FabSwingers.com forum: Party Invoice

By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Haven't seen the story, was it a special party and they had to pay per head and they didn't let them know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg is send it back with a few choice words is this real or have you made it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a bit petty, I'd tell them to take me to court, personally I think the judge would laugh it out of court

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Haven't seen the story, was it a special party and they had to pay per head and they didn't let them know?

The invoice was for £15.75 for a dry ski slope. It's not clear if the other party goers paid for their place but you would think that's the sort of thing you would say with the party invitation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sadly nout surprises me from folk down here

can see if from both points of _iew.. poor time management on behalf of the parents of the invited/invoiced child..

but bad taste to put the invoice in the childs nursery bag.

if i was the parent who paid £16 a head so that my child could have a party id be miffed if i had a no show too.. could have invited a child who wanted to attend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I think its a bit petty, I'd tell them to take me to court, personally I think the judge would laugh it out of court"

They are threatening the small claims court.

Apparently, they got a teacher to put the letter in the boy's school bag so his father found it when he got home and emptied the bag.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Id be annoyed if the parents didn't let me know that they weren't going to attend if they had said they would be. That's just bad manners.

However kids can get poorly/tired/ blah blah blah so even though it's annoying if you've paid for something then get let down if it can't be helped I wouldn't be sending the invoice on.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance. "

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently, they got a teacher to put the letter in the boy's school bag so his father found it when he got home and emptied the bag.

I'd have given the Teacher the invoice back.... but it wouldn't have been in his bag.

Let the parents retrieve it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to go against the grain slightly here, the parent of the invited child had confirmed with the other parent that their child would be attending, so the place was paid for, now if the other parent had known that the child wasn't going they could have offered that place to another friend? Let's face it if they had invited 10 children that's over £150 quite expensive! I actually don't blame the parent for invoicing them as a no show!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could see it would be a bit of a ballache for a no show at a party where you have paid per head but to invoice the other parent is a little extreme!

And on the flip side the other party should have let them know they wasn't going to turn up.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Haven't seen the story, was it a special party and they had to pay per head and they didn't let them know?

The invoice was for £15.75 for a dry ski slope. It's not clear if the other party goers paid for their place but you would think7 that's the sort of thing you would say with the party invitation.

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so the parents whose child had been invited would know that it was going to cost quite a lot(even if they werent paying) when you said the child didn't turn up I'm assuming by that they had accepted the invitation, unless it was unforseen circumstances I'd be pretty pissed of paying £15.75 per head for one to just not turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lowest of the low. The invoice is bad enough, taking it to the small claims is worse.

If the press report is accutare, that the invoice included the woman's bank account details, then i personally would splash those details across every form of media i could find, even joining Facebook to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And would just like to add that personally I wouldn't have sent an invoice and I wouldn't expect them to pay for not going.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

They could of called or text the other parent to say they were not attending the party due to blah reason. I think they had double booked and was going to spend time with the grandparents. It's not clear as to whether they let the mum know they couldn't come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen this story and to be honest, the parent who sent the invoice hasn't got a chance!

If i'd been on the receiving end, I would tell her to go ahead and take it to court.

Why?

Simple. There was no written agreement - and the courts are only interested in proven facts and that means evidence.

So let's take a moment to look at the likely chain of events.

She submits a claim to the Small Claims Court.

The 'defendant' parent is sent a copy of the claim by the court and given a period of time to respond

He responds to the court stating that the 'claimant' has submitted no evidence of any agreement for the child to attend the party.

Case dismissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lowest of the low. The invoice is bad enough, taking it to the small claims is worse.

LOL. Like your style!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

They are saying they didn't have the contact details

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I'm going to go against the grain slightly here, the parent of the invited child had confirmed with the other parent that their child would be attending, so the place was paid for, now if the other parent had known that the child wasn't going they could have offered that place to another friend? Let's face it if they had invited 10 children that's over £150 quite expensive! I actually don't blame the parent for invoicing them as a no show! "
I agree with this completely, if I was going on a friends celebration and couldn't make it I'd give them plenty of opportunity to invite someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They could of called or text the other parent to say they were not attending the party due to blah reason. I think they had double booked and was going to spend time with the grandparents. It's not clear as to whether they let the mum know they couldn't come. "

Actually, I read that they would have done, but were unable to do so as they had not been provided with any contact details, and were unable to find such contact details despite trying

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Right I've just read a couple of articles. They had confirmed that the child would be going and the parents had paid the balance to the company 48 hours before.

Then they realised he was double booked so he went off to spend time with his grandparents instead.

Unless they only noticed this at the last minute I don't understand why they couldn't of contacted them to explain and got someone to take his place. Not turning up when you know someone has paid money out for your kids is bad form.

Although getting a teacher to put something in the kids bag is pretty petty. I'd of given it to them myself if I was intending to make an issue out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wonder what the 2 kids involved think/feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Roll up the invoice, stick it in the twats petrol tank and light it.....now bill me for your car......

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Actually, I read that they would have done, but were unable to do so as they had not been provided with any contact details, and were unable to find such contact details despite trying"

Possibly but they could be lying who knows...if they didn't have an invitation how the fuck did they know it was at the snow slope or wherever it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right I've just read a couple of articles. They had confirmed that the child would be going and the parents had paid the balance to the company 48 hours before.

Then they realised he was double booked so he went off to spend time with his grandparents instead.

Although getting a teacher to put something in the kids bag is pretty petty. I'd of given it to them myself if I was intending to make an issue out of it

I agree that it's bad form to give the teacher the letter to pass on, and from what I've read that's against the schools policies, I'm sure that the parents could have sorted it out face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It says it was a verbal invite in the playground, apparently the had no contact number for the parent so couldn't contact her

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Mind you if the mother invited everyone verbally rather than sending invites with RSVP details on and they has no way of contacting her then she can't really complain! They wouldn't of been able to let her know even if it was a fortnight in advance with no contact details

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

I am a parent, I've just paid for a party for my son and it was not cheap, price per head up front, no rebates if there were any no shows, lucky they all turned up. These "no show parents" knew well in advance of the date and HAD accepted the invite, the "birthday boys parents" based on the number of acceptances then booked the places at £15 per child, the "no shows" couldn't be bothered to let the "birthday boys" parents know they were not coming so they had to pay , if the "no shows" had the decency to let the "birthday boy" know they maybe could have rung the venue beforehand and let them know and therefore maybe not be charged. Common decency as all parents know how expensive parties can be, however sending the bill is asking for trouble and not on really, shoulda had the "quiet word" with parents in the playground or at school drop off and made feelings known as well as letting all other parents who had the decency to turn up know not to invite the "no show boy" to any of theirs in the future to avoid further wasted costs and let downs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She sent the invoice, he took it to the papers. I'm not sure either parent has come out of this looking particularly great.

(And is this seriously what people spend on young children's birthday parties now? Wow.)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Actually, I read that they would have done, but were unable to do so as they had not been provided with any contact details, and were unable to find such contact details despite trying

Possibly but they could be lying who knows...if they didn't have an invitation how the fuck did they know it was at the snow slope or wherever it was "
sounds a bit suspicious that this one child didn't know anyone else going to the parties details to find out. Anyway I wouldn't have invoiced them but would of been bloody pissed off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Possibly but they could be lying who knows...if they didn't have an invitation how the fuck did they know it was at the snow slope or wherever it was "

Again, depends on where you're reading the story.

From what I understand, the child wasn't given a 'formal' invitation but was invited verbally by way of a parent to parent conversation.

As with all verbal agreements, they are simply not worth the paper they are printed on.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"wonder what the 2 kids involved think/feel?"

They have been told not to play with each according to one report.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How old where these children?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a parent, I've just paid for a party for my son and it was not cheap, price per head up front, no rebates if there were any no shows, lucky they all turned up. These "no show parents" knew well in advance of the date and HAD accepted the invite, the "birthday boys parents" based on the number of acceptances then booked the places at £15 per child, the "no shows" couldn't be bothered to let the "birthday boys" parents know they were not coming so they had to pay , if the "no shows" had the decency to let the "birthday boy" know they maybe could have rung the venue beforehand and let them know and therefore maybe not be charged. Common decency as all parents know how expensive parties can be, however sending the bill is asking for trouble and not on really, shoulda had the "quiet word" with parents in the playground or at school drop off and made feelings known as well as letting all other parents who had the decency to turn up know not to invite the "no show boy" to any of theirs in the future to avoid further wasted costs and let downs. "

I too am a parent. Both my children have recently had birthdays and guess what, I don't take them skiing!

OK, so my circumstances are a little different in that I only get my kids every other weekend and live some 40 miles away from their mother (who they live with the rest of the time) - so it's unlikely i'm going to be doing a party for them involving their school chums

But I still do something for them, but part of the planning stage involves checking the availability of intended guests.

And the party itself consists of a good old fashioned gathering in my home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be basic good manners to let the parents know your child is not attending. But judging from my childs party last some parents don't even confirm their child is coming they just turn up and dump him or her on you and go. As for the invoice clearly the parents getting the teacher to do their dirty have no balls to confront the parents concerned. Unfortunately we are now a claims culture with no communication skills or manners.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"She sent the invoice, he took it to the papers. I'm not sure either parent has come out of this looking particularly great.

(And is this seriously what people spend on young children's birthday parties now? Wow.) "
children's parties are not cheap even back when mine was young but he can remember nearly every party he had, I stopped at 11 though

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"How old where these children?

Five.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I feel sorry for the kids. Why go to the papers about this why not just pay up instead of now making their little boys life a misery

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I feel sorry for the kids. Why go to the papers about this why not just pay up instead of now making their little boys life a misery "
maybe won't get invited to another party and possibly even bullying

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

My daughter had a party at a ropes adventure and I paid £20 per child and 2 didn't turn up after saying yes. They were not invited the next year when the rest of the class was. Bitchyness off one of the mothers and a exchange of _iews with the you had your chance and never even aployagised for not turning up to the last one

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"My daughter had a party at a ropes adventure and I paid £20 per child and 2 didn't turn up after saying yes. They were not invited the next year when the rest of the class was. Bitchyness off one of the mothers and a exchange of _iews with the you had your chance and never even aployagised for not turning up to the last one

And no I did not invoice tgem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what i call parents going beyond there means. You dont host a childs party and ask the pther parents to pay ... Stay withing an affordable budget and dont play im the bigger better parent look what my son got

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I feel sorry for the kids. Why go to the papers about this why not just pay up instead of now making their little boys life a misery "

I know. They are in the same nursery/reception class together.

No one comes out of this well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who made the story public knowledge,, was it the non attendee's parents?

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

Cunts

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Who made the story public knowledge,, was it the non attendee's parents? "

Think it was in today's metro

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

ditto..

think its hilarious but also a bit weird..

how many other parties that these people will arrange for their child (ren) will have other parents thinking 'err, can i have it in writing that if little Johnny is taken ill etc we dont' get an invoice?'

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

ditto..

think its hilarious but also a bit weird..

Just good manners to let people know if possible that you can not make it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who made the story public knowledge,, was it the non attendee's parents? "

On the story I read there was a posed photo of the dad and the son (the invoiced ones) so it certainly looks that way.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

ditto..

think its hilarious but also a bit weird..

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its not hilerious though, as I said I wouldn't have sent an invoice but the parents took it to the paper the child is 5 in his first year at school what if no other children will want to play with him now

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"This is what i call parents going beyond there means. You dont host a childs party and ask the pther parents to pay ... Stay withing an affordable budget and dont play im the bigger better parent look what my son got"

I had parties at home with good old jelly and ice cream and pass the parcel...had a blast but I suppose it's different in this day and age. When I have kids it will be the same have parties at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who made the story public knowledge,, was it the non attendee's parents?"

Yep. Picture is of the boy with his Dad

"I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

ditto..

think its hilarious but also a bit weird..

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Exactly. Can you imagine the next time that child has a party and all his friends parents say, sorry my child will not be attending.

His parents attitude has possibly rendered him a 'Billy-no-mates'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So they are going to pay £50 to pursue a small claim for £15 ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems to me its the natural progression of some parents ridiculous one upmanship when it comes their childrens parties or playdates! the children are 5! seriously dont need a ski slope to enttertain them!

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

They might have their heads up their arses:

Organising a gig they can't really afford when they shold have gone for the jelly 'n' I scream option.

They should have had a contingency in place...

Any of you feckers think yer gonna stand me up by being a no-show... expect an invoice!!!

It's £2.30 on the bus to Toon from here.

You have been warned.

Full T&C's available upon request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you host a party you pay the bill yourself.

End of.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Who made the story public knowledge,, was it the non attendee's parents?

Yep. Picture is of the boy with his Dad

I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

ditto..

think its hilarious but also a bit weird..

Exactly. Can you imagine the next time that child has a party and all his friends parents say, sorry my child will not be attending.

His parents attitude has possibly rendered him a 'Billy-no-mates'

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I see it as the other way round, the other parents where rude enough to not turn up and then go to the paper as I said I wouldn't have sent an invoice but I certainly wouldn't put my child in that position

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The headline should have been "Julie Lawrence is a miserly miserable cow who thinks that booking a dry ski slope for her 5yr old will make her queen bee in the playground pecking order", bet she works in a job centre too.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

ditto..

think its hilarious but also a bit weird..

Just good manners to let people know if possible that you can not make it

absolutely agree

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I saw this too. When you book a childs party etc, you choose the amount of children you want and you pay the price. You can't go around asking for money for non attendance.

That's the way we do it. We book the number of places and sometimes there is a no show but we would never dream of charging a child to attend a party or to pay for non-attendance.

ditto..

think its hilarious but also a bit weird..

its not hilerious though, as I said I wouldn't have sent an invoice but the parents took it to the paper the child is 5 in his first year at school what if no other children will want to play with him now"

the bit i find hilarious is that this in the public domain and that the parents of the child who sent the invoice didn't have the decency to contact the parents of the child they invoiced first..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

And if I were the non attendees parents I would have sent a sorry note with the £15 enclosed. I wouldn't expect anyone to suffer financially because of my actions.

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By *amie0151Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

Does this mean I can invoice time wasters who fail to turn up to Fab meets...?

lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

And if I were the non attendees parents I would have sent a sorry note with the £15 enclosed. I wouldn't expect anyone to suffer financially because of my actions. "
and that is exactly what most normal people would of done

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

You're just trying to see if it's acceptable behaviour so you can work out your tactics for May.

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By *onitoMan
over a year ago

Milton of Campsie

Why is this story on the news?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

You're just trying to see if it's acceptable behaviour so you can work out your tactics for May."

I hadn't thought of that! Do I charge for each bottle of Prosecco I bought or just the condoms

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Why is this story on the news? "

That was my thought this morning. As the day has gone on I thought I'd throw it on here too.

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

You're just trying to see if it's acceptable behaviour so you can work out your tactics for May.

I hadn't thought of that! Do I charge for each bottle of Prosecco I bought or just the condoms

Condoms? Why don't you just use normal balloons like normal people? No wonder you're angling for rebates, that's an expensive decorating method.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

You're just trying to see if it's acceptable behaviour so you can work out your tactics for May.

I hadn't thought of that! Do I charge for each bottle of Prosecco I bought or just the condoms

That's a party game in the making.

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over a year ago

The argument is pointless, the money was paid upfront, with a warning that there would be no refund for no shows, if the boy had fallen ill the day before, broke a leg or whatever, would the parents still be making such a huge fuss? What if the birthday boy had taken ill and the entire party was cancelled, can the parents of the other children then sue for the amount they spent on a present? Petty minded nonsense. Yes the parents should have contacted the organisers, just good manners to do that, but to threaten to sue for £15.75? I'll bet other parents will be taking a very wide berth around this family for a long time. Did the mother not think about the consequences for her child, he has lost a friend through no fault of his own. Great...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

And if I were the non attendees parents I would have sent a sorry note with the £15 enclosed. I wouldn't expect anyone to suffer financially because of my actions. and that is exactly what most normal people would of done"

I think your the only normal person on here.

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over a year ago

"Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

I think your the only normal person on here. "

You're obviously.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

Cunts"

Cunts.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

And if I were the non attendees parents I would have sent a sorry note with the £15 enclosed. I wouldn't expect anyone to suffer financially because of my actions. "

would agree if we knew there was a fee paid and by our child not attending that meant they were out of pocket etc..

would certainly make the offer..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is only £15 though, shit happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are both as bad as each other.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I think they are both as bad as each other. "

I feel for the kids of both parties

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

And if I were the non attendees parents I would have sent a sorry note with the £15 enclosed. I wouldn't expect anyone to suffer financially because of my actions. "

But would they be suffering financially as they were paying it anyway? They would have probably invited another kid if one had had to cancel.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

And if I were the non attendees parents I would have sent a sorry note with the £15 enclosed. I wouldn't expect anyone to suffer financially because of my actions.

But would they be suffering financially as they were paying it anyway? They would have probably invited another kid if one had had to cancel."

PS I am surprised the teacher got herself/himself involved though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently, they got a teacher to put the letter in the boy's school bag so his father found it when he got home and emptied the bag.

I'd have given the Teacher the invoice back.... but it wouldn't have been in his bag.

Let the parents retrieve it...."

Why involve the poor teacher at all? They probably had no idea what was in the letter.

The whole affair is ludicrous.

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over a year ago

"Jelly , ice cream , cake and a party bag when leaving. That's all children's parties should be about. Ski slope my arse.

And if I were the non attendees parents I would have sent a sorry note with the £15 enclosed. I wouldn't expect anyone to suffer financially because of my actions.

But would they be suffering financially as they were paying it anyway? They would have probably invited another kid if one had had to cancel."

Fair point.

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

So the non-attending lads parents had no chance to give their little un a note to give to the other lad, or perhaps see each other at drop off or pick up times?

If I had felt there was a problem financially I might try and track down the parent and ask them nicely if they could contribute something. An invoice is a bit of a soulless way of approaching it.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't think the parents who are threatening to sue have done themselves or their child any favours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha,, wish I had of thought of this,, it's great,, all my childrens birthdays are in half term or Xmas holidays,, and always get people saying they will be there and then don't show,,

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

It is hugely annoying when you pay per child and get a no show. I paid 18 a head and had 2 that didn't turn uo but one called in the morning as their child was ill and I did slip someone else in at the last minute. The other just didn't turn up and gave no explanation or apology which is just damn rude. I have once offered the cost of my child not going as she was ill but the other mum didn't take it saying these things happen and can't be helped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is hugely annoying when you pay per child and get a no show. I paid 18 a head and had 2 that didn't turn uo but one called in the morning as their child was ill and I did slip someone else in at the last minute. The other just didn't turn up and gave no explanation or apology which is just damn rude. I have once offered the cost of my child not going as she was ill but the other mum didn't take it saying these things happen and can't be helped.

Annoying yes but when you have kids this is the least of your problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the point you don't mind so much if they let you know,, it's not like they don't have the number as they have already rsvpd,, 24 a head the last one,, one no show,, very frustrating,,, although,, I took the place of the child and I can highly recommend laser tag for any party

adult or child

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

adult or child "

We took the kids to an outdoor laser thing in Devon last year - adults against kids. It was fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think of the parent who sent an invoice to the parents of a child who failed to turn up to a party?

"
With the world in such a state how did this make the news?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still don't see why a 5 year old would go "please mummy, I want my party to be at a dry ski slope, cos the dudes want me to bust some gnarly moves"

Pretentious? I have to agree...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it was bad manners of the invited child not to inform the birthday childs parents.

However when you decide to host a party for your child, it is your expense regardless if kids turn up or not. Same as any party etc, if youve paid per head then on the day someone doesn't show, then its bad luck, you take that chance when you decide to host it in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it was bad manners of the invited child not to inform the birthday childs parents.

Yes I thought everyone knew that.

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