FabSwingers.com forum: Would you??

By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Date someone that was unemployed? I don't mean when you met them and had a job then lost it...I mean when you first met them they had no job to start off with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, she was a mucky mare too, trouble was I never got any work done either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes lots of people are unemployed through no fault of their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have before, didn't have a problem with it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I don't see why that would affect anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Date someone that was unemployed? I don't mean when you met them and had a job then lost it...I mean when you first met them they had no job to start off with?

The only reason I wouldn't would be if they didnt want to work and had no interest in looking for a job, other than that I would as some people are unemployed due to certain circumstances or no one will employ them at the present time

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Depends. If they were unemployed and actually making an effort to find work or unemployed for a good reason then yes. I wouldn't date a lazy fucker that never worked a day in their life and never intended to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet yes, date no, if I was dating an unemployed man would I be expected pay for everything? Cause listering to people on here you dont get enough to live on never mind date on, I'm all for paying my way but I have kids and I'm not paying for everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends. If they were unemployed and actually making an effort to find work or unemployed for a good reason then yes. I wouldn't date a lazy fucker that never worked a day in their life and never intended to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs N was still a student when we met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my youth I wouldn't have done. I liked to go out all the time and someone who was unemployed wouldn't have been able to keep up. Wouldn't have sopped me having a casual thing with them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Date someone that was unemployed? "

No because it wouldn't be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mrs N was still a student when we met."

I don't class that as unemployed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh aye, assuming such lass had everlasting legs, big boobs and a generous allowance from her family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i dont think i could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes lots of people are unemployed through no fault of their own."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the women I've dated have seen me as their meal ticket. It's so nice to be with an independent woman at last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they dont want to work then no I wouldn't but in between jobs yes. shit happens

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes I would. It's about the person not their position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it only dating until you get the first (of many) shags? Could live with that.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Probably not. Financial imbalance affects relationships in really negative ways.

I am a generous spendthrift who likes to treat others and myself. I don't expect anything from anyone else but I would hate for them to feel that burden of being given things that they cannot reciprocate.

In an existing relationship it is different as you have built up the give and take, trust and knowledge of each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes lots of people are unemployed through no fault of their own.

this"

I agree and I'm not judging people by if thy have a job but let's be honest dating costs money, your not going to take a new person round to your house for a drink on a date are you? Dating as a rule involves going out, having a drink, going for a meal, getting to know someone till you take them home to meet your kids, if you have any, and all that costs money and I'm not prepared to pay for it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worked from when I left college until mid 2005 when I fell ill.

My employer, whom I had been employed with since 1998, operated a Salary Security scheme, which was intended to provide financial security in the event of long term illness etc.

This was provided by a third party insurer, who, in my case, opted not to honour this contract and denied my claim.

In this event, my employer subsequently terminated my employment.

I took them to tribunal on a number of issues, (one of which was settled prior to the hearing) but was unsuccessful, largely because the employer could afford a legal team whereas I could not.

Once I had recovered from my illness, I began diligently looking for employment, regrettably without success. Even getting an inter_iew proved difficult - possibly due to the fast paced nature of the industry I had worked in.

After a conversation with my helpful adviser at the local jobcentre, I attended a business course in May of last year and have begun my own business.

This is actually my preferred option owing to the huge flexibility it provides.

It's rather daunting to begin with, and takes a while to get going, as you need to market yourself (tricky with no prior marketing experience), but things are now beginning to look up.

So I agree with the comments about those who find themselves unemployed through no fault of their own. It can happen to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done, and would again long as I'm not expected to pay their way is all...

Finance and _omance are worlds apart to me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depends, if they where unemployed through no fault of their own then yes. If they had no intention of working then no. I wouldn't date someone with debts either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have done. It wasn't an issue, and when we moved in together she sorted out a good job.

I don't think someone's employment status when you meet them is a fair indication of who they are... Just the circumstances they are in currently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends. I have a friend who is only early 40's, sadly widowed and has no need to work. So she is unemployed, but financially independent.

I guess I wouldn't want to date someone who had never ever worked, through pure laziness. That is different to someone who is made redundant after working for a lot of their life. If they have never worked, because they are just mega rich and have a dodgy ticker - give me their number now!

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I think it depends. I have a friend who is only early 40's, sadly widowed and has no need to work. So she is unemployed, but financially independent.

I haven't found him yet

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

it wouldnt make any difference if they was unemployed working or not to date or meet its like saying i aint going out with a single parent as they are too tied down to go out and have fun

either scenario is still the same and they still both claim does it make any difference in the first place

it certainly wouldnt in my eyes though it may make it harder for those that cant afford much but it dosnt make them triers in doing what they can do best

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

As someone who was on benefits for a long time, and a single parent (yes, I know, scum, how dare I?)

I gave up work before having my son, and then when he was 1 discovered my husband was a cheating wanker, and left him.

I chose not to work and spend the time with my son, but now he is in school, I have a great job (I actively volunteered to keep my skills set up for the kind of work I wanted to get into) but it was flexible and much less pressure than a paid job was. Also, I would not have been able to afford childcare to work the hours I do before he was in school.

I have dated whilst I was not working, and whilst not able to do flashy things every other weekend, I was not too tight to pay my own way either. Thankfully they didn't judge on me not working, as it was a discussion that as soon as my son went to school, I would find work - so it was circumstances not laziness that stopped me working.

I actually saved enough to take him away for a long weekend, so its not like not working = financial drain. I paid my own way in most things, and he was understanding about that.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't date

but if I did, I would say Yes and I would help them try and find a role. I am quite knowledgable in recruitment, however if i didnt see the drive to secure a role then that would more than likely cost the relationship...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 2 kids with someone who wasn't working when i met him. He also hadn't ever had a job at all either.

He'd been to university, inherited some money, owned his own home and taken a year off, living off custard creams (so he told me).

He took a couple of training courses while i was with him, did volunteering, and eventually it paid off and he became an assistant manager of the place he volunteered in. So it paid off in the end, and for a few years too.

12 years later he's back to being unemployed, is volunteering again to give him something to do. He isn't lazy, he can be relied upon, works hard.

He's a good, loving, supportive, dad too, glad i had kids with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This. Been there, done that, never again.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Have to say no....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah not a problem.

J doesn't work

In years to cone, I dare to say his salary will far outstrip my own.

I have never had a relationship where the two parties have earned the same.

I have earned far less than some and far more than others.

I guess money and materialism doesn't figure that highly for me relationship wise.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"if they dont want to work then no I wouldn't but in between jobs yes. shit happens"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Not any more. One cock-lodger in my life was more than enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a no from me...

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

yes ..why not ! its not a disease

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