FabSwingers.com forum: MALE HALF OF A COUPLE

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are there any women who have met a couple, but would never have met the male half of the couple if they were single? If so, was it the female half of the couple who influenced you the most?

I ask because it appears that being a man in a couple is almost a gateway to getting meets a lot easier than if they were single. I might be wrong, just an assumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, we wouldn't meet a couple if we there was one side that didn't fancy the other. No taking one for the team here

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over a year ago

One of the reasons we sort of gave up with couples because the males halfs very rarely interested me and as I lean more towards men than women it was a waste of time

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

When I was married, my husband and I had loads of messages asking if they could just meet me. We met 3 couples together. When we split, he sent messages to all of the girls of the couples asking if they would meet him on his own... They all laughed in his face and called me to ask how I was etc. So in answer to your question, I have found that the male half of the couple is less influential. But that could just be because my husband got fat and never shaved his beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, we wouldn't meet a couple if we there was one side that didn't fancy the other. No taking one for the team here

thats us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me to play with a couple i have to fancy both the people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for me to play with a couple i have to fancy both the people...

Definitely has to be attraction for both halves of the couple for me.

Welcome back Jacqs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying"

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50."

Maybe they don't use fab to meet people so it's not so important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met guys for mmf with my bf that I wouldnt ever have met on my own ..but my focus was on ste so I wasnt that bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a couples perspective, we take all the steps we can to ensure that whoever the third is, is there for us both.

If it became obvious during the meet that the third was there for one of us as opposed to both, we would have no hesitation in stopping the meet there and then.

And we have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask because it appears that being a man in a couple is almost a gateway to getting meets a lot easier than if they were single. I might be wrong, just an assumption."

SOME of the couples I've spoken actually have a tough time...

Just because you're a couple is not an automatic shag.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Nope, its why I don't meet very many couples.

Often find I am attracted to one, or the other, but not both... and I have to like both to play.

As an aside and off topic - why have you started posting all your thread titles in capital letters OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50."

It's pretty much all about the woman on here tho isn't it, they're the ones that 'sell' the profile for want of a better word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, we wouldn't meet a couple if we there was one side that didn't fancy the other. No taking one for the team here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. And this is one reason I haven't met couples, the chances of finding two people I fancy who fancy me seems unlikely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for me to play with a couple i have to fancy both the people...

its why I never really have, its extremely rare I find a couple where I'm attracted to both of them enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope! Has to be an attraction for the BOTH of us, whether we are meeting a couple of a single female, if we are meeting a single male then Luke still has to has to agree! Haven't taken one for the team so far and don't plan to, and we would hope that whoever wants or has met us, wants to meet the BOTH of us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope, its why I don't meet very many couples.

Often find I am attracted to one, or the other, but not both... and I have to like both to play.

As an aside and off topic - why have you started posting all your thread titles in capital letters OP?

All my threads have always been in capitals since day one. That's just how I roll.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

It's pretty much all about the woman on here tho isn't it, they're the ones that 'sell' the profile for want of a better word."

So you, a straight woman, thinks women are a better selling point than men in couples profiles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a nightmare for couples, there's 4 people who have to get on and have an attraction to each other, not the easiest task in the world, when we have a male over for a 3some its slightly easier, although I have to like them as a person its only him and Donna that need the physical attraction,if on any of our meets a single male, either of the other couple or either of us are not sure then it doesn't happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are pretty lucky, we tend to go for the same type, but if there's no attraction on all parts, it's pretty pointless really isn't it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

It's pretty much all about the woman on here tho isn't it, they're the ones that 'sell' the profile for want of a better word."

I disagree, there's ladies out there that fancy my man and not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any problem meeting couples where I find them both attractive. I'm not bothered about shape, size, height etc (within reason!) what matters to me is honesty, attitude and meeting people on the same wave length.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't have any problem meeting couples where I find them both attractive. I'm not bothered about shape, size, height etc (within reason!) what matters to me is honesty, attitude and meeting people on the same wave length. "

Good attitude to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

It's pretty much all about the woman on here tho isn't it, they're the ones that 'sell' the profile for want of a better word.

So you, a straight woman, thinks women are a better selling point than men in couples profiles? "

It's an observation based on what I've seen here, this has been asked before you know.

If I was looking for couples the profiles that would catch my attention would be the ones that show the male half off well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have removed couples from my preferences as it is too complex a dynamic for me.

I would still love to meet those on my friend list as I understand them better, but trying to connect with new couples is difficult.

I can imagine it is even worse with 2 people trying to agree who to welcome into their bed!

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Nope. And this is one reason I haven't met couples, the chances of finding two people I fancy who fancy me seems unlikely. "

I don't think the problem will be them fancying you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women will always have the Lions share of the sexual desire in the world - how often does the lock come to the key?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50."

Absolutely PMSL at this. So Liddy get ya self out there you anti social git! If you knew this couple like I do you would understand why I am so amused. Two of the best, most sociable people on the scene really don't need to be told how to suck eggs. Not all meets are made on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

I wasn't talking about being sociable, I was simply referring to the pictures on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

I wasn't talking about being sociable, I was simply referring to the pictures on their profile."

Did they ask for profile advise? As I said not all meets are on fab some get out into the real scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are there any women who have met a couple, but would never have met the male half of the couple if they were single? If so, was it the female half of the couple who influenced you the most?

I ask because it appears that being a man in a couple is almost a gateway to getting meets a lot easier than if they were single. I might be wrong, just an assumption."

Total assumption.

Thus far as the male half my swinging experience has been zero, jools on the other hand is having a ball.

Literally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. And this is one reason I haven't met couples, the chances of finding two people I fancy who fancy me seems unlikely. "

We have to agree with this everyone has different tastes. Hubby is usually the one to pick up women for a meet, although initially they might be interested in me he has confidence but isn't cocky with it which to me screams sexy, plus to me he's more important than whoever is joining us, she shouldn't make him feel like a third wheel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

I wasn't talking about being sociable, I was simply referring to the pictures on their profile."

Most of ours meets that come off messages off fab are with single males and they don't care what I look like, couples and single ladies tend to be people we meet at clubs or socials where my winning smile and sparkling personality shine through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and has classy said women sell, I have face and body pics in private, but I'm not the world's most attractive man, and most people prefer looking at Mrs l rather than me

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

We rarely do a threesome as we have found that the women ignore her to get to me (smug bastard) which leaves her in the cold. Tbh I'm not over keen on mff anyway as i like to be able to concentrate on one person.

Dave

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

"Oh and has classy said women sell, I have face and body pics in private, but I'm not the world's most attractive man, and most people prefer looking at Mrs l rather than me"

same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

I wasn't talking about being sociable, I was simply referring to the pictures on their profile.

Haha your a tw*t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

I wasn't talking about being sociable, I was simply referring to the pictures on their profile.

Haha your a tw*t

We all know that's not true, I'm a c**t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50.

I wasn't talking about being sociable, I was simply referring to the pictures on their profile.

Haha your a tw*t

We all know that's not true, I'm a c**t"

You make me smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started of life with a yep they'll do attitude but the wife has grown very fussy as to who she will or won't play with, were not super models or the most attractive people youll meet but we've been there done that so she now knows what she wants these days and won't compromise, doesn't mean were anti social but to play she needs a connection with both

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By *hatFellaNZMan
over a year ago

London

...and I thought single males had it tough...

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"For us if there isn't an attraction then it's not going to happened, but we have seen. Couples in clubs where the woman will take one just to get her hands on the other fem,

And believe me it can be quite hard been a man in a couple a lot of times its like your invisible or a tag along it can be quite annoying

Well you almost are invisible in your public album, get yourself in there! Don't let it be all about the woman, you're a couple, it should be 50/50."

indeed

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"No, we wouldn't meet a couple if we there was one side that didn't fancy the other. No taking one for the team here

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

There is always other ways! We know lots of single men and women as well as couples at the clubs/ parties we go too... Had plenty big fun with single men and women who have joined us... ( As a 4some or more some) nothing is written in stone! Smiles all round

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's never worked if there's not a balanced attraction and compatibility all round. Better to stop it at a social meet level if lop sided. If we've gotten the sexual and personality chemistry right then we can all relax fully, without awkwardness or needing to stop play.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Pretty sure most couples we have met and had fun with, have mostly done so to get at wiggles. Rarely do I get the feeling the female half is intrested in me much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot depends on how your meeting people. I've met people who I have messages on here in clubs who have said no not my type and we have ended up having awesome fun.

Clubs make it slightly easier as you can chat which can help with attraction however on a website it's very easy to judge a book by its cover!

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