FabSwingers.com forum: Social Dilema

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dawn and I were both looking forward to going our 1st social this Friday in Newcastle.

The dilema is our sitter has let us down, Dawn has said you should go, I like the idea as at least one of us could meet some great people and possible future meets, i have mailed a single fem from the area to see if she fancies it !! just social of course !!

no answer yet, what would others do if i dont get a reply or indeed in the same situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would go to the next social and be with my partner

nothing puritanical or preachy - i just like to hang on his coat tails and share these 'firsts'

there will always be more socials and if not you could organise one your self!

but if you do go have a smashing time xxxx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i agree, wait and go with your partner to the next one

if you go on your own you are likely to run the risk of being shuned as a single guy telling a tale of having a partener etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i agree, wait and go with your partner to the next one

if you go on your own you are likely to run the risk of being shuned as a single guy telling a tale of having a partener etc"
yes ty that was one of my fears.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

I've been contemplating offering a swingers baby sitting service, for perks only. Payment in kind up frot or in arrears, i don't mind sloppy seconds.

And biscuits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I've been contemplating offering a swingers baby sitting service, for perks only. Payment in kind up frot or in arrears, i don't mind sloppy seconds.

And biscuits.

why did I know I d find you among social dilemmas...;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As it's a first, I'd definitely wait and go with my partner. There will be other socials but you don't get a second chance to make a first impression - and the first impression you WANT to give is that you're with your partner, not flying solo accompanied by another woman.

Once you're known and established, boundaries and rules can be adjusted to suit both of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As it's a first, I'd definitely wait and go with my partner. There will be other socials but you don't get a second chance to make a first impression - and the first impression you WANT to give is that you're with your partner, not flying solo accompanied by another woman.

Once you're known and established, boundaries and rules can be adjusted to suit both of you."

thank you again very sound advise, but we are not new (3 yrs now) just to the social side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she should go then, and you stay home and babysit!

I have a feeling that she will find it easier to get a "partner" to attend with than you have found it.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I would wait and go with my partner to the next one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd be gutted if my partner took me up on that offer.

i'd say it out of consideration and love because i'd sense your disappointment, but i'd hope you would consider it and think that a greater disappointment would be to go without me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i'd be gutted if my partner took me up on that offer.

i'd say it out of consideration and love because i'd sense your disappointment, but i'd hope you would consider it and think that a greater disappointment would be to go without me."

thank you, you are right staying at home and have fun instead, and look forward to the next one xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" thank you, you are right staying at home and have fun instead, and look forward to the next one xxxx

...and no doubt will have an excellent time xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i would go wait until a time when you can both go. Its one thing a partner saying its ok for you to go and regale the tale afterwards but you run the risk of causing problems, cos we all say one thing but when it comes to it, then its a different matter. I wouldnt like my guy to go to a social without me, id be very very upset

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

"i agree, wait and go with your partner to the next one

if you go on your own you are likely to run the risk of being shuned as a single guy telling a tale of having a partener etc"

this is a social, why would you assume single guys get shunned at them. doesnt that actually negate the point of calling it a social

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"i agree, wait and go with your partner to the next one

if you go on your own you are likely to run the risk of being shuned as a single guy telling a tale of having a partener etc

this is a social, why would you assume single guys get shunned at them. doesnt that actually negate the point of calling it a social

i would say try reading what they said then say sorry as you seem to only have read half of it.

steve

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

"i agree, wait and go with your partner to the next one

if you go on your own you are likely to run the risk of being shuned as a single guy telling a tale of having a partener etc

this is a social, why would you assume single guys get shunned at them. doesnt that actually negate the point of calling it a social

i would say try reading what they said then say sorry as you seem to only have read half of it.

steve "

you are quite right i did misread it. apologies for that

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