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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a young, polite, well mannered and IMO not a bad looking lad with an athletic background and body, I find this site EXTRA frustrating, I hope this post and attract some lads who feel similar to me, some advice as to what I'm doing wrong or hopefully catch the eye of someone!

A) Proving you've read every last word of a profile: this is extremely piss boiling to me, when I find a girl/couple who I find hot the first thing I wanna do is introduce myself and message them! so when I find that my message has been deleted because I haven't included a stupid bloody code word is ridiculous and unfair, excuse my eagerness and excitability...

B) agism- Fair enough if you give a person a look or crack and they just look or behave to young, fine. But as a older looking wise headed 22 year old I feel completely shat on by age restrictions, I'm given no chance whatsoever on this site.

C) Tarring all men with the same brush- admittedly this site does attract idiots and it is a shame and they should not be tolerated, but because of these select few I feel as though the rest of us "normal folk" are made to jump through unreasonable and unrealistic rings in order to even be acknowledged.

D) Bareback and honesty- A very sore subject as this is pretty much what is fuelling this rant. Now if a guy runs round with his knob out and finds any human orifice to fuck then common sense should prevail when it comes to this site, but not meeting any men who have had any form of bareback sex ever with anyone is surely a tad unrealistic. And the majority of those who tell you this I would suspect are lying.

E) timewasters- Despite a whole stack of men and seemingly no one else gets branded as timewasters I would like to take this time to say I've been stood up and had my time utterly wasted by a shitload of couples and women on this site

Phew! Good to get that rant out... Now that's all done I can put all my toys back in the pram

No offence is intended by this, but it's just an honest account of my feelings

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thoughts? That your post is very negative. If you contact someone and they do not like you, they will reject or ignore you. Simple. That is life and you should not expect to impress everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you put that kind of effort into writing your profile then maybe your success rate may change. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that my message has been deleted because I haven't included a stupid bloody code word is ridiculous and unfair, "

Always use the code word....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need to suck it up...it goes with the territory : )

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

thought it was Thursday for a moment!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But that's the point! I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"If you put that kind of effort into writing your profile then maybe your success rate may change. Just saying."

^ this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha! Fair point! :p I just think it's better to get to know a person through communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But that's the point! I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!"

You're given the same fair crack as anyone else. People can be on here a year before they get a meet so I'd say you were doing quite well.

I hear going to socials and clubs is a good way of getting yourself known so maybe give that a go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But that's the point! I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!"

Awww, have a cuddle. The world owes you, you know.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"But that's the point! I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!"

The bottom end of my age range is 23. If a 22 yr old contacts me - and I don't use age filters, so it does happen - if his profile and message are good, and I like him, I'll chat to him. However, I do expect him to have read my profile and be a reasonable fit for what I'm looking for. I don't have a code word. It's usually obvious fairly early on if they've not read my profile.

Your profile wouldn't encourage me to reply. You're not using the opportunity to show what's great about you that makes you worth meeting and demonstrate how you're different from most other young guys.

Your profile is your first "opportunity". You haven't used it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!"

Pro Tip: Mail Miss_Tress she'll assist...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha, nice sarcasm I hear it's highly regarded amongst comedians...

If you don't like what I've got to say, don't read it and furthermore don't comment.

these are my opinions and my feelings don't disregard them and mock them please.

PS I don't want a hug from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a young, polite, well mannered and IMO not a bad looking lad with an athletic background and body, I find this site EXTRA frustrating, I hope this post and attract some lads who feel similar to me, some advice as to what I'm doing wrong or hopefully catch the eye of someone!

A) Proving you've read every last word of a profile: this is extremely piss boiling to me, when I find a girl/couple who I find hot the first thing I wanna do is introduce myself and message them! so when I find that my message has been deleted because I haven't included a stupid bloody code word is ridiculous and unfair, excuse my eagerness and excitability...

B) agism- Fair enough if you give a person a look or crack and they just look or behave to young, fine. But as a older looking wise headed 22 year old I feel completely shat on by age restrictions, I'm given no chance whatsoever on this site.

C) Tarring all men with the same brush- admittedly this site does attract idiots and it is a shame and they should not be tolerated, but because of these select few I feel as though the rest of us "normal folk" are made to jump through unreasonable and unrealistic rings in order to even be acknowledged.

D) Bareback and honesty- A very sore subject as this is pretty much what is fuelling this rant. Now if a guy runs round with his knob out and finds any human orifice to fuck then common sense should prevail when it comes to this site, but not meeting any men who have had any form of bareback sex ever with anyone is surely a tad unrealistic. And the majority of those who tell you this I would suspect are lying.

E) timewasters- Despite a whole stack of men and seemingly no one else gets branded as timewasters I would like to take this time to say I've been stood up and had my time utterly wasted by a shitload of couples and women on this site

Phew! Good to get that rant out... Now that's all done I can put all my toys back in the pram

No offence is intended by this, but it's just an honest account of my feelings

Thoughts? "

Hiya. What I say here is no means representative of the female sex's attitude towards you, just my own opinion.

A) I understand why you want to message someone straight away, but have you thought about the content of your messages? HIYA is unlikely to get you a response, and the code word is there to filter people out, since I've started using is, about 50% do and 50% don't. It's a respect thing as well, I think - you've taken the time to create a nice message, based on what you have read about someone - they've taken the time to make it interesting, that's their end of the bargain, if you can't keep up your end, and can't prove you're not a troll or a robot or whatever, then you're not really deserving of a message, are you? (I see my code word as like a captcha thing you get when logging in or out of somewhere to prove you're human).

B) I personally prefer older guys. I'm 21 and I'm pretty mature for my age, so I know, the struggle, and how real it is. At the same time, you can't fault people for their preferences, and a lot of people think that a young guy is (sexually) inexperienced, which is not as attractive as say a (sexually) inexperienced girl. Something about gender, the importance we, as a society place on men being sexually prolific, and women being innocent and pure. This shit goes back YEARS, like to Shakespeare times.

C) YES this site does have idiots, but then you have idiots in pubs, idiots in the street, idiots everywhere. Which is effing annoying. For me, as a commodity (which I hate the whole concept of, and is essentially self-objectification, which, has its place, but on the whole isn't a great thing, leading to the idea that women in general are objects...treat us like fuck dolls, etc etc not good) and I CAN CHOOSE who I respond to.

Until someone talks to you, they don't know if you're going to be an idiot or a nice person, you are Schrodinger's weirdo. You've got to make the effort, if you want to get to know someone, that's all there is to it. I don't think these are unrealistic hoops or expectations of whatever - everyone deserves to be treated the same, if you can't be bothered to make the effort, then why should I talk to you?

D) Bareback. I do with my man, and we go for STI/STD HIV checks every 3 months. When we play separately, the rule is always ALWAYS use protection. That system works for us. It's about minimizing risk, the more people you sleep with, the more likely the risk of infection, especially if everyone else is sleeping with everyone else as well. Take it with a pinch of salt.

E) Women get stood up too! People change their minds. It's not a LAW saying that if you arrange to meet up with someone then you HAVE to see them. People bottle, or drop the ball. Other stuff gets in the way, and if you can't understand that you are not the priority in someone else's life, and you want to be number one, then I think you're in the wrong place.

A couple of extras:

You have no face pics. I like to see a face more than I like to see a cock. That's all there is to it. I know what a cock looks like, and if I want to see a particular one, I will ask to see it. Ain't no thang. You haven't written anything in your profile, not really. I want to be able to read a profile and get a sense of who you are from it. The image I have of you at the moment, which (however unfairly) I have gleaned from your profile and this post is: stampy white cis male privileged toddler all upset because on one has thrown themselves at him, and wonders why.

I hope this has helped you in some way. over and out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But that's the point! I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!

Awww, have a cuddle. The world owes you, you know."

Male privilege strikes again!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Acknowledged very good points thanks x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Ha, nice sarcasm I hear it's highly regarded amongst comedians...

If you don't like what I've got to say, don't read it and furthermore don't comment.

these are my opinions and my feelings don't disregard them and mock them please.

PS I don't want a hug from you"

Unfortunately you can't choose the types of responses you want.

If you make a post, you risk negative comments, people disagree and a bit of mocking.

You are feeling rather sorry for yourself and the whining isn't attractive. From the response I've quoted I suspect you're not quite as mature and different from others your age as you think.

Effort in = results out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a young, polite, well mannered and IMO not a bad looking lad with an athletic background and body, I find this site EXTRA frustrating, I hope this post and attract some lads who feel similar to me, some advice as to what I'm doing wrong or hopefully catch the eye of someone!

A) Proving you've read every last word of a profile: this is extremely piss boiling to me, when I find a girl/couple who I find hot the first thing I wanna do is introduce myself and message them! so when I find that my message has been deleted because I haven't included a stupid bloody code word is ridiculous and unfair, excuse my eagerness and excitability...

B) agism- Fair enough if you give a person a look or crack and they just look or behave to young, fine. But as a older looking wise headed 22 year old I feel completely shat on by age restrictions, I'm given no chance whatsoever on this site.

C) Tarring all men with the same brush- admittedly this site does attract idiots and it is a shame and they should not be tolerated, but because of these select few I feel as though the rest of us "normal folk" are made to jump through unreasonable and unrealistic rings in order to even be acknowledged.

D) Bareback and honesty- A very sore subject as this is pretty much what is fuelling this rant. Now if a guy runs round with his knob out and finds any human orifice to fuck then common sense should prevail when it comes to this site, but not meeting any men who have had any form of bareback sex ever with anyone is surely a tad unrealistic. And the majority of those who tell you this I would suspect are lying.

E) timewasters- Despite a whole stack of men and seemingly no one else gets branded as timewasters I would like to take this time to say I've been stood up and had my time utterly wasted by a shitload of couples and women on this site

Phew! Good to get that rant out... Now that's all done I can put all my toys back in the pram

No offence is intended by this, but it's just an honest account of my feelings

Thoughts? "

Good call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha, nice sarcasm I hear it's highly regarded amongst comedians...

If you don't like what I've got to say, don't read it and furthermore don't comment.

these are my opinions and my feelings don't disregard them and mock them please.

PS I don't want a hug from you"

If you don't want comments don't post on a public forum. What did you expect? Us all to go "aw did dums, give the boy a shag someone, he's obviously having a hard time".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Schrodinger's weirdo."

PMSL Awesome line. Love it!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Schrodinger's weirdo.

PMSL Awesome line. Love it! "

The whole post was great

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sneakysneakyboy . . Come listen to yer old uncle Mark . . . First of all the people who you are contacting have the final say. Secondly age restrictions are there for their benefit, not yours so much.

Thirdly if you are finding your messages ignored/deleted just be a man and pass them by. No harm or shame in getting a knock back.

I'm sure if a couple/single female messaged you first and for whatever the reasons you thought "No Way" then they would have to take it on the chin too. Works both ways my son.

So chill, be happy, be optimistic. . Now go ask mummy for another lollipop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Schrodinger's weirdo.

PMSL Awesome line. Love it!

The whole post was great "

Cheers! :D Might have to have a screen name change now!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That took an effort!

A) my responses are always (intended) some kind of interesting and intellectual start to a conversation based on their profile, I never say "HIYA" this I agree is utterly pointless. The point I was making is that if you don't happen to read or notice it, you've had it.

B) further backing my point really (although your opinion is of course valid and accepted) you've already made your mind up about me before you know me, as it is, I'm certainly not inexperienced. And I'm not saying that in a boastful way, it's just me being true and honest

C) perhaps it's just the utter lack of acknowledgment and me being a total pussy, but there's something hurtful when you don't even get a "no thanks" your just deleted, blocked and discarded, perhaps I am being sensitive ( I definitely am) but it makes people feel very surplus to requirements, I'd always respond personally. However I acknowldge how busy girls are on this site!

D) All opinion/preference I suppose, but I think people need to be realistic. I was shunned due to me ever having bareback sex with anyone... A bit far?

E) I know they do and it's often documented on profiles and suchlike, however I get the sense that its regarded as a one way street, I was simply making the point that us males get stood up to!

I do have face pics in private, you know, just a preference

Nice talking to you x

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"But that's the point! I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!"

shall i tell you who cares..

no fucker..

life isn't fair, no one said it would be so stop moaning about something that you have little influence over..

concentrate on that which you can influence and apply your efforts into meeting those who will meet you, now at this time..

patience and a positive attitude will stand you in good stead..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha, nice sarcasm I hear it's highly regarded amongst comedians...

If you don't like what I've got to say, don't read it and furthermore don't comment.

these are my opinions and my feelings don't disregard them and mock them please.

PS I don't want a hug from you"

You posted on the forum and did not expect comments? That is very strange. We like hugs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nope just helpful advice, not backhanded slanders

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep I did, just not ones taking the piss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just don't take kindly to people taking the piss, that's all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope just helpful advice, not backhanded slanders"

I am afraid that posting here does invite debate. Not everyone will agree with your viewpoint. That is the nature of a forum. Were you seeking advice or confirmation of your view?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou for a polite and measured response, acknowledged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If you don't like what I've got to say, don't read it and furthermore don't comment.

"

What? People have to read what you have said to understand what they are reading

You might as well shout at someone in the street and say "well if you don't like what I have to say stop listening" but continuing to talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Either or but you offered neither, you offered a sarcastic pisstake with no value for me. I didn't appreciate it and I let it be known.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That took an effort!

A) my responses are always (intended) some kind of interesting and intellectual start to a conversation based on their profile, I never say "HIYA" this I agree is utterly pointless. The point I was making is that if you don't happen to read or notice it, you've had it.

B) further backing my point really (although your opinion is of course valid and accepted) you've already made your mind up about me before you know me, as it is, I'm certainly not inexperienced. And I'm not saying that in a boastful way, it's just me being true and honest

C) perhaps it's just the utter lack of acknowledgment and me being a total pussy, but there's something hurtful when you don't even get a "no thanks" your just deleted, blocked and discarded, perhaps I am being sensitive ( I definitely am) but it makes people feel very surplus to requirements, I'd always respond personally. However I acknowldge how busy girls are on this site!

D) All opinion/preference I suppose, but I think people need to be realistic. I was shunned due to me ever having bareback sex with anyone... A bit far?

E) I know they do and it's often documented on profiles and suchlike, however I get the sense that its regarded as a one way street, I was simply making the point that us males get stood up to!

I do have face pics in private, you know, just a preference

Nice talking to you x"

In fairness, you never messaged me, you could be scintillating at first messages, but if your attitudes are as negative as those I have experienced thus far, then hey, what's the point? Surely half the fun of this site is finding someone with an interesting profile, and reading about it, getting to know a facet of them, and thinking how you could message that person? If you can't be bothered to read the profile then you don't deserve a message. The end. That's in my eyes. It's an age thing, of course, I won't lie. I don't find guys my own age attractive, I look at the uni guys i'm supposed to be lusting after and I think 'god, you're just big kids away from home, getting d*unk for the third time ever'. Eugh no thanks.

Rejection hurts. I've been rejected from all sorts, be it jobs that I've applied for, universities, men, women, who or whatever... it's a part of life. In the nicest possible way, suck it up, buttercup.

I guess bareback depends on the context. Was it with someone you cared about and knew, and trusted? Or was it just you sticking your dick in a hole on a d*unken night out? does having bareback sex with a stranger look or sound like a good idea to you? No. I'm very careful when it comes to sex and it's my vagina, it's given me a lot of pleasure, I don't want it to fall off because of one time sexings. How often do you go for the screen? If you've done bareback, never went for a test to be sure... I have no sympathy for you! If you're as experienced as you claim to be, then you'll know that regular health checks are par for the course in this lifestyle, even when using protection.

It's hardly a one way street if I've just admitted to being stood up now, is it? Maybe have something OTHER than your dick in your pictures? Show a little originality, be interesting? Maybe edit them to show a little bit of individuality... have a look at some of the more successful guys' profiles, and see what sort of things they have up, might give you some clues!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be fair, you're right

I was just pissed off at a sarcy response and I'm certainly not one to be bullied.

My bad :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankyou for a polite and measured response, acknowledged "

The "+quote" option is best - then folk can follow to whom you are replying. See, people can be helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But that's the point! I don't feel as though as a young male I'm give a fair crack of the whip, I don't feel like I'm given a whip half the time!

shall i tell you who cares..

no fucker..

life isn't fair, no one said it would be so stop moaning about something that you have little influence over..

concentrate on that which you can influence and apply your efforts into meeting those who will meet you, now at this time..

patience and a positive attitude will stand you in good stead.. "

I'm DYING from laughter!!!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Either or but you offered neither, you offered a sarcastic pisstake with no value for me. I didn't appreciate it and I let it be known."

if you use the reply and quote thingie it will attach your response to what you are referring to..

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I would think why is a 22 yr old on here and not out clubbing etc. You have to remember a lot of us have children older than you so it wouldn't feel right. Good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm glad I offer entertainment

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

On a site like this first impressions are everything and your OP and other comments youve preceeded to make, even your profile, are giving me the impression that you are as immature as your age would suggest.

Sorry if thats not what you want to hear but its my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thankyou for a polite and measured response, acknowledged

The "+quote" option is best - then folk can follow to whom you are replying. See, people can be helpful."

Acknowledged

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On a site like this first impressions are everything and your OP and other comments youve preceeded to make, even your profile, are giving me the impression that you are as immature as your age would suggest.

Sorry if thats not what you want to hear but its my opinion "

Everyone's entitled to an opinion!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Either or but you offered neither, you offered a sarcastic pisstake with no value for me. I didn't appreciate it and I let it be known.

if you use the reply and quote thingie it will attach your response to what you are referring to..

"
Ha I've just figured this out but thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would think why is a 22 yr old on here and not out clubbing etc. You have to remember a lot of us have children older than you so it wouldn't feel right. Good luck. X"
I would say that's fair, obviously circumstances and situations differ, but rest assured I do go out very often! Ha x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you put that kind of effort into writing your profile then maybe your success rate may change. Just saying."
Ha, very fair point! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!"

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a dodgy clutch on a ford focus. That could do it sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you."
If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop."

Your "free speech" is still here. I am just not sure that you are using it to your advantage. Oh, well ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop."
I'm certainly not saying the world is against me either, that's exaggerating what I say. Women and couples have equal problems also (usually derived from men) but essentially the tone of what I'm saying is that this site doesn't work for the majority of young men, although it has to be said that some peoples advice is very sound

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I reckon a lot of people just regurgitate what they see on other people's profiles.

In a way I feel sorry for the OP because it can be difficult to get noticed even if you do read profiles and respond accordingly. That said I can understand why most people don't reply because they probably get a large number of near identical messages and it would be a nightmare to filter through them all manually.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"I'm glad I offer entertainment

"

You've certainly done that!

(And did you just refer to Fabio as a 'her'?)

Mr ddc

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"Schrodinger's weirdo.

PMSL Awesome line. Love it!

The whole post was great

Cheers! :D Might have to have a screen name change now!!! "

Was a brill post

OP I go on your profile and all I see is the little black silhouette man and a status moaning about the site. I would probably scroll down out of interest to see what you had put but based on this first impression I know I wouldn't reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop.

Your "free speech" is still here. I am just not sure that you are using it to your advantage. Oh, well ..."

He's very young. He's venting. He's learning about the site. Probably feels a little better for it.

I think he's come across as a sensitive and passionate young man. Bet he's ace in bed!

Advantageous post? - yes

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop. I'm certainly not saying the world is against me either, that's exaggerating what I say. Women and couples have equal problems also (usually derived from men) but essentially the tone of what I'm saying is that this site doesn't work for the majority of young men, although it has to be said that some peoples advice is very sound "

Do we? I can't say that we have problems. Everything is fine here. If the site does not work for you, do not use it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop. I'm certainly not saying the world is against me either, that's exaggerating what I say. Women and couples have equal problems also (usually derived from men) but essentially the tone of what I'm saying is that this site doesn't work for the majority of young men, although it has to be said that some peoples advice is very sound

Do we? I can't say that we have problems. Everything is fine here. If the site does not work for you, do not use it."
Well then that's good! And that's what I'm considering

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I reckon a lot of people just regurgitate what they see on other people's profiles.

In a way I feel sorry for the OP because it can be difficult to get noticed even if you do read profiles and respond accordingly. That said I can understand why most people don't reply because they probably get a large number of near identical messages and it would be a nightmare to filter through them all manually.

"
i agree with you totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop. I'm certainly not saying the world is against me either, that's exaggerating what I say. Women and couples have equal problems also (usually derived from men) but essentially the tone of what I'm saying is that this site doesn't work for the majority of young men, although it has to be said that some peoples advice is very sound

Do we? I can't say that we have problems. Everything is fine here. If the site does not work for you, do not use it.Well then that's good! And that's what I'm considering "

I now officially give up. (Tant, Tant).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Apologies for my unquoted responses by the way!

I suspect that Fabio might respond to your original post in due course. Single-male-world-is-against-me posts never go down well. You are male. You are single. Make the most of it and make the most of you.If so I suspect that would be all she wrote for me and this site, I've said nothing offensive or abhorrent and simply expressing myself. If my (I hate this phrase) free speech is taken away from me then off I pop.

Your "free speech" is still here. I am just not sure that you are using it to your advantage. Oh, well ...

He's very young. He's venting. He's learning about the site. Probably feels a little better for it.

I think he's come across as a sensitive and passionate young man. Bet he's ace in bed!

Advantageous post? - yes

S x"

I'm certainly sensitive and passionate! Not really sure how to answer your second statement without sounding arrogant :p ha x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Schrodinger's weirdo.

PMSL Awesome line. Love it!

The whole post was great

Cheers! :D Might have to have a screen name change now!!!

Was a brill post

OP I go on your profile and all I see is the little black silhouette man and a status moaning about the site. I would probably scroll down out of interest to see what you had put but based on this first impression I know I wouldn't reply."

Yeah good point about the profile pic, always thought I actually had one until I saw this post! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think she restrictions for some isn't about the immaturity ,, it's the fact they have children of similar age or older,, just a thought though,, I find women and couples are equally as time wasting as men,, but I'm loath to say to much as I always get slated when I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What grinds my gears? The multiple daily threads from single males bitching about being rejected, not being replied to or having shit profiles.

Adapt instead of bitching. If it's working - change it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think she restrictions for some isn't about the immaturity ,, it's the fact they have children of similar age or older,, just a thought though,, I find women and couples are equally as time wasting as men,, but I'm loath to say to much as I always get slated when I do "
I'd always understand if I'm the same age as a child (although I have met people in such situations) I think that you should certainly not be slated for your opinion! Everyone's opinion is valid, if people say otherwise, tell em where to stick it.

PS you are definitely hot as fuck!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think she restrictions for some isn't about the immaturity ,, it's the fact they have children of similar age or older,, just a thought though,, I find women and couples are equally as time wasting as men,, but I'm loath to say to much as I always get slated when I do I'd always understand if I'm the same age as a child (although I have met people in such situations) I think that you should certainly not be slated for your opinion! Everyone's opinion is valid, if people say otherwise, tell em where to stick it.

PS you are definitely hot as fuck!"

Haha thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms? "
haha, not gonna quite need one yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you put that kind of effort into writing your profile then maybe your success rate may change. Just saying."

Completely agree.

Your post / rant consists of several paragraphs and yet your profile barely reaches 2 lines.

If you'd taken as much time writing your profile as you have your moan you'd likely have faired better.

Have you considered searching the forums for profile advice threads. There are dozens upon dozens of threads from single guys looking for help with their profiles. Why not see what advice they've been given.

There are thousands and thousands of single guys on fab and we vastly outnumber the ladies and even the couples. For every 1 woman here, there are about 200 blokes. Most of the ladies are receiving up to 100 messages PER DAY. Do you think you'd be able to cope with that volume of messages and still have time to search around the site.

The ladies (and couples) really do have the luxury of choice. This may seem unfair to you, but this is life young man.

If you want greater success, you need to stand out. Currently your profile is doing absolutely nothing for you. Naff pictures and a couple of lines thrown down demonstrates a complete lack of effort. May seem unimportant to you, but you don't get a second chance to make a first impression.

Visitors to your page will be of the opinion that if you can't be bothered to put effort into your profile and to selling yourself, then that may well reflect in what effort you are likely to put into a meet.

Be pro-active rather than re-active.

Throwing your toys out of the pram in the forum does not normally go down particularly well. If anything, those that do so generally make things worse for themselves.

As many have said before, change your approach (and attitude) or change your expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a reason for the code word I use it because It's to help filter out the generic bullshit some guys send, saves disappointment and helps me in knowing the guy understands what I want as not every man likes a larger lady or a married one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ha, nice sarcasm I hear it's highly regarded amongst comedians...

If you don't like what I've got to say, don't read it and furthermore don't comment.

these are my opinions and my feelings don't disregard them and mock them please.

PS I don't want a hug from you"

Great attitude!

You've posted a rant about your apparent lack of success on fab and others are offering comments and suggesting at reasons why this may be.

Yes, some are sarcastic, but take a look at your original post OP.

Look at the attitude you are displaying and yet you claim to be a 'wise-headed' 22 year old.

Your hold post is very much 'I deserve this. The world owes me this'

Newsflash buddy - The world owes you NOTHING.

Your responses to comments from others just makes me want to hand you a shovel so you can carry on digging yourself that big hole.

Lashing out at others will just make everyone form the opinion that you are an immature arsehole.

Chill out young man. This is supposed to be fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you put that kind of effort into writing your profile then maybe your success rate may change. Just saying.

Completely agree.

Your post / rant consists of several paragraphs and yet your profile barely reaches 2 lines.

If you'd taken as much time writing your profile as you have your moan you'd likely have faired better.

Have you considered searching the forums for profile advice threads. There are dozens upon dozens of threads from single guys looking for help with their profiles. Why not see what advice they've been given.

There are thousands and thousands of single guys on fab and we vastly outnumber the ladies and even the couples. For every 1 woman here, there are about 200 blokes. Most of the ladies are receiving up to 100 messages PER DAY. Do you think you'd be able to cope with that volume of messages and still have time to search around the site.

The ladies (and couples) really do have the luxury of choice. This may seem unfair to you, but this is life young man.

If you want greater success, you need to stand out. Currently your profile is doing absolutely nothing for you. Naff pictures and a couple of lines thrown down demonstrates a complete lack of effort. May seem unimportant to you, but you don't get a second chance to make a first impression.

Visitors to your page will be of the opinion that if you can't be bothered to put effort into your profile and to selling yourself, then that may well reflect in what effort you are likely to put into a meet.

Be pro-active rather than re-active.

Throwing your toys out of the pram in the forum does not normally go down particularly well. If anything, those that do so generally make things worse for themselves.

As many have said before, change your approach (and attitude) or change your expectations."
I also agreed with the quote!

I will change my profile in due course but as also previously mentioned I often find them to be regurgitations of other ones. And most of them appear just to be a long list of laws, I will still be keeping mine relatively short and sweet and opt to get to know a person rather than simply providing a checklist of what people are looking for. But noted I should improve my profile. Thanks for the advice, exactly the kind of thing I was looking for, although one thing is I will never be scared to voice my opinion, some people (such as yourself) have decided to actually offer help and advice, others have disagreed (which is fair) and some have taken the piss, which is really no odds to me either way. But thanks for the post

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Schrodinger's weirdo.

PMSL Awesome line. Love it!

The whole post was great

Cheers! :D Might have to have a screen name change now!!!

Was a brill post

OP I go on your profile and all I see is the little black silhouette man and a status moaning about the site. I would probably scroll down out of interest to see what you had put but based on this first impression I know I wouldn't reply.

Yeah good point about the profile pic, always thought I actually had one until I saw this post! X"

Look at your photos and click set as profile picture or whatever it says by the one you want to use as an avatar.

You can use a public, friends only or private picture. If you choose a private/friends one it will only show as your avatar, it won't make the picture public.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms? haha, not gonna quite need one yet"

I wouldn't be too sure if I were you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms? haha, not gonna quite need one yet

I wouldn't be too sure if I were you. "
duck off a waters back in all reality, much worse things happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms? haha, not gonna quite need one yet

I wouldn't be too sure if I were you. "

Maybe get a thicker skin and take time to READ profiles instead of messaging a pic

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms?

"

I'm here - I was in the tank sheds at the bottom of the garden of Titz Towers, resolving a parking dispute between the minions and the fairy who I've sublet to.

Hands out a FORUM INSURANCE claim form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also agreed with the quote!

I will change my profile in due course but as also previously mentioned I often find them to be regurgitations of other ones. And most of them appear just to be a long list of laws, I will still be keeping mine relatively short and sweet and opt to get to know a person rather than simply providing a checklist of what people are looking for. But noted I should improve my profile. Thanks for the advice, exactly the kind of thing I was looking for, although one thing is I will never be scared to voice my opinion, some people (such as yourself) have decided to actually offer help and advice, others have disagreed (which is fair) and some have taken the piss, which is really no odds to me either way. But thanks for the post "

You are most welcome young man. Always happy to help a fellow fabber!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where is Tina with those forum suicide insurance forms?

I'm here - I was in the tank sheds at the bottom of the garden of Titz Towers, resolving a parking dispute between the minions and the fairy who I've sublet to.

Hands out a FORUM INSURANCE claim form "
I'll take the monthly plan please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand your frustration. You,as a single man,especially a young one are supposed to be grateful for being considered by a woman or a couple. You have to tick off all the things they have listed,add a stupid code word and then fawn over the women to even have a chance of a reply back. I wouldn't want to meet a woman or a couple that thought so highly of themselves or were so much hard work. I would advertise myself in the best possible way and let them come to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand your frustration. You,as a single man,especially a young one are supposed to be grateful for being considered by a woman or a couple. You have to tick off all the things they have listed,add a stupid code word and then fawn over the women to even have a chance of a reply back. I wouldn't want to meet a woman or a couple that thought so highly of themselves or were so much hard work. I would advertise myself in the best possible way and let them come to me "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"As a young, polite, well mannered and IMO not a bad looking lad with an athletic background and body, I find this site EXTRA frustrating, I hope this post and attract some lads who feel similar to me, some advice as to what I'm doing wrong or hopefully catch the eye of someone!

A) Proving you've read every last word of a profile: this is extremely piss boiling to me, when I find a girl/couple who I find hot the first thing I wanna do is introduce myself and message them! so when I find that my message has been deleted because I haven't included a stupid bloody code word is ridiculous and unfair, excuse my eagerness and excitability...

B) agism- Fair enough if you give a person a look or crack and they just look or behave to young, fine. But as a older looking wise headed 22 year old I feel completely shat on by age restrictions, I'm given no chance whatsoever on this site.

C) Tarring all men with the same brush- admittedly this site does attract idiots and it is a shame and they should not be tolerated, but because of these select few I feel as though the rest of us "normal folk" are made to jump through unreasonable and unrealistic rings in order to even be acknowledged.

D) Bareback and honesty- A very sore subject as this is pretty much what is fuelling this rant. Now if a guy runs round with his knob out and finds any human orifice to fuck then common sense should prevail when it comes to this site, but not meeting any men who have had any form of bareback sex ever with anyone is surely a tad unrealistic. And the majority of those who tell you this I would suspect are lying.

E) timewasters- Despite a whole stack of men and seemingly no one else gets branded as timewasters I would like to take this time to say I've been stood up and had my time utterly wasted by a shitload of couples and women on this site

Phew! Good to get that rant out... Now that's all done I can put all my toys back in the pram

No offence is intended by this, but it's just an honest account of my feelings

Thoughts? "

A) if you don't like profiles which insist on codewords don't message them.

B) ageism goes both ways. Some people won't meet much older people. For many you would be as young, if not younger, than their children which makes them uncomfortable. Claiming you are mature then whining about it is contradictory.

C) you don't have to jump through any rings. If women are cautious on here then it is often because they have had bad experiences. You cannot expect them to change what makes them feel comfortable just for your own needs.

D) safe sex is a no-no - brainer imo. If people choose not to meet you because they see evidence of b/b that is up to them. It's THEIR sexual health they are concerned about not yours.

E) if you've had a lot of tinewasters tgen you need to review how you organise meets.

Hope that helps.

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