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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Well i guess this was bound to happen eventually but today was my first day back after the bank holiday weekend and as i sat down at my desk one of the agents walked up to me and whispered in my ear

'wasn't it busy in Chameleons on sunday'

didnt see him there at all but apparently i was pre-occupied when he saw me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol omg! i feel for you xxx

it happened to me once

i went to a party - had a great time

and the following week at work our new Director walked in - yep you guessed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol omg! i feel for you xxx

it happened to me once

i went to a party - had a great time

and the following week at work our new Director walked in - yep you guessed it "

we do hope you asked for a pay rise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PMSL!

I know I should not have laughed, however, I could not help it! Sorry!

Chams is quite a way from me, so hopefully, I shan't bum into anyone I know.

Mind you, so what if they do? I am not doing anything against the law, and am free and single!

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By *nkednkinky_bbwWoman
over a year ago

cannock

i walked in there on sunday and spotted an old neighbour of mine working behind the bar

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Agents? You work at GCHQ? I trust you had your own supply of strong bags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i guess this was bound to happen eventually but today was my first day back after the bank holiday weekend and as i sat down at my desk one of the agents walked up to me and whispered in my ear

'wasn't it busy in Chameleons on sunday'

didnt see him there at all but apparently i was pre-occupied when he saw me lol"

Good for you - experienced similarly "embarrassing" situations and you know, that is why it is good when you are lucky enough for work mates to be aware of your chosen life style lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take comfort from the fact that he can't expose you without exposing himself. Or have you already got past that stage now hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol omg! i feel for you xxx

it happened to me once

i went to a party - had a great time

and the following week at work our new Director walked in - yep you guessed it

we do hope you asked for a pay rise "

should have done but didnt - mainly because we had turned him down at the party and chose to play with another cpl --- bad timing for me i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol omg! i feel for you xxx

it happened to me once

i went to a party - had a great time

and the following week at work our new Director walked in - yep you guessed it

we do hope you asked for a pay rise

should have done but didnt - mainly because we had turned him down at the party and chose to play with another cpl --- bad timing for me i guess "

lol i suppose it depends on whether you would of or not?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Take comfort from the fact that he can't expose you without exposing himself. Or have you already got past that stage now hehehe "

worrying thing is he is not exactly quiet about his activities lol

the amount of time i have had to hear about his exploits at 'pinky beaches'

but thinking about it a few of my close friends at work know, so what if a few more find out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Chams is quite a way from me, so hopefully, I shan't *BUM* into anyone I know.

"

I'm sure they'll be disappointed about that

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Take comfort from the fact that he can't expose you without exposing himself. Or have you already got past that stage now hehehe

worrying thing is he is not exactly quiet about his activities lol

the amount of time i have had to hear about his exploits at 'pinky beaches'

but thinking about it a few of my close friends at work know, so what if a few more find out lol"

The 'so what' really depends on what your employer thinks about it rather than what your mates think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but thinking about it a few of my close friends at work know, so what if a few more find out lol"

.

That's the spirit!

You have nothing to hide, what you do in private is no one else's business except yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Chams is quite a way from me, so hopefully, I shan't *BUM* into anyone I know.

I'm sure they'll be disappointed about that "

.

Shite, typo, you know what I meant!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Take comfort from the fact that he can't expose you without exposing himself. Or have you already got past that stage now hehehe

worrying thing is he is not exactly quiet about his activities lol

the amount of time i have had to hear about his exploits at 'pinky beaches'

but thinking about it a few of my close friends at work know, so what if a few more find out lol

The 'so what' really depends on what your employer thinks about it rather than what your mates think."

yeah?? can they sack me for it then?? am i being really naive??

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Agree with Polo here, its funny on the face of it, but some employers will take a dim view

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

du, du du du du, du do do du etc

Thanks.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I am sorry to tell you this, but once your (your – meaning anyone’s generally) private life is no longer private it may result in contracts being terminated.

It depends on a number of things:

What your job is.

Who you work for.

What the powers that be feel about it.

Whether they think it will harm the reputation of their business.

Whether they think it will affect the credibility you require to do your job… and so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah?? can they sack me for it then?? am i being really naive?? "

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It depends how liberal or stuffy they are.

They could view your lifestyle as bringing them into disrepute.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

yes they can be careful depends what your job is whats the saying bringing your profession in to dispute
"Take comfort from the fact that he can't expose you without exposing himself. Or have you already got past that stage now hehehe

worrying thing is he is not exactly quiet about his activities lol

the amount of time i have had to hear about his exploits at 'pinky beaches'

but thinking about it a few of my close friends at work know, so what if a few more find out lol

The 'so what' really depends on what your employer thinks about it rather than what your mates think.

yeah?? can they sack me for it then?? am i being really naive?? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take comfort from the fact that he can't expose you without exposing himself. Or have you already got past that stage now hehehe

worrying thing is he is not exactly quiet about his activities lol

the amount of time i have had to hear about his exploits at 'pinky beaches'

but thinking about it a few of my close friends at work know, so what if a few more find out lol

The 'so what' really depends on what your employer thinks about it rather than what your mates think.

yeah?? can they sack me for it then?? am i being really naive?? "

I guess it depends on your work environment; admittedly there are a number of things you could do that could be seen/ construed to bringing your place of work into disrepute and that could be an angle for your employer. Swinging can be seen as leading a lifestyle not compatible with the line of work you pursue.

Having said that, I know that it is not seen as black and white these days by most employers and provided you don't rub anybody's nose in it and make a public spectacle of yourself I would not worry too much. Plenty of people in the our different Forces to name but one group , on here...just one example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sorry to tell you this, but once your (your – meaning anyone’s generally) private life is no longer private it may result in contracts being terminated.

It depends on a number of things:

What your job is.

Who you work for.

What the powers that be feel about it.

Whether they think it will harm the reputation of their business.

Whether they think it will affect the credibility you require to do your job… and so on.

"

this is what i worry about with the job i do and the people i deal with

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The sensible advice is to err on the side of caution. The less people at work who know, the less can drop you in it at a later date…. especially if you later become their line manager and you don’t give them the time off they want.

Your Directors probably don’t tell the workforce when they last had sex, so if you adopt the same aim that they never know this information about you… you should be OK.

I may well tell my meets what I do, but I never tell them who for.

I don't use any full body photos on the internet... if it has body on there will be no head and vice versa. If I don't use any (on sites or on msn/emails) they can't turn up at work.

Simple things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its common sense I guess. Its all very well banging the 'I don't care who knows' drum but I think if we're all totally honest we'd prefer discretion in our every day lives. However normal and familiar this lifestyle is for us lot on here it's still very much fodder for the gossips (and not always favourably) in the 'vanilla' world.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Can they sack me for it then?? am i being really naive?? "

We have actually lived the nightmare of being outed at work! We took extensive legal advice to see what our options were at work. We were told that as long as our private life didn't interfere with business, there is nothing that an employer can do about your lifestyle.

Something to do with the Sexual Discrimination Act 1975 which was meant for equal pay and conditions, but the Humnan Rights Act 1998 forced the UK government to amend the act by 2003 to include sexuality in the workplace.It was really meant for gays and Lesbians, but it has to encompass all sexuality.

To be honest, I am not sure of the amendment, but Mrs R's employer actually told her that there was no need to worry because she is protected!

They actually diciplined a person for "gossiping" and were worried in case Mrs R took them to a tribunal.

My employer at the time just asked if we would take him and his lady to one of the parties!

So we wouldn't worry unless someone is a lawyer on here and can tell you different to what we were told?

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)


"Well i guess this was bound to happen eventually but today was my first day back after the bank holiday weekend and as i sat down at my desk one of the agents walked up to me and whispered in my ear

'wasn't it busy in Chameleons on sunday'

didnt see him there at all but apparently i was pre-occupied when he saw me lol"

You had that too then! Mind you my college did say hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah!!

that happened to me once on a paper-round delivery!,,,the other person said to me quietly "saw u in la-chambre on sat nite" lol lol

bloody paper rounds eh?!!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"

didnt see him there at all but apparently i was pre-occupied when he saw me lol

You had that too then! Mind you my college did say hello "

All of them? Gave you the third degree did they lol

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"Yeah!!

that happened to me once on a paper-round delivery!,,,the other person said to me quietly "saw u in la-chambre on sat nite" lol lol

bloody paper rounds eh?!! "

Not like proper rounds eh? Mine's still that Fosters u promised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah!!

that happened to me once on a paper-round delivery!,,,the other person said to me quietly "saw u in la-chambre on sat nite" lol lol

bloody paper rounds eh?!!

Not like proper rounds eh? Mine's still that Fosters u promised."

hahahahahahahahaha----keep dreaming!

lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Can they sack me for it then?? am i being really naive??

We have actually lived the nightmare of being outed at work! We took extensive legal advice to see what our options were at work. We were told that as long as our private life didn't interfere with business, there is nothing that an employer can do about your lifestyle.

Something to do with the Sexual Discrimination Act 1975 which was meant for equal pay and conditions, but the Humnan Rights Act 1998 forced the UK government to amend the act by 2003 to include sexuality in the workplace.It was really meant for gays and Lesbians, but it has to encompass all sexuality.

To be honest, I am not sure of the amendment, but Mrs R's employer actually told her that there was no need to worry because she is protected!

They actually diciplined a person for "gossiping" and were worried in case Mrs R took them to a tribunal.

My employer at the time just asked if we would take him and his lady to one of the parties!

So we wouldn't worry unless someone is a lawyer on here and can tell you different to what we were told?"

The Sexual Discrimination Act does cover you from being discriminated against because of your sexuality... that is you cannot be treated less favourably or over looked for promotion etc because of your sexuality.... so you cannot be sacked for being gay or bi and you can't get less benefits because you like sucking cock…… but sexuality is not the same as sexual behaviour.

By your bosses comments they obviously didn’t give a toss… or more likely enjoyed being tossed by various people. Not all bosses take that stance.

The Human Rights act won’t help you either once private becomes common knowledge.

The law with regards to employment may be vauge – but most emplyemtn law is as it uses words like “reasonable” a lot.

However, the fact remains, an employer can revoke/terminate your contract if it is deemed you bring the company into disrepute…. regardless of what your experience was.

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)


"

didnt see him there at all but apparently i was pre-occupied when he saw me lol

You had that too then! Mind you my college did say hello

All of them? Gave you the third degree did they lol "

Naaa i get a big chunk of autonomy and hardly in the office these days. The lady in question did blush a little though.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Source: Personnel Today

"Contracts of employment often contain express provisions allowing employers to terminate an employee should their conduct outside work bring the employer into disrepute...

...Two other high-profile news stories ... Both involved female employees being engaged in out-of-work activities that were sexual in nature. One of the employees was an airline stewardess who was also an actress in the pornographic film industry. The other was a primary school teacher who posed for photographs featured on a website for glamour models. Although both individuals were allowed to keep their jobs, their employers' reactions were very different.

In the first case, the airline simply said whatever its employees do in their spare time is their business, and no action was taken. In the second case, however, the teacher was subjected to the school's disciplinary procedure. The school concluded the teacher's conduct was inappropriate in light of her role, and agreed she had brought the school into disrepute. Although not dismissed, she was disciplined. The school did note, however, that the matter would have been treated even more seriously had the photographs been pornographic in nature. "

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"The Sexual Discrimination Act does cover you from being discriminated against because of your sexuality... that is you cannot be treated less favourably or over looked for promotion etc because of your sexuality.... so you cannot be sacked for being gay or bi and you can't get less benefits because you like sucking cock…… but sexuality is not the same as sexual behaviour.

By your bosses comments they obviously didn’t give a toss… or more likely enjoyed being tossed by various people. Not all bosses take that stance.

The Human Rights act won’t help you either once private becomes common knowledge.

The law with regards to employment may be vauge – but most emplyemtn law is as it uses words like “reasonable” a lot.

However, the fact remains, an employer can revoke/terminate your contract if it is deemed you bring the company into disrepute…. regardless of what your experience was.

"

It wasn't my employer that was a problem. He was the one who said he wanted to come to a party. It was Mrs R who had the problem and she works in a "responsible" position for a major multi-national!

Their legal department confirmed what we were told by our solicitor, that as long as our private life didn't interfere with the business, nothing could be done...

There were a number of reasons for this and to be honest I can't remember them all now, but one was to do with the amendment to the 1975 act to encomapss the changes needed to comply to the 1998 H. R. act!

We were told that although never tested in court, there is a requirement to not judge employees on grounds of sexuality, that includes sexual behaviour. After all, being gay or a swinger involves sexual behaviour.

We went into this very deeply at the time and even the company legal beagles assured us that any action taken purely on grounds of being a swinger would be bound to ultimately fail.

The case they sited were where someone was sacked for having an affair that became common knowledge within the company and everyone was talking about it. It didn't affect his work and they paid out thousands in compensation for their actions.

Evidently, putting everyone else off their work to talk about it was not down to him! Maybe just her company, but that is our story!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Source: Personnel Today - written by Sarah Turner, employment law partner Turner Parkinson

"What can employers do if they think staff's behaviour outside work oversteps the mark?

...There is an implied term in every employment contract that employees owe a duty of good faith and fidelity to their employers and there will be occasions when an employer can discipline or even dismiss an employee if conduct in their private life brings the employer into disrepute.

While some conduct outside of work can be classed as a disciplinary offence, it largely depends on the conduct, the nature of the employee's job and the potential damage to the employer's reputation. ...

What people get up to in their private lives, unless it affects their job, is largely their own business. An employer will have to be careful if they want to dismiss a member of staff without hard evidence that their actions have damaged the reputation of the company.

The 2003 case of Pay v Lancashire Probation Services. The employee sold bondage and sado-masochism products through a website and also performed in fetish clubs outside of work. When his activities came to light, he was dismissed.

The court took the common-sense approach and held the dismissal to be fair.

....

Disciplinary procedures can be clear about what constitutes misconduct and, in particular, employers should make sure that policies on computer use cover the possibility of an employee bringing the company into disrepute through blogging."

Being sacked may not always be straight forward - but it is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BLIMEY!!

thats a very long long story very long winded too!,,,,erm took u 3hours to write it did u? lol

interesting stuff that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure of the rules and regulations surrounding it but i should imagine its a legal nightmare.

I do know though that you can be sacked from your employment if you bring that business into disrepute ie; if you were a police officer or a nurse or wearing any noticable uniform and posing in it on a sex site, you know the kind of thing, nurses uniform, bending over, no knickers, that kind of thing. If you can see the organisation name in the picture or the organisation are easily identifiable then they can dismiss you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not sure of the rules and regulations surrounding it but i should imagine its a legal nightmare.

I do know though that you can be sacked from your employment if you bring that business into disrepute ie; if you were a police officer or a nurse or wearing any noticable uniform and posing in it on a sex site, you know the kind of thing, nurses uniform, bending over, no knickers, that kind of thing. If you can see the organisation name in the picture or the organisation are easily identifiable then they can dismiss you "

Yeah!! officials at work places can now do spot checks on a persons background etc like find out wot u like doing through the net,,ie "facebook" "fabswingers" the list is endless!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Yeah!! officials at work places can now do spot checks on a persons background etc like find out wot u like doing through the net,,ie "facebook" "fabswingers" the list is endless! "

Just as a side note to this, your employer can only monitor your computer usage during work IF they have made you aware they do it.

If they did not notify you before hand and use any evidence they found without your knowledge the case will collapse and a counter sue of invasion of privacy is common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah!! officials at work places can now do spot checks on a persons background etc like find out wot u like doing through the net,,ie "facebook" "fabswingers" the list is endless!

Just as a side note to this, your employer can only monitor your computer usage during work IF they have made you aware they do it.

If they did not notify you before hand and use any evidence they found without your knowledge the case will collapse and a counter sue of invasion of privacy is common."

Arrr----thanks 4 the backup info matey thats great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but what goes on in the club stays in the club thats the law dont you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but what goes on in the club stays in the club thats the law dont you know."

innit,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have bumped into someone i know in a club but it wasnt someone who i ever see regularly so i still cant imagine what that is like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah small world innit! couldnt agree more.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

i know for sure if my employer got wind of what we do i would be sacked right off for bringing the company name into a bad light.

I know a bloke who got sacked for saying his line manager was an arse and was overheared by someone from the company and this was a weekend night in a pub.

He did try to fight it but was told it would take years to win so never bothered

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah if u was found to be a swinger or bisexual at a work place u should be cautioned etc...or 1st written warning etc..

Candice.

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