FabSwingers.com forum: A couple of questions on height and intimidation(!)? Say what?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi there Fab folks (could this work as a non-cheesy greeting?)

Hope you are all well, thanks for the great welcome on the "intro" forum, really kind of you to drop by and say hi

I'm trying out the different forums and thought I'd post this question up for your consideration (and musings)

I'm 6' 8" and (look at the username people!) have yet to pop my cherry (do I even have one of those? If not, substitute for another _ruit (or root vegetable!) of your choice.... how about "yet to have my banana peeled"? Have "my carrot nibbled"? No? Right OK well I'll leave it to your imagination then

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I'm curious to know how taller (and shorter) people get on with having fun with people of different statures. I suppose this is as open to smaller people with regular "sized" (as in height... I know what you were thinking!

) partners too. Do you find it tricky with certain manoeuvres or is it just something that adds to the fun?

Obviously, coming from someone who has yet to have had the pleasure (all right, enough with the innuendo! Sex OK? Shagging / rutting like wild beasts!) Do you find there are any limitations or is the sky really the limit?

I'll also add this little bit on too, mainly aimed at the fabulous ladies on here (hi! *waves*), I've been brushed off a few times (get the sympathy violin out) mainly because of my height.

Ok I might not be Brad Pitt in the slim waist dept but it has been specifically due to my height on the few occasions that girls have turned me down. I've assumed it's because I can appear physically intimidating (I'm a cuddly shrek really!), I don't put myself across as being a "hard nut" or anything like that, I guess I could be a little more confident but I certainly don't want to put folks off by being too pushy (even though a few friends swear by this method... not being an arse but by trying different things until something clicks). Man I feel like the loneliest 23yr old on the planet!

The question, ladies, do you find a blokes height intimidating? I know that it is all mainly down to how people use their attributes, I'm not some jerk who goes around trying to blag a shag (hey it rhymes!) but I just find it odd that someone would turn someone else down because of their height rather than their personality.

Not trying to blow my own trumpet or anything, but I'm a decent bloke; I don't go diving into underpants at the first sign of breasts!

I'd be really interested to hear your thoughts on these two q's, again I've probably worn out your eyes reading this little essay but I'm curious to know how things are with you folks!

Cheers,

Harv

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By *uton_coupleCouple
over a year ago

luton

no i dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely love taller guys.

It's all down to personal preference at the end of the day but I have absolutely nothing against taller guys in the slightest, oh no, not me

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Tall is def good for me. Means I can keep the heels on

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

hey Harv

i have never even thought about a persons height when thinking about meeting them, have met people shorter than me and taller (as i mentioned on my post on your introduction thread, the last guy i went out with was 6'8")

i do prefer taller en but thats mainly cos i like wearing heels

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By *avfavMan
over a year ago

south lincs north cambs

From a not so tall guy (I'm 5ft 8") I don't worry about my size at all its all about the confidence you have. I don't find ladies the same height as me or a little taller intimidating.

If you have the right personality, right attitude and and right outlook i don't think there is any problems.

A lot of ladies like the taller guy and its there pref and I say if they don't want to know you on height alone then its there loss. It really is the person on the inside that can make you be attractive.

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By *ig bird brightWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

i,ve never found a guys height a problem would love to find one whos actually taller than me but i can wish... being a tallie lol i,ve had some men say to me that a women shudn,t be taller than a man and some men are put off by tall bbw women too much to handle lmao. i,m sure you will find that person who will except you for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At 5ft 1", everyone on here is taller than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer tall men and i'm only 5'2 - favourite height is 6ft - 6ft2 but as long as the guy is over 5ft7 i'm happy lol

though, i am planning on making an exception for a meet with a 5'3 guy as hes gorgeous, fit as fuck and a lovely person to boot lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

tall guys complain.... short guys complain

fat guys complain.... thin guys complain

Black guys complain.... asian guys complain.... white guys complain.....

couples complain..... single women complain... married guys complain.....

sometimes people fixated on so many things and think "well this is the reason why people don't want to meet" when the probable reason is a million and one things probably not connected with what you think.....

people will always have preferences and you have to live with that.... just like you have your own preferences in the people that you want to meet, but

what I do find is that negativity is not one of the most alluring traits out there.... and that is what threads like these tend to show in the people starting them.....

sell your positives.... give people a reason to say "yes I have to meet this person"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At 5ft 1", everyone on here is taller than me

This

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Tall guys don't put me off - quite the opposite in fact.

However, as I am here to enjoy recreational sex, someone implying they have little or no experience in the sack would put me off.

I like to spend my time with people who know how to enjoy sex, have developed a range of techniques and already grown in sexual maturity .... not training them.

I am sure there must be a few 'givers' out there who put their own physical satisfaction second to their playmate's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At 5ft 1", everyone on here is taller than me

This

Well I can't exactly put on my profile...not looking for peeps taller than myself, can I ?

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

The last guy I dated was 6 foot 8 and I loved that.

I have met a lovely man from a site for sex who is 6 foot 10. Neither have put me off inrelation to their height.

It wouldnt bother me either if they were of stocky build as that would balance out the height.

It is about personality and as Fabio says what you have to offer.

Look at your good points and focus on them. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taller blokes for me every time but height isn't everything.

Height shouldn't intimidate. Those that let it have something wrong with them so don't you worry about it.

Same as Polo ..... I'd never be interested in sex with someone inexperienced tho I guess honesty is better than faking it.

Besides.... it's not women who are intimidated by a big man's height. It's other men.

Tallest bloke I met was 7' 2" ( as a meet )

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Well I (Rhi) am 5 ft 10 bare footed and love to wear 6 inch + heels so am normally well over 6ft tall and the lovely Mart is alot shorter than me. this seems to be more of a problem for other people than it is for us we get loads of comments about it but if the height difference was the other way around nobody would bat an eyelid!

I've also been told that I should wear smaller heels as (being no supermodel in stature!) I can apparently seem intimidating but again I love wearing heels and Mart loves to see me in them !

So tall or short i don't see height as an issue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi folks,

Thanks for the replies, some really interesting thoughts,

Yes _abio, I agree with you. No one is happy about anything really, comes with the territory I guess!

I'm still finding my feet somewhat, though I'd argue that I'm really just posting this to see what others think, not so much because I am trying to think negatively. I love being a tall chap

I think if I could have edited my post it would have been to tweak the sentence about rejections, I really didn't want to come across as some arrogant oaf suggesting that ALL women like taller blokes, not what I was trying got say and apologies if it came out that way. The relevant digits have been punished and normal service should resume........ now!

It is nice to know that it seems I might have been having one of those daft statistical nightmares. I think I need to move! Quick, someone give me a name of a good tallie friendly town!

Yes, I guess it really does come down to confidence. I must admit it really is great when I get into the groove, I need to look at the small things that trigger off my slight anxiousness and try and (if not minimise them) at least work around them

Yay! The Fabswingers Therapy Group has succeeded!

Wow, great to see (imagine?) some lovely ladies getting even taller with heels! I don't know that I'd ever want to try them myself but there must be an extra element of empowerment surely? Everyone play nice

Yes, I completely agree Polo, experience must play a large part of being on here. Admittedly I'd rather be up front about my lack of experience, it’s not like I don't know about the birds and the bees, but I take your point that each person needs to at least have some prior knowledge "under the bonnet" to make something really great.

I’m hoping that I can use it to my advantage though in not having been “conditioned” into liking any one position or activity… does that make sense? It’s not like I’ve had a “boring” session so everything, although new, is pretty darn exciting!

I think as well, being a little older (oh god, never thought I’d write this) and not having lost my virginity in my teens has helped in that I can take a more measured approach. Don’t think I’ve been sitting here in solitary celibacy though

Thanks again for the replies,

Cheers,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oi Fabio this short,fat ,bald guy dont complain lol xx

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Over to the good ladies of Fab methinks.

C'mon girls, he seems like a nice young man, he's done a good profile for a newbie and has been sensible in the forums. He's got a certain cuteness about him in his pics, an innocence if you will...

..He's 6' 7", young and inexperienced and needs someone to take him by the hand, lead him into the bedroom and teach him the secrets of lurve.

Oh, and at 6' 7", i'll wager he's got a cock like fucking telegraph pole.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Ladies of Fab.

Not ONE of you??

You disappoint me.

Or have you all sending him dirty pm's like the sex crazed bitches you really are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dated somone your height and it was awkward and sometimes required lots of imagination to get into some positions, but at least we had fun.

To the poster above....feet and height do not correspond to cock size, just like short men don't necessarily have proportionally sized cocks

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Somewhat oddly, i read the OP's profile.

When he said : "I'm about 7" in the downstairs dept and I'm comfortable with what I have." i took that to mean he had a 7" cock, thereabouts. I could be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Damn, I knew I shouldn't have said that....

Thanks for the extra replies

Yeah, although I do take a UK 16 shoe so I get a few looks as I stomp about town!

In all seriousness though, I agree. Although I used to want to have everything "in proportion" when I was younger, it's one of those things that you just can't worry about too much (or you'll go blind

I remember worrying about going on a date and ending up having some fun, only for the lovely lady to either:

a) start laughing at me because I wasn't well hung - killing any chance of having fun

b) get mad about it and go around telling everyone that I have no dick...

I'll freely admit that these were fuelled by adolescent hormones and the like but it used to get me all

Thanks for reading my profile folks... as I mention in it (along with other stuff! Subscribe for a taster now!) I'm happy to even get people looking at it! I'm still finding my feet a little so I can't say I was really expecting a massive deluge

Cheers,

Harv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say hight is something i never even look at on peoples profiles

I must admit im not really attracted to guys if they obviously shorter than me, by that i mean more than a cpl inches, but over all it really dont bother be that much how tall someone is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have to be taller than me in heels orI can't be interested- yes- I know I'm shallow!

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"At 5ft 1", everyone on here is taller than me

This

Well I can't exactly put on my profile...not looking for peeps taller than myself, can I ?

Well you could am guessing not many would reply, I could as am five foot. ok 4 foot 11 and a peanut.

Sue

As for tall men mm, not overlly tall as i would need stairs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the same size lying down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Height is never a problem for me as long as men who are tall don't hover over me. It's always nice to have a man a little taller so i can wear heels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oi Fabio this short,fat ,bald guy dont complain lol xx

Yeah just look at me n soap for instance....am well over 6ft in my heels and soapy.....well i just cant bloody find him at times......get a nose bleed looking down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say hight is something i never even look at on peoples profiles

I must admit im not really attracted to guys if they obviously shorter than me, by that i mean more than a cpl inches, but over all it really dont bother be that much how tall someone is"

Height is one of the first things I look for: short not for me!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I dated somone your height and it was awkward and sometimes required lots of imagination to get into some positions, but at least we had fun.

aint that the truth - i dated someone off here briefly who was 6'8", we tried some impromtue bathroom fun and i ended up crouched on the toilet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dated somone your height and it was awkward and sometimes required lots of imagination to get into some positions, but at least we had fun.

aint that the truth - i dated someone off here briefly who was 6'8", we tried some impromtue bathroom fun and i ended up crouched on the toilet

can get a little frustrating huh?!

the saying "we're all the same lying down" totally applies...it's practically the only position possible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there Fab folks (could this work as a non-cheesy greeting?)

Hope you are all well, thanks for the great welcome on the "intro" forum, really kind of you to drop by and say hi

I'm trying out the different forums and thought I'd post this question up for your consideration (and musings)

)

) partners too. Do you find it tricky with certain manoeuvres or is it just something that adds to the fun?

I'll also add this little bit on too, mainly aimed at the fabulous ladies on here (hi! *waves*), I've been brushed off a few times (get the sympathy violin out) mainly because of my height.

Not trying to blow my own trumpet or anything, but I'm a decent bloke; I don't go diving into underpants at the first sign of breasts!

I'd be really interested to hear your thoughts on these two q's, again I've probably worn out your eyes reading this little essay but I'm curious to know how things are with you folks!

Cheers,

Harv

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havent got much choice most ppl are taller than me lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi x Im 6"4 tall and still find it difficult to get meets organised ?? anyone else find the same ? x

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Hi x Im 6"4 tall and still find it difficult to get meets organised ?? anyone else find the same ? x"

Mate, i did my best to get the last guy laid - but they didnt want to know.

Apparently (so they've told me) being really tall is no guarantee you've got a massive schlong.

So, despite everything you've seen on here re "cock pics, ugh, must they?" - stick a photo on your front page of your knob scratching your knee and you'll be up to your nuts in guts in no time.

pip pip!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Hi x Im 6"4 tall and still find it difficult to get meets organised ?? anyone else find the same ? x"

I'm 5'10" (and a QUARTER!!!), so can't contribute to the statistical element. But try turning up to socials and engaging with people.

And watch your head on the door on the way in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for your words of wisdom guys ..maybe see you around lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Ignore him

Trust me.

Go with the cock pic.

When they see it's got it's own moustache they'll go nuts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi x Im 6"4 tall and still find it difficult to get meets organised ?? anyone else find the same ? x

Mate, i did my best to get the last guy laid - but they didnt want to know.

Apparently (so they've told me) being really tall is no guarantee you've got a massive schlong.

So, despite everything you've seen on here re "cock pics, ugh, must they?" - stick a photo on your front page of your knob scratching your knee and you'll be up to your nuts in guts in no time.

pip pip!

ROLMFAO!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Thanks for your words of wisdom guys ..maybe see you around lol"

If you're lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmmmm promises promises

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i find tall guys gentle giants and not intimidating in slightest !!plus love someone who can throw me about the bed abit heheh !!!

im just under 5ft seems lots of tall guys love a short lady ...thank god !!! lol !!

im not heightest at all tall or short if you click with a guy you find a way for both of you having hot ,intense fun!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love the sound of the trowing you around the bed shorty lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry my spelling is terrible lol x

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

"i find tall guys gentle giants and not intimidating in slightest !!plus love someone who can throw me about the bed abit heheh !!!

im just under 5ft seems lots of tall guys love a short lady ...thank god !!! lol !!

im not heightest at all tall or short if you click with a guy you find a way for both of you having hot ,intense fun!!"

Agreed. Tall or short makes no odds, me (fem) is 5ft8 in bare feet and i like to wear heals. Fun is fun, height makes no difference.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"sorry my spelling is terrible lol x"

S'ok, so is hers.

But she knows the language of lurve...

(you can thank me later for replying to your thread and thus helping find you a friend big man)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmmmmm bare feet now your talking MT . Not that heels are rubbish you understand lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmmm thank you later ...now what ever can you mean ?? dont you tease me x lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So Temptress...do you like tall guys then or dont you care ?? lol

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

its the personality of the guy that attracts me be they tall or short . either has there advantages ....heheh

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By *entscotscplCouple
over a year ago

falkirk ish

mmm in heels is that high wheels wi

sling backs and steel toe caps llf

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

"mmm in heels is that high wheels wi

sling backs and steel toe caps llf"

With _ensual temptress here, its all about personality..

We are lucky enough to know Merc, hes a tall (emphasis on tall) person who likes to cuddle. And all in all hes in proportion, as it were ,so to speak ..

Cents:? Hes not boot out of bed material XxX MT

So no need for steel toe caps

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

yep its about personality lol!id not knock back a meet with a guy i clicked with due to his height or lack there of lol! id have one hell of a cheek to judge anyone on height being a short arse myself lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha,

Thought you were still (trying to!) help me Sensual?

Right, time to get creative with the camera...

Can I just ask... is it totally necessary for the trouser snake to have facial hair? I already have enough trouble shaving my face, let alone Mr Lonely down there!

I'm up for people to show me the way, you may need an altimeter though

I have to admit, no preference from me when it comes to ladies! You are all gorgeous, it's bigfoot muggins (new username for me perchance?!) here with the weird thoughts (must be the altitude... less oxygen up here you know!)

Good to see this one still going, *waves* hi everyone!

Harv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although not as tall as you i am a well built male as i work out regularly. There fore you will be intimidating to some due to sheer bulk. The advantage of the internet is the visual side isn't as apparent and you can get to know someone first. Upon meeting you just have to give someone a little more personal space and they will feel relaxed and comfortable with you.

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