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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

VV thread. Do you mind if you are bought gifts by you FWB or FB etc? I've never really been in a "relationship" where I've been bought gifts other than birthday and Christmas and that's been rare by men (I'm shit at picking men)

. On the odd occasions I've had it done I end up with it all been thrown in my face. I tend now to treat myself rather than expect it from other people (not including family)

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over a year ago

"VV thread. Do you mind if you are bought gifts by you FWB or FB etc? I've never really been in a "relationship" where I've been bought gifts other than birthday and Christmas and that's been rare by men (I'm shit at picking men)

. On the odd occasions I've had it done I end up with it all been thrown in my face. I tend now to treat myself rather than expect it from other people (not including family)

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someone got me minstrels on one occasion and on another (same guy) strawberries and cream .. I don't mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a fb and we used to buy each other gifts from time to time and never had any issues

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

My current lover is exceptionally generous. Its not something I am used to, but he enjoys it and its a nice change.

He is in a decent job, and tells me he enjoys sharing that with people he cares about, and knows with me being a single mum, that my financial priorities lie elsewhere.

He also says he enjoys knowing I am wearing the dresses he has bought me and things like that. I admit it is taking some getting used to, but its not awful - and its never something I expect of him either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i freak right out and dont like surprises or flowers,, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a fwb who bought me lingerie. He said he wanted to see me in it so he was buying it. I don't like receiving gifts though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

. On the odd occasions I've had it done I end up with it all been thrown in my face. I tend now to treat myself rather than expect it from other people (not including family)

I'm a mistrusting grumpy arse when bought presents.

Dunno why.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I accepted my first gift from someone, loosely in the man/relationship category, in December 2013. It was odd as I've never really had that from anyone before. I got another Christmas present from him December 2014.

The ex gave me money for a birthday present in 2013 and then he bought my mascara as a Christmas present December 2014.

Four gifts from people I love who love me too. I think I can live with that.

I wouldn't be comfortable getting anything from anyone casual but if someone wants to give me the Pretty Woman treatment in order desensitise me to my unease about this then let me know.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"My current lover is exceptionally generous. Its not something I am used to, but he enjoys it and its a nice change.

He is in a decent job, and tells me he enjoys sharing that with people he cares about, and knows with me being a single mum, that my financial priorities lie elsewhere.

I think the difference is you don't expect it I think that are are a few in this world that does expect to be lavished in gifts. I've just had shit on the odd occasions a man had bought me gifts

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Ha. I inspired something. That has to be a first!

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ha. I inspired something. That has to be a first!

Here have a medal....

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Ha. I inspired something. That has to be a first!

Here have a medal....

[Muttley mode: on]

Medal, medal, medal, medal, medal

[Muttley mode: off]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx"

ive bought silly gifts for folk before,, just to make conversation if anything else.

even made an epically huge choc fudge cake and a mankini..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and the fwb are always broke atm as we're saving for hols but we tend to buy each other daft little things that we know the other will like eg a book, cd etc.

Those sort of things, where I know he's put thought and effort into tracking something down for me, means much more than him spending lots which probably would make me feel uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I like giving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx

ive bought silly gifts for folk before,, just to make conversation if anything else.

even made an epically huge choc fudge cake and a mankini.. "
you know how to win a mans heart you do Giles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx

ive bought silly gifts for folk before,, just to make conversation if anything else.

even made an epically huge choc fudge cake and a mankini.. you know how to win a mans heart you do Giles

other gifts included a boyzone karaoke cd,, festive underwear, 12 boxes of jaffa cakes and various sex toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Giving and receiving gifts could be embarrassing or uncomfortable. I met someone at Christmas and had brought her a gift - it was just a little low-cost item of personal significance, but even that I wasn't sure about giving in case it was taken the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx

ive bought silly gifts for folk before,, just to make conversation if anything else.

even made an epically huge choc fudge cake and a mankini.. you know how to win a mans heart you do Giles

other gifts included a boyzone karaoke cd,, festive underwear, 12 boxes of jaffa cakes and various sex toys "

Boyzone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind it and its nice when a guy gets enjoyment from it!

I was married to a guy who abused my generosity greatly and never returned it so now its a new thing for me if a guy buys me something nice or flowers etc, no-one has ever thrown it in my face.

Though even now my generosity can be abused but I am still a nice person, dont think twice about cooking an FB dinner or getting them little gifts even if its just something silly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my F Friends and I exchanged Xmas gifts. He got me vibrating nipple clamps (Lol) I got him bondage tape, jelly boob sweets and Karma Sutra playing cards. It was sweet. Lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

other gifts included a boyzone karaoke cd,, festive underwear, 12 boxes of jaffa cakes and various sex toys

Boyzone

yes so he could sing it in his car..

totally a comedy gift as i think he has a strong dislike to the band lol.. all in good fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx

ive bought silly gifts for folk before,, just to make conversation if anything else.

even made an epically huge choc fudge cake and a mankini.. you know how to win a mans heart you do Giles

other gifts included a boyzone karaoke cd,, festive underwear, 12 boxes of jaffa cakes and various sex toys "
you are like the sexy Santa of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have taken a lady for a romantic weekend stay at a castle as it was something she had always wanted to do,

But she wasn't a fb/fwb just a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't mind at all. It's not something that has happened a lot though

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I like gifting

I imagine if there's some sort of connection then it's a nice gesture but can see the scope for awkwardness if it's misjudged.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I have a long term friend who bought me my own F10 which I was very touched about and this Xmas bought me a Little Miss Naughty mug.

It's a secret joke but I took it into work and nobody has questioned me yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I like giving.

Lol whats your number ????????

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I'm the one who likes to give little gifts to people, but when I received a necklace at Christmas off my new FWB, I burst out crying at the bar in a club. I was so overwhelmed, I'm not used to people buying me gifts and I've only been seeing him since October.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I like buying gifts for people but I usually feel uncomfortable when they're bought for me.

I guess I need to be sure there are no expectations attached. I don't like feeling I owe anyone anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx

ive bought silly gifts for folk before,, just to make conversation if anything else.

even made an epically huge choc fudge cake and a mankini.. you know how to win a mans heart you do Giles

other gifts included a boyzone karaoke cd,, festive underwear, 12 boxes of jaffa cakes and various sex toys you are like the sexy Santa of fab

haha far from,, i just use the gifts as ice breakers,, if you both end up laughing on a first meet the nerves goes straight away (well on my behalf anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like buying gifts for people but I usually feel uncomfortable when they're bought for me.

I guess I need to be sure there are no expectations attached. I don't like feeling I owe anyone anything."

Feel the same way,, yet i know my gifts are given with kindness in mind nothing more. Guess its down to me being insecure.. i'll crack it one day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave someone my toe socks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I useally meet for overnights. And when I do. They are treat like a queen and everything paid for so i am not a bad old stick xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I useally meet for overnights. And when I do. They are treat like a queen and everything paid for so i am not a bad old stick xx

when does Jane come to Devon? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave someone my toe socks.

Pops! Where ya been at fella?

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I dont mind it and its nice when a guy gets enjoyment from it!

I was married to a guy who abused my generosity greatly and never returned it so now its a new thing for me if a guy buys me something nice or flowers etc, no-one has ever thrown it in my face.

Though even now my generosity can be abused but I am still a nice person, dont think twice about cooking an FB dinner or getting them little gifts even if its just something silly! "

I'm a generous person and like you it has been taken for granted over the years so much so my generosity has diminished but like you I like to cook a meal etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave someone my toe socks.

Pops! Where ya been at fella?

lol ive kept him in my sock drawer under lock n key

feeling him up on maoams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I useally meet for overnights. And when I do. They are treat like a queen and everything paid for so i am not a bad old stick xx

when does Jane come to Devon? lol

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When does Giles invite him lol

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

My last FWB bought me wine a lot of the time, and bought me dinner a couple of times. Always paid for the hotel etc. Then one morning he took me home, gave me a book, didn't hug me goodbye and then disappeared off the face of the planet. I sure know how to pick 'em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, And in answer to the o.p yeah, I've bought bits and pieces for fab friends before, just small things, dinner here, a pair of heels or two there, that kind of thing.

I've had bits bought for me too, just odds and ends really...

I've no issue with it....just people being nice to each other really...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave someone my toe socks.

Pops! Where ya been at fella?

lol ive kept him in my sock drawer under lock n key

feeling him up on maoams "

Feeling him up on maoams? Them's some big maoams if ya can go feeling people up on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave someone my toe socks.

Pops! Where ya been at fella?

lol ive kept him in my sock drawer under lock n key

feeling him up on maoams

Feeling him up on maoams? Them's some big maoams if ya can go feeling people up on them

what a tit.. meant feeding him up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mind it and its nice when a guy gets enjoyment from it!

I was married to a guy who abused my generosity greatly and never returned it so now its a new thing for me if a guy buys me something nice or flowers etc, no-one has ever thrown it in my face.

Though even now my generosity can be abused but I am still a nice person, dont think twice about cooking an FB dinner or getting them little gifts even if its just something silly!

I'm a generous person and like you it has been taken for granted over the years so much so my generosity has diminished but like you I like to cook a meal etc "

I like cooking for people

i tend to do things like steak etc too so can end up costing me a small fortune as im a suck for m&s food x

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I dont mind it and its nice when a guy gets enjoyment from it!

I was married to a guy who abused my generosity greatly and never returned it so now its a new thing for me if a guy buys me something nice or flowers etc, no-one has ever thrown it in my face.

Though even now my generosity can be abused but I am still a nice person, dont think twice about cooking an FB dinner or getting them little gifts even if its just something silly!

I'm a generous person and like you it has been taken for granted over the years so much so my generosity has diminished but like you I like to cook a meal etc

I like cooking for people

i tend to do things like steak etc too so can end up costing me a small fortune as im a suck for m&s food x"

They get fucking aldi in my household and their steaks are amazing

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Hmm, that reminds me I need to pop out for a really good bottle of Jamaican Rum for my friend.......

Small thoughtful gifts are really nice I think, I like buying little things for people after they crop up in conversation or something. It freaks me out to be offered lingerie, but someone's promised me an 'Oleg' - I'd love that, lol!

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

. On the odd occasions I've had it done I end up with it all been thrown in my face. I tend now to treat myself rather than expect it from other people (not including family)

Rely on no one do it yourself bit cynical I know but that way you don't end up disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont mind it and its nice when a guy gets enjoyment from it!

I was married to a guy who abused my generosity greatly and never returned it so now its a new thing for me if a guy buys me something nice or flowers etc, no-one has ever thrown it in my face.

Though even now my generosity can be abused but I am still a nice person, dont think twice about cooking an FB dinner or getting them little gifts even if its just something silly!

I'm a generous person and like you it has been taken for granted over the years so much so my generosity has diminished but like you I like to cook a meal etc

I like cooking for people

i tend to do things like steak etc too so can end up costing me a small fortune as im a suck for m&s food x

They get fucking aldi in my household and their steaks are amazing

If go to aldi its just a pain in the arse to get from me m&s is by the bus stop and i have a small obsession with their fresh cheese pretzels.. Mmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like giving and receiving so would be comfortable with the idea from a FWB. Not so much so from someone I didn't know well.

and by gifts I'm referring to token / thoughtful ones not Tiffany's (well unless you insist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave someone my toe socks.

Pops! Where ya been at fella?

lol ive kept him in my sock drawer under lock n key

feeling him up on maoams

Feeling him up on maoams? Them's some big maoams if ya can go feeling people up on them

what a tit.. meant feeding him up

I know....I was just being a t**t and splitting hairs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

since i dont do the over night thing and men never come to my home i dont have to cook..

im a shit cook anyway so its a blessing for my previous victims

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They get fucking aldi in my household and their steaks are amazing

If go to aldi its just a pain in the arse to get from me m&s is by the bus stop and i have a small obsession with their fresh cheese pretzels.. Mmmmmm

i cant wait for Aldi to open up over the river,, nearest one is like an hour away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmm, that reminds me I need to pop out for a really good bottle of Jamaican Rum for my friend.......

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I don't remember getting gifts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never had the opportunity to buy gifts for a fb/fwb,

But I am quite generous and I do like making people smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I gave someone my toe socks.

Feck sake...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx"

If a man brought me wine and tangtastics I would be soooo happy lol or a daim bar

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i have had things bought for me and i have bought people things.

One guy i met bought me an inflatable dildo and i bought him some make up as he was into cross dressing.

is nothing i wouldnt do for friends (although the gift choice might be slightly different lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like a black Russian. That'd be acceptable.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Hmm, that reminds me I need to pop out for a really good bottle of Jamaican Rum for my friend.......

I don't remember getting gifts

Pffft!! You don't even remember what you had for breakfast!!

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'd like a black Russian. That'd be acceptable. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One lovely lady brought me wine and tangtastics when we met at a social once. I thought that was a lovely thought xx"

Oi sexy ass i always bought you tetley bitter and tangtastics

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