FabSwingers.com forum: How many dates?

By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

So you are dating someone how many dates do you think it should be before you shag them? Also are you put off by someone if they give it up on the first date?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

after I said 'hi' for the 1st time... and that would be me being romantic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shagging on a first date is deffo a no no for me..

each to their own though. one night stands have never been my thing though. even in a fab context would i sleep with a person without having a social meet first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if your Dad owns a brewery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you are dating someone how many dates do you think it should be before you shag them? Also are you put off by someone if they give it up on the first date?

same answer as the other thread..nope..especialy in this day and age..it is nice to see a woman with old fashioned values.but I still wouldn't be put off by having sex with her on the first date

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Absolutely no idea. Depends on the person, I've dated people I've slept with first night and some not for ages.

I slept with my ex husband the first night but didn't have full sex with jay for 3 months.

I think a guy would be more put of if he was dating someone and it wasn't progressing

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Is her daddy rich or poor ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have a rule for this really....just whatever feels right I think....it can be five dates or on date one....

And I can't judge for giving it up too early, as I'd have given it up at the same stage so I'd be tarring myself too....

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Had a 6 yr relationship with a woman whom I met in the pub, we were in bed within 3 hrs and I had my 1st mff with her after 3 months

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

I'd say earlier the better. That way if they're crap you can get rid sooner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends if your Dad owns a brewery

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"Depends if your Dad owns a brewery

For me, not first date... and I'm put off if they expect it. After that it depends how I feel about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't want to have sex with him on the first date there wouldn't be a second one. If we had sex on the first date and it put him off he wouldn't be the man for me anyway. If we both wanted sex but decided to wait a while to get to know each other he could possibly be a keeper

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My mum has always instilled in me to be friends with the guy first and not to jump into bed with them. She made my dad travel across land and sea literally and he did...41 years later and they are still married but that was in those days...it's really hard work dating in 2015...lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Put off?

No. Never was.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"So you are dating someone how many dates do you think it should be before you shag them? Also are you put off by someone if they give it up on the first date?

Hold out as long as you can, If ya give in too quickly the chances of him looseing interest is quite hight.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"My mum has always instilled in me to be friends with the guy first and not to jump into bed with them. She made my dad travel across land and sea literally and he did...41 years later and they are still married but that was in those days...it's really hard work dating in 2015...lol "
but it shouldn't be hard work(I've not been on a date in ages).

You meet, have your date usually doing something fun and if you get on you arrange another date. I'd be really put of if someone wanted to be deep and meaningful, just have fun getting to know each other, whether that includes sex or not

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"My mum has always instilled in me to be friends with the guy first and not to jump into bed with them. She made my dad travel across land and sea literally and he did...41 years later and they are still married but that was in those days...it's really hard work dating in 2015...lol but it shouldn't be hard work(I've not been on a date in ages).

Maybe I make it hard work for myself Lol I do have fun on dates and not one to pick out wedding dresses on the first date

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"My mum has always instilled in me to be friends with the guy first and not to jump into bed with them. She made my dad travel across land and sea literally and he did...41 years later and they are still married but that was in those days...it's really hard work dating in 2015...lol but it shouldn't be hard work(I've not been on a date in ages).

Maybe I make it hard work for myself Lol I do have fun on dates and not one to pick out wedding dresses on the first date

I find it hard work too, thats why I gave up dating. I also don't think I want a standard relationship... my life is busy, I have a lot on - work, son, friends, gym, more training, and a lover that I don't want to give up - so dating isn't really for me... I think I am too selfish.

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Relax and enjoy the minefield that is the dating game. Try not to put a number on such things (he says having done the same

) but so long as it feels natural and the right thing then that'll be the right time.

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

I think a guy would be more put of if he was dating someone and it wasn't progressing

A big +1 to that post.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wonder if jay would mind if I started dating I'd quite like to go on a date

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I don't remember how to go on a date

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Last date I had took me five years before I slept with him

He bought me a big bouquet of flowers took me to a lovely restraunt was lovely and fun and all he got was a kiss goodnight. But then I met jay so didn't meet up with him again.

Five years later he found me on here and came over for a fuck

that's what I call long term investments

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span."
I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Andy and I met for a coffee and a chat on a Monday. The Tuesday we met again and I think it was a couple of hours before we landed up in bed. We are now living together and been a couple for 16 months. Xx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I'd say earlier the better. That way if they're crap you can get rid sooner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you are dating someone how many dates do you think it should be before you shag them? Also are you put off by someone if they give it up on the first date?

Ummm been first date everytime...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not bothered to read the answers so I am not swayed with this reply.

I think that what they call waiting is old fashioned..Disagree , with it called old fashioned that is..It is not old fashioned , it is respectful of yourself.

You wait as long as you want, if he wants you he will too..

If he cant have you when you first meet and wants to ditch you, then let him go..xxx

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

I've never seen one advertised anywhere. I'll have to do some searching, I think.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

I've never seen one advertised anywhere. I'll have to do some searching, I think."
I've never seen them here either but I wouldn't go to one here, I'd have to be incogneto

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

I've never seen one advertised anywhere. I'll have to do some searching, I think.I've never seen them here either but I wouldn't go to one here, I'd have to be incogneto

I wouldn't go to one here either but mostly because there are some very strange folk in Norfolk

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

If dating, I have a 4 date rule. Dates can't be 4 days in a row though, I'd like to get to know him before I sleep with him

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

I've never seen one advertised anywhere. I'll have to do some searching, I think.I've never seen them here either but I wouldn't go to one here, I'd have to be incogneto

I wouldn't go to one here either but mostly because there are some very strange folk in Norfolk

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so I here

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

I've never seen one advertised anywhere. I'll have to do some searching, I think.I've never seen them here either but I wouldn't go to one here, I'd have to be incogneto

I wouldn't go to one here either but mostly because there are some very strange folk in Norfolk

so I here

I'm the exception, of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

speed fab night anyone?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

I've never seen one advertised anywhere. I'll have to do some searching, I think.I've never seen them here either but I wouldn't go to one here, I'd have to be incogneto

I wouldn't go to one here either but mostly because there are some very strange folk in Norfolk

so I here

I'm the exception, of course

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I'm not sure, I'm sure I noticed you had hooves

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I want to try speed dating. It would suit my average attention span.

I keep saying I really would love to go speed dating

I've never seen one advertised anywhere. I'll have to do some searching, I think.I've never seen them here either but I wouldn't go to one here, I'd have to be incogneto

I wouldn't go to one here either but mostly because there are some very strange folk in Norfolk

so I here

I'm the exception, of course

I'm not sure, I'm sure I noticed you had hooves

Only because I haven't had my micro-pedi out for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have not bothered to read the answers so I am not swayed with this reply.

I think that what they call waiting is old fashioned..Disagree , with it called old fashioned that is..It is not old fashioned , it is respectful of yourself.

You wait as long as you want, if he wants you he will too..

If he cant have you when you first meet and wants to ditch you, then let him go..xxx

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

second date would depend on the shag on the first date lol

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Reading this I have come to the conclusion that if I was single I'd be shite at dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it depends on the guy himself who you're meeting, if he has no respect for you just because you have sexual urges for him then he's not worth having a relationship with anyway, coz he basically did the same thing and wasn't looking for anything respectful with you anyway.

I've had 3 relationships that all started off with sex on the first night we met. First one was on and off relationship and really shit anyway, 2nd lasted 11 years and the last one lasted almost two years. I'm still friends with the last two afterwards as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you are dating someone how many dates do you think it should be before you shag them? Also are you put off by someone if they give it up on the first date?

i always have sex on a first date , any time I meet them previously to sex is a pre date inter_iew.

I do make a point of letting the girl know I think it's trampy to have sex on the first proper date after of course.

i usually choose pool or bowling so the chances for sex don't usually come up especially in the bowling alley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isn't many guys out there that have traditional values nemore, they want 2 have sex 1st and then date.

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