FabSwingers.com forum: gut feelings

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you have a gut feelin someone aint gunna turn up do you go with instinct or go anyway just incase ur wrong. Bare in mind in married and if i am stood up it means a cold nite for me on the streets

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Why would it be a cold night on the streets? Don't you have a door key?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Told hub im going a friends for drinks so carnt come home ten mins later can i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have a gut feelin someone aint gunna turn up do you go with instinct or go anyway just incase ur wrong. Bare in mind in married and if i am stood up it means a cold nite for me on the streets "

Im the same as you (married). have been stood up before. Last year in the hot summer, luckily was daytime so I just got a drink and went to the shops. Had a couple of early evenings though, again I just stayed in the bar on my own, yes sad I know, but had to be done as I couldnt go home too early. Are you able to stay out alone? Im sure he wont stand you up though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you think the person will turn up?

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Well I guess you have to turn up if you have agreed...as if you don't and they do they will feel like you think you might feel later if you do and they don't!

i am only fairly sure that makes sense!

I hope they [and you] do though and you have a great time

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would message him and say I'm not confident you're going to show so I'm cancelling,sorry. I don't know why you feel he won't but go with your instincts and let him know

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Nip out and buy a magazine, then you'll have something to read. Or if you want to go home, just tell the hubs you got to the pub or whatever and it was cancelled.

Have you tried ringing your date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would it be a cold night on the streets? Don't you have a door key?

Think the OP is suggesting if she's going out, she then has to be out some time because of whatever cover story.

OP, can you get in touch with them to ask them to confirm if they're definitely coming? Hate to say, my gut feeling has always been right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you heard from them today?

Ive been in that situation a few times. The first time i went against my insticts ...wish id stayed at home as he didnt turn up. Now if ive nit exchanged message or spoke on the day of the meet i dont go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Told hub im going a friends for drinks so carnt come home ten mins later can i"

You could tell him you did feel very well so came home

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Meeting in a carpark lol.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Told hub im going a friends for drinks so carnt come home ten mins later can i"

You can if she had to cancel due to something. If you're going to choose to cheat then you should at least have a lot of good stories to use.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don't you think the person will turn up?"

Carnt pm you hun.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Why would it be a cold night on the streets? Don't you have a door key?

Think the OP is suggesting if she's going out, she then has to be out some time because of whatever cover story.

OP, can you get in touch with them to ask them to confirm if they're definitely coming? Hate to say, my gut feeling has always been right

I did think that afterwards I was looking at it from a single person perspective. Also I agree with Anna if your gut feeling is telling you something it's usually right

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I always go with my gut feeling and so Id be contacting him to apologise and let him know that I wasnt going to be meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Told hub im going a friends for drinks so carnt come home ten mins later can i"

Tell hubby you came home cos you felt ill.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Fuck that meeting in a car park stay in the warm..

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Nice to see the forum double standards are thriving

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I see your problem...yes, best try to find out for sure whether they are going to turn up... I presume you have sorted the story with your friend? Imagine if they were to ring asking for you when you are supposed to be there...

Hope it all works out

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Nice to see the forum double standards are thriving"

I have to agree. If it was a guy posting the same he would probably have been hung, drawn and quartered by now, the dirty cheating dog....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Nice to see the forum double standards are thriving

I have to agree. If it was a guy posting the same he would probably have been hung, drawn and quartered by now, the dirty cheating dog...."

With an apple stuffed in his gob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to see the forum double standards are thriving

I have to agree. If it was a guy posting the same he would probably have been hung, drawn and quartered by now, the dirty cheating dog...."

Sadly yes...but if it were a man not posting asking for comment on their marital situation they shouldn't be castigated for it either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meeting in a carpark lol.

Bugger that, meet somewhere warmer! (And safer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a firm believer of gut feelings, if it does not feel right i dont proceed with anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't you think the person will turn up?

Carnt pm you hun. "

Cant pm you either, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust your gut instinct, but let him know.

The forums treat cheating women so differently to how it treats cheating men doesn't it.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Each to their own...There are all types of people in all types of situations on the site. It's hard to judge anyone without loads of facts we don't [and probably shouldn't] know.

But it is surely cold out there tonight so wrap up if you think you are going to have to brave the weather

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dont judge me for my actions as non of you now my personal circumstances

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Dont judge me for my actions as non of you now my personal circumstances

No one is judging you for your actions that's the thing..you are getting off lightly compared to a married man who may post the same thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just choose a bit better next time, I see loads of women all moaning they get stood up .

Just remember if it seems too good to be true it probably is.

And most guys that ca do the online dating thing really well are not good in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice to see the forum double standards are thriving

I have to agree. If it was a guy posting the same he would probably have been hung, drawn and quartered by now, the dirty cheating dog...."

my answer would have been the same if it was a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your gut feeling.

My gut feeling after reading your post is. Steer well clear. Far too tricky. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously, a car park? Classy stuff...

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Dont judge me for my actions as non of you now my personal circumstances

I'm certainly not judging you, I'm one of the single males who can't accommodate who most of the wise and wonderful forum folk assume is married or in a relationship.

As stated by others, all I was pointing out was if a male had started this thread saying the exact same thing as you, it wouldn't be helpful advice he'd be receiving.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts so I think we can leave it there

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