FabSwingers.com forum: Dating requirements

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When looking for a date what qualities do you go for?

What instantly turns you off?

(Not regarding looks btw. Imagine they really all pretty hot)

For me its intelligence and good conversationalist.

Turn off is talking too much and or being boring.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Intelligence, humour, good conversation. A click, really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Dating or fab?

Fab I need to find them appealing, have some chemistry and an attraction. Instant turn off - jumping straight to sex talk, bad teeth, bad hygiene

Dating - honestly cannot remember as its been that long since I dated... probably more about things in common, appeal, chemistry, attraction, background etc Instant turn off - selfish, arrogant, full of themself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour, intelligence and someone who's not afraid to speak their mind...I hate 'yes' men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a relationship?

Chill, patient, submissive, fun, kind.

Or if it's a fab 'date', good looking face and a nice big cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I am looking for is a accommodating pussey and no shit chat, straight to fucking, no requerments

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes dating not fabbing.

Someone to take home to see your mum.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Dating - interested in me, funny, confident but not arrogant, intelligent, relaxed and unassuming wise, flexible, positive upbeat and forthright stick out for me.

Shags - a current or recent pulse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky."

Any hole is a goal huh? Ill need to make sure and keep you way from my gran then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky.

Any hole is a goal huh? Ill need to make sure and keep you way from my gran then. "

She sounds hot. Three-way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pulse

Their own stash of rohypnol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky.

Any hole is a goal huh? Ill need to make sure and keep you way from my gran then.

She sounds hot. Three-way?"

If she's so hot way do you need a third?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Be well presented, able to hold a half decent conversation, actually eat a meal(as opposed to picking at it), have a sense of humour compatible to mine, like a drink & know the offside rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky.

Any hole is a goal huh? Ill need to make sure and keep you way from my gran then.

She sounds hot. Three-way?

If she's so hot way do you need a third? "

Because one hole is never enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky.

Any hole is a goal huh? Ill need to make sure and keep you way from my gran then.

She sounds hot. Three-way?

If she's so hot way do you need a third?

Because one hole is never enough."

Im pretty sure she has 3 although ive not looked so couldn't swear. if you need more im sure your gran will suffice at no 4,5 + 6

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky.

Any hole is a goal huh? Ill need to make sure and keep you way from my gran then.

She sounds hot. Three-way?

If she's so hot way do you need a third?

Because one hole is never enough.

Im pretty sure she has 3 although ive not looked so couldn't swear. if you need more im sure your gran will suffice at no 4,5 + 6"

Nice. You've done this before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky.

Any hole is a goal huh? Ill need to make sure and keep you way from my gran then.

She sounds hot. Three-way?

If she's so hot way do you need a third?

Because one hole is never enough.

Im pretty sure she has 3 although ive not looked so couldn't swear. if you need more im sure your gran will suffice at no 4,5 + 6

Nice. You've done this before."

Counting holes? not really but i seem to be a natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not looking for dates....on a swinging site.....I'm looking for fit hot guys that know how to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Compatible genitalia.

I know, I know, I should stop being so picky."

I like being pragmatic about things like that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pulse

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I've had my fair share of heart ache, confusion and manipulation. But why is it that we, the female population, feel the need to get our hearts broken again and again, and allow ourselves to enjoy the lust of one night stands, in hope of finding the elusive 'one'?

I have a biased opinion on sex and love, but I have a theory that the guys we sleep with, and they guys we fall in love with are very different.

When you're looking for a guy to bang for the night, you look for only a few things. He:

1) Should be hot

2) Should have a cute face (although certain sex positions could cure the need to look at his face)

3) Needs to smell good

Now all of these points are debatable, interchangeable and compromisable, but basically you're allowed to be shallow for a one night stand. And it doesn't even matter if he is a complete arse hole, because it's just sex.

On the other hand, looking for a boyfriend is a little more complicated.

It isn't quite as necessary for him to be super hot, because if he was, and you're the jealous type (which face it, most of us are) then you'll be constantly worried about other girls who may or may not be better than you.

Yes he should have a cute face, because you'll be looking at it when you wake up in the morning, and yes he should smell good, because nobody wants a stinky boyfriend. But that's just the tip of the iceberg.

When it comes to looking for a boyfriend, you have to think about whether he is the right guy for you.

Guys are complicated. Most just want sex, but others are more complex. You need to think about whether he understands your sense of humour, and whether you understand his. Is he romantic enough? Or too romantic? Does he treat you right? Is he understanding of your moods? Would your friends and family approve of him?

The list is endless.

Finding a man to suit your needs is hard enough as it is, but a relationship is a two way street! You have to be capable of meeting his needs too. Men are emotional creatures with confidence issues and deep rooted jealousy. They cover this up by being outspoken and showing off. Those 'players' that you see whilst out clubbing, yeah they're the worst. Bed hopping, notches on bed posts, all done because they cannot face the emotional turmoil that comes with a relationship.

When you find a man who pleases you in bed and out, it's difficult to not have to compromise on other things. No man is perfect in every way.

Dating is hard work. I said before that we enjoy one night stands, because we have physical needs. But dating is harder. So you go for dinner, or to a movie or for a walk in the park. Maybe he's great fun to be around, but not boyfriend material. How many dates do you go on before you call time and move on?

Any relationship takes work. You may enjoy yourself whilst dating but you can't meet 'the one' if you're busy messing around with someone else. But at the same time you can't decide your feelings for somebody after just a couple of dates. My rule is eight weeks. Eight weeks to decide if the relationship is heading in the direction you want it to. If after eight weeks there's no spark, no heart wrenching feelings, move on. You only live once, so you shouldn't waste your time with one person if it's not working out how you'd like.

-Anonymous

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Dating , fab or life in general ...... I like genuine , whatever genuine maybe, full of Shit and up your own arse is droll

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Compatibility. Background, friendship, life experiences, future goals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needs to not be obsessed with football.

And then all the usual, funny, clever, etc.

I have to like his clothes. I'm not into fashion but some clothes I really just am weird about? Yes, I know it's strange. (I'm strange.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Humour, intelligence and someone who's not afraid to speak their mind...I hate 'yes' men."

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

zero baggage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn on's:

A nice person every time, more interested in their soul than their mind.

Comfortable with themselves, love a shy girl, but not to the point where she won't expose herself.

Passionate, that wicked twinkle in her eyes that says 'pin me down and fuck me hard'.

Turn off"s:

Pretentious primadonnas, I've got a fanny, so you've got to want me types.

Stereotypes, they belong in the vanilla world.

Girls with a hidden agenda, FFS, be honest with yourselves an everyone else about what you want, it'll come out in the end .

I learned these lessons many moons ago, in a former incarnation on here. Now I've honed my hunting skills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes dating not fabbing.

Someone to take home to see your mum. "

The last girl I took home to see my mum had lovely dark eyes, a bubbly happy personality, loved long walks in the countryside and along the coast, had an eager tongue, enjoyed playing with balls and was always so eager to please and learn new tricks...

Oh yes, and she had four legs

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Turn off"s:

Pretentious primadonnas, I've got a fanny, so you've got to want me types.

Stereotypes, they belong in the vanilla world.

Girls with a hidden agenda, FFS, be honest with yourselves an everyone else about what you want, it'll come out in the end .

I learned these lessons many moons ago, in a former incarnation on here. Now I've honed my hunting skills

I think that is a very fair post

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"All I am looking for is a accommodating pussey and no shit chat, straight to fucking, no requerments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to date someone who likes to travel. An adventurous chap who has seen the world and done interesting things. He would be outdoorsy and love nature and animals. A rugged look and free-thinking personality,not confined to convention. He will be charming without being a flatterer. He will love his mum and dad and show it and be close to his siblings. Not a joke cracker but have wit and humour. What would put me off is being miserable,constant moaning,racist comments,bigotry and selfishness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes dating not fabbing.

Someone to take home to see your mum.

Oh yes, and she had four legs

Was she a good kisser?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes dating not fabbing.

Someone to take home to see your mum.

Oh yes, and she had four legs

Was she a good kisser?

Breath a bit meaty, but enthusiastic and slobbery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes dating not fabbing.

Someone to take home to see your mum.

Oh yes, and she had four legs

Was she a good kisser?

Breath a bit meaty, but enthusiastic and slobbery. "

You have to be careful of those types,they get a bit clingy. She'll be at the bottom of your bed every morning,tongue out with a hungry look in her eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my list might sound a bit more strange to some as dating for me would be serious from the start not just a casual thing..

to get to the date stage i would be looking into the future, what he is like with children,what his relationship is like with his family, career prospects, if he'd potentially want more children or if he has some already. if he did have them id find it important he makes effort to see them..

id like him to be independent, strong willed, has a backbone, honest, faithful, loyal, id want him to have a good circle of friends, into music, domesticated.. funny, caring, understanding.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I can honestly say in 49 years I've never once looked for a boyfriend, all my relationships have just "happened".

I've now got everything I want from a relationship without actually knowing I wanted it.

I guess I could of had a tick list for a fantasy man but I've always been a realist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turn ons- Banter, a cheeky smile. Confidence. Occasional touches in a non sexual way. Eye contact. The man taking the lead, opening doors, buying the first drink etc. Buying me a large glass of wine without asking whether I want small or large. Lol

Turn offs- little boy syndrome. Cockiness, self indulgent. Only interested in themselves.

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

"zero baggage"

Hahaha everybody has baggage! If you don't by my age you've been in prison!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"zero baggage

Hahaha everybody has baggage! If you don't by my age you've been in prison! "

Exactly!

We all have it, so wanting a partner without it would be unreasonable. It's all about how we handle our baggage.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"zero baggage

Hahaha everybody has baggage! If you don't by my age you've been in prison! "

sure, but there are people who can go 'carry on' and those that need to check in & put 'it in the hold'

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I know one thing I'd never do and that's date someone with kids under sixteen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone that likes me as much as I like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Turn ons- Banter, a cheeky smile. Confidence. Occasional touches in a non sexual way. Eye contact. The man taking the lead, opening doors, buying the first drink etc. Buying me a large glass of wine without asking whether I want small or large. Lol

Turn offs- little boy syndrome. Cockiness, self indulgent. Only interested in themselves.

You basically summed up my entire personality in the 'turn-offs' section.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being self obsessed

I met a guy once who was really good looking, good body etc but all he did was talk about himself, about how much he can bench press, about how he call pull any woman down the pub

about how wonderful he was in general

Confidence is good but you can over do the self praise

Total turn off to the point of god your a boring twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on here to date.

I've not dated for nearly 2 years now.

But..

Turn Ons:

Confidence, how they walk (lol), Independent, Mannerisms (literally how they hold their Pen or whatever

)..they have to have the element of total Bitch.

Turn off's:

Neediness, constantly require validation (not able to think for themselves), too wet/soppy, too serious.

Ya I think that's it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say in 49 years I've never once looked for a boyfriend, all my relationships have just "happened".

I've now got everything I want from a relationship without actually knowing I wanted it.

I guess I could of had a tick list for a fantasy man but I've always been a realist"
I found this quite encouraging to read DiamondSmiles, thanks for that!

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