FabSwingers.com forum: Demanding people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know that the majority of users on here are 'single male's and that the single females are in the minority but have any other users noticed the trend in the demands and conditions that these girls state in order to get their attention and/or possible meets.

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real "

If you're not attracted to them, why are you considering them? Maybe your attitude of thinking you're better than them is a problem too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell you what, punish them by refusing to message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a numbers game here ........ Men out number the woman so the woman can take there pick . Things would be different if that was not going on here on fab .

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth

Yes, I do agree. In the real world there just another pretty/ish girl. There's a huge array of choice in the pubs and clubs ect. But because of the vast amount of seemingly desperate guys hounding and bombarding them, they feel they are superior, I just chuckle to myself and move on to the more decent profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Rejection doesn't half make some people bitter and twisted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just concentrate on those that interest you and don't fret over the demanding divas!

why do some make this site sound like it's pure torture?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Anyone agree??? "

nope... and to be honest that sounded like a really bitter rant from a really bitter person........

see... the beauty of the site is that if you think someone is not for you in any given way shape or form.... you can move on!!!!

no one is placing a gun to your head making you jump thru every hoop..... if fact I would hope that people would have more dignity in themselves than to do that....

it only works in the long run if people are giving in to demands and jumping thru said hoops.... if people didn't, people wouldn't

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yes I do agree,to a certain extent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

I do agree on most counts but it's a simple fact that a hell of a lot of men on here will shag anyone that says yes that they would never contemplate approaching in say a bar just to get a shag, while the women can then be picky as to what they want because they know they can... simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don't contact them??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm certainly not bitter,desperate,or suffering sour grapes.

Quite the opposite in fact.I find it highly amusing.

Personally I don't have a problem with contacts,now or previously but it's amusing to see Waynetta looking for George Clooney and nothing else will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do agree. However, people with overly strenuous demands in my eyes is going to be way too highly strung to even bother wasting my time with so I move along to the next.

The profile is an insight into personality before even speaking to them. Won't waste my time or theirs if I don't like what I read. As women do with men on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely you don't think its unreasonable to want someone to have at least one clear face picture. iv made some terrible mistakes in the past with my meets so now am being just a bit more careful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yeah some people aren't stereotypically attractive, but this doesn't mean they can't go looking for what they want (and can get irl).

I don't even have all this shit on my profile, coz i'm not gonna give guys a clue as to what i find attractive (plus some guys i don't usually go for are hot to me or definitely interesting and fun), so i don't put these rules on my page so that guys message me in 'their real and true form' and i can choose to block them or ignore. Think it's more stupid to get guys to behave how you want and choose them from that, let them be themselves and if that isn't attractive then block them. Is kind of weird to treat people like meat and order them from a website but it's ok that people do that too because guys allow it, maybe they even enjoy it?

I can get tall guys irl, my last two long term relationships were with tall guys, i enjoyed their bodies and i want more of that. I also like fun, so gonna go for people who are fun, i wanna see their face to know if i fancy them. Don't care if people send me shit messages with no pics, i won't choose to meet them simple as that. But yep, not giving any clues to what i want so that people don't play me.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Sorry but it's a buyers market.

When I am meeting on fab my requirements are exactly the same as they are in 'real life' so for me this doesn't really apply. And you might think I'm ugly/fat/arrogant/punching above my weight/blah blah blah. You'd only be right about one of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't have a problem with contacts,now or previously but it's amusing to see Waynetta looking for George Clooney and nothing else will do."

People are here to meet who they like...

The best thing to do is message those that are most likely to be interested in meeting.

I realise this involves actually READING THEIR PROFILE so it might be asking a lot.

If they are looking for George Clooney and you feel you look jack shit like George Clooney, she might not be a good one to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get it. People don't do it in the real world so why do it here. All I ask for is banter. Which I'd what I'd like if I met someone down the pub. Some women think they're the holy Grail. when in reality They wouldn't actually do so well in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's absurd trying to tell other people who they should be having sex with, especially when it doesn't concern you. It's their fantasy, not yours.

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By *rladytoyMan
over a year ago

bournemouth

"I don't get it. People don't do it in the real world so why do it here. All I ask for is banter. Which I'd what I'd like if I met someone down the pub. Some women think they're the holy Grail. when in reality They wouldn't actually do so well in the real world. "

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

As I said my requirements in real life are the exact same as on here, and I do just fine in the real world.

My ex was 6'4" retired pro athlete. Yeah i'm 5'8" and fat, and he loved it!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Everyone is entitled to put down as many ridiculous demands as they wish. Whether they get what they demand is another matter. I had no luck with my demand for 3 Elves. The closest I got was a trio of Elvis impersonators wanting a 4some. When I turned them down, I got called a Hound Dog.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"It's absurd trying to tell other people who they should be having sex with, especially when it doesn't concern you. It's their fantasy, not yours. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mindset of the average man on fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?

That's not fair - I mean, I want to have sex with YOU.

I've done MY part. What's YOUR problem?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally I don't have a problem with contacts,now or previously but it's amusing to see Waynetta looking for George Clooney and nothing else will do.

People are here to meet who they like...

The best thing to do is message those that are most likely to be interested in meeting.

I realise this involves actually READING THEIR PROFILE so it might be asking a lot.

If they are looking for George Clooney and you feel you look jack shit like George Clooney, she might not be a good one to message."

Lol...Just making an observation here.

I do read each profile in depth before I even touch a keyboard.Definitely not desperate and I'm very selective to whom I write.

Never had any problem personally getting meets so not a problem for me old boy...

I'm fairer than Mr Clooney but resemble Mr Pitt more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone is entitled to put down as many ridiculous demands as they wish. Whether they get what they demand is another matter. I had no luck with my demand for 3 Elves. The closest I got was a trio of Elvis impersonators wanting a 4some. When I turned them down, I got called a Hound Dog.

Out of interest, what were your plans for the 3 elves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it not the right of any woman, any person for that matter to have a type, rules, criteria, whatever you choose to call it. If you feel that some woman are batting above their weight, why are you so upset about it? As others have said. Talk to the people that interest you.

It's everyone's choice who they are attracted to. That's nature.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some women are probably too demanding I have thought that myself before, then again some women will shag just about anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell you what, punish them by refusing to message them.

Yeah,that will teach 'em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Desperate men have created this problem not the women! We state our likes and dislikes, which sometimes get longer the more we are pestered to try and help the men make an informed choice prior to messaging us, thus saving their time.

Just coz you are or not a supermodel does not mean you are attracted to someone "in the same league". Have you watched the undatables, some if the people they arrange to meet are gorgeous. And good on them I say, and great that the " supermodels" are seeing beyond superficial imperfections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of interest, what were your plans for the 3 elves?"

Set them to work making shoes I would imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see, so unless you look like Kate Moss, you can't seek out people who fit the description of what you like/want from a person, and what you enjoy in the bedroom?

Riiiiiiight

Bellend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mindset of the average man on fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?

That's not fair - I mean, I want to have sex with YOU.

I've done MY part. What's YOUR problem?"

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I really can't understand why people have a problem with others stating what they want on their profiles.

If you don't like it don't message.

If they are being unfair and too demanding then surely no one will message them. That's their problem.

If they are Quasimodo's twin sister and looking for George clooney and George doesn't fancy them. Their problem.

Just because YOU think they wouldn't get a second glance in the real world doesn't mean they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are mistaking what I've said I think. If you apply the same demands on here that you do in real life great. But some peoples demands are utterly ridiculous that would not be said in real life. Fair enough women can be choosy here but it's still bullshit

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Does anyone else see the irony in this post or is it just me?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Mindset of the average man on fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?

That's not fair - I mean, I want to have sex with YOU.

I've done MY part. What's YOUR problem?"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Mindset of the average man on fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?

That's not fair - I mean, I want to have sex with YOU.

I've done MY part. What's YOUR problem?"

actually... you made a poorly man laugh... because that is the attitude that comes across in the first post....

and there is a sense of being "owed" because you are here........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

I would much prefer to know someone's preferences than to see a generic two line profile.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Some are mistaking what I've said I think. If you apply the same demands on here that you do in real life great. But some peoples demands are utterly ridiculous that would not be said in real life. Fair enough women can be choosy here but it's still bullshit"

Does it matter though? The only people it's affecting are the ones that set the demands. If they are asking for the outright ridiculous then they won't get it and the only people losing out is them.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Don't worry OP, take comfort that in an alternate universe there is a FabSwingers site where every single male is desirable regardless of looks, regardless of body type, regardless of height, regardless of skin colour, regardless whether he is bi or not, regardless whether he can accommodate, regardless whether he has an enormous penis, regardless if he is married, regardless of intelligence, regardless of personality.

In this alternate universe the single male can stipulate the exact type of female he is after, and those that he isn't. He can state he isn't after overweight females, and the forums will be full of threads started by overweight females complaining they can't get meets.

He can stipulate he is only looking for good looking females, and the forums will be full of threads started by less than aesthetically pleasing women complaining that once they send a face pic they get blocked.

He can even have a profile consisting of no pictures, one sentence of five words and still receive dozens of offers a day.

So take comfort OP, there is a balance . . . somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

IT WAS JUST AN OBSERVATION.NOT A PERSONAL PROBLEM.I WAS TALKING FIGURATIVELY AND GENERALLY NOT SPECIFICALLY.

Please lighten up people.It's supposed to be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said my requirements in real life are the exact same as on here, and I do just fine in the real world.

My ex was 6'4" retired pro athlete. Yeah i'm 5'8" and fat, and he loved it! "

Some people can't accept that fat people are attractive to stereotypical attractive people.

Some people can't accept it because they think they are better looking and hate that lack of confirmation that they aren't more attractive. Don't see why they can't understand that not everyone holds conventional views?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Out of interest, what were your plans for the 3 elves?

Set them to work making shoes I would imagine"

Oh no! I just don't like carrying my own shopping - their task would have been to carry my shopping, bust an arrow in the ass of any ne'er do wells and find someone to wreck my ring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IT WAS JUST AN OBSERVATION.NOT A PERSONAL PROBLEM.I WAS TALKING FIGURATIVELY AND GENERALLY NOT SPECIFICALLY.

Please lighten up people.It's supposed to be fun."

Utter tosh.

Read your OP again, then again, and actually see it for the deluded waffle it really is

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

If you state what you're looking for and interested in on your profile, then saves a lot of hassle and time wasting, don't you think?

If you don't meet their criteria, move on. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If women outnumbered the men it would be different . Woman have the power here because of that and they know that too.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"IT WAS JUST AN OBSERVATION.NOT A PERSONAL PROBLEM.I WAS TALKING FIGURATIVELY AND GENERALLY NOT SPECIFICALLY.

Please lighten up people.It's supposed to be fun.

Utter tosh.

Read your OP again, then again, and actually see it for the deluded waffle it really is "

don't worry most forumites have seen it before... its the backtrack dance!!!

put up a thread/position...

when they see it isn't going their way or that it creates a problem for them.... the backwards dance starts......

normally with.... "i was only joking" or "its not my position"

ooooh.... lets do the backtrack!!!

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

At the end of the day this is not a dating site. I'm here purely for my own pleasure and therefore if i have a certain type of guy that fits my fantasy I am going to state that on my profile. Certain things turn me on and that's what I'm looking for - to be turned on!! I don't have the time to chat just for the sake of chatting. I'm here for a purpose. In saying that I have chatted with many really nice people on here so it's a win win situation for me.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I think we all know what you mean op, we just don't say it out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've found a lot of couple profiles with a veritable shopping list of requirements stated, that you need to meet before being allowed to 'read on' let alone message them. As newbies to the site we've found it super intimidating lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"IT WAS JUST AN OBSERVATION.NOT A PERSONAL PROBLEM.I WAS TALKING FIGURATIVELY AND GENERALLY NOT SPECIFICALLY.

Please lighten up people.It's supposed to be fun."

The thing is, you have 'wants' on your profile too.

Discretion, communication in proper English, a reply

Why are you the judge of how many/which 'wants' are reasonable and how they should be phrased.

Not only does this come across as "my way is the only right way" but it also sounds bitter.

Anyone here can ask for what they like. If they can get it, great. If not, they can accept going without or change their criteria. Either way, if you aren't what someone wants, they aren't going to meet you, whether they can do better or not and whether you think they deserve to do better or not.

As a fat woman, I apparently shouldn't be allowed to prefer fit men, or in fact have any preferences at all.

Tough. I'm here for me, not you or any other hater.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality is we can pick and choose. Works very well for me thank you,but then the men I meet are rather special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've found a lot of couple profiles with a veritable shopping list of requirements stated, that you need to meet before being allowed to 'read on' let alone message them. As newbies to the site we've found it super intimidating lol

you can include couples in this opinion too

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"IT WAS JUST AN OBSERVATION.NOT A PERSONAL PROBLEM.I WAS TALKING FIGURATIVELY AND GENERALLY NOT SPECIFICALLY.

Please lighten up people.It's supposed to be fun.

Utter tosh.

Read your OP again, then again, and actually see it for the deluded waffle it really is

don't worry most forumites have seen it before... its the backtrack dance!!!

put up a thread/position...

when they see it isn't going their way or that it creates a problem for them.... the backwards dance starts......

normally with.... "i was only joking" or "its not my position"

ooooh.... lets do the backtrack!!!

That's the one with the jump to the left innit? I get all these dances confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course the op is right with his observations .

However there is a big difference between looking for nsa sex and a relationship .

There are may things to consider with respect to having a relationship with someone and not necessarily the same for a night of fun .

So if the women punch above their weight and get hot nsa sex with hunky guys on here they do it because they can . And why not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

So in short you are piossed off that even the women you think are beneath you won't meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the end of the day this is not a dating site. I'm here purely for my own pleasure and therefore if i have a certain type of guy that fits my fantasy I am going to state that on my profile. Certain things turn me on and that's what I'm looking for - to be turned on!! I don't have the time to chat just for the sake of chatting. I'm here for a purpose. In saying that I have chatted with many really nice people on here so it's a win win situation for me. "

You hussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no such thing as punching above your weight. It's all subjective. Just because you don't like the look of someone doesn't mean others don't. I personally think it's a lack of confidence when people state this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think why some are just overly fussy is because they have given it too much thought as been ugly to themselves they won't like to meet another ugly person. For them its a morale booster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once the demands start creeping in, we are not interested, go with the flow or nothing im afraid.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course the op is right with his observations .

However there is a big difference between looking for nsa sex and a relationship .

There are may things to consider with respect to having a relationship with someone and not necessarily the same for a night of fun .

So if the women punch above their weight and get hot nsa sex with hunky guys on here they do it because they can . And why not ?"
yes why not if on offer your right......... Some even say that don't care how a person look ..And don't even wish to know them at all as long as theres a warm wet hole .. everyone is different here ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally would like to see more "demands" on guys profiles instead of 2 lines. At least I can make a decision based on the information provided rather than seeing nothing and just skipping to the next profile. It'd also show they have standards, values, preferences, whatever you want to call it, and not just here to shag anyone who agrees!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IT WAS JUST AN OBSERVATION.NOT A PERSONAL PROBLEM.I WAS TALKING FIGURATIVELY AND GENERALLY NOT SPECIFICALLY.

Please lighten up people.It's supposed to be fun.

Utter tosh.

Read your OP again, then again, and actually see it for the deluded waffle it really is

don't worry most forumites have seen it before... its the backtrack dance!!!

put up a thread/position...

when they see it isn't going their way or that it creates a problem for them.... the backwards dance starts......

normally with.... "i was only joking" or "its not my position"

ooooh.... lets do the backtrack!!!

Yea, seen it before. Laughable after reading such a pointless rant, to then see the suggestion that WE are the ones who need to calm down and learn to recognise these so called "fun" posts.

Seriously, I cannot wrap my head around the fact that some people cannot see why they can't replies or meets,

**Smacks head in disbelief, throws phone out of the second floor window, jumps out after it, lands on it and continues jumping up and down on it for a very long time**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily enough I'm fucking gorgeous

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

"Luckily enough I'm fucking gorgeous

And dreaming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

I understand you're point.

We do have preferences though and women listing them, maybe a way of not wasting guys time or their own time?

There could be a number of reasons why people do it.

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

"You hussy

Oh you wouldn't believe the half of it!!! I even have this insane expectation of being made cum on a play date

I do have some ridiculous notions sometimes

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"You hussy

Oh you wouldn't believe the half of it!!! I even have this insane expectation of being made cum on a play date

I do have some ridiculous notions sometimes

What? You actually expect to be pleasured on a play meet! How dare you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Luckily enough I'm fucking gorgeous

And dreaming

Of my mirror

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

if you have 'no problem with it' then why bother to post, surely those that choose to have such preferences (as do you) are entitled to..

the rest of your post reads like people should lower their standards to meet myself..?

said in a misogynistic manner with a hint of having a pop at others and how they are..

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

"You hussy

Oh you wouldn't believe the half of it!!! I even have this insane expectation of being made cum on a play date

I do have some ridiculous notions sometimes

What? You actually expect to be pleasured on a play meet! How dare you!

I know I know, being dog ugly I should just be happy to get some attention. I'm way too demanding

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see demanding profiles as a challenge. Then they reject me any way because they assume I want a skinny blonde girl or some shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"IT WAS JUST AN OBSERVATION.NOT A PERSONAL PROBLEM.I WAS TALKING FIGURATIVELY AND GENERALLY NOT SPECIFICALLY.

Please lighten up people.It's supposed to be fun.

Utter tosh.

Read your OP again, then again, and actually see it for the deluded waffle it really is

don't worry most forumites have seen it before... its the backtrack dance!!!

put up a thread/position...

when they see it isn't going their way or that it creates a problem for them.... the backwards dance starts......

normally with.... "i was only joking" or "its not my position"

ooooh.... lets do the backtrack!!!

Yea, seen it before. Laughable after reading such a pointless rant, to then see the suggestion that WE are the ones who need to calm down and learn to recognise these so called "fun" posts.

Seriously, I cannot wrap my head around the fact that some people cannot see why they can't replies or meets,

**Smacks head in disbelief, throws phone out of the second floor window, jumps out after it, lands on it and continues jumping up and down on it for a very long time**"

Ok Quasimodo...

Point taken.

Ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell you what, punish them by refusing to message them.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Attitude is everything in this game, have the wrong attitude and you might as well give up.

Advertising the wrong attitude is suicide.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Mindset of the average man on fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?

That's not fair - I mean, I want to have sex with YOU.

I've done MY part. What's YOUR problem?"

The OP actually went further than this, he suggested all the 'desperate' (ie more successful) single men should boycott sex with the women on this site, until said women are so desperate they beg to shag the OP!

(Where's the emoticon for a flying pig?)

Personally OP, we find profiles so useful that I actually think everyone should wear badges stating their ideal partner in real life, all the time. That way I wouldn't have wasted all those hours chatting up women looking for George Clooney, and could have homed straight in on those with the hots for Compo from Last of the Summer Wine!

Mr ddc

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

"I see demanding profiles as a challenge. Then they reject me any way because they assume I want a skinny blonde girl or some shit "

You haven't given me the opportunity to reject you yet!!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I see demanding profiles as a challenge. Then they reject me any way because they assume I want a skinny blonde girl or some shit "

How about a fat blonde?

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

We all got our liked n dislikes.... Consentrate on those ya click with for what ever reason! May be a huge surprize to realize that the real world, in regards to attraction, chemistry,and ' conventional' meet ups is no problem at all for many who are here!

We have met people who aint even on fab.... If ya see a profile that really aint for you ... Simply move on n let them carry on having their fun n meets in the way they choose ta do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

We met on a conventional site so maybe you should try looking on there because the women you speak of are probably on there too but can't get a date so come on here and afford to be picky !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just don't contact them??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mindset of the average man on fab:

"What do you mean you don't want to have sex with me?

That's not fair - I mean, I want to have sex with YOU.

I've done MY part. What's YOUR problem?"

In a nutshell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally would like to see more "demands" on guys profiles instead of 2 lines. At least I can make a decision based on the information provided rather than seeing nothing and just skipping to the next profile. It'd also show they have standards, values, preferences, whatever you want to call it, and not just here to shag anyone who agrees!"

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Personally I don't have a problem with contacts,now or previously but it's amusing to see Waynetta looking for George Clooney and nothing else will do.

People are here to meet who they like...

The best thing to do is message those that are most likely to be interested in meeting.

I realise this involves actually READING THEIR PROFILE so it might be asking a lot.

If they are looking for George Clooney and you feel you look jack shit like George Clooney, she might not be a good one to message.

Lol...Just making an observation here.

I do read each profile in depth before I even touch a keyboard.Definitely not desperate and I'm very selective to whom I write.

Never had any problem personally getting meets so not a problem for me old boy...

I'm fairer than Mr Clooney but resemble Mr Pitt more

So your allowed to be "very selective" but how dare women??

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

It's just supply and demand.

There really aren't that many women on here compared to men so that means that even a woman of well below average attractiveness can specify that she only wants an adonis with a ten incher if she feels like it.

It is what it is, not making a positive or negative statement about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just supply and demand.

It is what it is, not making a positive or negative statement about it.

That is negative, what if that Adonis finds the person you refer to as "well below average attractiveness" extremely attractive to him!!!

I have spoken to a lot of men who say the women they met off here were disgusting, one even said he did her from behind so he didn't have to look at her and feel sick, but a shag's a shag!!!! Now if that's the case it's the men that are causing this problem so go and write a thread about them and leave the women to enjoy whatever they desire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never had problems meeting attractive (seriously attractive) girls in my life. I guess that's not so much due to my looks, but rather some natural charm and pleasant personality.

I'm here just to experiment sexually with like minded women, but I find it very hard to find anyone appropriate.

The classic is:

THEY: "Looking for a man to become a regular f.k buddy with the wife, while the husband watches"

ME: "... I match perfectly, the only thing I won't be comfortable with watching on the first meet at least, but here are the alternative options".

THEY: "No, not interested, I need to watch"

WTF???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the op. I've said it before that it must be soul destroying or at least a dent to the ego for guys when they're turned down by women they wouldn't give a second glance to in everyday life.

I have every filter on so don't accept messages anymore, I just search myself. What I want on here is exactly what I'd get in the real world, I know what I'm capable of pulling. I only want guys over 6ft, dark hair, caucasian but tanned, no more than 18% body fat, very handsome face, white teeth,big dick and huge bushy eyebrows.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I have no demands other than I want to meet someone who turns me on with who they are as a person, which I gauge on what they say and think in conversation. Much like real life, only some of those conversations start off typed rather than verbal. It's got bugger all to do with visual attractiveness and/or aesthetic leagues. Probably makes me a nightmare for any interested guys since it's a hard one to quantify, hence why I have no specific demands on my profile but I am old enough and wise enough to know what works for me.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

"No offence but..." = here comes the offence.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"It's just supply and demand.

It is what it is, not making a positive or negative statement about it.

That is negative, what if that Adonis finds the person you refer to as "well below average attractiveness" extremely attractive to him!!!

I wouldn't know what an adonis looks like to be honest, I was just illustrating a point about the the site works in contrast to the real world. I wasn't actually referring to any real people so I wouldn't get so worked up over it.

Which women do I need to leave alone? Not really sure what you mean by that.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I agree with the op. I've said it before that it must be soul destroying or at least a dent to the ego for guys when they're turned down by women they wouldn't give a second glance to in everyday life.

How do you confirm the body fat requirement? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This always comes up, but it seems like Fab urban myth. Maybe I don't spend enough time reading female profiles but I've never seen Waynetta on here demanding George Clooney. I think the opposite sometimes; there are some beautiful women here and some distinctly average looking blokes (in my opinion) get to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they deserve everything they get for "lowering" themselves to women who they wouldn't give a glance to in everyday life. FFS if the women are that bad just have a wank.

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By *rEroticMan
over a year ago

London

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"This always comes up, but it seems like Fab urban myth. Maybe I don't spend enough time reading female profiles but I've never seen Waynetta on here demanding George Clooney. I think the opposite sometimes; there are some beautiful women here and some distinctly average looking blokes (in my opinion) get to meet them. "

Maybe we look in different places but there are definitely some who meet your description of Waynetta!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Well they deserve everything they get for "lowering" themselves to women who they wouldn't give a glance to in everyday life. FFS if the women are that bad just have a wank."

sorry, if men are displaying the 'shags a shag' attitude they can kiss my fat arse. I have more self-worth than lowering myself to the level that those men lower themselves to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been lucky to find 1 lady in my area the rest are very similar on demands and I'm not exactly schmeegal

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over a year ago

Well they deserve everything they get for "lowering" themselves to women who they wouldn't give a glance to in everyday life. FFS if the women are that bad just have a wank."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just supply and demand.

It is what it is, not making a positive or negative statement about it.

"
YES men out number woman but men like different things here .. so its a good thing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, I had enough now!!! Ladies can ALL of please drop your panties for the OP, you know he is far better than you will ever get, relax and please form an orderly line. Obviously your lists of demands are pathetic and its stupid of you silly little women to expect to come on a sex site and actually think of what you want instead of waiting for OP to tell you what is going to happen. Stupid women and their demands huh how childish!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Ok, I had enough now!!! Ladies can ALL of please drop your panties for the OP, you know he is far better than you will ever get, relax and please form an orderly line. Obviously your lists of demands are pathetic and its stupid of you silly little women to expect to come on a sex site and actually think of what you want instead of waiting for OP to tell you what is going to happen. Stupid women and their demands huh how childish!"

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How do you confirm the body fat requirement? Lol"

Social meet. Fat calipers.

Next question?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"It's just supply and demand.

It is what it is, not making a positive or negative statement about it.

And the men *have* to say yes?

I think not.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I'm exceptionally demanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put the Kettle on I want a cup of tea. Now! Do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you confirm the body fat requirement? Lol"

By looking at them!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep being single the last 5 years is something I've spoken about many times on here, I have no problem pulling. Though having recently being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder which I'm having counselling for, hoping that will sort out my mental issues.

Thanks for pointing that out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only want guys over 6ft, dark hair, caucasian but tanned, no more than 18% body fat, very handsome face, white teeth,big dick and huge bushy eyebrows. pulling and keeping are two different things

Well, looking at your profile there is no doubt you are a sexy woman and can choose! However I personally do not understand such a strict preference. Every person is different, and selecting someone purely by specific strict external parameters is quite a strange concept to me. It's like selecting a car or a protein shake, rather than a person.

I personally enjoy all sorts of women, stats are not that important as is the voice, character, friendliness and intelligence. Of course there are some general concepts, but weather someone is 18% body fat or 19 or 24, it does not really matter, honestly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for pointing that out there. "

My ex had BPD. It didn't end well for him. I hope the counselling works for you. x

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over a year ago

"Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters."

But you might tick the boxes but for whatever reason they just didn't feel attracted to you. That doesn't make them timewasters.

Someone could be looking for 5'10 dark haired Geordie married women with a big bum and a penchant for corsets - this doesn't automatically mean they'd fancy me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone could be looking for 5'10 dark haired Geordie married women with a big bum and a penchant for corsets - this doesn't automatically mean they'd fancy me. "

I am looking!

Love the accent...

Looking at your profile, I think someone needs to be really sick not to fancy you.

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over a year ago

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

Truth be told you couldn't be any further from the truth.....

Question is why are you on here?

Did you join coz you thought you would be guaranteed a fuck??

And now realise it's not insta fuck and the women on here do have standards and a choice who they want to fuck?!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters."

how arrogant are you..

you clearly were not for them, their profile and choice..

it doesn't make anyone a 'timewaster' but the attitude you have stinks of entitlement..

accept it and move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "

no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing beats that feeling you get from having your old,fat body worshipped by a hot,young Adonis

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over a year ago

"Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters."

Is English your primary language?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they deserve everything they get for "lowering" themselves to women who they wouldn't give a glance to in everyday life. FFS if the women are that bad just have a wank."

Exactly this^^

I'm having a déjà vu moment having just said on another thread that I'm fussy and happy to admit it.

I ask no one to jump through hoops or lower their standards, if you do so then more fool you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex had BPD. It didn't end well for him. I hope the counselling works for you. x "

How didn't it end well for him, slightly worried now! Did he have treatment for it?

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over a year ago

"Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters."

You think you matched everything, but you obviously didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how arrogant are you..

you clearly were not for them, their profile and choice..

it doesn't make anyone a 'timewaster' but the attitude you have stinks of entitlement..

accept it and move on.."

I disagree. If you find a profile and your match their requirements completely, then you spend a lot of time composing a nice long polite message, then at least you expect to get a response back saying "Yes, but... sorry". That's called "polite" which is a good practice among civilized people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think you matched everything, but you obviously didn't."

Thanks, I think that too. Not that I care much, but the point is that in real life it's much easier to hook up with hot girls, then finding a woman on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't punch above my weight. Without sounding bigheaded (cos we know all us females on here are deluded) I am attractive and i don't struggle to pull in the real world. I'm here for fantasies - my fantasies! So sorry to burst your bubble OP but we are not all deluded mingers desparate for a shag so I will demand all I want. Don't like - tough!! Get over it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex had BPD. It didn't end well for him. I hope the counselling works for you. x

How didn't it end well for him, slightly worried now! Did he have treatment for it?"

I wouldn't BPD is very common now allsorts of different treatments available It can just take time to work out which one will work you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 'demands' as I would prefer the select few that I find attractive to message me rather than every guy on the site!

I can and do regularly meet attractive guys when out and work with semi pro athletes who I know find me attractive it! I may not have a super model body but i have sex appeal and a hot face so if I want to demand then damn right i am going to.. I'll be over here having sex with tall well hung guys whilst you continue complaining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters."

And they are timewasters because they chose not to reply to your message??

So because you THINK you met their requirements you think they should have met you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You think you matched everything, but you obviously didn't.

Thanks, I think that too. Not that I care much, but the point is that in real life it's much easier to hook up with hot girls, then finding a woman on here

In some cases I suspect your right it's all about what works for you.

I just think the term timewasters is thrown around to easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex had BPD. It didn't end well for him. I hope the counselling works for you. x

How didn't it end well for him, slightly worried now! Did he have treatment for it?

I wouldn't BPD is very common now allsorts of different treatments available It can just take time to work out which one will work you."

He had a very severe case and was on very stong meds. He killed himself. Sorry to worry you. i didnt realise you can have a mild case of BPD.

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over a year ago

My ex had BPD. It didn't end well for him. I hope the counselling works for you. x

How didn't it end well for him, slightly worried now! Did he have treatment for it?

I wouldn't BPD is very common now allsorts of different treatments available It can just take time to work out which one will work you.

He had a very severe case and was on very stong meds. He killed himself. Sorry to worry you. i didnt realise you can have a mild case of BPD. "

That's sad to hear, sorry

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over a year ago

"And they are timewasters because they chose not to reply to your message??

So because you THINK you met their requirements you think they should have met you ??"

Please let me explain. This is always a mutual thing.

Yes, such people can be timewasters. Here's why:

You find a profile you like, you read it carefully, it's long. Around 5-10 minutes to digest it.

Then you message them, spend at least 5 minutes to come up with a nice eye catching response.

So that's at least 10-15 minutes spent.

The result? Nothing.

You spend 15 minutes (at least) and do not get any response, even a polite "no, because".

That's time wasted.

Noone says it has to be a "yes". But a small response with a feedback is always a good thing, and some people do that to be fair, I respect such people.

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over a year ago

"And they are timewasters because they chose not to reply to your message??

So because you THINK you met their requirements you think they should have met you ??

Please let me explain. This is always a mutual thing.

Yes, such people can be timewasters. Here's why:

You find a profile you like, you read it carefully, it's long. Around 5-10 minutes to digest it.

Then you message them, spend at least 5 minutes to come up with a nice eye catching response.

So that's at least 10-15 minutes spent.

The result? Nothing.

You spend 15 minutes (at least) and do not get any response, even a polite "no, because".

That's time wasted.

Noone says it has to be a "yes". But a small response with a feedback is always a good thing, and some people do that to be fair, I respect such people.

Suck it up buttercup.. Most people dont say no as when we do we get abuse or begging messages!

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over a year ago

"Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters.

And they are timewasters because they chose not to reply to your message??

So because you THINK you met their requirements you think they should have met you ??"

I manage to get meets with people who I don't match the criteria for. I'm not bi, I'm not a gym bunny, I'm not single, and yet, I still manage to meet.

effort in = effort out

Ever tried to build a rapport before going in for the kill?

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over a year ago

Continuing on that, let's say you find 6-7 matching profiles in a day, and spend 10-15 minutes on each of them, that's 60-105 minutes of your time wasted! So 2 hours wasted a day. Isn't that a totally pointless exercise and timewasting?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

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"Continuing on that, let's say you find 6-7 matching profiles in a day, and spend 10-15 minutes on each of them, that's 60-105 minutes of your time wasted! So 2 hours wasted a day. Isn't that a totally pointless exercise and timewasting?

its all about perception..

for you its wasted time and for other's it will be putting in the foundations perhaps of a productive meet..

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over a year ago

its all about perception..

for you its wasted time and for other's it will be putting in the foundations perhaps of a productive meet..

I agree.

What I'm saying is that timewasting is a mutual thing: it takes much more time to read a profile thoroughly and construct a thorough message, then to just ignore someone and not respond back with any feedback.

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over a year ago

My ex had BPD. It didn't end well for him. I hope the counselling works for you. x

How didn't it end well for him, slightly worried now! Did he have treatment for it?

I wouldn't BPD is very common now allsorts of different treatments available It can just take time to work out which one will work you.

He had a very severe case and was on very stong meds. He killed himself. Sorry to worry you. i didnt realise you can have a mild case of BPD.

That's sad to hear, sorry"

I know. They had an inquest. They think he didn't mean to do it for real. He didn't leave a note. Anyway He tried so many times before so it wasn't a shock to anyone. At least he has some peace now.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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My ex had BPD. It didn't end well for him. I hope the counselling works for you. x

How didn't it end well for him, slightly worried now! Did he have treatment for it?

I wouldn't BPD is very common now allsorts of different treatments available It can just take time to work out which one will work you."
I have bi polar and borderline personality disorder running along the side of each other, yes I have to take a lot of strong medication but I can function a lot better now as the meds improve

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"And they are timewasters because they chose not to reply to your message??

So because you THINK you met their requirements you think they should have met you ??

Please let me explain. This is always a mutual thing.

Yes, such people can be timewasters. Here's why:

You find a profile you like, you read it carefully, it's long. Around 5-10 minutes to digest it.

Then you message them, spend at least 5 minutes to come up with a nice eye catching response.

So that's at least 10-15 minutes spent.

The result? Nothing.

You spend 15 minutes (at least) and do not get any response, even a polite "no, because".

That's time wasted.

Noone says it has to be a "yes". But a small response with a feedback is always a good thing, and some people do that to be fair, I respect such people.

Suck it up buttercup.. Most people dont say no as when we do we get abuse or begging messages!

Yep had examples of both these today after my standard polite no thanks message

Also why is feed back essential? Theres not a lot we can say if we dont find you attractive unless you want an inbox full of "no thanks we think your an ugly fucker" granted they may say it politer but thats what they really mean

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

Must be tall...check

Must have face pic...check

Must have this,must have that ,must do this and must do that etc.

I've no problem with that but it's getting beyond a joke with some of them.

To hear some of them you'd imagine that they were in the 'super model' league but quite frankly it's laughable.The majority of these girls are deluding themselves beyond the point of credibility.

If truth be told most of them are punching well above their weight and would be lucky if they got a second look in the real world...lol

No offence to anyone but they need to get real and the single lads shouldn't act so desperately toward them.It only encourages them even more and gives them credibility to make further demands.

Anyone agree??? "
. The only people their comments affect are themserlves. I assume that if their expectations were unrealtistic they would amend their profile. At least they are being selective and honest and by specifying their selection criteria they are avoiding wasting anyones time.

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over a year ago

"Another example today.

A couple, with lots of complex requirements for the wife to meet a single man. I TOTALLY match all those various requirements, I mean totally. It's hard to find someone else who would match.

I put together a long reply, very polite and proper. They look into my profile and just delete my message.

How to explain that? Simples, they are just timewasters.

And they are timewasters because they chose not to reply to your message??

So because you THINK you met their requirements you think they should have met you ??

I manage to get meets with people who I don't match the criteria for. I'm not bi, I'm not a gym bunny, I'm not single, and yet, I still manage to meet.

effort in = effort out

Ever tried to build a rapport before going in for the kill?"

I personally won't meet guys who are attached don't need the hassle, but there are obviously people who will meet attached guys..

Each to their own x

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over a year ago

"Yep had examples of both these today after my standard polite no thanks message

That's a good point. Saying that, I have been contacted by some women, but I generally been very polite to come back to them and explain that they are pretty (seriously) but I am looking for a different type of a person.

I think that's a normal behaviour. Too bad that for some reason (maybe too many single guys) that behaviour is not often applicable here.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

how arrogant are you..

you clearly were not for them, their profile and choice..

it doesn't make anyone a 'timewaster' but the attitude you have stinks of entitlement..

accept it and move on..

YOUR opinion

They think its not unpolite also THEIR opinion

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