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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered what people's views are on first meet sex.......

A lot of us insist on a social first and that makes perfect sense as you need to feel a connection and attraction surely to sleep with someone but I'm curious to know what your opinions are and the arguments for and against having sex on a first meet.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I very rarely had socials when I was meeting, it was all first meet sex. I understand why people do it but for me the sex was all I wanted lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer sex on the first meet

I like to meet in public first for a drink and a chat but if I've spend time chatting and flirting and its clear we like each other I want to fuck him now! While its all fresh and horny not go home and re arrange in 3 weeks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer sex on the first meet

I like to meet in public first for a drink and a chat but if I've spend time chatting and flirting and its clear we like each other I want to fuck him now! While its all fresh and horny not go home and re arrange in 3 weeks "

Yeah I like your thinking, sometimes making plans just takes all the spark and excitement out of it. Much prefer spontaneous sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what sex you require. If its a random bj I just go through with it. If its full sex yeah social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly all my sex has been on a first meet. If I have a social and it doesn't end up with sex it never will. I've only had 2 meets that didn't do it for me and both of those stared as a social meet. You can't always tell how someone will behave in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nearly all my sex has been on a first meet. If I have a social and it doesn't end up with sex it never will. I've only had 2 meets that didn't do it for me and both of those stared as a social meet. You can't always tell how someone will behave in bed "

Yeah I agree with that, I have never met anyone for a drink and not had sex to go onto arranging another time, in my experience if it don't happen first meetmit never will

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nearly all my sex has been on a first meet. If I have a social and it doesn't end up with sex it never will. I've only had 2 meets that didn't do it for me and both of those stared as a social meet. You can't always tell how someone will behave in bed "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet ready to play... If we go our separate ways it's unlikely we'll have sex. Think the only time I've arranged a play meet after a social that didn't end in sex was purely because we tried to go to a club to play but they were closed. We couldn't go to their at they had kids at home and mine was a bit too far away so they would have struggled to get home... Was very frustrating for all!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We always meet for a social first but are ready to play if we click. The drink and chat in a neutral venue first make things feel less pressured.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I like to know why I am leaving the house, I don't really do 'Well maybe we will and maybe we won't....'

I either talk until I am sure I want to meet, or have a social if I am not sure. And funnily enough I agree with the ladies, my gut feel is usually right, and most social meets do not go further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had sex on a first meet before, but if I have a separate social then it's usually a quick coffee at lunchtime or drink after work, rather than anything that could lead to anything. I like to know what I'm doing without the uncertainty of a maybe this, maybe that situation, and also I have to plan things in advance so I need certainty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No hard and fast rules here....I do like a social and have had socials and gone on to arrange sex further along the line and I've had first meet sex too....makes little difference, I tend to go with the flow of things and not overthink.....stuff just works out the way it does.

In fact my best meet was for sex, turned up at the ladies house and she was all done up, heels and outfit blah blah blah....we ended up rolling about laughing for the night and had bugger all sex...we did go on to have a long run of very good sex after that so I dunno, I really don't think one meet with someone dictates the next....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets are for playtimes cos thats wot im here for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nearly all my sex has been on a first meet. If I have a social and it doesn't end up with sex it never will. I've only had 2 meets that didn't do it for me and both of those stared as a social meet. You can't always tell how someone will behave in bed

Yeah I agree with that, I have never met anyone for a drink and not had sex to go onto arranging another time, in my experience if it don't happen first meetmit never will"

If I'm not excited about a man just by messaging him I won't agree to meet to see if an attraction might be there. If a man can interest me by message I don't need to meet him to know if I want sex with him. I will still meet for a drink if he wants to but we always end up having sex

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Hmm, there are exceptions for me - someone local I'd hardly talked to once asked me out for a Pimm's on a glorious summer evening, and I thought why not! Then I was invited to test drive some cars round Brand's Hatch that evening, have a BBQ - so I took him along to that and we did both, and just had the most lovely 'date'!!

The luxury hotel followed a few days later....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmm, there are exceptions for me - someone local I'd hardly talked to once asked me out for a Pimm's on a glorious summer evening, and I thought why not! Then I was invited to test drive some cars round Brand's Hatch that evening, have a BBQ - so I took him along to that and we did both, and just had the most lovely 'date'!!

The luxury hotel followed a few days later.... "

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