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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok i no i aint the only one that this subject confuses so here goes a guy puts straight on his profile however in the chat rooms he gose gaga over tv's sumome plz explain this 2 me how can u be straight wen ur chattin tv's up or wen u fab other men cock pics lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe because they are confused themselves and not brave enough to put curious or bi on their profile yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe because they are confused themselves and not brave enough to put curious or bi on their profile yet"

Very true hun better to be honest with urself tho than lie especially if ur on a site like this x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Why do you care how someone else identifies? Does it make any difference to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because they are confused themselves and not brave enough to put curious or bi on their profile yet

Very true hun better to be honest with urself tho than lie especially if ur on a site like this x "

They may not be lying just unsure what they are so until they work that out they stay as straight!

Ive been down as straight on here just to stop couples from messaging me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I've seen on here and therefore in 'real life', is that sexuality is fluid. It changes and moves. It's not black and White, or top, middle or bottom.

This guy in question obviously fancies women. But can find feminine traits in people who aren't women attractive.

Does this make him gay? No. Does it make him bi? One could argue not. He finds female attributes attractive. Nothing masculine.

As long as we have to label ourselves on here. Prepared to be confused and let people discribe themselves in a way that makes sense to them and makes them happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha this reminds me of when we met a couple where the guy was straight. He was adamant he couldn't have any contact with my OH who plays bi but when we met went on to tell us how he loves meeting TV's lol.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've long since given up looking at the orientation of people who send me nice messages. There are people out there who whilst they may like a well turned out TG, would not want a hairy 18 stone miner messaging them*

*any hairy 18 stone miners on here, please feel free to contact me, as they are an endangered species round here and should be preserved in a museum.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Maybe because they are confused themselves and not brave enough to put curious or bi on their profile yet

Very true hun better to be honest with urself tho than lie especially if ur on a site like this x "

people 'lie' to have sex..

bloody norah..

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No strings pretty much means it's nobody else's business what or whom anyone else chooses to do.

Sexuality can be fluid whereas labels are usually fairly rigid.

Do what suits you, within reason, and leave everyone else to do their thing.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

'cause if they are wearing a dress or skirt, you ain't gay, innit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you care how someone else identifies? Does it make any difference to you?"

Lmao i was simply askin a question as i was curious that is all. If people want to say they r straight wen there not that is up 2 them i have no problem with that like i said is just a question so carm down on the defensiveness

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Why do you care how someone else identifies? Does it make any difference to you?

Lmao i was simply askin a question as i was curious that is all. If people want to say they r straight wen there not that is up 2 them i have no problem with that like i said is just a question so carm down on the defensiveness"

Just because you think they aren't straight doesn't mean they aren't. If they consider themselves straight then that's up to them. It doesn't mean they are lying, just that they see things differently to you.

You're not "just asking", you're accusing a group of people of lying because they don't have the same definitions you do.

Worry about yourself, leave other people to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you "carm" down.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"'cause if they are wearing a dress or skirt, you ain't gay, innit "

Ok, look at it this way.

If a man wouldn't play with any man in man mode can he be said to be truly bi? If he'll play with a TV, then maybe he isn't truly straight either but there isn't a term in between. He has to choose one so he chooses which one seems to fit best.

If he puts bi, he's going to get offers from a load of men. I can see why guys interested in TVs but not men put straight.

Saying bi is just as inaccurate.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

The problem is down to trying to stick precise labels on fluid aspects.

Just find people who like what you like. Sod the labels. They can only ever be guidelines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'cause if they are wearing a dress or skirt, you ain't gay, innit

Ok, look at it this way.

If a man wouldn't play with any man in man mode can he be said to be truly bi? If he'll play with a TV, then maybe he isn't truly straight either but there isn't a term in between. He has to choose one so he chooses which one seems to fit best.

If he puts bi, he's going to get offers from a load of men. I can see why guys interested in TVs but not men put straight.

Saying bi is just as inaccurate."

I'd go along with this. I love extremely feminine looking t girls, really enjoy performing oral on them too, the thought of doing that with some other dude does absolutely nothing for me. But every has their own ideas/interpretations on these types of matters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, you "carm" down.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"'cause if they are wearing a dress or skirt, you ain't gay, innit

Ok, look at it this way.

If a man wouldn't play with any man in man mode can he be said to be truly bi? If he'll play with a TV, then maybe he isn't truly straight either but there isn't a term in between. He has to choose one so he chooses which one seems to fit best.

If he puts bi, he's going to get offers from a load of men. I can see why guys interested in TVs but not men put straight.

Saying bi is just as inaccurate.

I'd go along with this. I love extremely feminine looking t girls, really enjoy performing oral on them too, the thought of doing that with some other dude does absolutely nothing for me. But every has their own ideas/interpretations on these types of matters"

And some seem to believe their definitions are gospel and anyone using any other is lying.

Some women play with other women occasionally, in the right circumstances but since there isn't an "occasionally open to girl-on-girl in the right circumstances" option, they call themselves straight because they're not actually bi.

TVs are men but I can see a difference between playing with TVs and playing with men that we don't have terms to describe.

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By *cankeepMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"'cause if they are wearing a dress or skirt, you ain't gay, innit

Ok, look at it this way.

If a man wouldn't play with any man in man mode can he be said to be truly bi? If he'll play with a TV, then maybe he isn't truly straight either but there isn't a term in between. He has to choose one so he chooses which one seems to fit best.

If he puts bi, he's going to get offers from a load of men. I can see why guys interested in TVs but not men put straight.

Saying bi is just as inaccurate.

I'd go along with this. I love extremely feminine looking t girls, really enjoy performing oral on them too, the thought of doing that with some other dude does absolutely nothing for me. But every has their own ideas/interpretations on these types of matters

And some seem to believe their definitions are gospel and anyone using any other is lying.

Some women play with other women occasionally, in the right circumstances but since there isn't an "occasionally open to girl-on-girl in the right circumstances" option, they call themselves straight because they're not actually bi.

TVs are men but I can see a difference between playing with TVs and playing with men that we don't have terms to describe."

I think you're right VV

I usually think of some guys who have straight on their profiles - but who play around with anything other than women as 'self identifying straight'.

I don't care with any of it as long as they're hot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you to all the informative replies.

I just wanted to ask as the tv side is something that i never really come across until we got on here

X

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Thank you to all the informative replies.

I just wanted to ask as the tv side is something that i never really come across until we got on here

X"

Waves and says hi

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Why do you care how someone else identifies? Does it make any difference to you?"

It might if the person turns out to be bi when they think he is straight and are looking to meet straight men.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Why do you care how someone else identifies? Does it make any difference to you?

It might if the person turns out to be bi when they think he is straight and are looking to meet straight men. "

Fair enough but like I pointed out, the term bi isn't exactly clear cut.

I don't think bi is an accurate term for a man who won't meet other men in man-mode. Our labels and definitions don't cover the myriad of possibilities on the sexuality spectrum.

Of course, they can specify they only want to meet men who meet only women but plenty could lie without them having an idea.

It's not really up to anyone else to tell an individual what their sexuality is was my point. They can have an opinion on it, sure, but to say anyone who doesn't identify the way we think they should is a liar is a bit off.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To be fair, if you swing both ways and say you only swing one way then you are lying...especially to yourself.

I think in the "real " world there shouldn't be any labels....but on the likes of sites like this you have to be in some sort of box so people can see what you are looking for, or we would all have profiles that say...anybody wanted.

I think there are a lot of men out there who hide their sexuality and sometimes I can understand why but it would be a lot easier for everyone if they describe how far down the spectrum they are where it concerns their sexual preference.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"To be fair, if you swing both ways and say you only swing one way then you are lying...especially to yourself.

I think in the "real " world there shouldn't be any labels....but on the likes of sites like this you have to be in some sort of box so people can see what you are looking for, or we would all have profiles that say...anybody wanted.

I think there are a lot of men out there who hide their sexuality and sometimes I can understand why but it would be a lot easier for everyone if they describe how far down the spectrum they are where it concerns their sexual preference.

"

Not meeting men-men but meeting TVs isn't quite swinging both ways though, is it?

They're not really bi, so shouldn't mislead the men-men but aren't exactly straight either. They have to pick an option, even though there isn't one that actually suits them.

If I was male and met TVs but didn't meet men-men I probably wouldn't label myself bi either because I wouldn't want to invite men to contact me.

I suppose I could say bi and block men but it's still not really accurate. And we'd still get moans on here about why do men say they are bi and then block men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby adores an attractive T girl but never fancies a man. He says it's hard to explain but is very erotic because he is playing with a female in his eyes - even though the genitalia is male - does that make sense?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"My hubby adores an attractive T girl but never fancies a man. He says it's hard to explain but is very erotic because he is playing with a female in his eyes - even though the genitalia is male - does that make sense? "

To me, yes. To others, some yes, some no.

I don't think it matters as long as it's all consensual, everyone has fun and nobody is harmed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I have to say - some of our very best meets have been me, the hubby and a sexy T girl - yummy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be fair, if you swing both ways and say you only swing one way then you are lying...especially to yourself.

I think in the "real " world there shouldn't be any labels....but on the likes of sites like this you have to be in some sort of box so people can see what you are looking for, or we would all have profiles that say...anybody wanted.

I think there are a lot of men out there who hide their sexuality and sometimes I can understand why but it would be a lot easier for everyone if they describe how far down the spectrum they are where it concerns their sexual preference.

"

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Surely you can be straight but still appreciate a tv,s feminity from a distance??

Whats the harm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even better 6 inches from her belly button with her cock in your mouth

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"To be fair, if you swing both ways and say you only swing one way then you are lying...especially to yourself.

I think in the "real " world there shouldn't be any labels....but on the likes of sites like this you have to be in some sort of box so people can see what you are looking for, or we would all have profiles that say...anybody wanted.

I think there are a lot of men out there who hide their sexuality and sometimes I can understand why but it would be a lot easier for everyone if they describe how far down the spectrum they are where it concerns their sexual preference.

Not meeting men-men but meeting TVs isn't quite swinging both ways though, is it?

They're not really bi, so shouldn't mislead the men-men but aren't exactly straight either. They have to pick an option, even though there isn't one that actually suits them.

If I was male and met TVs but didn't meet men-men I probably wouldn't label myself bi either because I wouldn't want to invite men to contact me.

I suppose I could say bi and block men but it's still not really accurate. And we'd still get moans on here about why do men say they are bi and then block men..."

Yeah now I think I am lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some very attractive tv's on here and also some very attractive women, does that make me bi-curious or bisexual?

No it doesnt

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Saying someone is attractive doesn't make you bi no....it isn't catching

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