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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How's yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How's yours? "
crap...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up n down, depends on the day.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the highest or lowest its ever been, so not bad at the moment

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

Up and down depending on the situation and the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its very good now .. I learn to love myself for who I am not what others wish me to be .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its not great, sometimes I'd face down king kong with a smile on my face....

It normally errs toward the pretty damn good though I must say....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty good. Both quite confident in the way we handle things so feed off and support each other.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Improving as I feel more confident with my body since losing weight but improvements can still be made.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

not good at mo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long gone.

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By *lec4385Man
over a year ago

Colchester


"How's yours? "

Good at the moment but when I start my new job in 2weeks time will be almost gone

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It's good best than it's ever been but I still get wobbly days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty damn low to be honest

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Good ty..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad after a messy break up but I'm on the road to recovery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very good at the moment. Losing the weight that I put back on. More plastic surgery this year to put more of my body right so it can only get better .xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quiet

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Pretty damn low to be honest "

Nooooooooooooo aww Hun

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Generally OK with the occasional (usually tiredness or hormone related) crap day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non - existent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest it depends who I'm with, some people make me feel more confident than others, when meeting new people it's really bad, I hate that feeling of meeting someone for the first time and hoping I don't see that look of disopointment on their face when I turn up, once I have met them and I know they like me my confident around them rises

In everyday life like my job I'm a very confident person bcause I know I'm good at my job and the people i go into and help dont care what i look like, its when my looks are being judged I loose it a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Up n down, depends on the day....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

since being on here its been amazing, ive got hundreds of hunky men telling me how beautiful and wonderful i am and that i really am the best thing since sliced bread.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is very high. I cant believe how awesome i am sometimes

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually alright, but like everyone I have my down days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"since being on here its been amazing, ive got hundreds of hunky men telling me how beautiful and wonderful i am and that i really am the best thing since sliced bread.. lol

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Since bread of any description.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody great all day until i log into here !!!!! Then it gets kicked right down the pitch ! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty damn low to be honest

Nooooooooooooo aww Hun "

You get back to your voddy

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Mines great thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty low tbh. I dislike myself a lot of the time, but there are people who make me feel better about myself and then the occasional t**t that sends me crashing down again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers "

Yeah I had one of those, when I was married I wasn't allowed to walk round the house in anything other than fully dressed as he said I made him feel sick, amoungst other nasty comments, people tell you to ignor it but comments like that stick, I still get very insecure when I get naked infront of men because of all the things he used to say to me, when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would fuck me would be desperate guys who hadnt had a shag in months, thing is I know he's right and I think that's why I get insecure around people but I have need sexually so sometimes you have to put that behind you

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

On a scale of 1- 10 I'm currently floating around a 7 which is for those that know me fan bloody tastic

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers "

My first husband was like that. And he'd tell me I was fat and ugly and no one else would ever want me. It was only after I split up with him I got some self confidence. And my husband now is the complete opposite.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"How's yours? "

Ok-ish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovers14 - did your husband have a white stick and a Labrador ? You're stunning !! xxx

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Is this a trick question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovers14 - did your husband have a white stick and a Labrador ? You're stunning !! xxx"

I don't think its a case of what she looks like its just a way of putting people down isn't it

Men know women in general are hung up on weight so calling them about it will upset most whether they are fat or not

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Lovers14 - did your husband have a white stick and a Labrador ? You're stunning !! xxx

I don't think its a case of what she looks like its just a way of putting people down isn't it

Men know women in general are hung up on weight so calling them about it will upset most whether they are fat or not "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers

Yeah I had one of those, when I was married I wasn't allowed to walk round the house in anything other than fully dressed as he said I made him feel sick, amoungst other nasty comments, people tell you to ignor it but comments like that stick, I still get very insecure when I get naked infront of men because of all the things he used to say to me, when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would fuck me would be desperate guys who hadnt had a shag in months, thing is I know he's right and I think that's why I get insecure around people but I have need sexually so sometimes you have to put that behind you "

I think you have a very attractive mind and that goes a long way.

Can't speak for you physically as I've only seen pics you've put on your profile and I guess they're ones tailored to present a side of yourself you want to be seen....the ones you do have up I like though.

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Lovers14 - did your husband have a white stick and a Labrador ? You're stunning !! xxx"

Lol, thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually good but had a shite day and it's teetering on rock bottom atm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers

Yeah I had one of those, when I was married I wasn't allowed to walk round the house in anything other than fully dressed as he said I made him feel sick, amoungst other nasty comments, people tell you to ignor it but comments like that stick, I still get very insecure when I get naked infront of men because of all the things he used to say to me, when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would fuck me would be desperate guys who hadnt had a shag in months, thing is I know he's right and I think that's why I get insecure around people but I have need sexually so sometimes you have to put that behind you

I think you have a very attractive mind and that goes a long way.

Can't speak for you physically as I've only seen pics you've put on your profile and I guess they're ones tailored to present a side of yourself you want to be seen....the ones you do have up I like though. "

Hey I'm a nice person lol

I remember a guy I met saying to me once that the sexiest thing about me was I had no idea how sexy I really was

That was a ahhhh moment, one of the nicest compliments I've ever had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what was the question ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what was the question ?"

Who's round is it

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I sometimes am very shy xx

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Work,real world very self-confident. Years of being ignored as a woman. Now I am rediscovering who I am and my self-confidence is growing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't let myself think negative things as I know others can make you feel crap as it makes them feel better in some way about themselves . So I take control and tell myself don't go there in my head . I am into positive thinking and what we believe becomes true to us . Taken years to get to this but I am not beating my self up over others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers

Yeah I had one of those, when I was married I wasn't allowed to walk round the house in anything other than fully dressed as he said I made him feel sick, amoungst other nasty comments, people tell you to ignor it but comments like that stick, I still get very insecure when I get naked infront of men because of all the things he used to say to me, when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would fuck me would be desperate guys who hadnt had a shag in months, thing is I know he's right and I think that's why I get insecure around people but I have need sexually so sometimes you have to put that behind you

I think you have a very attractive mind and that goes a long way.

Can't speak for you physically as I've only seen pics you've put on your profile and I guess they're ones tailored to present a side of yourself you want to be seen....the ones you do have up I like though.

Hey I'm a nice person lol

I remember a guy I met saying to me once that the sexiest thing about me was I had no idea how sexy I really was

That was a ahhhh moment, one of the nicest compliments I've ever had "
And he is right your a lovely woman . x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most days it's fairly good, but every now and then it completely vanishes. Being single, I've got quite good at kicking my own arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not shy at all.

What you see is what you get with me.

If you meet Ben..you get Ben...

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

At work, very confident. I know my job inside out and I do it well.

Socially, getting there sometimes more confident than others and it tends to depend on who's around me.

Bodywise and Sexually; am working on it and it's taken a lot...Bugs has played a huge part in helping to me to learn to love myself. 10years in a very damaging relationship certainly left their mark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its very good now .. I learn to love myself for who I am not what others wish me to be . "

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over a year ago

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Most of the time it's zero, sometimes even during a meet I'm self conscious

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Enough to be happy to be going on a stage within the next few weeks - in drab mode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Enough to be happy to be going on a stage within the next few weeks - in drab mode "

Not singing are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Enough to be happy to be going on a stage within the next few weeks - in drab mode "

Stand up? Or are they offering you a chair?

Ba-dum tish!

I'll leave the comedy to you Tina. Good luck by the way!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I'm not shy at all.

What you see is what you get with me.

If you meet Ben..you get Ben... "

What if it's a different Ben you want to meet?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers "

The world needs more men like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers

Yeah I had one of those, when I was married I wasn't allowed to walk round the house in anything other than fully dressed as he said I made him feel sick, amoungst other nasty comments, people tell you to ignor it but comments like that stick, I still get very insecure when I get naked infront of men because of all the things he used to say to me, when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would fuck me would be desperate guys who hadnt had a shag in months, thing is I know he's right and I think that's why I get insecure around people but I have need sexually so sometimes you have to put that behind you

I think you have a very attractive mind and that goes a long way.

Can't speak for you physically as I've only seen pics you've put on your profile and I guess they're ones tailored to present a side of yourself you want to be seen....the ones you do have up I like though.

Hey I'm a nice person lol

I remember a guy I met saying to me once that the sexiest thing about me was I had no idea how sexy I really was

That was a ahhhh moment, one of the nicest compliments I've ever had "

And they'd be right....somebody who's not up their own bottom is far more attractive than someone who's beautiful and knows it....if that makes sense? Probably not....err.....think he was trying to say your attractive but not a bitch with it ya know....your just, well....you, or so it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my confidence is managed my a random number generator? Totally unpredictable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it's zero, sometimes even during a meet I'm self conscious "

I find that hard to fathom as your really attractive as far as I can see....but then, I know what you mean as I'm quite self concious when meeting, especially meeting someone the first couple of times..not so bad it stops me but I'm aware of myself and do at times wonder how the other person is _iewing me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not great to be perfectly honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it's zero, sometimes even during a meet I'm self conscious

I find that hard to fathom as your really attractive as far as I can see....but then, I know what you mean as I'm quite self concious when meeting, especially meeting someone the first couple of times..not so bad it stops me but I'm aware of myself and do at times wonder how the other person is _iewing me. "

I always say to people

Remember not everyone will see you as your see yourself

Classic example right there

God I love being right lol

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Most of the time it's zero, sometimes even during a meet I'm self conscious

I find that hard to fathom as your really attractive as far as I can see....but then, I know what you mean as I'm quite self concious when meeting, especially meeting someone the first couple of times..not so bad it stops me but I'm aware of myself and do at times wonder how the other person is _iewing me. "

Even if just meeting for a drink, I'm very aware of what people around might be thinking, more so if the guy is hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on situations, what sort of day I'm having

Can be high can be low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok for a serious answer,,

i have aniexty issues so push folk away when i think things are great.

i frustrate myself because i know once the initial 10 seconds of being with someone new physically is over with im fine, and confident. just have that worry/fear of initial acceptance or rejection. Im no different on here to how i am in the flesh yet i cant get over the anxiety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be better.need lost weight after have baby 8 months ago.that sound shift .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty good but largely because I know and accept more myself now. I tend to think "sod you" to anyone that takes a dislike to me when I haven't done anything to hurt or insult them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So so... But must admit I take every compliment on fab with a MASSIVE pinch of salt. I know that most of the time things are said just to secure a meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very good at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more I drink the more confident I get

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By *lec4385Man
over a year ago

Colchester


"since being on here its been amazing, ive got hundreds of hunky men telling me how beautiful and wonderful i am and that i really am the best thing since sliced bread.. lol

"

Well I am not going to disagree with them mmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is always high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is always high "

Whey hey you can always trust shag to come and lighten the mood

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By *imnher2Woman
over a year ago

watford

always had self confidence issues, put it all down to my weight but now 5 stone less in under 4 months feel no different so think it something i have to live with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have self confidence to stand on stage in front of thousands of people but no confidence when it comes to getting sex with women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's poo.

I won't go into detail but I don't like what I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Through the fucking roof!

*Slumps in corner wanking and crying*.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's poo.

I won't go into detail but I don't like what I see"

I think its common

I also think a lot forget men have body issues too x

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I have none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's poo.

I won't go into detail but I don't like what I see"

I know it's all in the mind and most have issues...me more than most ....but I don't think you need to worry ......your almost making me bend !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's poo.

I won't go into detail but I don't like what I see

I know it's all in the mind and most have issues...me more than most ....but I don't think you need to worry ......your almost making me bend ! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is jolly high , it is handy to hide behind our profile masks lol.

Best to not worry about what others think its a reflection on them not you,,,, unless you think I am hot and sexy lol then I whole heartily agree

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's poo.

I won't go into detail but I don't like what I see

I know it's all in the mind and most have issues...me more than most ....but I don't think you need to worry ......your almost making me bend ! "

Hahahaha.

Thanks for the kind words.

I do agree with the above. Men have a lot of issues to I guess we don't like to show it Or talk about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is always high

Whey hey you can always trust shag to come and lighten the mood "
Thanks and yes I alwais do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is always high

Whey hey you can always trust shag to come and lighten the mood Thanks and yes I alwais do "

Shag, you must be the most confident guy on here. If I was a woman, I'd slide on your greasy pole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubbish, dont feel good about myself at all. Having a fat day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is always high

Whey hey you can always trust shag to come and lighten the mood Thanks and yes I alwais do

Shag, you must be the most confident guy on here. If I was a woman, I'd slide on your greasy pole "

You would have to fight me for it ......

I don't have my face pic on .....can't stand looking at it myself....don't even shave with a mirror......I don't miss the ear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rubbish, dont feel good about myself at all. Having a fat day "

You're not fat in the slightest. Anyway, men don't care about women's stomachs anywhere near as much as women do.

I'll come to your party on Saturday with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence "

The only thing I am reasonably confident about is my arse. I have had one or two nice comments about it, so sticking with it as an avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence

The only thing I am reasonably confident about is my arse. I have had one or two nice comments about it, so sticking with it as an avatar. "

I'm not that fussed about my arse either, I have a few arse pics I don't mind people seeing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence

The only thing I am reasonably confident about is my arse. I have had one or two nice comments about it, so sticking with it as an avatar.

I'm not that fussed about my arse either, I have a few arse pics I don't mind people seeing that "

Just researched it .........

It's more than smackable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is always high

Whey hey you can always trust shag to come and lighten the mood Thanks and yes I alwais do

Shag, you must be the most confident guy on here. If I was a woman, I'd slide on your greasy pole "
Thanks and yes they would need to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overall I'm pretty happy with my self-confidence, see plenty of people who put themselves down, or, conversely, fake their confidence and aren't happy away from their 'comfortable' environments. I'd rather be driven by insecurity than arrogance though.

Most people struggle to stay consistent across their lives though, it's natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best it has been ever. But then it was near the floor before.

I guess it's a combination of being more comfortable with myself as I get older and noticing any positivity that comes my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence "

But if it's a photo you've taken that you feel you've portrayed a flattering _iew of yourself - that's not incompatible with having body issues and hang ups. It's very different taking and potentially filtering a photo of yourself than it is standing naked and exposed.

I'm playing devil's advocate here, I don't have naked shots because of my stomach, but I think the point still stands.

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence

But if it's a photo you've taken that you feel you've portrayed a flattering _iew of yourself - that's not incompatible with having body issues and hang ups. It's very different taking and potentially filtering a photo of yourself than it is standing naked and exposed.

I'm playing devil's advocate here, I don't have naked shots because of my stomach, but I think the point still stands. "

I wouldn't show my stomach but am ok with (not nude, it has to be said) photos showing the bits of me I like, so I'd completely agree with your point here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence

But if it's a photo you've taken that you feel you've portrayed a flattering _iew of yourself - that's not incompatible with having body issues and hang ups. It's very different taking and potentially filtering a photo of yourself than it is standing naked and exposed.

I'm playing devil's advocate here, I don't have naked shots because of my stomach, but I think the point still stands. "

Suppose it depends how you _iew things

Me personally would never put up a naked pics and I feel its quite a confident thing to do, OK so if you want to meet people have to know what you look like but you don't have to be naked to portray yourself you choose to do that

That's just how I see it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bodybuilding/weight training improves the self confidence x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's alright though not at my peak, but usually find a deserve somewhere when called for. Sometimes you don't know what strength you have until the test.

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

mines gone up abit recently, but for the girls here I would of thought being in demand helps, heck if you met someone who was horrible its not like you cant find another man quickly here.

while as a guy the numbers here are against you and if it goes badly there probably isn't a replacement in the near future, oh and the requirement to be "exceptional"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mines gone up abit recently, but for the girls here I would of thought being in demand helps, heck if you met someone who was horrible its not like you cant find another man quickly here.

"

Not really a confidance boost knowing the only reason you get 50 messgages a day is because women are in short supply and the men and cut and pasting the same message to all of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great! Thanks very much for asking

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

true, neither is the silence back :p

madness of the human condition I guess

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Mine is high.

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By *smCouple
over a year ago

Liskeard


"My lovely wife always suffers from a lack of self-confidence, mainly because she was married to a man who never complimented her or made her feel good (you know the type) - so my mission in life is to remind how lovely and sexy she is as often as I can and generally put a smile on that beautiful face of hers

Yeah I had one of those, when I was married I wasn't allowed to walk round the house in anything other than fully dressed as he said I made him feel sick, amoungst other nasty comments, people tell you to ignor it but comments like that stick, I still get very insecure when I get naked infront of men because of all the things he used to say to me, when we split he told me no other guy would want me and the only men who would fuck me would be desperate guys who hadnt had a shag in months, thing is I know he's right and I think that's why I get insecure around people but I have need sexually so sometimes you have to put that behind you "

Been there done that got the over sized Tshirt to hide in, then I discovered sex, real no strings attached sex, men and women telling me I was sexy, met my lovely FSM whowas wowed by my sexual confidence, and thought I was the sexiest thing in the world. I now carry that inside, and it boosts my confidence , even in every day things,

Ps if I you ever miss your ex.... Take a deep breath, and take aim again ,

If you bump into him. Remember to put the car in reverse and do it again .

Hugs to those who have suffered from insensitive bulling arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think that people with low self confidence should try a little harder, something's wrong, you're not naive, you must be strong. Oh baby, try...you're too shy, shy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have very little at the moment. I'm angry with myself for putting on weight .....I'll be fine once I get back into my jeans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it's zero, sometimes even during a meet I'm self conscious

I find that hard to fathom as your really attractive as far as I can see....but then, I know what you mean as I'm quite self concious when meeting, especially meeting someone the first couple of times..not so bad it stops me but I'm aware of myself and do at times wonder how the other person is _iewing me.

I always say to people

Remember not everyone will see you as your see yourself

Classic example right there

God I love being right lol"

Nobody likes a smart arse

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

In daily life I have loads of confidence.

I'm very confident in my ability to do things and to learn.

In terms of my confidence in how I look, physically, that's very variable; sometimes high, sometimes very, very low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it's zero, sometimes even during a meet I'm self conscious

I find that hard to fathom as your really attractive as far as I can see....but then, I know what you mean as I'm quite self concious when meeting, especially meeting someone the first couple of times..not so bad it stops me but I'm aware of myself and do at times wonder how the other person is _iewing me.

Even if just meeting for a drink, I'm very aware of what people around might be thinking, more so if the guy is hot. "

I'm more aware of what the person I'm with thinks rather than others around me think...and yeah, if I veiw them as hot makes a difference too I guess..maybe.

It's not what I'd call a worry....an awareness perhaps of the bits I don't like about myself....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is very high. I cant believe how awesome i am sometimes "

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

High I even get up in the morning look in to the mirror and say god you are fucking gorgeous ok the last bit was a lie haha

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Personally I think that people with low self confidence should try a little harder, something's wrong, you're not naive, you must be strong. Oh baby, try...you're too shy, shy."

I want to imagine something on the limits of your abilities, could be cooking something complex, or surgery, something that you could do with abit of luck and a huge effort. A pull off occasionally thing.

Thats what a normal task would feel like for someone who is low.

And to feel not good enough by miles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So so... But must admit I take every compliment on fab with a MASSIVE pinch of salt. I know that most of the time things are said just to secure a meet... "

You have a lovely eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so far I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence "

I know what you mean it does seem a contradiction in terms. However you can take a cleverly angled picture, fade it, crop it, filter it so it's looks amazing ~ that's a world apart from stripping off in front of someone or going topless on a beach ~ reality V the virtual world!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would of thought swinging would need alot of self confidence? I suppose people have a front they put on to hide such issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I don't get are people who claim to have no confidence at all but then go posting full naked body shots on a internet site

I have bit about my body that I hate and would never show on here, you'll never see a pic with my boobs out for example, I think posting naked pics is quite brave and a odd thing to do if you have no confidence

I know what you mean it does seem a contradiction in terms. However you can take a cleverly angled picture, fade it, crop it, filter it so it's looks amazing ~ that's a world apart from stripping off in front of someone or going topless on a beach ~ reality V the virtual world!

"

Was going to add....

I'm not sure if doing all the above helps or hinders self confidence in the long run body wise anyway. You obviously get the messages and comments of how fabulous you look but you know that isn't reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Solid

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Happy enough I am what I am and it is what it is.

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