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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What's your choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your choice?"

A mix of both is better. But id rather get on with someone and find an attraction that way rather than be physically attracted but find them boring miserable up there own arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your choice?

A mix of both is better. But id rather get on with someone and find an attraction that way rather than be physically attracted but find them boring miserable up there own arse."

Yep, I am with you on that one! Looks are good but if they are just going to sit or stand looking pretty and not engage in some banter or flirting, you may as well get a mannequin!

Anyone for a game of statues?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your choice?

A mix of both is better. But id rather get on with someone and find an attraction that way rather than be physically attracted but find them boring miserable up there own arse.

Yep, I am with you on that one! Looks are good but if they are just going to sit or stand looking pretty and not engage in some banter or flirting, you may as well get a mannequin!

Anyone for a game of statues?

"

i love a charismatic guy ,,but they have to be passable in the looks and body dept to !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are what attracts us initially.

However if a person is "attractive" but vacuous with zero personality, then it's not going to happen. A "plain" person who can engage my mind and make me laugh stands more of a chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to have a good mix of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with all of the above, looks and sense of humour is what attracts me the most. Theres nothing more disappointing than a good looking well presented guy with zero personality or conversation!

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

im in with a chance here lol.

was near the back of queue on looks but did manage to push in on the personality line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im in with a chance here lol.

was near the back of queue on looks but did manage to push in on the personality line "

"In with a chance"...have you seen yr verrification list haha id say youve had your fair share of chances n been successful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality every time for me anything else is a bonus xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality which consists of wit, intelligence, banter, warmth, an attitude of not taking oneself too seriously and a sense of fun - anything else is a non-essential bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality which consists of wit, intelligence, banter, warmth, an attitude of not taking oneself too seriously and a sense of fun - anything else is a non-essential bonus "

Spot on!!! Providing they`re not "mingers".

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I would love to say personality..... but I think you have to look at someone and they have to have something about them that attracts you... and that will always point to looks.....

looks get ya foot in the door.... personality gets you in....

Shame... because I do think I am a personality person 1st......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality which consists of wit, intelligence, banter, warmth, an attitude of not taking oneself too seriously and a sense of fun - anything else is a non-essential bonus

Spot on!!! Providing they`re not "mingers"."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did not mean to say that Loooks did not matter, just that if I had to choose a priority it would be personality.

As for looks, it is not a particular "type" I ... we would be chasing, more that bit of "chemistry" which is not about a particular height, size, hair colour etc...

Anybody can be sexy with a bit of effort and interest in the scene I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooops meant "looks" of course - fingers got stuck to the "o" ...lol

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Echo.

and add a dash of intrigue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi everyone interesting debate, I would have to say that a connect both physically and mentally is essential for all of us, perhaps on varying levels but essential none the less. At the risk of sounding shallow a physical attraction is nescesary for me BUT there must also be some kind of mental connection. I hope that makes sense. xxxx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Looks every time for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks here too Must be shallow, but if looks weren't important nobody would expect pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks are what attracts us initially.

However if a person is "attractive" but vacuous with zero personality, then it's not going to happen. A "plain" person who can engage my mind and make me laugh stands more of a chance!"

don't think i could have put it better myself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to say personality..... but I think you have to look at someone and they have to have something about them that attracts you... and that will always point to looks.....

looks get ya foot in the door.... personality gets you in....

Shame... because I do think I am a personality person 1st......"

Absolutely.

It's great to be all PC and say personality but on a site like this, that photo counts for a lot as well.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Looks obviously come into it but play a small part, personality is what keeps me intersted and wanting more. Couldnt shag someone i didnt get on with, need someone with spirit otherwise it would be like shagging a good looking corpse

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

until we started swinging it was looks - we've learned that personality is equally if not more important.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I'd say a good mix of the two.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately has to be mix of the both but there does need to be some sort of physical attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Sasha goes for personality cos it sure wasn't my looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's face it,in truth we're all initially attracted by looks or there would be no need for photo's.

Yes, personality is probably what clinches the deal but looks are the first and foremost for most of us.

We're always suspicious of profiles that say "Looks Unimportant",can't really believe they mean it.

XXXX

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"Let's face it,in truth we're all initially attracted by looks or there would be no need for photo's.

Yes, personality is probably what clinches the deal but looks are the first and foremost for most of us.

"

Just about sums it up right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your choice?"

impossible question need definition.

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area


"I would love to say personality..... but I think you have to look at someone and they have to have something about them that attracts you... and that will always point to looks.....

looks get ya foot in the door.... personality gets you in....

Shame... because I do think I am a personality person 1st......

Absolutely.

It's great to be all PC and say personality but on a site like this, that photo counts for a lot as well."

its a bit difficult to judge on pics in many cases when all you get is feet, legs, cock, backsides.

in some cases the profile displays the personality, 'will fill in later' doesnt do it for me

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

This could sound arrogant but it's meant purely logically.

I'm OK looking and quite self aware so probably go for people of the same level. In the past I have met with girls that were maybe not quite at my level but that I've had a connection with and a good laugh with which has made them become amazingly attractive.

Oh, and I like boobies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell in love with a guy that i met on the net after a few weeks, completely head over heels in love with his personality. It was an amazing feeling but when i actually saw a picture of him there was no physical attraction at all. I spent 4 years with this guy as i cared so much about him i just couldnt tell him that i didnt find him attractive.

I learnt a valuable lesson and now if someone isnt for me then i will usually tell them before i make a complete arse of myself once again!

Jessica

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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its a bit difficult to judge on pics in many cases when all you get is feet, legs, cock, backsides.

"

Which is why I would imagine so often people with these types of photos *only* get derided in the forums, especially when they ask for help.

Which is totally justified I think,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

feed my mind, the rest will follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"feed my mind, the rest will follow"

/shoves a marshmellow in her ear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"feed my mind, the rest will follow

/shoves a marshmellow in her ear"

sold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"feed my mind, the rest will follow

/shoves a marshmellow in her ear

sold"

I be knoin' how to be gettin' tha laydeez.

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area


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its a bit difficult to judge on pics in many cases when all you get is feet, legs, cock, backsides.

Which is why I would imagine so often people with these types of photos *only* get derided in the forums, especially when they ask for help.

Which is totally justified I think,"

these same people are also the ones asking for face shots and the like, without returning the favour, allowing the other person to judge them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh go on then ... if it's for more than 2 mins I will take personality please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has to be looks every time, i don't care if they are kind to animals, or if they help old ladies across the road or even if they are mummys blue eyed boy/girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto to that. If I don't fancy them nothing happens down below.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well a nasty personality will put me off but someone who is ugly or doesn't look after their body isn't going to be on my shag list.

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