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Does "Let's just be friends" really work?

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By *erbyDalesCpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Or is it the lady's way of saying,

"I don't fancy you, but knowing that that hurts you, makes me feel a bit guilty, so, to assuage my guilt, I'll offer this as a consolation prize. Obviously I hope you'll move on and not hang around where I work, cos if you do I'll just keep my head down and run for the bus"?

In my day, they just used to say "Get lost you bald, ugly creep"

ahhh, the good old days, when life was simpler...

So Ladies, does it?

{prepares to duck}

Mr ddc

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I always end up in the "friends zone" so it doesn't bother me so much now. It used to annoy me if I really llike the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or is it the lady's way of saying,

"I don't fancy you, but knowing that that hurts you, makes me feel a bit guilty, so, to assuage my guilt, I'll offer this as a consolation prize. Obviously I hope you'll move on and not hang around where I work, cos if you do I'll just keep my head down and run for the bus"?

In my day, they just used to say "Get lost you bald, ugly creep"

ahhh, the good old days, when life was simpler...

So Ladies, does it?

{prepares to duck}

Mr ddc"

no it doesn't work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can and have been 'friends' with men AFTER a relationship. If a man suggests/implies he only wants me for 'friendship', I would not get involved. It would be a 'friendship', but with the hope of a sexual relationship in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any friends

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Ive been in a relationship since I was a teenager

I can't remember if the lets be friends thing worked or not?

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By *traight forwardMan
over a year ago

doncaster

I had a lady friend say that to me last year. We have slept together a few times and are good friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a few guys who have asked if we can just be friends, in my experience it don't work, I think they just say it to make them feel better about hurting you, though I think its a bit vain to assume everyone you knock back will be that hurt you have to sugar coat a not for me

I think if one side does not feel the same as the other just being friends don't work, I'm not saying people of the opposite sex can't just have a platonic relationship but it has what your both happy with to make it work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I've stayed friends with a number if exes....

On the other hand some didn't quite work out as friendships...

The same as anything, depends on the situation and the people in it, sometimes it works, sometimes it ain't meant to be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am amicable with my ex for the sake of my daughter, but if it wasn't for her I wouldnt have anything at all to do with him, does that count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm friends with a couple of ex's and we regularly go out. I was out with two ex's Saturday night.

One of my best friends is a female, we talk a few times a week and go out regularly. If I like someone's company it doesn't matter what sex they are or if we once had a relationship. Obviously I've had some shitty relationships and wish to never see them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder what persuaded this thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder what persuaded this thread..."

I noticed that too.....little nod to you in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder what persuaded this thread...

I noticed that too.....little nod to you in there "

The creepy little bus-stop stalking wanker

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By *erbyDalesCpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I wonder what persuaded this thread..."

(I'm afraid I fell in the "It must be a jolly jape, because he seems a nice enough fellow" camp )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder what persuaded this thread...

(I'm afraid I fell in the "It must be a jolly jape, because he seems a nice enough fellow" camp )"

I'm like a cheeky, harmless 'Carry On'-style stalker. Like one you would get in the '70s, before it got such a bad name.

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By *erbyDalesCpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I wonder what persuaded this thread...

(I'm afraid I fell in the "It must be a jolly jape, because he seems a nice enough fellow" camp )

I'm like a cheeky, harmless 'Carry On'-style stalker. Like one you would get in the '70s, before it got such a bad name."

I'm more the short bald one from Benny Hill.

Without the semi-naked ladies chasing me around.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Never been said to me.

But saying that, my best mate is a lass who I have known nearly 20 years. I've no intention of shagging her because it would feel like incest.

But saying that, I might marry her if I make it to 100... just so we can be one of those news storys on the local news

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I dont think it does work.

If I end the relationship its usually because I dont like her, if I did, I wouldnt end it.

I dont have friends I dont like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no. Depends on the situation.

I think if you breifly dated, ahd sex etc then turning that into a friendship is fine. I think though if one or the other developed feelings then it never will, as one will always be pretending they are happy with the situation, when they are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend is my ex. We were fwb but now she has a bf il admit we dont speak or see eachother as much. But we meet weekly an are always there for eachother. Much better than slagging eachother off an behaving like kids

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I'm not sure... The only time I've used that, the guy was alright for a while but then went off on one when I got with someone else.

It depends on the person I guess and whether they can cope with the idea of seeing you move on or whether they're just hoping to stay close incase you change your mind.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am amicable with my ex for the sake of my daughter, but if it wasn't for her I wouldnt have anything at all to do with him, does that count "

Same! I still loved my ex when we separated and because we share a child I've had to be aware of his new relationship and moving in with her and holidays and stuff, taken me 5 years to finally be in a place where I'm not bothered anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm the friend you don't want your other friends to know you are friends with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been in three serious relationships. With two of the exs we are best of friends. But the father of my daughter, well we cannot bare to be in the same bar if we are both out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had any woman as a friend or they wanted me, so wouldn't know about that situation lol

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

The Friend Zone is a dark, terrible, lonely place for a bro to be. In fact any bro ending up in the friend zone and happy to stay there should lose their bro status.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Never been said to me.

But saying that, my best mate is a lass who I have known nearly 20 years. I've no intention of shagging her because it would feel like incest.

But saying that, I might marry her if I make it to 100... just so we can be one of those news storys on the local news "

Oh Phyl, you old romantic you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it

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