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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

reading the nonsense on here at times, I wouldn't agree with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I go for looks, sorry but I'm not going to shag someone I'm not attracted to because he's a nice person, personality does play a part, looks gets my attention personality keeps it, but if he's not good looking (in my eyes) even if he's the most lovely men I've ever met sex won't happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?"

I think that's a load of BS!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah that's why George clooney and brad pitt struggle.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Nope. I can be swayed over time by personality but I'm a sucker for a good looking man.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Yeah that's why George clooney and brad pitt struggle."

They might be really nice guys!

I go for looks personally, although my taste in looks might not be the same as other peoples.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Nope I go for looks, sorry but I'm not going to shag someone I'm not attracted to because he's a nice person, personality does play a part, looks gets my attention personality keeps it, but if he's not good looking (in my eyes) even if he's the most lovely men I've ever met sex won't happen "

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Personality is important in most situations...Like a lot of answers in the forums it relies on personal preference, some mutual attraction, the people involved being genuine, pleasant, open minded and sane, with some common sense, and the rest should [hopefully] fall into place.

Granted, looks do play a part of course, but the male/female approach to that is not as widely different as we may imagine...I could be massively wrong there of course but both males and females here regularly seem to suggest that personality is important

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Someone can have the looks & personality of Fred West, but if he has a big cock... I might suck it.

but I would keep the lights on and the door unlocked

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I go for someone with a pulse (kidding.... or am I?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah that's why George clooney and brad pitt struggle."

See funny thing is, not that I'd ever have the chance, but I wouldn't shag either, they are not my idea of good looking

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

I think for both sexes it would have to be a mixture of both looks and personality - but I imagine for everyone there has to be an initial spark there, and that has to come down to looks in my opinion.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Nope I go for looks, sorry but I'm not going to shag someone I'm not attracted to because he's a nice person, personality does play a part, looks gets my attention personality keeps it, but if he's not good looking (in my eyes) even if he's the most lovely men I've ever met sex won't happen "

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"[Removed by poster at 25/01/15 11:33:22]"

Stupid phone What I was trying to say is for me looks can spark the initial attraction but it's personality that keeps my interest. The way I like to meet is different to how others choose to meet so they might not be so interested in the other persons personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are important.

Even if they look like a catwalk queen if that person is a fucking idiot it won't happen.

I think its a mixture of both.

I know what I like when I see it.

I know who I want after chatting.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I go for men who are easy on my eye and an animal in the bedroom...however they do need to engage my brain. As long as they can make me laugh they are almost there

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I go for men who are easy on my eye and an animal in the bedroom...however they do need to engage my brain. As long as they can make me laugh they are almost there "

Men with loads of tattoos will get my pulse racing

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I would say that often for both men and women, appearance is what gets you noticed initially but personality is what takes things further or makes them last.

I think both sexes can also start to find someone attractive once they get to know them, even if they didn't to begin with.

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By *oconut2Woman
over a year ago

Nether regions of the back of beyond

I'm glad all men don't go for looks first otherwise I'd be a proper Billy no mates lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks first, then personality.i think men are more interested in looks than women on here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?"

Guys think with their dicks. End of.

(Not all, but majority)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say that often for both men and women, appearance is what gets you noticed initially but personality is what takes things further or makes them last.

I think both sexes can also start to find someone attractive once they get to know them, even if they didn't to begin with."

Spot on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say that often for both men and women, appearance is what gets you noticed initially but personality is what takes things further or makes them last.

I think both sexes can also start to find someone attractive once they get to know them, even if they didn't to begin with.

Spot on x"
If you are gorgeous that is!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care how great your personality is if your looks don't get my attention it's a non starter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah that's why George clooney and brad pitt struggle."

So they have no personality your saying ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't?"

Because the first bites with the eye

I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe


"Someone can have the looks & personality of Fred West, but if he has a big cock... I might suck it.

but I would keep the lights on and the door unlocked "

Pmsl

I need a face I can look at as I orgasm or I just dont do it the same..... No phwoar no fuck. Sorry

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

There has to be attraction initially but a great personality can make someone more attractive i think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Someone can have the looks & personality of Fred West, but if he has a big cock... I might suck it.

but I would keep the lights on and the door unlocked

Pmsl

I need a face I can look at as I orgasm or I just dont do it the same..... No phwoar no fuck. Sorry "

So where does the 'Phwoar' come from?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Nope I go for looks, sorry but I'm not going to shag someone I'm not attracted to because he's a nice person, personality does play a part, looks gets my attention personality keeps it, but if he's not good looking (in my eyes) even if he's the most lovely men I've ever met sex won't happen "

Saved me typing...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't?

Because the first bites with the eye

I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him "

I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially I go for looks (shallow, maybe), that's what'll get my attention. If the personality doesn't back up the looks....then it's a non runner.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

People never seem to believe me when I say this but I really do go for personality every time when I want a one on one meet. Attraction is always a mental thing for me. If they happen to look drop dead gorgeous then that's an added bonus but by that stage my boat is usually already floated and I'll find them attractive regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't?

Because the first bites with the eye

I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him

I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?"

You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that

To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol

I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here

Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't

Because the first bites with the eye

I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him

I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?

You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that

To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol

I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here

Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive "

I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Depends for what purpose a partner is required.

For this site, element of attraction is required because all users require is to get it on.

However, long term things its more of a mixed picture for me personality is key.

Us fellas alk wish to shag a fit bird that gets the pulse pumping.... But if she,s a bitch would you want to spend 24/ 7 with her??

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?"

I thinks it's true. I was amazed on the dating sites by stories from men who had put up with a totally unbalanced harridan of a woman just 'cos she looked hot. I based an amusing profile on their stories!

I'm a sucker for good looks, but I also know I can be entranced by personality and find looks way less important. I think more women are like that than men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't

Because the first bites with the eye

I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him

I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?

You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that

To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol

I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here

Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive

I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol"

Tell me what your looking for and I'll help you look, cause I'm nice like that

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't

Because the first bites with the eye

I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him

I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?

You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that

To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol

I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here

Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive

I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol

Tell me what your looking for and I'll help you look, cause I'm nice like that "

Lol erm

Dark hair or natural blond , age 27 -34 , into outdoor activities like mountain biking climbing, skiing , no children not wanting children, adventurous , able to orgasm, enjoys ' cunninglingus, articulate , inquisitive , likes science xx likes spicy food and red wine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder..... That's why after a couple of pints everyone looks gorgeous to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ladies, so this need for good looks then - why do you think they're so important?

And I don't mean 'because I need to fancy them', of course you do, but why do his looks, whatever kind you go for, make you fancy the man in a way his character doesn't

Because the first bites with the eye

I love lots of eye contact when having sex, and while I have his cock in my mouth I can't see his personality I'm look at his face, I guy maybe a nice person but once your in bed and the conversation stops all you have is his look and if I don't like them its going to be hard to get turned on by him

I believe you've said before that you like the tattooed biker/rocker type, but this question could relate to any kind of guy a woman likes - just what is it about those looks that you enjoy, what excites you, what do they bring about inside you that feels so good?

You can't really put it into words can you, you look at someone and either you are attracted to them or you are not, its as simple as that

To me there are two types of good looking fab good looking and real world good looking lol

I know that sounds odd but guys I would be attracted to in real life are few and far between on here, I do go for the zakk wylde, rob zombie look in real life and know where to find that type of guy out there in the real wold but on here you look for what's avalible, that's not to say I settle for second best I just go for guys who are good looking in a different way on here

Saying that any of the above look alikes reading this PLEASE mail me, don't make me beg its not attractive

I wish I knew in real life where to find the lady im looking for lol

Tell me what your looking for and I'll help you look, cause I'm nice like that

Lol erm

Dark hair or natural blond , age 27 -34 , into outdoor activities like mountain biking climbing, skiing , no children not wanting children, adventurous , able to orgasm, enjoys ' cunninglingus, articulate , inquisitive , likes science xx likes spicy food and red wine xx "

Bloody hell I only ment looks wise, I'm good but I'm not that good, your on your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder..... That's why after a couple of pints everyone looks gorgeous to me "

Fancy a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks are important.

Even if they look like a catwalk queen if that person is a fucking idiot it won't happen.

I think its a mixture of both.

I know what I like when I see it.

I know who I want after chatting. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily so , all guys dont go for just looks. I like some one I can talk to have a laugh with and shares common interests. It makes for better friendships, lol that's my two pence worth

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

An average guy with a great personality would win over far more than a gorgeous man with shit personality

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play."

Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs.

Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick.

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By *onguetastic1Man
over a year ago

Castleford


"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?"

Completely disagree, although sometimes it's the looks that get your attention to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both! I've got to be physically attracted first but if he's a complete dick I'm not going to have sex with him just because he looks good there's got to be physical and mental attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play.

Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs.

Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick."

I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex

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By *omolfc8Man
over a year ago

merseyside


"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play.

Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs.

Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick.

I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex

"
totally agree with you but even on here I still have standards just like in real life I won't just fuck anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play.

Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs.

Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick.

I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex

"

You still need to be somewhat compatible personality wise, as you don't just meet someone then climb into bed with them - there's a mental journey between bar and bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone on here is the same....shallow lol! (Ducks behind desk)

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play.

Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs.

Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick."

You do realise attraction isn't something we think about and actively, consciously decide?

You can rationalise what strong and virile means for as long as you like but people are only going to find attractive those people they are wired to find attractive.

In the evolutionary theory sense it's a very base instinct, completely removed from conscious thought.

I tend to be attracted to fair men far more often than I am to dark haired men. I can't explain or justify it. I just am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality first but looks do come into it a bit too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes someone not the best looking can make up for it with charisma just my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.

"

Like a peacock - come for the feathers, stay for the bird.

AYOW! AYOW!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I need looks and personality in equal measure it seems I'm quite particular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play.

Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs.

Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick.

I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex

You still need to be somewhat compatible personality wise, as you don't just meet someone then climb into bed with them - there's a mental journey between bar and bedroom."

True but there are lots of things I'd over look on here that I wouldn't if after a relationship

For example I wouldnt have a relationship with someone who ate meat, or went out shooting rabbits or fishing as a hobby etc but I would meet a meat eater off here because its only for sex and so long as we got on I'm good, but when it come to sharing my life I couldn't live with someone who did the above they would have to have the same interests as me for us to get on and in a relationship those interests go deeper than can he make me laugh

There are other examples too but I won't woffle on lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.

Like a peacock - come for the feathers, stay for the bird.

AYOW! AYOW!"

Peacocks have really tiny brains though. There's no much going on there beyond strutting, tail management, eating, sleeping and other basic biological functions. They'd be dull meets, I reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need looks and personality in equal measure it seems I'm quite particular "

Nothing wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.

Like a peacock - come for the feathers, stay for the bird.

AYOW! AYOW!

Peacocks have really tiny brains though. There's no much going on there beyond strutting, tail management, eating, sleeping and other basic biological functions. They'd be dull meets, I reckon."

They'd do well on here though, they're attention seeking and needy

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By *omolfc8Man
over a year ago

merseyside


"I am very Darwinian in my way of thinking.

I think women are biologically attracted to males who seem likely to provide good (healthy ) genes for offspring and /or are likely to be able to support / provide for offspring.

Hence we look for healthy looking males (in my case this translates to hot ripped body) and successful / educated.

This would be in the case of a relationship.

For one off or occasional casual sex I think other factors come into play.

Surely a guy doesn't have to have a chiselled musculature in order to be strong and virile though? I mean it LOOKS great but a man can still look manly even if he doesn't have abs.

Intelligence is attractive though, as long as its a NICE sort of intelligence, everyone likes someone who's smart, interesting and witty, no one likes a condescending prick.

I think it also depends on what your looking for, if its a relationship then personality come into play much more than if I meet someome off of here just for sex

You still need to be somewhat compatible personality wise, as you don't just meet someone then climb into bed with them - there's a mental journey between bar and bedroom.

True but there are lots of things I'd over look on here that I wouldn't if after a relationship

For example I wouldnt have a relationship with someone who ate meat, or went out shooting rabbits or fishing as a hobby etc but I would meet a meat eater off here because its only for sex and so long as we got on I'm good, but when it come to sharing my life I couldn't live with someone who did the above they would have to have the same interests as me for us to get on and in a relationship those interests go deeper than can he make me laugh

There are other examples too but I won't woffle on lol"
haha exactly couldn't be with someone you didn't fancy or get on with really could you don't think I could fuck anyone who I didnt fancy to be honest never have so why should I start now !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As this site is just for sex. They don't need to have the looks for a fuck lol

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By *omolfc8Man
over a year ago

merseyside

True but how can you get turned on by someone you don't fancy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"True but how can you get turned on by someone you don't fancy ?"
All they need to do is to give good oral and its fine

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By *omolfc8Man
over a year ago

merseyside

Haha yeah good point I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People never seem to believe me when I say this but I really do go for personality every time when I want a one on one meet. Attraction is always a mental thing for me. If they happen to look drop dead gorgeous then that's an added bonus but by that stage my boat is usually already floated and I'll find them attractive regardless."

Then there's hope for me yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha yeah good point I suppose "
hehe and thanks yes, fun one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To a large extent most Guys and ladies appreciate a mixture of good looks and personality.

Some are able to define their type of relationship and would never compromise on any of their specification in terms of qualities of their would be partner and may be lucky to find one or end up with themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People never seem to believe me when I say this but I really do go for personality every time when I want a one on one meet. Attraction is always a mental thing for me. If they happen to look drop dead gorgeous then that's an added bonus but by that stage my boat is usually already floated and I'll find them attractive regardless.

Then there's hope for me yet "

Oh hush you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think for both sexes it would have to be a mixture of both looks and personality - but I imagine for everyone there has to be an initial spark there, and that has to come down to looks in my opinion."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People never seem to believe me when I say this but I really do go for personality every time when I want a one on one meet. Attraction is always a mental thing for me. If they happen to look drop dead gorgeous then that's an added bonus but by that stage my boat is usually already floated and I'll find them attractive regardless.

Then there's hope for me yet

Oh hush you!"

Haha

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

i dont agree the amount of knock backs ive had from women because they are so disapointed when i send a face pic

sorry but single women expect brad pitt on here

women who are part of a couple are much more kinder

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

I actually think women are more shallow on looks tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd kick brad Pitt out of bed. Don't like him

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Looks will get my initial attention, but if there's nothing behind it...not for me.

"

Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are what attract me first but there has to be a personality to back it up.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I actually think women are more shallow on looks tbh"

Yes Absolutely

All women think exactly the same as do all men

Sorry , I'm in a grump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for animal attraction. No particular look,no particular personality. We just have to have the hots for each other

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"i dont agree the amount of knock backs ive had from women because they are so disapointed when i send a face pic

sorry but single women expect brad pitt on here

women who are part of a couple are much more kinder "

We don't expect Brad Pitt.

However, we're not, (most of us), looking for relationships. We're here to fulfil fantasies. If you aren't the stuff of our fantasies then, sorry, we may well decline.

As for being 'kind', really? We should meet you to be 'kind'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the nature of this site dictates that most will go fo looks to begin with

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I think the nature of this site dictates that most will go fo looks to begin with "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Put it this way, I read a person's profile before I read their message because I am interested in what they are like. If they don't interest me, I don't care what they look like.

On the other hand, men very often look at my pics and either message me or move on. They don't usually read my profile because they don't care who I am or what I am like.

So yes, I'd say men care more about looks and less about personality than women.

They may not be as picky as women in terms of looks, (although often are), but physical appearance is the most important factor for a lot of men.

Women are less likely to shag someone without a good personality just because they look hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the prettiest woman in the world came in to me but was a horrible person it would put me right off and I wouldn't be interested. I had a really pretty girlfriend.she seamed nice at first but a month in her real personality started to show so I dumped her arse. Everyone thought I was mad as to be honest she was out of my league and don't know how I pulled her in the first place. personality is key to me as it can make the hottest person seam real ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no way. Looks draw you initially of course but your attraction to that individual can disappear if they're not a nice person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?

Guys think with their dicks. End of.

(Not all, but majority)"

Totally not true.some may but not all. And certainly not the majority .that would be like say in most women are shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually think women are more shallow on looks tbh"

Shallow for one, discerning for another...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me.

I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do.

Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

totally the other way round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me.

I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do.

Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes. "

It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hot men. But if its like talking to a brick wall or a child then I'm turned off. Gotta have the banter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like hot men. But if its like talking to a brick wall or a child then I'm turned off. Gotta have the banter!"

But great bants plus ugly and out of shape...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me.

I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do.

Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes.

It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off"

It want a complaint, just an observation.

I wasn't getting many replies so I lost weight and stuck some artsy type pics up. Problem solved.

My personality has remained the same....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me.

I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do.

Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes.

It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off

It want a complaint, just an observation.

I wasn't getting many replies so I lost weight and stuck some artsy type pics up. Problem solved.

My personality has remained the same...."

Artsy type pics are always a winner it seems, and a god personality wins most encounters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be fat (ok, fatter) and nobody talked to me.

I lost weight, the same people who never spoke to me now do.

Yup, folk are mostly pretty shallow across the sexes.

It is a sex xite though, is it not? we tend to go for a mixture of looks and personality. Some people, however stareotypically hot they are, are just a real turn off

It want a complaint, just an observation.

I wasn't getting many replies so I lost weight and stuck some artsy type pics up. Problem solved.

My personality has remained the same....

Artsy type pics are always a winner it seems, and a god personality wins most encounters"

Folk are quite easy to please.

As I say, the one think that was holding me back was my size (44inch waist I was)

I figured my personality was ok as I never had any real issues in real life, face to face so I changed what a felt needed changing for on here and that was just my weight....my profile text is more or less the same and I'm still me so it was the looks that swung the balance.

As I say, it's not a complaint, soon as I twigged what I needed to do I just got on and lost 5 or 6 stone, swapped out some pics, keeps everyone happy, job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give me an ample, average looking guy who replies and is nice to talk to over a guy with a God complex who thinks he is too hot to talk to you anyday x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give me an ample, average looking guy who replies and is nice to talk to over a guy with a God complex who thinks he is too hot to talk to you anyday x"

N likes rally hot guys who are also good to talk to, but they are few and far between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...something I've heard many a time when the differences between men and women are discussed - thoughts?"

On here I'd say a lot of the guys are looking for something quick on the sly.

The women seem to be looking for size!

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