and will have a policy in place.

Hope everything turns out ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be very tempted to take the hand that rocks the cradle approach.....

Grab the little bastards by the throat and scare the living shit out of them grrr

Was bullied myself, kinda know your fears op, hope it gets sorted

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Our son was bullied at school by one boy and eventually we involved the police school's liaison officer. She visited the boy concerned and spoke to him and his mum. Things didn't stop but they improved for a while.

I have no faith in schools bullying policies which in my experience tend to be pieces of paper to satisfy ofsted that heads are reluctant to act on.

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK


"Any advice on how to deal with bullying of a 13 year old on social media. My advice has been to ignore it but it doesn't seem to be going away."

Checkout you local police force website. There will be links and contacts for this kind if behaviour. You could even speak to your local officer or schools officer for advice, and then decide how best to deal. Hope you get it sorted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our son was bullied at school by one boy and eventually we involved the police school's liaison officer. She visited the boy concerned and spoke to him and his mum. Things didn't stop but they improved for a while.

I have no faith in schools bullying policies which in my experience tend to be pieces of paper to satisfy ofsted that heads are reluctant to act on."

Unfortunately an awful lot of schools approach is to ignore or piecemeal approach which eventually leads to the victim leaving school or getting expelled through poor attendance. Dealing with bullies requires taking the matter by the scruff of the neck and not letting go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our son was bullied at school by one boy and eventually we involved the police school's liaison officer. She visited the boy concerned and spoke to him and his mum. Things didn't stop but they improved for a while.

I have no faith in schools bullying policies which in my experience tend to be pieces of paper to satisfy ofsted that heads are reluctant to act on.

Unfortunately an awful lot of schools approach is to ignore or piecemeal approach which eventually leads to the victim leaving school or getting expelled through poor attendance. Dealing with bullies requires taking the matter by the scruff of the neck and not letting go. "

It is mainly boys from previous school so a tricky one as it isn't related to his current school. I am monitoring it closely. It is so easy for people to be mean from behind a screen. A couple of the parents I spoke to were great and there has been no problem with their boys, a couple of other totally refused to acknowledge the issue and that is where the problem lies as their sons feel empowered by the lack of parental action.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Our son was bullied at school by one boy and eventually we involved the police school's liaison officer. She visited the boy concerned and spoke to him and his mum. Things didn't stop but they improved for a while.

I have no faith in schools bullying policies which in my experience tend to be pieces of paper to satisfy ofsted that heads are reluctant to act on.

Unfortunately an awful lot of schools approach is to ignore or piecemeal approach which eventually leads to the victim leaving school or getting expelled through poor attendance. Dealing with bullies requires taking the matter by the scruff of the neck and not letting go.

It is mainly boys from previous school so a tricky one as it isn't related to his current school. I am monitoring it closely. It is so easy for people to be mean from behind a screen. A couple of the parents I spoke to were great and there has been no problem with their boys, a couple of other totally refused to acknowledge the issue and that is where the problem lies as their sons feel empowered by the lack of parental action."

I really do recommend the schools liaison officer, a word from a uniformed person does go some way to making the parents take things seriously. I do understand what you say about parents refusing to acknowledge the problem though, the boy in our case has a mother who firmly believes that he is the victim .

We also took our son to the doctor (who was very understanding and non judgemental) so that any injury was documented. I went in and spoke to him first and then sat quietly while the doctor spoke to our son and examined him. I know in your case it isn't physical injury but it still might be worth having a chat.

Good luck I know the effects of this kind of behaviour but they will be somewhat mitigated by your support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So glad we didn't have internet when I was in school or even mobile phones! My younger sister on the other hand had quite a bad time with bullies. In 2010 she was 15 walking through the football field close to my mothers house and a group of girls from her school aged 15-18 jumped her in broad daylight. Broke her nose, bruised ribs, split lip, broke one of her fingers, damaged her eye socket. I remember the day like it was yesterday, my friend and I had just got back from shopping and I'd dropped my daughter in my mums so I could go over my friends for a coffee, was driving down the street and saw my sister hobbling down the side of the road holding her face with blood pouring down her face, I stopped the car and told my sister to get in and tell me and take me to where it happened.

She said some of the girls had luminous colour vests on, they weren't in the football field where it happened so drove round the village and spotted them outside some house, me and my friend got out the car and ran towards them all and they all scattered, I caught hold of one of them and threw her in my car, my friend had phoned the police who were waiting at my mothers. It took my friend to stop me from battering this girl who was in my car but she was only 17 and I was 26 at the time, I made her give me the names of all the girls involved then took my sister and the girl to my mums where the police were waiting. It almost went to court but my sister was too frightened to give evidence so it was dropped.

Most of the parents of the girls involved were mortified and punished their own daughters but one mother who was rough as fuck, and her daughter was the main one who did the most damage to my sister, I went to her house (with two of my friends!) and the mother was mouthing off and the daughter was so I gripped the mother by the throat and said to the daughter that if she ever touches my sister again I'll come back and jump up and down on top of your mothers face. That family has since moved away cos my sisters father also went there and said he'd torch their house whilst they slept.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Found this on the Kent police website......

Cyberbullying is when a person uses technology i.e. mobile phones or the internet (social networking sites, chat rooms, instant messenger), to deliberately upset someone.

It can happen any time of day and occur on a large scale and speed, due to the nature of the technology.

Bullies often feel anonymous and 'distanced' from the incident when it takes place online and 'bystanders' can easily become perpetrators by forwarding or not reporting cyberbullying.

There is not a specific law which makes cyberbullying illegal but it can be considered a criminal offence under several different acts including Protection from Harassment Act (1997), Malicious Communications Act (1988), Communications Act (2003) Obscene Publications Act (1959) and Computer Misuse Act (1990).

If you're being bullied online/by text

Save the messages/material

Tell an adult or report it online

Do not retaliate or reply. If possible, block the person.

If you see bullying online/by text

Report it to a parent, trusted adult or teacher.

Support the victim - imagine how you would feel if you were being bullied.

Advice for parents, carers and teachers

Your child is just as likely to be a bully as they are to be a target. Watch out for uncharacteristic behaviour (your child being upset or secretive, using the phone/internet more than usual, changing friendship group.)

Remind your child not to retaliate and keep any evidence

Report the bullying – contact the school if the bullying involves another pupil and contact your service provider to report the user and remove the content. If the bullying is more serious and a potential criminal offence, consider contacting Kent Police on 101.

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By *arteeneWoman
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Found this on the Kent police website......

Cyberbullying is when a person uses technology i.e. mobile phones or the internet (social networking sites, chat rooms, instant messenger), to deliberately upset someone.

It can happen any time of day and occur on a large scale and speed, due to the nature of the technology.

Bullies often feel anonymous and 'distanced' from the incident when it takes place online and 'bystanders' can easily become perpetrators by forwarding or not reporting cyberbullying.

There is not a specific law which makes cyberbullying illegal but it can be considered a criminal offence under several different acts including Protection from Harassment Act (1997), Malicious Communications Act (1988), Communications Act (2003) Obscene Publications Act (1959) and Computer Misuse Act (1990).

If you're being bullied online/by text

Save the messages/material

Tell an adult or report it online

Do not retaliate or reply. If possible, block the person.

If you see bullying online/by text

Report it to a parent, trusted adult or teacher.

Support the victim - imagine how you would feel if you were being bullied.

Advice for parents, carers and teachers

Your child is just as likely to be a bully as they are to be a target. Watch out for uncharacteristic behaviour (your child being upset or secretive, using the phone/internet more than usual, changing friendship group.)

Remind your child not to retaliate and keep any evidence

Report the bullying – contact the school if the bullying involves another pupil and contact your service provider to report the user and remove the content. If the bullying is more serious and a potential criminal offence, consider contacting Kent Police on 101."

Yes I agree with what has been said but please please report it if your child says they can deal with it deep down they can not belive me .

I lost my daughter 5 years ago because of bullying on social media I know these sites are trying to do everything they can to stop it but they can not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Found this on the Kent police website......

Cyberbullying is when a person uses technology i.e. mobile phones or the internet (social networking sites, chat rooms, instant messenger), to deliberately upset someone.

It can happen any time of day and occur on a large scale and speed, due to the nature of the technology.

Bullies often feel anonymous and 'distanced' from the incident when it takes place online and 'bystanders' can easily become perpetrators by forwarding or not reporting cyberbullying.

There is not a specific law which makes cyberbullying illegal but it can be considered a criminal offence under several different acts including Protection from Harassment Act (1997), Malicious Communications Act (1988), Communications Act (2003) Obscene Publications Act (1959) and Computer Misuse Act (1990).

If you're being bullied online/by text

Save the messages/material

Tell an adult or report it online

Do not retaliate or reply. If possible, block the person.

If you see bullying online/by text

Report it to a parent, trusted adult or teacher.

Support the victim - imagine how you would feel if you were being bullied.

Advice for parents, carers and teachers

Your child is just as likely to be a bully as they are to be a target. Watch out for uncharacteristic behaviour (your child being upset or secretive, using the phone/internet more than usual, changing friendship group.)

Remind your child not to retaliate and keep any evidence

Report the bullying – contact the school if the bullying involves another pupil and contact your service provider to report the user and remove the content. If the bullying is more serious and a potential criminal offence, consider contacting Kent Police on 101.

Yes I agree with what has been said but please please report it if your child says they can deal with it deep down they can not belive me .

I lost my daughter 5 years ago because of bullying on social media I know these sites are trying to do everything they can to stop it but they can not "

So sorry to hear that, it is awful. and thank you for the kind support.

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