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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been married for a few years. My wife has gone off having Sex. It looks like am going the same way. Any suggestions of how to get my mojo back ?

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By *ensualcouple99Couple
over a year ago

Colchester

Start having dates out with her, and maybe if you're both off sex make it a rule that there is no full on sex on date nights. That way you both relax and enjoy the company without the stress of expectation of sex at the end of the night. You'll probably find this improves your sex drive. You always want what you can't have.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

have you looked behind the sofa?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have tried that and other things too. That's the reason am on here. It's so frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the real world life can do that to all of us and it's something couples have to work on . A quick fix with someone else won't sort out your relationship . Starting over with her and lots of talking to each other can help . Good luck mate

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I have tried that and other things too. That's the reason am on here. It's so frustrating."

So why not show her your profile, she might suggest a couples one would be better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ensualcouple99Couple
over a year ago

Colchester


"I have tried that and other things too. That's the reason am on here. It's so frustrating."

Maybe there is a reason both your sex drives have crashed. The stresses of life does that sometimes or if you suspect the other person doesn't want you. One thing for sure, being on here and meeting others won't help the situation. If you really want your marriage to survive and your mojo to return work at it. The alternative is to give up on it and move on. Only you know what's best for you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your off sex too so you come on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am trying to get my see drive back. My wife does not make me feel good about myself. That's one reason that I have lost my self esteem and confidence.

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

Couples counselling might be more in order if having the hard talk between just the two of you is too hard to start

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

communication: with your loved one

good luck

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I have tried that and other things too. That's the reason am on here. It's so frustrating."

I dont think your gonna find the answer here mate. have you tried relate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Divorce worked wonders for me!! My Mojo returned with a vengeance!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, a "single male" profile with verfifications and a wife. Doesn't bother us but it is inviting vitriol from others on here. Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe she doesnt feel like having sex with you while you are cheating on her...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seemed to have mojo on your meets......do what you did then.

I'm normally the first to defend a single guys right to be on here but if your on here openly cheating, it doesn't sit well with me really I'm afraid....

You'll get a mixed bag of responses here but mine is to say, your looking in the wrong place for answers....go talk to the wife....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe shes on here already and getting plenty from all the " single guys " like you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have not lost your mojo looking at your feedback . Maybe like some married couples your bored of each other and lost the thing that was there ...... Maybe its time to sit down and be truthful to each other and that takes guts .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't think of anywhere worse to try and get some mojo.

I'd say if you're not getting meets on here and getting rejected off your wife then that's double rejection really.

Even if you do get loads of offers on here it can put you off sex, especially if the offers aren't what you want.

Dunno what to advise but doubt you'd find it on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm waiting for a particular couple in here....I normally am at loggerheads with them as they tend to be too hard on single males, accusing half of them of being cheats and whatnot... but in this case, I might enjoy their rantings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thing is, right.

if you cheat,thinking- well not thinking much cos its the old hormones- and then it all goes pear shaped.

you may look back with regret and think the cheating made her leave.

what is some casual heartless f*cking, compared to a wife?

stop the cheating, now- while you still can.

cant believe i'm suddenly an agony aunt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awww thanks for your advice. Am afraid things are more complicated than I have said. I am not allowed to have friends or go out on.my own. She rules my life. I so need to feel loved. Not just the sex thing. But the feeling to be wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Awww thanks for your advice. Am afraid things are more complicated than I have said. I am not allowed to have friends or go out on.my own. She rules my life. I so need to feel loved. Not just the sex thing. But the feeling to be wanted. "
OP Is she like this with you because she don't trust you.? Have you cheated before.? And she found out maybe.?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Awww thanks for your advice. Am afraid things are more complicated than I have said. I am not allowed to have friends or go out on.my own. She rules my life. I so need to feel loved. Not just the sex thing. But the feeling to be wanted. "

she rules your life because you allow her to....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for pm me but i don't like to use pm to chat.

http://personalitycafe.com/articles/112444-five-love-languages-explained.html

There's different ways of showing love. What one person feels is love someone else might not and show theirs a different way. This does make feeling loved hard sometimes.

She does sound controlling, and although you may have given her reason to be jealous (or not), really you should both be focusing on is how to gain trust between each other, and which ways you express love for others and expect in return. If you want to save your relationship that is, idk you might not think it's worth the effort?

You definitely won't be able to save your relationship on here meeting other people, gotta focus on fixing what is wrong between you both.

Not saying you shouldn't be on here, it's up to you how to run your life, but if you wanna save your relationship then focus more on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes the op is mailing me too .. maybe he finds it hard to chat in forums .. some will jump on him here as don't like this topic I find in forums .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes the op is mailing me too .. maybe he finds it hard to chat in forums .. some will jump on him here as don't like this topic I find in forums ."

True, didn't think of that. Is quite a personal topic as well.

Just i've got 120 unread messages and cba to deal with my inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes the op is mailing me too .. maybe he finds it hard to chat in forums .. some will jump on him here as don't like this topic I find in forums .

True, didn't think of that. Is quite a personal topic as well.

Just i've got 120 unread messages and cba to deal with my inbox."
Yes I would get 100s a day until I turned my filters up high its better I find . xx I have seen posts like this get a bit nasty as people will think different and its a open forum .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes the op is mailing me too .. maybe he finds it hard to chat in forums .. some will jump on him here as don't like this topic I find in forums .

True, didn't think of that. Is quite a personal topic as well.

Just i've got 120 unread messages and cba to deal with my inbox. Yes I would get 100s a day until I turned my filters up high its better I find . xx I have seen posts like this get a bit nasty as people will think different and its a open forum ."

Got filters on, although i haven't blocked anyone from messaging me in case anyone from the forums wants to pm me. I don't mind, it's unusual for me to get so many messages so i don't think it's gonna become a regular thing.

Yeah i know what you mean about the married guys, i just focus on the problem and topic rather than the individual.

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